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Why does nobody believe I'm depressed?

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Anonymous
November 3rd, 2014 8:23pm
They don't understand depression and don't get that it is a serious problem. They think it is a joke but if you think you are depressed please go see a doctor that could help you
Yunowho
September 13th, 2014 6:27pm
because they most likely do not know how to aid you in a depression or that they cannot/do not want to acknowledge there being something wrong with themselves/others.
JonFunny
September 14th, 2014 7:37pm
People nowadays tend to consider depression something that's not really a disease, therefore it is hard for people who have never experienced it, to believe in it.
careaboutyou
October 23rd, 2014 10:27am
Cus they don't know how it feels like, they think it's just a pase, but it isn't. Be strong. Belive in you. They don't feel your pain. They just think you need atencion.
Mogi
November 2nd, 2014 10:04pm
Many people who have never experienced depression believe that you aren't depressed unless you act certain ways. Often times they get their information from movies or books depicting depression inaccurately. The truth is that depression can effect anyone, and it effects everyone differently. Only the person with depression or a trained professional can say whether or not someone is truly depressed. And even doctors can be wrong. I know things can feel scary when nobody takes a concern like that seriously, but your diagnosis doesn't have to stop you from getting help.
molarbear
November 2nd, 2014 11:09pm
Some people will see it as a character flaw, a sign of weakness, or just not be able to comprehend what you're describing. Not everyone has been through the same life experiences, and you can't hold it against them for not understanding.
Transcendence
November 4th, 2014 5:19pm
For the untrained eye or the inexperienced depression might pass off as laziness, a temporary sadness or simply a normal excuse. In my experience I had to fall very deep in order for my family and friends to acknowledge the depression.
imLostinTime
June 29th, 2015 4:37pm
It sounds like you are not around the right people...If people don't "believe" such a thing.That's terrible,depression is no joke.
glowingpeace18339
September 15th, 2015 11:24am
From my own experience, people just don't understand depression. A lot of people think you could just get over it if you tried, or that you're just upset. Even people who study depression but have never gone through it don't fully understand what it is. You don't really know what depression is like until you've really gone through it. Others, especially parents, could be scared of depression. Maybe because they don't know how to deal with their child being depressed. Maybe they assume it's one thing but that could be not the case. Maybe they've been through depression as well and they don't want to accept the fact that their child may actually be depressed as well. Whatever the cause may be, you are your own person and you understand the most what you're going through. Keep staying strong:)
AmyLynn93
November 10th, 2015 6:15am
Most of us are paying too much attention to our own problems to really recognize someone else in need. Don't take it personally, it says nothing about your character.
themightypotatochip
December 12th, 2015 7:24am
Some people don't believe that depression is a real disorder unless you take medication, which is entirely false! There are multiple different reason why a depressed person may not be taking medication, and lots of people don't realize that. Some people also believe that someone stating they're depressed is a mere cry for attention... Which is almost never the case. Honestly the biggest reason no one believes you is because as a society many of us haven't been educated properly about these types of disorders which is a real shame :( I am sorry to hear about your situation and if you ever need someone to talk to feel free to message me :)
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 2:24am
Perhaps you function so highly that it is difficult for them to believe. Obviously, it hurts when no one believes you after you open up to them about your feelings, and certainly no one should be punished for functioning highly in spite of mental illness-- effective coping is the goal of all treatments, after all! If your friends and family aren't being as validating as they should be, just remember to validate your own emotions and also view the positive side of this-- you must be a very strong person if you seem to be fine to others although you are struggling.
lsumagicxo
December 27th, 2015 12:05am
Some people think that if you're depressed you should be crying or in terrible shape. When in reality you could be all smiles and giggles and have depression.
awesomeRainfall75
January 16th, 2016 1:44pm
Some people feel you need to have a reason to be depressed. e.g money, job or relationship problems. When they see you don't have these it could even be annoying for them when they feel they "have it worse" the problem is they just misunderstand the concept of depression.
CielIsMe
January 22nd, 2016 11:01pm
Sometimes it is very hard for those who are not extremely sad or that don't perceive you as an extremely sad or upset person to understand that even you could have depression. Many people don't believe that mental illnesses are a thing, nor do they want to believe that they are, nor do they like the potential stress they see it causing. So in short a lot of people lack empathy and an open mind.
Anonymous
January 24th, 2016 10:52pm
Often, people don't understand why you're feeling the way you are. Sometimes even you may not. It's hard for others to understand.
Anonymous
January 28th, 2016 2:18am
many people have a stereotypical view of depression-- if they don't see you stuck in bed every single day, chances are that they're going to assume it was a simple bad mood that's over. if someone hasn't experienced depression themselves, they often have no idea how it can manifest, or that a person is perfectly capable of being depressed and still living their lives at the same time. it'd be helpful for them to read up on depression, and to especially read people's personal accounts of it, so that they can understand better what depression actually is.
trouvaille
February 3rd, 2016 7:26am
It's not that nobody believes you're depressed, it might be because they don't have the experience to understand what it means or what it feels like. Psychological and mental problems are hard to understand and/or relate to unless you've been through it. Typically, talking to your loved/trusted ones and explaining how you feel at that moment rather than just using the word "depressed" can better help them understand you.
JohnnyMBravo
October 13th, 2014 4:36am
depression is a very hard thing to deal with. along with experiencing the feelings yourself, it often seems that others do not believe you. however, finding solace in a few, close, friends and relatives often will lead to a great support group
Anonymous
June 10th, 2015 5:28pm
Maybe you're used to faking smiles, and people often see you "happy", so when you say you're depressed, they don't believe you. But nobody needs to know that you're depressed unless you want them to help you, the only one who needs to know how you actually are, is you.
Countrygirl101
July 14th, 2015 2:26pm
People don't understand what they have never experienced. Until they do, they won't understand or believe you are depressed. Depression is a dark place and many have been there. Just remember you are not alone :)
heavenleighlove
July 27th, 2015 7:12am
Sometimes people dont want to accept that some one they love is in so much pain. Deep down theyre hurting from this too and dont want to face it. Give them time, theyll come around.
Anonymous
August 4th, 2015 1:33am
They don't want to believe you are depressed because they have never been through it. When you don't understand something, it's hard not to believe it when someones says it's real.
Anonymous
August 11th, 2015 10:43am
Because they haven't experienced it for themselves. Many people romanticize and belittle the idea of depression because they don't know what it can really be like to experience it. This misunderstanding doesn't mean they love you any less, if just means they need a little help understanding the real and serious experience you're going through.
yurannus
September 14th, 2015 8:52pm
Because everyone says that they are depressed even if they are not but im pretty sure you are struggling with this illness maybe you can try to go to a therapist and i bet if therapist tell them they'll believe you!
gracefulAngel96
September 17th, 2015 9:05pm
Sometimes people don't understand depression and all that it entails. People may not believed you're depressed because they have never experience depression, or perhaps they are experiencing severe depression and don't believe anyone else could possibly feel that way.
ConallBranagin
November 24th, 2015 4:28pm
Depression is not something that someone can physically see much of the time and therefore, it makes it hard for people who do not understand it from their personal experience to be able to relate. Often people want to help they understand a lesser emotion such as sadness, anger or loneliness, however depression is entirely different. Those who are depressed often get frustrated by others trying to help,however,, it is an equal frustration from both sides. Those who are depressed can not expect people with no personal experience to ever understand the truth of depression just as those without can ot expect depressed people to understand life without it. That said, there is help, and there are ways for those dealing with depression to live a healthier and happier life. Seek counseling, allow yourself to be open and vulnerable to those who love you and accept the help you can not obtain for yourself. If you know someone depressed please encourage them to get help ad allow them to express to you as best they can even if you do not understand.
Anonymous
December 10th, 2015 12:28am
It's not that no one believes you, you just haven't told the right people. Honestly, most people don't know very much about depression. Depression is sometimes called an "invisible illness." It's a lot harder to see than a physical illness. And people with depression can, and often want to, appear normal in front of others. Yes, depressed people can laugh. And still be depressed. Don't expect people your age to understand what depression is like unless they have experienced it themselves.
Anonymous
December 11th, 2015 12:47pm
they could believe that you are just sad, they may believe that you don't 'have enough going on to make you depressed', no one can judge what you feel or what you are. You may want to visit the doctors to see if you are clinically depressed
Nataleigh
December 11th, 2015 9:13pm
Sometimes-- & often without realizing it, we don't show our "saddest selves" to the people we love.