How can I tell if my mother in law likes me?

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ListeningEar13
February 13th, 2016 8:58am
If she cooks for you without being asked. Or if she sides with you on an argument with your wife / husband.
Anonymous
September 30th, 2016 4:38am
Be honest and have a conversation with her about it. "Do you have a moment, I'd like to ask you a personal question. Do you like me? It's important to me and I'd love to talk about it with you."
Anonymous
January 26th, 2016 7:44am
How she acts around you and when you aren't there, if she blatantly shows she dislikes you thats different. Doe she smile when talking about/to you? Does she laugh at your jokes? Is there warm tone in her voice, or is she coldly polite? Does she show you physical affection? Hugs, kisses, so on. Diffrent people show their affection or lack of it differently. Trust your instintc.
Anonymous
July 9th, 2016 3:17am
I know my mother in law like me because she constantly calls to check up on me and ask how I'm doing. She purposely makes conversation to keep things going and interesting.
Anonymous
May 25th, 2016 5:08am
Sometimes this can be difficult. She may act pleasant toward you and compliment you, but behind your back she talks about you in a bad way. But perhaps this is not as important as how you view her. She must earn your respect more than you have to earn hers. After all, it is your own family that you are looking after, and you have to defend it and protect it. So, do not worry so much about her liking or disliking you. Focus on yourself your spouse and children.
lovelyWhisper35
January 29th, 2016 2:06am
You can tell if your mother in law likes you by her showing more interest in you as the person. The vibe will be an overall positive one she might even like to do activities with vou.
sheenaelisan
September 15th, 2016 12:50am
Hmm, tell me some of the reasons she might like you. I'm sure there are plenty! Would you like to talk about your relationship with her?
Anonymous
February 26th, 2016 8:09am
You may never know for certain. But if she can see that her child is happy, and knows you've contributed to that, she will respect you at the very least.
TouchandLife42
January 27th, 2016 10:45am
Give her positive feedback, if she likes you, it is highly likely that she would reply with the same. Bear in mind that time and place and mood does matter, and the results affected.
Anonymous
February 18th, 2016 4:47am
after you have told the mother in law about your relationship how did she react? if she behaves in a manner that you feel unwelcome and being pushed away by her then you know that she does not like you but if she welcomes you with a warm heart and treat you like her own then that simply she love you as her son or daughter in law and would love that you two will get married.
CandyMandie1391
September 11th, 2016 4:37pm
She will love to do activity's with you, and she will always listen and give advise and protect you
MiraculousShiny62
September 16th, 2016 5:58pm
You should be able to tell if your mother-in-law likes you just the same as knowing how anyone likes you. From my experience, I can tell if someone likes me when they treat me with kindness and respect.
Anonymous
January 28th, 2016 1:39pm
Why not just ask her straight out? Assuming just makes things more complicated than they need to be right? And it's no point wondering and worrying about it all the time ... when all you have to do is ask and be put at ease..
ShawnaToken
February 7th, 2016 10:32pm
If your mother in law like you, she will go out of her way to help you when you are in need, while being supportive and friendly, rather than cold and distant. From my experience, if a mother in law likes you, she lets it be known to other family members, rather than saying insulting things about you, which will eventually make its way back to your, or your significant other's, ears.
GoodListener2016
February 13th, 2016 2:00pm
One way you can tell if your mother in law likes or not is that if she calls you and invites you for a nice dinner with the family. If she ever buys you something nice like a tie or a watch.
Anonymous
April 3rd, 2016 5:53pm
You can tell that your mother in law likes you if she shows you kindness. Spends some time to get to know you and she's there when you need her the most.
deedee1909
May 13th, 2016 1:41pm
You can't! Mother in laws have super powers, they are unreadable! If your mother in law does not like you, then you will soon know about it. What you can try and do is ensure that your mother in law has no reason to dislike you. make conversation, invite her to lunches or shopping and find ways to bond. Most importantly, make sure she knows just how much you love and care for your partner, after all, their children's happiness is what is most important to them.
Raspberrycheesecake
May 12th, 2018 8:40am
Mother in Laws can be quite hard to read, depending on whether you get along with them! You can tall if your mother in law likes you because she would make an effort to talk to you and get to know you more.
Aquadreamer4151
April 6th, 2016 4:24pm
it is tricky to gauge if someone truly like you or not but go with your gut and be polite either way it takes some people longer to warm up to new people in the family than others
Anonymous
April 15th, 2016 3:32am
The best way to know something is to just straight up talk to the person concerned and ask them! Maybe she likes you after all but doesnt know how to show it!
Anonymous
April 20th, 2016 6:19pm
Talk to her do fun things with her, don't try to buy her over just be yourself if she is your mother in law then she should respect you and love you just like she loves her son or daughter.
comfortableMoment03
April 27th, 2016 2:59pm
If she supports you in every way like your mother, gives you liberty to live your life your way without being dominant and cares for you, then she likes you.
Anonymous
May 20th, 2016 5:20pm
Her attitude towards you, the way she looks at you and the way she reacts when you talk or do things, Maybe if she's always consent trying to define your mistakes or always trying to go again your opinions, if she does that she probably doesn't cope very well with you
Anonymous
September 4th, 2016 9:50am
Ask her. Sit down and just say it. If she's nice to you, than that's a good sign.
shiningPumpkin41
September 7th, 2016 10:00am
Well mother in laws are hard , but they always just want what is best for their son , if they meddle in at times that doesn't mean she doesn't like you , it means she wants to help you take care of her son as she does know him a lot better then we do. She will leave you be most of the time and compliment you on the things you do for her son , but she will also give advice on what he does like. Giving opinions and advice shows she cares about the relationship you have with her son
Kat140615xx
September 18th, 2016 2:58pm
If she not nasty to you and makes effort to talk to you, and tries there best she likes you, unless she one them crazy mother in laws i am sure she likes you,
lovingLight21
October 25th, 2016 4:12am
She doesn't talk badly either to you or about you, includes you in family things and is happy that you love their child
dalya123
January 22nd, 2016 9:57am
If she spends more time with you and cares about you a lot then these are signs of her liking you but there are other signs
dancingLion66
January 27th, 2016 10:10am
what made you think so and why you need evident reasons. Do you have any particular reason for having this doubt?
Graceyloveebby
January 27th, 2016 1:28pm
Well you could take her on a dinner date with you and your wife and if she responses well then yes . Get to know her more and even if she didn't like you at first then if you show her your a sweet guy then u got it in the bag :) . And show her you can treat her daughter like a queen and u can take good care of her good luck