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How can I tell if my mother in law likes me?

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Last Updated: 03/16/2022 at 3:58pm
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November 16th, 2016 10:20pm
I can tell you how you'll know she likes you is when you spend time with them, someone who knows you want to spend your time with their company will eventually like it. Check up on them, ask how they are doing and what's going on in family. It's completely normal to have mother-in-laws to not like you but they're stuck in the family with you and people deal with it the best they can.
May 25th, 2017 7:00pm
Different people show affection in different ways. Some will test you by seeing how you react under pressure, some will openly hug you and tell you their feelings. Just as people are diverse, the way they show affection or approval can also be very diverse. The best way to find out for sure is to ask her yourself.
June 27th, 2020 4:47pm
Every woman desires to have an amazing relationship with her mother in law. The most amazing relationship is when she treats you like her own daughter. She stands by you even against her own son when he is wrong. She understands your decision and encourage you to stand on it. She believes in your dreams and put all the efforts to make you achieve. And in end even she scolds you before taking any wrong path. And if your mother in law does anything such for you then she considers you her daughter not daughter in law. That's best ....
October 31st, 2020 8:58am
Frankly ,It's hard to tell . Sometimes the words you hear may not reflect her inner thoughts or feelings. But basically most MIL will try to keep the relationship cordial and both the MIL and DIL /SIL will try not to step on each others' toes. By that I mean , there is a boundary . Keeping that in my mind, you can always have a simple friendship with your MIL, not as your spouse 's mother but rather as a fellow woman . You can share likings, activities and outings with more harmony when you two get along as just two women .
January 27th, 2016 10:10am
what made you think so and why you need evident reasons. Do you have any particular reason for having this doubt?
January 27th, 2016 1:28pm
Well you could take her on a dinner date with you and your wife and if she responses well then yes . Get to know her more and even if she didn't like you at first then if you show her your a sweet guy then u got it in the bag :) . And show her you can treat her daughter like a queen and u can take good care of her good luck
January 30th, 2016 6:29am
She offers you tea before her daughter... Always litens to you patiently. Makes you feel good abouth your choices like shopping , movies. Complement you everytime you visit her.
February 3rd, 2016 3:32am
She lets you marry her son/daughter. :) She also approves of you as a person and lets you be who you are.
February 10th, 2016 2:13pm
If she is straight forward with her feelings, like the way my mom treats me,I know she likes me.not that she has to love me like my mom
February 10th, 2016 2:18pm
you can tell it, if you feel comfortable with her. if you thinks she's being real with you. if you can make her happy even in the simplest ways :)
February 13th, 2016 11:43am
They will communicate with you and share her thoughts with you. Being friendly and respect to you.
February 13th, 2016 6:50pm
Liking or disliking of a person is up to them and you should try your level best in order to be righteous on your part.
February 17th, 2016 8:48am
If she takes care of you and respects you as you respect and treat her then she likes you. Always treat you in laws like your own parents to be treated like their own child.
February 17th, 2016 4:46pm
She'll smile sweetly at you, ask how you're feeling, and act in kind ways such as greeting you in a sweet way.
February 17th, 2016 6:35pm
Everyone shows love (or liking) differently. Notice how she acts with people she genuinely likes- is she talkative? Does she hug or touch them a lot? Does she give them gifts? However she shows love to people, that's how she'll show it to you too.
February 18th, 2016 6:43am
Observe her behavior towards you. If she often gives you compliments or gives you gifts and treats you like you're a daughter to her, then she likes you.
February 20th, 2016 7:18pm
i guess it depends on how she normally acts with her children; once she treats you the same way as them then i think it's pretty clear. oh! and when she lets you use her kitchen willingly
February 21st, 2016 5:03pm
it's clear in her attitudes with you and how she treats you she can't hide her hate if she hates you and she can't hide her love either
March 2nd, 2016 7:28pm
Just be yourself, and offer a nice conversation over a tea or coffee to learn more about them, and so they can learn more about you.
March 4th, 2016 9:12am
you cannot go in a person's heart and mind to know for sure whether they like you or not . and it should not matter to YOU whether she likes you or not . you be at your best and kind behaviour not because she is nice but because you are nice.
March 5th, 2016 12:27am
If they want to spend one on one time with you it's a good sign. Normally they will let you know it
March 11th, 2016 4:07pm
if you do what she asks, and if you are being good then you don't have to worry about anything else.
March 23rd, 2016 9:22pm
sometimes it hard to tell if someone likes you, relative or not. the best thing you can do though is be yourself nomatter what and dont try to impress the person if it makes you go out of your comfort zone
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March 23rd, 2016 10:51pm
If she smiles at you every now and then, and you don't hear her going behind closed doors and back chatting about you.
March 25th, 2016 1:03am
I guess, the obvious signs? or you could straight out ask her if you think she doesn't. of course she would be kind of skeptic, especially since we're all human, we need time to get to know people and to see what kind of people they are. I'm sure if she doesn't like you yet, that she'll come around unless you give her a good reason not to
March 31st, 2016 1:22am
The easiest way to find this answer is to ask her. Asking someone else can lead to resentment and misguidance. Find a way to ask her, and if she knows your worried, she'll tell you the truth.
April 3rd, 2016 9:13am
If a person likes us, they usually demonstrate that verbally or by their body language. If she is responsive to you in a positive way, then you can assume that she might like you.
April 17th, 2016 1:47am
She smiles at you. She compliments you. She tells others your good points and qualities. She seems happier when you're around. But remember, whatever your mother-in-law thinks, it is important to be nice to her and remember what you think of yourself is the most important of all! If you give yourself a good reputation, others will see you this way also.
April 22nd, 2016 9:06pm
talk to your boyfriend/husband about it. he should tell you the truth as to weather or not she likes you. and im sure he would know
May 4th, 2016 1:53am
Treat her how you would treat your own parents. Being liked.or.seeking.validation is not necessary, be good to her and you will.know that in her heart she likes you