How to stop hating your mother?

whoa! this question hit me hard.... well if you hate your mom then i am so sorry... but if you wanna stop hating her then you could umm write letters about how you love her and hoe you wanna stop hating her... go and talk to her... hug her and kiss her

I learnt that after a bad experience with my mum, I slowly became more uptight just like her, but I realised overtime, that slow and truthful communication helps to ease the tension.

Let me know when you find an answer.

I have experienced this and let me tell you it is not easy! However, no matter why you hate her or what she has done, it is not good to go through life with hate in your heart! Forgive but never forget and move on!

Forgive her because she did not (and even still now does not) know better, and in many situations just doing as she herself was raised.

Try to see things from her point of view. Then talk to her and try to get her to see yours. Even if you can agree to disagree on some things, that is progress. Remember that, even though she is your mother, she is still only human and makes mistakes. Talking to her about how you feel is the best way of resolving issues.

realize that she is a person too, with real feelings and emotions. it's hard to picture our mothers as people who feel things and have emotions, they have to disguise a lot of their feelings for the sake of their children.

To be completely honest, you must first forgive her. After you do this, the hate will slowly pass. True, it requires courage but hey, you CAN do it.

You can do activities/day outs with your mother to help build a better bond/stronger relationship with her.

What is the problem? Are you under a lot of stress? Did she not buy you that one of a kind necklace? or is it a more serious issue such as hurling hurtful comments at you or focusing her stress and anger on you? You should always sit down and have a conversation with your mother. Tell her how you feel about your relationship and try to encourage her to speak about it too. Try to spend more time with her, maybe cooking or going to see a movie together.

You may feel great appreciation for your mother, yet also feel like she gets on your last nerves sometimes, too. There are many types of relationships you can have with your mother, from enjoying a happy and fulfilling relationship to feeling abused or put down by your mother. If you struggle to get along with your mother, realize that while you cannot change her, you can make changes to how you interact.

Think of her as the one who gave you life. you may not always have something to agree on, but remember that she was the first one to love you in this world.

It depends on what she has done but think of it this way she gave you life on the earth and that should be one thing to appreciate.

Okay. First things first. You wouldn't be here if it weren't for her. She took care of you ever since you we're less than an inch big. She may not be all that you expect her to be. But we're humans. And we make mistakes.

Not hate her in the first place and love her and show her you love her she won't be around forever so love her as long as she is around

If you don't know the reason for hating her, then you need to find the root of your hatred. After that, you have to acknowledge the why and think about whether or not you can bring yourself to no longer hate her. Every situation is different, and you don't always have to stop hating someone-it's based on what caused the hatred and the relationship between you. If you think you can and should, you should talk with your mother about what's going on and begin the healing process.

Relationships can take a long time to mend, especially with our own families. Open and honest conversations with the person in question are a great way to start, but these aren't always easy. If the person is unwilling to speak with you or is speaking to you disrespectfully, this isn't your fault. The saying, "it takes two to tango" is very legitimate. If you can't communicate with the other person as a way to heal, try working on yourself. Sometimes all we need is space. Other times, we need to work really hard to control our feelings and dig deeper in order to foster resiliency. Try to practice mindfulness exercises and build you support network. Finally, 'hate' is a very strong word. What you may be feeling is anger or resentment. Try to identify and label other feelings besides 'hate'.

Accept that some people just won't change. Your mother has had a probably hard life just like you have, but back then people were much more unforgiving. You think how she treats you is bad? Can you imagine the household she came from to produce a person who may have done/said the things she may have done/said? Stop hating your mother by understanding your mother. The very same thing we all want from everyone. Less hate, more understanding.

I wish I knew the answer to this... Firstly it's not your fault your feeling this way! Clearly something has happened or is still happening! But as they say time heals all sounds. As for the hatred it consumes too much time and energy and only makes you feel worse! Letting go a bit and trying to move on are the first steps...

Having strong feelings of dislike to a family member is completely fine. If distancing yourself from her is going to help YOU, then by all means don't stop yourself. Don't put yourself through forgiving someone who doesn't deserve to be forgiven.

You can't really hate your mother. No matter what she does. She will always be your mother. Your mother gave birth to you. Raised you up to be who you are today. You wouldnt be born if it werent for your mother. So how can you stop hating her? Well think of all the good shes done for you. Surely you can make a list of all the good shes done. And be thankful for what she has done. Do not focus on the negative but rather focus on the postive.

Put yourself in her shoes,try to give her a chance,do things for her,make her happy..talk to her..open up to her :)

I don't know your mother, but for me, it helped to look at her history. My mom has gone through a lot, and it helped me appreciate her. Maybe this can work for you?

Even though your mother may have done something really bad to you, you have to remember that she is human as well. She makes mistakes like all of us and bringing up a child is not an easy task. So you have to learn to forgive for the sake of both of you. Of course she is at fault for things but depending on whether she tries to improve things or not you can make a decision on whether the relationship is good for you to keep with adjustment or if you have to walk away.

You may very well have a right to hate her. But you can also choose to respect her for bringing you into the world, acknowledge her position as your mother (regardless of what kind of mother she may have been), and stop there. This doesn't mean you need to like her or interact with her. It's your life, and if you feel it would be better to distance yourself, it shouldn't be her decision to make.

This doesn't only apply to mothers, but I believe the best way to stop hating anyone is just to realize that your hate isn't serving any purpose and that it's just a waste of your energy. In the end you're only damaging yourself by being spiteful towards others.

This is a subjective and loaded question, people develop many reasons as to why they dislike or even hate their mother; some are good, some bad. You may feel stressed, or even betrayed by her whether it be by something like a rude demeanor or even having left their children at a young age. You may have even tried to talk and compromise with her in order to stop these feelings, to no avail. Whatever the reason, these feelings have boiled in you overtime and have most likely interfered with your daily life. And that's the problem, it's YOUR life. You don't have to ignore the reasons as to why you feel this way, why you feel anger or spite. You can, however, forgive. You don't have to forgive the things she's done per se, only let go of them and move on. You owe it to yourself. Perhaps with time, love, and professional help, you can also love her again.

Wow! Hate is a strong word. First I would suggest for you to consider if hate is the correct vocabulary for what you are feeling. We all have mothers. Some of us are luckier than others, however, a mothers job is not to be her child’s best friend. With that said, a mother job is also not to harm or restrict her child from living their best life. In my opinion, and I take my role as a mother seriously, is to guide, coach and teach her child skills needed to navigate with ease in this world of chaos. The great news is, that once you reach adult age, you have a choice. You can choose to live completely independent from your mother. Of course this is not always an easy choice, due to the fact that many adult children rely on their parents financial support until their early twenties. Especially if further education is paid for by the parent. Therefore you may decide to continue to be respectful and bite your tongue during these years. It’s when you have the capability to rely solely on yourself and cut the cords with people who no longer serve your best interest. I am not saying to cut all ties, just to recognize your own power to choose who plays a key role in your life story and who is more of a supporting, background character. I also love the term, keep your friends close and your enemies closer as well as, bless their heart. Always choose love and kindness over revenge. Loving yourself first is revenge that serves both purposes. Best of luck!

You can stop hating your mother by seeing all the things she has provided for you and how hard she works every day and night and how much love she has given you.

I have found that reminding myself hating only makes my heart heavier keeps me from having ill will towards anyone. Also doing meditations specifically geared towards mindful forgiveness and compassion has helped me a ton!