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How can I tell someone how I'm feeling without looking silly or weak?

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Last Updated: 01/18/2021 at 5:51pm
How can I tell someone how I'm feeling without looking silly or weak?
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October 22nd, 2015 7:47pm
I don't think that you will be weak for expressing your emotions. Maybe if you want to be subtle, try flirting a few times to see if they generate any response. If not, at least you can pass it off as banter or jokes. Good luck though:)
October 23rd, 2015 12:51pm
Be confident in yourself and in what you are saying, Confidence is key in this kind of situation be staunch be strong and believe in yourself.
October 23rd, 2015 4:22pm
Your feelings are valid and no one can tell you that you are silly or weak for having those feelings. People might not understand where you're coming from and therefore might require more of an explanation but everything you feel is valid and it isn't okay for someone to tell you otherwise.
October 25th, 2015 3:00am
I would just be up front with my emotions. Worrying about looking silly or weak will make you hide the deep emotions you need to get out.
October 25th, 2015 3:47am
Sometimes we just have to say it, it can be one of the hardest things you'll ever do but afterwards you feel a lot better.
October 25th, 2015 9:18am
Well..heya..lets just talk casually..i feel..this this..Start this casual and be confident..
October 25th, 2015 11:33pm
It's not easy telling others how we feel because we worry about how they will respond. It might help to remind yourself that, no matter what you are feeling, someone else has probably felt the same way at some point in their lives. It's hard to allow ourselves to be vulnerable and that is why being open to someone is not an at of weakness but really an act of courage. No matter how the other person responds, know that you did something good for yourself by being genuine.
October 28th, 2015 12:39am
Expressing how you are feeling does not make you weak in any sense. Actually, telling others how you are feeling takes a great amount of strength. I think it is important to remember that it is OKAY to look a little silly sometimes and that reaching out for support is nothing to be ashamed of.
October 28th, 2015 2:11pm
You will never look silly or weak for the person who truly loves you and wants to help.So it's not how to act so that no one thinks you are weak it's more about finding people who are worth sharing your feelings with.You will never have that question if you choose wisely who your trust your emotions to.
October 28th, 2015 11:48pm
Be open, and honest. Everyone struggles to manage or express their emotions in a healthy way. It doesn't mean you're weak! Try opening up to a close friend or family member first.
October 29th, 2015 4:42am
Be yourself. If you're telling someone how you feel, and it's someone you trust, you shouldn't have to worry about them seeing you in a silly manner. If they do, then that's not someone you should be venting to. Talk to someone who you can be yourself with no matter what.
October 29th, 2015 6:22am
If someone thinks you are silly or weak for telling them how you feel then you deserve better and don't need that kind of negativity in your life.
October 29th, 2015 1:48pm
Feelings aren't silly or weak at all! Just be as honest as you can, and people will respect you! c: You won't seem silly to them, or weak, they will be amazed by your ability to be honest! Keep going darling - you can do this, I promise!!
October 29th, 2015 9:59pm
What I can say, is that telling someone who you trust won't see you as weal or silly. Most of us on here can help listen ^^
October 30th, 2015 4:23pm
The fear of looking silly/weak comes from within. Usually once you say what you're feeling you realize you had nothing to worry about in the first place. If you're unable to say the words, try writing them down and looking in a mirror and saying them out loud. When you get used to saying it, it won't be so scary. If you still feel unable to let them know, maybe send them a message (email/text/letter) to let them know you'd like to talk. Set up a time to do so and when you're in the moment, tell yourself you can do this and do it! If you still can't, you can always send it to them in an email. However, sometimes this can cause more anxiety waiting for an answer so keep that in mind. You can do it!!
October 31st, 2015 1:23am
It is hard to be honest because in this state we become vulnerable but honesty is very helpful, it leads to no confusion and if you can formulate your feelings thoughts beforeahand it can also help to say what you actually wanted to say.
October 31st, 2015 1:25am
When you tell someone how you're feeling, you are anything but silly or weak. You are actually strong for taking those feelings and making words form based on them. Crying, getting angry, or overreacting is not a weakness either... that means you're human.
November 1st, 2015 7:12am
Talk to them seriously. Don't laugh. Don't change the subject. Let them hear you out. Let go of worrying about whether you look silly or weak, and it will make you appear stronger.
November 4th, 2015 5:05am
Be honest, relax and start talking... I guarantee they will understand and respect you for your honesty.
November 5th, 2015 12:30am
Be confident and believe in how you feel! Nobody can make you look silly, it's all in how you feel. If you feel as though your feelings are important, nobody should be able to make you think otherwise.
November 5th, 2015 5:27am
Expressing feelings upfront is actually incredibly bold. Even some of the strongest body builders are to weak to lift that amount of weight of their shoulders...or in this case- chest.
November 5th, 2015 7:21pm
The ability to express your feelings is not weak at all. It is actually a very strong thing and very few people are able to do it. Everone has feelings and most people want to express them but are afraid of being judged, when in truth noone is going to judge you for telling the world who you are, what you are about and what you feel. Your feelings are what makes you you. Without feelings the world would be a harsh place, with no love, or new ideas or emotion. So let your feelings out and don't be afraid of what others think because they have feelings too and you might teach them how to show their feelings too :)
November 6th, 2015 5:12pm
Don't smile, keep a serious face even if you won't to giggle out of embarrassment. Or run out of shyness, keep on the face and watch your body language follow.
November 7th, 2015 1:54am
Do not think about looking silly or weak. It may be difficult for you to get over your anxiousness, but confidence is key in being taken seriously. If you give the person you are speaking to a whole hearted answer, they should respect your opinion and listen to what you have to say.
November 8th, 2015 5:21am
your feelings are never silly or weak! Tell them how you feel and if they don't feel the same.. there's more fishies!
November 11th, 2015 5:09am
People have no choice but to accept steadfast conviction. And the truth is something one should never be ashamed of.
November 11th, 2015 6:17pm
This is all about self-awareness and control, for me. When I am in control and I know where my feelings are originating, it is much easier for me to discuss them with a more "professional" tone. This allows me to feel much more confident sharing my experiences and feelings with others.
November 12th, 2015 4:24pm
We tend to avoid expressing our feelings in order to avoid feeling embarrassed or unsupported. With the right people you won't have to feel like that, as they will understand your openness and will be able to get to know you better. All beginnings have a little bit of embarrassment in them. This is not a reason to avoid expressing ourselves just the way we can. It will be better than you think.
November 15th, 2015 11:00am
Being honest with yourself. Expressing your feelings and being honest with your emotions is such a brave and strong act.
November 18th, 2015 11:33am
Just tell them. You won't be silly or weak. They would be silly.and weak for teasing you for it. Good luck.