I can't get angry at the people I care about, is there something wrong with me?
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Anonymous
October 9th, 2016 6:35am
No, it is normal to feel a wide range of emotions with anyone. Not feeling certain emotions towards those you love isn't strange.
Anonymous
October 14th, 2016 6:13pm
There's nothing wrong with not getting angry at the people you care about. We just love them more than we hate them. It would also save us from hurting them as it could hurt us.
Anonymous
October 26th, 2016 4:27pm
No, there's nothing wrong with you that just means you really care about them and you should cherish that. Anger is a bad emotion, no one should try possessing it.
Look inside yourself and find out how you can see this as a strength instead of a weakness. There may be nothing wrong with you because you can't get angry at the people you care about. Some people seem to always get angry at the people they care about which possibly drives them away. Anger is a negative emotion and having something wrong with you is considered negative aswell so if not being able to express a negative emotion to someone you care about is wrong, then what would you consider would be right? There are times where it may be necessary that being stern with someone you love about a situation but you can be stern and concerned without being angry with them. Consider this the next time you feel you need to be angry with them but can't.
No. There's nothing wrong in it. You care for their feelings. You don't want to hurt them. Cause it will hurt you more.
No, there is absolutely nothing wrong with you! You're just a really great person, but please don't let anyone take advantage of that personality trait of yours.
Anonymous
November 3rd, 2016 10:36pm
Not at all, in fact most people feel more comfortable about showing their true emotions such as anger around those they are closest with
No there is nothing wrong with not getting angry at the people you care about. You just have an exceedingly high patience level and have a great connection with those around you.
No, there is nothing wrong with you. The problem might be your own insecurity and your unability to place yourself above another person. You might also be afraid to lose the people you care about, by getting angry at them. Please know that anger is very normal in relationships with everyone. It's healthy and they'll probably even appreciate your honesty!
Not at all. In fact that is a great gift. You are a very loving person and you value your loved ones.
Not at all. The very fact that you care about them means you love them deeply enough not to get angry at them about anything. It shows you have a lot of patience, compassion and patience. Those are really good qualities. It is great not only to not get angry at people you care about but even try not to get angry at people you do not care about or anybody at all.
Not necessarily. If these people take advantage of your kind nature then you need to stand your ground if you're being disrespected. It's not about getting angry, it's about telling someone they've upset you and making them understand why.
There is nothing wrong with you. It is very common to have a hard time getting angry at people who care about you. In my experience, it can be hard to deal with because sometimes they may do something that makes you feel angry or frustrated, but you can't voice those concerns. I have this experience with my roommate a lot, especially if she does something that makes me upset. Sometimes it helps me to write out how I am feeling and discuss it with someone, and if afterwards I feel like I need to talk to my roommate about it, I can.
There is nothing wrong about being angry. In fact, it's very unhealthy for you (and the people you care about) when you don't vent out your frustration! You'll begin thinking very negatively, and that will put a strain on your relationships. Find out what's causing your anger, and talk to the people you care about on it. The goal is to arrive at a conclusion where you're both happy.
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Anonymous
March 17th, 2017 11:00am
Of course not. When you love someone, you accept all their shortcomings and already have an idea of what they are like and how they behave. In this case the anger is really directed towards the situation you are thrown into and not the people involved, because it is impossible to be angry with someone because of doing something that was of their nature.
Some people default to anger. others to sadness. So, nothing "wrong" or abnormal about that. If you find any catabolic emotion about the actions of the people you care about, you could ask yourself, "What do I want to change about their behavior and what need of mine does it point to? And what need of theirs does their behavior point to?" Thus starting to create a connected experience of life and finding a solution.
Anger is a natural human emotion. Emotions are not right or wrong. Its how you express them that makes it right or wrong. Emotions are great teachers. They teach use about what we like and what we don't. It may be difficult to be angry as those we love because secondary emotions to anger such as namely guilt may also come up. We may feel guilty for being angry at those we love. To allow yourself to feel the emotion anger over what a close relative may have said or done can teach you what you like or dislike. It can also teach you how to deal effectively.
No, of course not! That is actually an amazing quality, and you should be proud to have it! That just means that you will probably be able to have better friends, and maintain better relationships. Do not ever think there is something wrong with you - because you are amazing
Anonymous
May 4th, 2017 9:46am
There is nothing wrong with you. You are just afraid that your words might hurt them and they will abandon you. You can try telling them what you think about their behavior in a proper way. Do not be afraid to get angry. Sometimes getting angry is quite healthy in relationship which shows u care about them
Absolutely.not. although is not the best thing in the world to be angry at the people you love, it is sometimes inevitable to feel like that. Maybe it's because your under a lot of stress, or perhaps you can't handle your feelings properly at that moment. But plesse don't feel like anything's wrong with you. It happens. What you do next is what defines you. Do you stay mad or realize what you did and apologize? Better days will come and you will learn how to deal with your emotions.
Anonymous
May 19th, 2017 7:08pm
How easily you get angry and at who depends on many factors. One is your personality, which just is who you are now (can change over time though). Then there's how you've been taught to express feelings, for example, or how people have responded to your anger before. Genetics and life experiences - understandable causes! If you feel like you bottle up anger, or the lack of anger bothers you for some other reason, it might be a good to talk about it with someone.
Not getting angry at the people you care about shows that you have patience, and forgiveness and those are both two very good values to have. While it is always good to be kind and forgiving to everyone, we sometimes let people that are near and dear to us get away with more than we would others. It's good that you have this even temperament with people that you care about but it's also important to not let your kindness get taken advantage of. But overall it is a awesome that you are able to control anger and that is a good thing.
No! Its beautiful that you do not hold grudges. It shows selflessness and maturity. However, never allow yourself to be degraded by another. Set yourself as a priority. Always.
Anonymous
July 19th, 2017 8:14am
There is nothing wrong with you. You are just a very caring person and you just dont get mad easily, which in some cases is a good thing!
Absolutely not. It is a very healthy sign that you can't get angry at people you care about. It means that your relationships are not causing you any aggression, and that is very good...as long as it is mutual. Anger, vengeance, jealousy - these are signs of aggression and aggression is something that hurts the bearer more than the one it is directed to. So, you should be happy that you don't feel any of these towards your loved ones because that is the sign of a wholesome and fulfilling relationship. But, I should also mention that you should not be totally blind to their activities...if you see anything in the relationship that crosses a line, I believe you should speak up against it so that you can deal with it in a healthy manner.
Not at all. It just means they mean a great deal to you and you don't have the anger in you to make things worse for your relationship. But, understand just because you have a good enough relationship with them doesn't mean if they do make you mad you can't be vocal about it. In some situations, it actually is good to be open and honest about the bad things too.
There is nothing wrong with not being angry for as long as when something bothers you, you speak up and make them aware than keeping it inside.
Anonymous
September 28th, 2017 5:40pm
There is nothing wrong in this. It just means that you don't want to hurt them in any way, because, once angry, you might end up saying something you regret. Also, it may happen that you say something right, but, you don't want the person to berate themselves, so you further avoid it.
No, its right for people to not want to be upset at the people they care about. You always want to love those people and so you should, unless they do something that hurts you in any way.
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you for not getting angry at people you care about. Perhaps you simply love them too much and can't bear the thought of losing them. Maybe your brain can't help thinking up all kinds of bad or upsetting scenarios that could occur if you get in a fight with one of those you care for. Whatever it is, there's nothing "wrong" with you-many people feel this way.
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