I have never felt so sad in my life. Why do I feel this way?

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JesseK1022
December 7th, 2014 5:01am
Sadness is often caused by a discrepancy between where you are and where you want to be. Typically, you are in a bad situation and you just want to be in a better situation. Recognize that how you feel is legitimate but not necessary. Likely something or a lot of things are causing your sadness and that's ok. That's your mind telling you that you just aren't' where you want to be. So where do you want to be? Maybe not long term but just right now? What would be better than this? Try that. Maybe it's just getting a job or finding a better job. Maybe it's a bad relationship or a poor sense of perspective. You may have unmet expectations. Is your life so bad that those unmet expectations are worth feeling so bad? What if you let go of those? Maybe you would feel better and, consequently, have the motivation to move forward. That's what you want right? To just move forward and find something better. You know you can, that's why you feel this way and you are here asking :) you know best which direction to go. Try something new. Anything is better than where you are now right?
PopstarKittyCat
September 6th, 2015 12:35am
Sometimes the anxiety and stress in your life builds up so much until you just feel like you're going to explode from all the sadness.
persistentTiger8200
October 28th, 2015 2:08am
my mom killed herself one year ago today
dotty
December 24th, 2014 6:21pm
its that moment in life! sometimes you touch the bottom, if you are not lucky enough to pass this experience. reasons... there are millions, outside and inside of us. lowsy jobs, spouse that gets distant, children that dont become the adults we want to, relatives and friends suffering from illness, or dying, we becoming older, pollution getting to us etcetc. it might be depression - welcome to modern world!
Anonymous
November 27th, 2014 7:26pm
Something was important to you. Your emotions are legitimate. You have to figure out why you feel sad, what's missing, and where you can get that fulfillment from elsewhere. Don't be afraid to feel sad or to feel loss. This is all legitimate. It's okay to feel.
RobynCares
December 24th, 2014 6:27pm
Sometimes there is no reason for depression. Sometimes depression is there, and the only way to get rid of it is through therapy and learning how to cope with it.
CaptainBettyTheTerrible
December 23rd, 2014 8:22pm
Sometimes the way we feel is down to our circumstances, but sometimes we can feel sad for apparently no reason at all. Our thoughts, feelings and behaviour all influence each other. I wonder if you could play detective to see if there are any causes for your current sad mood?
Anonymous
July 14th, 2015 8:24pm
It's important to understand that sometimes there is no reason as to why you feel this way. Sometimes it can come from a mix, a culmination of things that have combined to produce this deep and intense sadness. You might feel this way because of loss. You might feel this way because of something negative that has happened to you. It might be both. I think the best thing to do in this situation is to write it down, describe your sadness, and it will begin to get organized in your head, in a way that you can target the reasons for the sadness and work through them.
Erynn
December 19th, 2014 5:29am
Only you can answer that. But, you may find it helpful to journal, draw, write poetry or music, talk to someone on here or in real life, and/or reach out for professional support. When I try and understand my feelings I ask myself: What am I feeling? What has been going on in my life lately? What are some of the frequent or most upsetting thoughts I'm having lately? Where might these thoughts and feelings come from? Sometimes, things that don't seem very important can be having a large impact, so it can help to talk to others who might bring a different perspective into the conversation.
SmilingInTheShadows
January 29th, 2016 11:30am
You feel sad because you haven't taken the time to truly know yourself and to love yourself. You deserve every wonderful part of that. Give yourself a break, your only human. Your not suppose to be perfect your suppose to learn!
SethK
September 16th, 2015 3:06am
Hey, I'm sorry you feel so down. I don't know you so I can't give you any definitive answer, and besides, I'm not an expert, but I can offer a couple possibilities. Regardless of which one it is, it's important to keep in mind that the fact you're feeling sad isn't your fault. It's possible that you're suffering from some form of clinical depression. Clinical depression doesn't necessarily need a reason to come but if there was something traumatic in your life, that may have triggered an underlying depression of sorts. If there's something going on which is very stressful or making you nervous, that might also be getting at you. A last possibility is that if you started taking any new medications lately, it could be that you're suffering from a side effect of that. Regardless, if your sadness is short only for a short period of time, while it is very unpleasant, you shouldn't worry about it. However if it keeps going for a couple days and/or you have self-destructive thoughts you would probably want to see a professional.
TheOneWhoListened
September 16th, 2015 9:58pm
What are you doing now that you didn't do in the past? One of those things might be causing you to be so sad.
RalphBG
December 9th, 2014 10:36am
Only you know the answer to that. Ask yourself questions like 'Is there anything wrong?' 'Am I depressed?' 'Is there anything bad happening?', and think about things on why you could be sad, or down.
Natalie
September 23rd, 2015 7:05pm
A lot of things can trigger it, either circumstances in life or something within you. We can talk about it if you'd like. Remember that being sad makes us appreciate when life gets better!
Lil2015
January 14th, 2016 9:14pm
Life can sometimes be too much or too little, feelings can build up over a long period of time and suddenly it might be difficult to keep them on arm-lengths distance anymore. Or sometimes something seemingly small might have happened which trigger a sad feeling you didn't know you could possess. Even though it can be scary and very painful try to go through the feeling. Try to accept to yourself and others that it is uncomfortable, but then try to live and see beauty even in the darkest moment. You are ok, if you have made mistakes, if you wish people would view you differently or if you just wished you could run and hide - That feeling is alright to have.. Doing your best IS good enough, so try your best, listen to others support and give yourself a break. Things take time to heal.
Bethennie
November 24th, 2014 5:20pm
There are several reasons you could feel sad. Lots of reasons actually. It's okay. It's okay to be sad. Remember that you can always talk to someone at 7 Cups of Tea. They can help you talk through the way you're feeling! You are not alone.
vReifieRv
September 18th, 2015 9:20am
Feeling sad is inevitable, we're all subjected to it at least once in life. Actually, it's through feeling sad that we rejoice more effectively when the good moments come, and also build resilience to deal with following mishappenings. Feeling sad, as most - not to say all other feelings - ends up being a blessing, if you learn to harness its essence and make it a foot hold to jump to a higher state of being. It's all about perspectives, in the end.
whimsicalMoment68
September 23rd, 2015 9:56am
there must be something that trigger you to feel sad, maybe event on past? or maybe because you have a problem with your family or friends?
Lovelydaytoday
September 25th, 2015 1:08am
Sadness is an emotion that may be associated with what you're experiencing in life. I know it is hard, but just like a bad storm, it will pass! in the meantime try to look for the positives in your life and figure out what's making you feel sad so you can take steps to eliminate it!
Anonymous
September 30th, 2015 7:14am
Is there a specific identifiable cause for the sadness? Have you felt this way nearly every day for at least two weeks? If so, perhaps you should seek out help form a mental heath professional!
gentleWings22
January 24th, 2016 8:02am
Its a phase in your life.. Life brings you through ups and downs.. its the reality of life which humans cant ignore.. Just relax and be yourself once the strome is gone all will be calm...
Anonymous
November 25th, 2014 2:56pm
maybe because your situation right now is that you feel so much happiness and everything goes in your way that's why you can't remember that you have been sad before
Jostar
November 30th, 2014 6:52pm
You may feel this way due to personal problems that have happened or things going on in your life lately. You have to think about what's happened lately in your life and how that's affecting you and try and get to the root cause of it and then hopefully you will start to feel a little better. It may take time but at least you will be feeling better then you do now.
Em
July 27th, 2015 2:38am
I'm very sorry to hear that you're feeling like you're at the lowest point of your life. I don't know your story, your life story or what causes your sadness, but I can say that if this is the lowest point, that means you have memories of higher points, an you know what they feel like. That's good, because that is like the light at the end of the tunnel, and a thing you can aspire to have and to reach towards. Why do you feel this way? Maybe you're going through a very tough time. But always remember that one day you will feel happy again :)
Anonymous
August 24th, 2015 5:27am
Sadness is a normal emotions that occurs in every human's life. Sadness can occur because of loss, grief, disappointment and so on. But as you have never felt so sad in your life, so it is important to reflect back and ask yourself is there anything that happened not as you expected which caused sadness. Because my asking yourself, and reflecting back you will be able to see the clear picture of what exactly caused the feeling of sadness.
gentleBeauty54
September 17th, 2015 3:00pm
For me when i am sad it is because depression is coming on and then i have to do some self care and a lot of times the sadness goes away but when it doesn't i have to look at weather my medication is working right or not!
LightsAndstars
September 18th, 2015 9:17pm
It could be that you have a health condition. Or you just lose excitement over things, or you are undergoing some change experience like moving to a new place, a death of a loved one...
Anonymous
September 20th, 2015 10:19am
Well life today is not easy for most people with alot of stress and pressures from all angles and may be due to circumstances or health issues could affect your feelings maybe some traumatic event in life or the weather changes all can contribute to feeling low. Or there could be an underlying cause such as depression or anxiety mood disorders are very common these days, but with the right help and treatment can be improved.
emergeintolight
September 26th, 2015 11:43pm
It's completely normal to experience sudden sadness. Sometimes stressors build up or you experience an event that triggers a level of sadness you're not used to experiencing. A good way to identify what's causing the sadness would be to attempt to find the trigger. Looking into recent life events can help you find what caused that sudden shift. Also, keeping a wellness journal can aid in monitoring your sadness.
clearMoon
September 24th, 2015 11:43pm
Unfortunately, there isn't a straight forward answer. If you've just been through a traumatic experience or emotional event, that could explain why. You could be experiencing some depression. Without any additional information, there is no way to know.