Why do I feel bad when someone does something nice for me, specially if they buy me gifts?

A lot of the time, we as people can feel guilty when someone buys us gifts. Often it can be, but not always is, a feeling of imposter syndrome, feeling unworthy of the gift. You may feel guilty because you feel like you have to repay this gift so it feels equal and fair, but often times people can just be nice for the sake of being nice. Some people have no ulterior motive behind giving you a gift, and it can be hard to fathom, especially if you grew up hearing the saying "nothing in the world is free". In fact, some people find it easier to express themselves through gift giving. When someone gives you a gift, it could be that they want to show you just how much you mean to them.

I feel bad when someone does something nice for me, or buys me gifts because I do not value my self, and I feel their gift or kindness is worth more to anything but me, because I am afraid of being brought up emotionally exposes me to being brought down. And I really dislike when something, or someone brings me down. So to avoid being brought down, I am hesitant to be brought up in anyway. Accepting someone's kindness or gifts is accepting happiness. And I feel that if I have happiness, I am exposed to losing that happiness, and falling down into sadness, regret, and depression. I cannot have nice things, because I fear the absence of nice things. I fear having something, because it may be taken away. If I never have, I can never have not.

You might feel burdensome sometimes at the receiving end, but you can focus on why you feel comfortable with people doing good deeds for you over time. Thus, focus on how uncomfortable it makes you feel when you are at the receiving end. I'd suggest to look at these aspects in figuring out why you feel bad. 1. Your relationship with the one who does the giving. 2. Your current emotions when you are put into a situation of receiving. Though these are subjective, human feelings are often indescribable. Whatever you are feeling, be it bad or good, it is always justifiable.

Feeling bad when someone does something nice for you, especially if they buy you gifts, could be due to a variety of reasons. One possible explanation is that you might feel like you don't deserve the kindness or that you haven't done enough to warrant such gestures. This feeling of unworthiness could stem from low self-esteem or a fear of being beholden to others. Another reason could be a sense of guilt or obligation to reciprocate the gesture, which can create anxiety and discomfort. It is essential to explore the root cause of these feelings and work on addressing them to fully appreciate and enjoy the kindness of others.