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Why do I feel worse after crying?

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Last Updated: 05/20/2022 at 11:10am
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scrollworm
March 16th, 2017 1:34pm
Because there is self-pity and guilt when you cried. To feel better, calm down and meditate. Listen to a soft music. Go to a quiet place. If you are ready, talk with someone.
Sofiasocial
May 4th, 2017 8:08pm
Sometimes this is because you feel weak, or that you have let down yourself or others. But you must always remember that crying is ok, you are not weak, infact you are so so brave and no matter what things will pass and you will be happy again.
Yneigma
May 10th, 2017 4:53pm
You tend to feel worse after crying do to the fact that an overwhelming sensation beclouds you. You mind and body is in between a state of being dazed and numbness, causing you to feel worse. However, after this act of crying/sobbing, you may need a moment to yourself to just breath and relax. Taking the moment to clear your mind after an emotional moment will make you feel a bit sad, but you'll have the time to restore your mind frame and proceed with healthy and sensible actions to the road of recovery.
SearchFor
July 23rd, 2017 5:17am
Crying can be highly carthatic but can also get you stuck in a cycle of dwelling and acting upon negative emotions. Crying expresses emotional pain but does nothing to actively resolve it by itself. Crying is natural but we have to move on afterwards and that is the challenging thing.
Tinkerbell8
October 22nd, 2017 7:21am
What are you crying about? Is not reliving for you? Maybe the tension of crying could make you feel more vulnerable
Anonymous
November 16th, 2017 3:50am
Crying is often a way to express how we are currently feeling but it can also pull other emotions from beneath the surface that you may not have known you felt.
emilyb1999
November 23rd, 2017 2:35pm
you may feel worse after crying because it psychologically makes the person feel depressed, crying as a societies opinion is a sign of weakness however this is not the case.
InFairness
December 16th, 2017 1:12am
There is a stigma attached to crying, that if you do so you are weak, dependent, an emotional mess etc. This is not true. Crying is a natural way to relieve tension in the body, a way to express oneself, and personally if you can cry openly then in my eyes you are a strong individual.
Northe
December 21st, 2017 1:09am
Crying isn't fun. It's messy and can be incredibly draining. Even so, the feeling after crying is significantly better than how someone would feel over a long period of time while keeping these feelings in. I know that sounds incredibly cheesy, but in my own in experience, this has always proved to be the case.
Anonymous
January 5th, 2018 4:26pm
Maybe your not getting the comfort you need or someone telling you it's gonna be okay when you do. Just be positive everyone cries and it's normal to express your emotions.
Natalia90210
January 11th, 2018 3:07am
Sometimes we don't want to let others see our feelings, so whenever we cry (with or without people) we feel exposed, like if they would judge us. But we don't have to feel that way. I personally think crying is of the most beautiful acts of braveness. Because crying you can let your sadness/stress out, so there is nothing wrong about crying. It's actually good if you think about it.
Anonymous
January 31st, 2018 3:26am
It's because the problem is still here. It wont go away till its fixed hon. But its like that for everyone that have problems even me.
DragonWrites50
January 31st, 2018 3:55pm
For me, it depends on the reason why I'm crying. Sometimes, I feel that crying makes me feel better. It's a release of emotions that we are trained to keep in. I think that crying in some cases is extremely beneficial, because one notices that when one holds back tears, their bodies have a reaction that can be painful, such as tightening of the throat and tensing of the body. I think that we are hurting ourselves many times when we refuse to let ourselves cry. Sometimes, however, we feel that it isn't the time or place to cry, and so we have to hold back our tears...right? The stigma of being too emotional damages our ability to express our emotions healthily and properly. There are times, however, when crying does make me feel worse. Those are the cases, I feel, when the tears are just a lashing out due to holding in my emotions for too long, and so they are essentially wasted, because they are tears of frustration or anger, not tears expressing the true emotion that they were meant to express originally. Could be fear and anger then too, but being held back for so long, they are just an overflowing of all the emotions I've held inside. I think it comes from learning how to have a healthy relationship with one's emotions that determines if you feel better after crying or worse.
Anonymous
April 1st, 2018 3:17am
Crying is an intense emotional experience that takes a lot from us. It also brings many things to the surface that we may not have been paying attention to before. Many things can lead up to the moment when we finally cry, but often it is a build up to overwhelming emotions. When we cry we are fully experiencing our grief, sadness, frustration, and other feelings. We can't simply put those feelings back into a box and forget about them. Before crying, maybe it was easier to ignore the strong feelings. After crying, we are far too aware of how we really feel. Look at what you feel after crying, and think about why you might feel those things. It may give you clues to what you need to do next to find some peace.
HeartKnocksCounselling
April 5th, 2018 8:17am
Because crying takes a lot of physical energy from us. Crying is also often associated with negative connotations as being 'weak' or 'helpless'. Sometimes, after the cathatric release of tears, we may be faced with the reality in front of us again and feel worse than before.
Anonymous
April 7th, 2018 10:33pm
You generally feel worse before you start to feel better. Crying releases hormones and can be exhausting.
awesomeVision52
April 28th, 2018 2:51pm
A lack of emotional insight may restrict the mind's ability to transform an upsetting moment into something positive
Anonymous
May 12th, 2018 8:22am
Sometimes crying helps you to get it out of your system. Sometimes it may not and you will feel worse afterwards. That is completely reasonable but if it persists, you should talk to someone about how you feel and what makes you cry. Or try to do something you enjoy directly after you cry, this may help
ClareBlissfulSoul22
May 31st, 2018 2:11pm
This could be your attitudes around showing emotions. I used to think it was a weakness to cry and I would get angry and hide my face in shame if I cried. Later I learned this belief around showing emotions especially emotions like crying, sadness, anger was not welcomed by my mother so she would say stop, shut up, look at the state of you, you are a mess, you need help etc and I had unconsciously taken on these negative beliefs. When I accepted that emotions are not negative they are to be embraced. I started to enjoy having a good cry. Start gentle letting yourself cry at a movie. Listen to a piece of music that moves you to tears and see how crying is a form of expression from the inner parts of you. Embrace it as you would embrace a small child. Be gentle with yourself. You deserve it.
Catlover456
June 15th, 2018 12:32pm
After I cry, i feel worse too. For me its because crying makes me even more sad, it pulls me into more sadness. It may be different for you though.
Anonymous
July 22nd, 2018 12:51pm
Because after you're crying you let out all of your emotions and of course you let your guard down every time you cry, that means you're in the most vulnerable state of yourself when you cry... And crying drain your energy
RiverOfDreams
July 22nd, 2018 5:04pm
Crying takes a lot of energy. It's a release of endorphins which tries to bring you back up, but you may still feel the root of the issue is still unresolved or building up. Try to find out's going or change areas if you feel like you're experiencing an issue for more than 10 minutes. It might just mean you're not ready or able to deal with it right now and shouldn't push the issue with yourself.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2018 7:29am
You just tired you body out. It is a natural reaction to a strong emotions. You may feel worse because you may feel like you are showing weakness, which isn't true at all. It is better to let your etomtions out then to let them bottle up and mess with your life.
RumpleSteeleSkin
July 28th, 2018 6:18pm
Sometimes you feel worse after crying cause it drains you. All your negative emotions come piling out, and you cry more and longer and more intense. Crying is not a bad thing-honest. Crying allows your body to dump a lot of bad emotions in us. Hugs
quietday01
August 5th, 2018 5:48pm
If you've just had a long, hard cry, you may be feeling a bit dehydrated and pretty exhausted. Crying is a completely normal way to express any emotions you may be feeling, but make sure to take some time afterwards to drink some water and wind down in order to take care of your body. :)
Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 10:14pm
Sometimes crying can actually let more emotions out that you realised, it’s good to cry but if you find it hard then pick certain times to cry, maybe at home in the evenings
phosphenerelief
September 7th, 2018 5:22am
Often because you are seeing the action of crying as a negative thing, or a sign of weakness. Or alternatively entering the action of crying thinking it must definitely make you feel better; thus putting pressure on it rather than letting it be a therapeutic process. Instead allow crying to happen naturally, don't force it but don't avoid it either. Allowing ourselves to feel and let our emotions happen naturally is the healthiest thing we can do, and accepting them is the imperative. It is all about balance - supressing is unhealthy but so is pressuring. You are doing great my love, just be you.
magnanimousWinter46
October 4th, 2018 10:48pm
I feel worse after crying because I got to a level of vulnerability that makes me feel weak. People associate tears and emotions with weakness. No one likes to be vulnerable because then you are enabling yourself to be judged, the point of needing advice or a hug or being forced to need something that someone else is giving and that alone feels worse than crying. Maybe overreacting to the point of tears. You let “it” get to you. There’s a million reasons why people feel worse after crying. Judgement, fear and weakness are my 3 biggest at the moment.
Anonymous
October 12th, 2018 1:12am
The reason could be as simple as dehydration and fatigue. Make sure you drink a lot of water after a good crying session. A power nap might help too. Crying is therapeutic! It is the body's way of handling emotional stress, so don't hold back those tears! This is from WebMD: Research is backing up that theory. Studies of the various kinds of tears have found that emotional tears contain higher levels of stress hormones than do basal (aka lubricating) or reflex tears (the ones that form when you get something in your eye). Emotional tears also contain more mood-regulating manganese than the other types. Stress "tightens muscles and heightens tension, so when you cry you release some of that," Sideroff says. "[Crying] activates the parasympathetic nervous system and restores the body to a state of balance."
Stayblessedforever
December 1st, 2018 1:21pm
Well, i find this question a little tricky. There are both sides to crying. In most scenarios, Crying had actually made me feel better if it was a deeply hurtful situation. It is sort of the only defense mechanism i possess. Moreover if i had cried around people who trust me, it doesn't make me feel awkward. However crying in front of less known person, sometimes can leave a lot of embarrassment behind. In fact, It would be totally embarrassing to face that person altogether. Apart from that aftermath of crying also includes headache and sore eyes 😋