How to deal with people that are bad mouthing me?

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everythigsk
July 16th, 2017 4:17am
I have lived the deepest and strongest pain for years with the mask of the smile on my face, I have mutilated my own skin and my own heart, I have tried to commit suicide many times, I have also been weeks in hospitals, drugged already hard Eating, wanting to be dead, and today I want to help people who are going through the same, I would have liked someone to tell me that everything was going to be okay.
Anonymous
July 27th, 2016 7:16am
return yourself and ask that "who am ı".remembering who you are gives you strong for not to respond in the same way.your reaction must reflect your thoughts and your personality perfectly.
Reveur7193
June 26th, 2016 2:31pm
You know if you had asked me this a few months ago, I would have been in full support of tit for tat. But in my journey of life, as I have grown as a person, met new people, faced various situations, I have realised that hitting back doesn't make your bruise any better. You just need to understand that there's nothing wrong with you. It's the person who is bad-mouthing you that is mentally ill, who gets pleasure by seeing hurt on someone's face. So the best thing to do? Steal this pleasure from him. I am not asking you to ignore him like a coward. Just go to him with a big smile on your face and thank him for the compliment. Then enjoy his face of utter disappointment and irritation! :D
Anonymous
June 15th, 2016 2:54pm
well ignorance is bliss in this scenario if you are on right path just stick to what you are doing and do not give such ppl any attention that's it.
UtopianMidgardianSanctuary
June 25th, 2016 8:26am
People who deride others also judge themselves and have a low self esteem. When people bad mouth you, it actually takes a stronger person to react with kindness and a caring manner. Maybe, something is happening in their life that you may not know about.
adoredIcicle46
August 5th, 2016 4:17am
Don't care what they say. I myself have tried this before and inside i felt horrible but on the outside i felt conifident and strong. Fake it till you make it.
ScorpioSun11
September 15th, 2016 3:11am
People can be really negative. It's difficult to let go of the hurt you feel when you know others are being judgmental, but you can't let other people's comments affect your emotional well-being. Negative comments can replay on a loop in your mind and tend to continue to hurt long after they've been spoken, but it's important not to engage with people who want to provoke you. They want their negativity to incite a negative, hostile, or emotional reaction. That is the single purpose of their action, so it's best not to give it any more meaning than it deserves... which is none!
Anonymous
June 16th, 2016 1:08am
Just ignore them they must have nothing going on in therd oen lifes
needsunshine66
March 19th, 2017 3:50am
Avoid these people. They do not have your best interest at heart. Work on building your self esteem up enough to know that you are a good person (I'm assuming you are :) ) and cannot let what others say affect you or your feelings. They are probably unhappy with themselves if they feel the need to talk bad about others.
fireocean97
June 23rd, 2016 2:41pm
Breathe, and let it pass. Whether to my face or behind my back, I know to abstain from hate. Especially vengeful hate.
frenchiek
August 14th, 2016 7:21pm
The best thing you can do is show them that what they are saying doesn't affect you. As soon as you show that it doesn't matter what they say, they will usually stop.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2016 5:31am
Never drop to their level - always be quick witted, have class and avoid associating with such people.
Anonymous
April 13th, 2017 3:13am
Ignore them, everybody has their opinions. As they have their opinions about you and how you have your opinions about yourself. Don't let them influence how you feel about yourself. There's a possibility that they're jealous and want to make you look or feel bad.
caringmelon
July 16th, 2017 3:47am
There are no ways in dealing with people that bad mouths about you. They are the ones that should be the ones dealing with their own issues before commenting on the others. Trust me, you are doing perfectly fine, stay you. Be YOU.
miraculousBeauty49
August 4th, 2016 3:37pm
Ignore the people that are talking bad about you and focus on having fun and healthy relationships with your friends and family.
lovingstrawberries777
August 3rd, 2016 6:31am
Don't take it to heart! Sometimes people don't realize that words do hurt! If it continues let a trusted adult know and put a stop to it! You are strong!
Candid0211
June 18th, 2016 8:29am
In my experience the people who are bad mouthing you will always do so behind your back. So the best possible option is take them at face value when they talk to you. Apart from that if you feel you need to clarify your position with someone specific then do that not based on hearsay but simply because you felt the need to do so.
tealpeasant
July 2nd, 2016 8:44am
Keep your head up high and remember that people who step on you are just jealous people who want to get above you.
WingedGiraffe
June 24th, 2016 12:02am
The best thing that you can do to people who are bad mouthing you is to ignore them. Acknowledging them give them power and you don't want to do that.
Anonymous
July 20th, 2016 3:39pm
''Water off a duck's back'' That famous Rupaul's Drag Race Quote Let them. Have faith in the people you trust and can count on as friends, to defend you/ refuse to believe someone just being nasty. And guarantee to never treat someone, like they've treated you. They'll eventually move on and pick on someone else.
shaych
August 17th, 2016 3:12am
From my experience, you cannot truly deal with people who are talking about you behind your back. All you can do is be confident in yourself and in knowing that the person isn't telling the truth. It may seem terrible at first, but I promise it will blow over.
1musicloverever
November 17th, 2016 9:42pm
Don't listen to what they have to say to or about you. They eventually will turn their act around when someone with a higher power or authority says something to them and they will stop.
freshSmiles25
January 24th, 2018 2:36pm
I have learned that over the years people who are more concerned with others and talk about others in a negative way either 1)envy something about you 2)have their own issues in their life 3) are bored/self-centered and like to pick on people for pleasure. Whatever the reason another person is doing this, do NOT mind them. A good saying is those who matter don't mind and those who mind don't matter. Depending on your age and maturity level it gets easier with time. We are so focused no a days with our image, social media and keeping up tp certain standards that we often lose ourselves. But those people who are bad mouthing you, do NOT matter and they should NOT be in your life. The sooner you forget about them or eliminate them from your life the less stress you will have
toomanyfandoms12345
June 17th, 2016 1:13am
Ignore them! Maybe they are just jealous of you. If you ignore them then they will eventually give up and notice that you won't give in.
Anonymous
July 24th, 2016 1:05am
The best way to deal with the situation is to: 1. Kill them with kindness. 2. Ignore them as a whole. 3. If either of the first two don't help, try referring to a school counselor, teacher, or parent etc. to help resolve the problem.
Anonymous
August 6th, 2016 8:38pm
It's best to ignore them. Try not to let the words hurt them. As long as you love yourself, nothing else matters. If you can, try reasoning with the people, they might be going through some stuff too.
Anonymous
August 28th, 2016 10:20am
Don't listen to them. They are just jealous of what you have. Continue what you are doing because there's nothing wrong with what you do.
Anonymous
September 13th, 2016 4:00am
Remember that they're talking about you because of their low self-esteem and it's not about you. They try to bring themselves up by bringing you down and as long as you understand this, you should have a better perspective of why it's happening and be able to not care about what they think as much.
Potatofry
November 18th, 2017 7:12am
I would say mostly ignore or avoid them. If this doesn't seem possible/ doesn't seem to work confront them and ask them why they have been bad mouthing you.
SoulEmbrace8
July 29th, 2016 9:31pm
People will talk anyway. I believe that what others say about us is really none of our business. There are three images for every person 1-How he/she sees him/herself 2-How others see him/her 3-How she/he really is !