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Everything in my life is messed up. Motivation works temporarily and I'm not suicidal but feel it's pointless to live like this. What should I do to feel hopeful?

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Last Updated: 04/20/2022 at 4:35pm
Everything in my life is messed up. Motivation works temporarily and I'm not suicidal but feel it's pointless to live like this. What should I do to feel hopeful?
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October 8th, 2016 1:22am
I can't say I know what you are going through. But the point of life is to try and without continuing to try what else do we live for. We just have to keep moving on.
December 3rd, 2016 2:14pm
Take every day for what it is, a new chance to work, improve, and live. Enjoy what is good as it comes, by living in the moment like this, we can become hopeful and work towards feeling "normal".
August 10th, 2016 6:21am
Change. Change something in your life. If you don't like how your life is or like how you are living it then change it. Think about what aspects you don't like and what aspects you want to change :)
August 27th, 2016 5:12pm
Sometimes, it is hard to feel motivation, especially when you are at a state where you are going through a lot of struggles; however, you need to know that life is not easy, and obstacles will always be there. It's that power that you overcome them that makes you so much stronger. Once you overcome them, you become a stronger person than you were before, and learn so much more about life and ultimately yourself. Don't give up, and stay strong!
January 22nd, 2017 6:02am
I've been there. I suffer with anxiety, which at times makes me feel utterly hopeless. Sometimes my brain can't take anymore of the incessant stress and worry. When I'm feeling this way, I like to just turn to something I love doing. That makes me feel like I have purpose and my life isn't hopeless. Working out also helps relieve some of that stress as well. Even though it's sometimes difficult to find motivation, I manage to give it to myself because I know I'm worth it. Happiness is worth fighting for.
February 5th, 2017 6:01pm
Remember that none of us knows what's going to happen next. Something huge and amazing could be right around the corner and all you have to do is remember that.
March 4th, 2017 6:56pm
When you feel like crap, hang in there, and tough it out. You can focus on body needs first, and that can help you feel physically better. Igniting enthusiasm takes skill, and often this proceeds by trial and error. Try to find a coach that can guide you to the techniques that can work well with your style.
August 10th, 2017 3:54pm
Omg same ! :/ , but you should surround yourself by friends , family , a lot of people love you and you do belong to here in this world no one deserves to die , I hope your gonna be okay.
April 27th, 2018 6:46am
If life was easy it would get pretty boring after a while. You say motivation only works temporarily, how about setting yourself smaller goals to achieve and work your way up. I wish there was a magic wand to make you feel better but it's just a matter of finding what best works for you.
September 11th, 2020 9:10pm
you should try to work on your problems. being hopeful,reading stories about successful people and seeing motivational videos won't help and in somepoint actually these things could bring up depression. i see and from my experience,the best solution is to write down your good and bad things,write down if you have anger issues, trust issues,anxiety.. anything you want to change even if you don't believe that change will matter.. just try and with the first small thing or bad habit you change you will start feeling better,having better version about yourself and here comes the motivation to complete and do it all again.
August 5th, 2016 8:31am
Think of what you like, okay? Like something you like to do when you're free and want to relax. Focus on this. you can do something, you're good at it and you can improve it day by day, it can become a huge satisfaction for yourself. It can be anything, just think of it. And be happy.
August 7th, 2016 4:13am
Change your mindset. Once your thoughts change, your whole outlook on life changes and your circumstances won't overwhelm you. You'll know to seek help in the right places, build effective coping skills and thrive :)
August 10th, 2016 7:26pm
I have also felt this way before. You need people around you that understand, do any friends or family know about your feelings? If they do, tell them how you feel and that you need someone to back you up when you feel this way.. I could recommend many "proven" ways to make you feel better but everyone is different.
August 12th, 2016 1:16pm
Focus on the times where motivation does work and see how you could make use of it in different situations.
August 17th, 2016 9:28am
There are different types of Motivation- negative and positive, If one doesn't work try the other way. Indulge in the activities that truly interest you, no matter how stupid or taboo they might be. It's your life, you get to live it your way.
August 17th, 2016 8:43pm
You should tell someone you trust how you feel. Talking about what's going on can be very helpful. By doing that, you don't feel alone anymore and there is someone to encourage you.
August 19th, 2016 4:40pm
Try to search something you wanna live for. When I felt this way I talked about it with my best friend and slowly she helped me to feel more happy.
August 25th, 2016 8:03pm
Self esteem is the best medicine. To boost your self - esteem the fastest way, help someone who cannot repay you back, otherwise just helping others is also very helpful in feeling happy. If you are rich you could donate some to the orphanage centers or old age homes
August 27th, 2016 11:51am
What motivate(s) you most? Always remember what boosts your energy. What are your interests and hobbies? Hobbies can be helpful in many cases. When I feel low, I usually listen to my favorite songs. It lifts my spirits. Listening to relaxing music helps, even if you aren't a fan of music. When you feel like you have no motivations in life, think about what is beautiful, who you like, or the how you could be useful.
August 27th, 2016 5:52pm
I create a montage of things that remind me that its important to keep going. Each picture reminds me of a special person in my life, each date something to look forward to and each item a memory. I keep this on my wall and look at it when I need reminding that I mean something.
September 3rd, 2016 12:44am
A lot of people have many issues every single day that make life seem hopeless. But I put my hand over my heart and I feel it ...I'm alive for a reason. We all are. There is much in life to celebrate every day! Someone once said we can all live as if nothing is a miracle or we can live as if everything is a miracle. I firmly believe in the power of faith and miracles ... Happiness is for everyone not just a handful!
September 3rd, 2016 2:28pm
This might not help, but i find that thinking about the vastness of the universe really puts things into perspective. Because, the universe is so big that it has so many places to explore and things to experience. There are so many wild and wonderful things that you could be doing, seeing, hearing.
September 8th, 2016 6:55am
Talk to someone when you are feeling hopeless. Sometimes talking helps us see why we feel drained and may guide us towards finding a new perspective and a new way of dealing with what brings us down.
September 10th, 2016 6:25pm
Think of something that brings you joy and do things that move you closer to that. Complete the sentence "if I do x then I'll feel stable or better". It will take time, but being on the path alone and reminding yourself that you want to have a life worth living will help your forward.
September 16th, 2016 8:40pm
You can try making a list of things that cheer you up and make you feel happy. Writing motivational messages for yourself to read when you feel down can help too. Reward yourself after you've done something you needed to do (like a chore, assignment, ...) and take a moment to congratulate yourself on reaching that goal. When you feel down, read through that list and those messages and do something that makes you feel happy.
September 17th, 2016 4:20am
Remind yourself why you've kept going for so long. If you aren't sure about that, think about who you have in your life who loves you. Even if you feel like there's nobody, give it a chance. They're definitely around.
September 17th, 2016 10:17am
have a goal and do hard work to achieve it. keep yourself busy and help others. it will make you feel good and hopeful
September 24th, 2016 5:53pm
Health, Career, Relationships, Family what is making your life messed up ? Remember that no problem is permanent. A lock never comes without a key. Re think about your problems one by one, Don't be too harsh and judgemental about yourself and do not except a quick remedy or answer to all your problems. Just deal with them one by one. Talk to people who care about you. If you feel no one cares about you or no one is interested to hear your problem then you take help of a professional. I always advice this because sometimes we all need another person to help and guide us better. Deal with your problems one by one. All the best.
October 5th, 2016 2:40pm
Right now life might not make sense. Imagine it like you're looking a globe; you can't look at all the countries simultaneously. You can't "see the whole picture" right now. But if you're patient enough to give it some time and broaden your horizon. Give yourself a chance and just live one day at a time using up motivation in small doses..
October 5th, 2016 3:06pm
If I ever feel like my life is a mess and there is not much point to it I try do something small to help someone else. If I can help someone else who is having a tough time it makes me feel hopeful that I can do the same for myself.