How can I convince myself that my friends don't hate me? I have this irrational fear that they actually hate me.

You can look at the things that they do for you, however small, like asking you to come out, spending time with you, talking when you are upset. Small things like that show you that your friends do care about you, as they wouldn't do it or they would be reluctant to if they didn't enjoy your company.

anxiety is terrible, and i've been there. one thing that has helped me was asking them. one day, my anxiety was really bad, and i texted a friend saying "hey i've been feeling really paranoid lately and my brain is telling me some mean things. silly question, but do you secretly hate me?" they thought the question was ridiculous, but they seriously answered it and said that no, they didn't hate me. i screenshotted that and have kept it in my phone ever since. of course, the paranoia didn't magically go away, but now, i logically ask my brain "is that really true?" and i have the evidence to back it up.

Maybe try ask them Individually? I think that it may be just a “what if fear” but it can go either way

If they are "friends" then they sure can not hate you. If you have a fear of this....then ask yourself if they really are your friends....if they give you that right to question them about not liking you. If you are not happy with yourself change what you don't like.

I smile at them whenever my eyes meet theirs and if they smile at me back I have a positive feeling that they don't at least hate me. But if they don't or give some irritated expression, I try to assume they may be in a bad mood or may be they envy something about me. I never did harm to anyone in my life, not intentionally at least and I'm confident about it. All I try to do is impress myself first, those who actually deserve me will get impressed by their own. And if they don't deserve me I can only show a supportive behavior towards but I can't force them to like me. It depends on their mentality how they're seeing the things

On personal experience, all it takes is an understanding that not everyone thinks the same way, not everyone's brain is the same. Take a second to let that sink in, evaluate it.

You can convince yourself that your friends don't hate you by setting your mind to a positive mindset. When you think in a negative manner you will eventually not only think that your friends hate you but more insecurities will build onto your life. If you are in the positive mindset and come to a conclusion that your friends do not hate you, then you will begin to let this irrational fear go. If they do not talk about you, or hurt you in any way but rather share love and compassion with you as a friend, then you should have nothing to worry about, they do not hate you. Don't let your fears take away your happiness in life. Think positive and remain faithful!

You could never know for real if your friends hate you or like you. Confronting them is an option but instead try to get rid of the negative thoughts instead. Indulge yourself in more activities, take up more hobbies and make yourself a better person. But most importantly learn to love yourself. Thoughts about others disliking you could arise from negative thought about yourself or feeling like you aren't good enough. Practice self love before you expect anyone else to like you.

though its hard to believe, this is actually pretty normal.. you probably have been stabbed I the back from someone before and are loosing trust.. and that is so reasonable! I find it so helpful to counteract your thoughts, whether that is in a diary or in your head.. Also if it is really bugging you, tell them! communication is always key, sometimes voicing your concerns can help you feel a lot better and relieve some of that anxiety you are feeling.. remember all the good things you have to help keep your min off all of this !!

My personal experience is that I used to overthink everything. I used to think that my friends don't like to be around me, and it was mostly because I had past experiences with fake friends. Some of the reasons why I thought so, was sometimes they would try to keep a distance from me, and some times and sometimes their body language and tone seems off, but then I realised, most of the time they have been trying to support me, by pointing out my mistakes, trying to make me less dependent on others, helping me to get over my past trauma, etc. They have been helping a lot and sometimes they do get tired and need some space, that's all, they are human too, I feel that I need some space sometimes too, and they do too.

That's the thing, it's irrational. It sounds like anxiety to me, and your mind is lying to you. If they are your friends they don't hate you, they love tou🙂 talk to them about how you're feeling but remember it's irrational. They're not real feelings. I've had this as well.

Finding out where this feeling stems from. Sometimes the problem stems from other problems. Also finding out what things trigger this feeling? Do your friends do things that make you feel like this. Expressing how you feel to your friends is important, it may help them be more aware of their actions and can help convince you that they don't hate you. Sometimes it may be other insecurities that stem from self-esteem, and other relationships in outlives, and treating these and giving ourselves the time and care we need will help in solving problems have with external environments,

Your friends wont hate you :( its most important to be yourself. If you're being yourself and they dont like you they aren't you true 'Friends'.

Think about all the fun times you guys had together. And the little things, laughing, having inside jokes, meeting with each other. Those are the moments that you should cherish & hold closely to your heart & mind when you are anxious. Nobody likes being near people they hate, that would be torture. However, if you really think they might hate you, then you could always choose to ask them in a nice way. Honesty is the best policy. If they want to keep this friendship as much as you do, then they will speak out the truth. Besides, if all things does not work out, the whole wide world has an infinity of people you can always make friends with!

First of all, *hugs*! To suspect that your friends or any loved one might actually hate you is not a nice feeling to have at all. Love and hate are two sides of the same coin. You love your friends, right? And so it's completely natural that you're worried they might hate you. If you didn't love them, you wouldn't really care what they thought right? They'd just be another stranger on the street. We all want to feel loved and be secure in the knowledge that those we love, love us in return. It's clear to me that you're a loving, thoughtful person - someone who wasn't wouldn't care if their friends hated them or not. Not only does this mean your friends would be silly to hate you(!), it means that you have so much to give to your friends. So my advice to you, would be to focus on being your amazing self! What a wonderful gift for them. After all, your true self is probably the reason they love you and the reason you're their friend! Sometimes being yourself is the best way of showing someone how much much you mean to them - because it shows you're comfortable around them, and it shows you trust them. Put your trust in your friends by being yourself, take a leap and have faith that they love you. See how they respond, and you'll find out for yourself what they really think of you. Good luck!

Having trust issues can be pretty painful for both parties. I guess this can happen after you got disappointed or hurt by other. I'd say, first, let's try to be more positive and be more mature. Your friend seems to not care about you. But if you try to look from his/her perspective, he/she probably also has problems. Of course, they probably won't tell you directly what's wrong. But just letting them know that you're there for them is plenty. Second, instead of waiting for someone that you can give your trust to, try to be that person. And last but not least, if someone does harm you, just smile. And ask if they're okay. If you can't really contain your anger, wish them for something good. You can still think positively and it's better than cussing.

Personally, I struggled with this all through high school. It was questioning everything said and seeing it as a personal threat. One way I was able to tone it down was taking a step back and recognizing that they are my friends and not my enemies. It was tough at first but it began to help in terms of not taking playful jokes and seeing them as personal attacks. Once you get over that first hump its clear waters from there. If its not, thats completely fine. We all function diffrently, I would then try and have a conversation describing my doubts and anxiety!

If you can call them friends then I do not think they hate you. But if it is something you have internalized and truly believe that your friends don't like you I think a good idea would be to talk to some of them and tell them how you feel. Do they give you reason to believe that they hate you? Do they exclude you from activities? Or is it just a feeling you have? Talk with them and tell them that you have this irrational fear you can't seem to shake and let them assure you that they care about you and love you, and then believe it when they tell you.

Realizing that your fear is irrational is a great first step. Everyone experiences social anxiety from time to time. When you find yourself succumbing to fears like these, take a mental time out. Then rationalize why you are feeling this way. Figuring out what triggers these feelings is an important part of learning to cope with them. All the self-doubt, anxiety and fear that you are feeling; those around you feel lot the same way. Even if they won’t admit it. Reach out to someone close to you and trustworthy, and let them know how you are feeling.

Do good to them and try to find some friends who do not hate you. Also you need to understand if it is some sort of bullying, by your friends. Then you need to take all the necessary steps to prevent being bullied. It is their decision to hate or not hate you. This is most important thing to understand. From your side you can only do good. You can concentrate on things in your control. Like gaining friends through, studying well, good marks, sports or any other things which you like, interests you to do. Then based on that people will like to be your friend.

You have to realise that friendship isn't always rainbows and butterflies. There will be times that you will be challenged and your friendship will be tested and there will be certain obstacles you will have to overcome. Friends may turn around and be salty or blunt with you but at the end of the day, if they hated you- they wouldn't be your friend. Hate is a very strong word, yeah friends get upset with you and you will have your arguments here and there but if you want that reassurance- just ask them. It will take guts and willpower, but you will feel better getting it off your chest.

This is definitely a situation we've all experienced at one time or another, with varying intensities. I can say my experience has been less than graceful, but what i learned is that it takes trust in your friends to truly lose this feeling. I know it may seem scary, and maybe even impossible to fully place your trust in someone. However, if your friends are people you have fun with and love having in your life, they need to become people you can trust. Confidants in a way. This takes time and reminders, but it's worth it. Your friends can even tell you that they love you if you ask them, and while it may not help at first, it may be just the reminder you need.

You are surrounded by people who love and adore you! If these people hated you they wouldn’t be in your life and you always need to remember that. Everyone has a choice who they spend time with, and your friends choose you! It’s not easy to believe, but it’s true. It really is! Have you considered seeing a therapist about social anxiety? Check out the website if you want to find out where you can find highly trained professionals to help unravel your fears! Best of luck, I’m here if you need any more help in the future! Look forward to hearing from you again(:

Perhaps try sitting your friends down, and having a slow and contained conversation with them. express your feelings in the best way you can, explain your fears and worries, and explain how they make you feel and affect your day-to-day life. After you’ve expressed those fears and emotions, perhaps try asking for reassurance, and ask if they can do more activities with you, or text you more. engage more with them and increase the bond, it may reduce the anxiety. Some days may feel worse than others, and the fears will convince you everybody hates you, but I assure you that it’s wrong. My best advice would be laying it all out for them to better understand, and ask for help. Be safe!

In my experience it is best to think about what things your friends said and their actions that make you feel as though they hate you. After getting everything in perspective, try to think about the other reasons they might have done this, what they might have meant, or what they might not have realized they had done. Sometimes my friends seem to not include me in things, but I realize that I never told them how I felt. After talking with them, it became clear they didn't realize how they were making me feel and things improved. Sometimes we need to give them that chance, because they aren't in our heads and what may seem obvious to us is not so obvious to them. You've got to give a little trust to truly understand how much they give you, these people are your friends, give them a chance to tell you how they really feel.

You know its irrational. There isn't an easy fix I know of, but I can tell you that you know its irrational. As in, the thought is not true. You will be okay. Do whatever helps relax you, and understand the thought won't destroy you. As I need more words, have some mantra-reading below: You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You will be okay. You'll be okay, I promise.

Sometimes it may feel like your friends hate you based on how they act around you. But you just have to take a step back and look around and notice how fortunate you are to have such amazing people around you! Your friends are there for you though sometimes it doesn’t feel like it. And if you ever do feel like your friends HATE you hate you, talk to them and tell them who you’re feeling! Your friends will be king and understand how you feel and listen. But if they aren’t truly your friends they’ll do the opposite.

I find that guesswork with your relationships can often lead to more harm than good, hands down the best way to know how someone feels about is to ask them. Until you do, that question may nag you in the back of your mind the whole time you're with them, and that may lead you to act differently with them, which might drive them away, and then you'll think you were right, when you actually weren't. Always ask, everything else is just pure guesswork, your friends might actually surprise you with how much they care about you, you just have to take that first step and ask.

Ughh tell me about it! I have this problem too!! I think you need to ask yourself a few questions to help you understand your feelings. For example, "why do I think my friends hate me?" "what did I do to make them feel hate towards me?" "if they hated me for real, how would they act? Is it the same as what's been going on before?" Also asking yourself, where did this irradiation fear come from. If it was from some traumatizing experience in your past, maybe you should see a counselor about it to help you more or ask someone you trust. Talking really helps, so do that

I’ve found that when I feel like this, I tend to pull away. So what I need to do is chat with my friends and engage regularly. I also sometimes need to go out of my comfort zone and push a bit more for interaction, such as messaging a couple of times or trying to meet up again. Or even talking to them and asking them to contact, or scheduling a time to catch up. I think it’s okay also to push away friends who you don’t get along with as well. But I do find that even though I find it scary to reconnect it’s often alright and people are happy that you did.