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How do I overcome the fear of cashiers?

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Last Updated: 10/31/2020 at 5:05pm
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Top Rated Answers
TaranWanderer
May 3rd, 2017 9:07pm
A good place to start is to realize they're just people, and they're probably more worried about doing the job right and getting it over with than judging you at all! I was a cashier and I barely ever remembered people who came in because I was so focussed on not messing up. The only time the other cashiers said anything about a customer was when they were super rude, so if you're nice, you have nothing to worry about!
shaquilleoatmeal
June 16th, 2017 8:18pm
As intimidating as it can be going up to a cashier to check something out, just remember that they are only human. All they want to do is check out your items that you want to purchase. Most don't hold much conversation minus the "hi how are you" and "have a nice day"
jodiejasmine
July 8th, 2017 1:07pm
Many people feel as though cashiers are daunting but they're just doing their job - let's face it, they serve hundreds of people every day as a part of their job and they're definitely not going to be judging you if anything 'embarrassing' happens.
damselinthisdress
July 15th, 2017 8:12pm
To overcome a fear, you first need to understand the main cause of the fear. In this case, if you can identify what it is exactly about cashiers that makes you afraid, I think you'll be able to process your fear and handle it effectively.
silentuponthehill
July 21st, 2017 5:51am
You don't even have to talk to the cashier! Just hand them your items or place them on the conveyor belt, and wait until they tell you how much you owe. Hand them the money (don't worry if you don't count it correctly! They won't mind, I assure you. They'll either give you back the extra money, or tell you the remaining amount you owe), and out you go! While you're waiting, play a game on your phone or do something to distract yourself. :)
AlotfyA
July 21st, 2017 8:48am
1. Play cashier games. 2. Watch videos about cashiers. 3. Train on relaxation techniques. 4. Encounter cashiers with an accompanying person. 5. Practice relaxation techniques when approching a cashier. 6. Keep a log. 7. Assign a self-reward for each encounter.
IntuitiveJay7
August 27th, 2017 9:49pm
By first recognizing that fear is a future event. We only fear things we believe WILL happen. There hasn't been a fear of something that IS happening. When you realize this, you will see that the cashier is only taking and returning your money in that given moment. It will no longer matter what you fear will happen in the future - - in the moment, you just proved that you would be safe. :)
Anonymous
September 13th, 2017 7:47pm
Try picking out a very warm and friendly one in a store. Watch for a few minutes to identify one like this and start by purchasing one simple item. Build upon this positive experience.
cherishedJet13
September 21st, 2017 3:59am
Start by going up to them with a friend or family member for a little while and then slowly start to go up alone to them. Progress very slowly so it is not one big dramatic change. Like when you start going alone have a family member or friend close by so you feel supported. As you progress have that family member or friend be farther and farther from you until you eventually are comfortable going up alone.
Ky23
November 11th, 2017 2:21am
I think one way to look at this fear is to remind yourself that they talk to so many people throughout the day. They're taking notice and being attentive of you, but they aren't paying attention as much as you think. Heck, I'm a cashier and I still get nervous of customers. Especially moms and dads with kids, because that's a whole lotta eyes on me. Just take your fear in strides and remember that no one is paying attention as much as you think.
latticinio
November 16th, 2017 9:40pm
From hearing others talk about their troubles talking or interacting with cashiers, all I can suggest is to force yourself to communicate with them. They are usually very nice people and if you slip up they won't mind. That's just one of those things you have to make yourself get used to.
Anonymous
November 24th, 2017 12:26am
I usually let my parents pay for me, or I'll have my money ready before I get up there. But yeah, my parents do the paying because I'm too shy.
AvaLive07
December 6th, 2017 4:13pm
Sounds like you have some anxiety. Feel free to share more about it. What is making you fear cashiers?
Anonymous
December 20th, 2017 12:11am
Consider this; I’m a cashier. Please, don’t be scared of us! We deal with hundreds of customers a day, we’re used to all kinds of people. Personally, I will always try my best with customers, especially those I feel may be shy or anxious. I promise you, we’re not judgemental unless you’re rude to us. We’re just normal human beings like you, doing our job.
kindDreamer44
January 6th, 2018 5:42am
Realize they are a person just like you. They can get anxious and upset as well, they are there to do their job and help you to the best of their ability. If you’re nervous about something you’re buying, that’s okay. Again, they are just there to do their job. They aren’t going to judge you
Anonymous
January 13th, 2018 9:46pm
Practice in the mirror. Talk to yourself and see how well you respond. Imagine worse case scenarios and respond to that as well. Preparing is the fist step and practicing it is second. Keep going and soon enoigh there will be no such thing as fear. Just another experience.
Anonymous
January 17th, 2018 10:13am
You can overcome fears by testing it slowly go into the store walking around walk out repeat situation each time getting closer to the cashier before pushing yourself to go there
Anonymous
January 19th, 2018 1:06am
To overcome the fear of cashiers, you can go up to the cashiers and start a friendly conversation and if you fail try again eventually you would be able to pay anywhere without fear.
KimtheNaturalist
January 19th, 2018 9:28pm
There are many different ways of overcoming fears, but the most effective way is a method called "Flooding." With this, you are immersed in a place where there are only cashiers. Have pictures of cashiers in your room, complete transactions at stores, watch videos on youtube of transactions. In doing this, you are telling your body that the fear is not there and that everything will be OK (otherwise known as Desensitizing).
nitwitoddmenttweakblubber
January 31st, 2018 1:43am
As someone with social anxiety who has also worked as a cashier, I can assure you that the cashier is not judging you or anything of the sort. I used to work as a cashier in both a coffee shop and a makeup store, and as a receptionist in a chiropractic office, and I saw so many people a day that each customer/patient was simply a blip on the map. I didn't even remember most of the people I helped, unless they were regulars. Try to remember that they are just people, too, and they may be feeling similar anxiety to what you are feeling! Try taking things one step at a time. Is it easier to manage this fear if you have a friend or family member with you? If so, start out this way; with someone by your side. Try and engage with the cashier as if they are just another friend. As you get more comfortable with a "safe" friend by your side, you can try doing the same on your own. Baby steps! Chin up :)
Rwtrek22
February 26th, 2018 12:36am
Identify where your fear is coming from, then figure out how to overcome that base fear.
Anonymous
February 28th, 2018 6:42am
Figure out why you're afraid of them then face your fears! You cannot get over something until you realize why you feel that way and confront it
KellzBellz
March 1st, 2018 12:20am
I used to have terrible social anxiety but once I started working as one, I understood that cashiers aren't there to judge you. They simply want to accomplish their job and sometimes strike up a friendly conversation. But we are just normal humans like everyone else and don't believe ourselves superior.
Anonymous
March 2nd, 2018 2:20am
As I’ve worked in a similar position cashiers do not care to remember you or anything about you, don’t be scared
Anonymous
March 7th, 2018 8:26pm
Take small steps, try to begin by planning what you’re going to say, and congratulate yourself when you have done!
Anonymous
March 8th, 2018 6:09pm
Maybe you can try becoming a cashier or talking to one? I understand what it's like to have fears. It's hard.
Anonymous
March 31st, 2018 8:42pm
Just know that they are human just like you. Don't be afraid to ask them questions if you don't understand something. I promise they are not that bad.
sunnyBraveheart20
April 11th, 2018 4:23pm
Try looking them in the eye after checking their nametag to say hello. If this is too scary, try simply smiling.
resourcefulRainbow
April 12th, 2018 11:40pm
Honestly, I find it really difficult to speak with strangers--especially in a store setting--so I've learned to just smile and try to breathe through it, chance are if you're smiling, the cashier will smile too!
peacefulHug92
April 14th, 2018 7:22am
This is gonna be a hard truth - but you just have to try it out one day. The problems with fears is that unless we challenge it, the fear just gets bigger and bigger in your head. I believe in you ❤