Why am I nervous around my girlfriend?
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Either your shy or not used to her or that's how much you like her, being nervous isn't always bad..
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 7:54pm
It's because you are in awe of her and probably don't have enough experience with women.
Just try to relax and not take everything so harshly. If you managed to be able to call someone your girlfriend, then they are definitely into you. Since that is the case you have nothing to worry about, just be yourself.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 11:51pm
It could be that you are worried about doing something wrong, or about making her upset or angry.
It could be that she intimidates you or you are afraid of losing her or it could be you're afraid of what she thinks of you.
Anonymous
January 1st, 2016 8:33pm
Maybe your nervous feelings come about because you want to make her happy, and you want to be the best that you can for her. These feelings of nervousness are completely normal.
Anonymous
January 2nd, 2016 10:20pm
It's natural to be nervous around people you want to make a good impression around, especially people you're romantically involved with.
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 7:27pm
I can't answer that for you I'm afraid, only you know that answer. Have you tried talking to her about how you're feeling?
Anonymous
January 7th, 2016 9:27pm
Because you feel something about her. And you care about her. You get excited about her. And that makes you nervous.
Love is something new and spectacular with each new individual that you get the privilege of loving. In this case, I believe you're nervous around your girlfriend because you are in the very first stages of love! Everyone gets nervous, just go with it!
You and her are in a relationship it is natural for you to be nervous because her opinion is important or you might feel as though something bad is going to happen your relationship
Anonymous
January 8th, 2016 5:14am
How long are you together with your girlfriend? If you are with her only a month or two, then that is a normal thing because you still don't know each other so good so you are afraid of doing something wrong.
Anonymous
January 9th, 2016 10:03pm
You are nervous because you like her and sometimes when we like or love someone our thoughts are all over the place and that person gives us butterflies. Maybe we are scared of saying the wrong thing, or afraid you're going to embarrass yourself. It is a natural feeling and perfectly normal
Possibly you think that your achievements are not as good as hers, or you are just over-thinking.
Also a sense of insecurity may result in nervousness. If that is the case, trust her.
I remember a line i read somewhere, "If you trust someone, trust him/her till the end, because in the end either you get a friend or a lesson". It is like the win-win situation. And believe me, sometimes the lesson you get at the end is worth it.
Anonymous
January 10th, 2016 2:13pm
it's probably because you love her so much you are afraid to do something that'll upset her ... just relax she's your gf because she likes you the way you are .. be yourself ... she's lucky to have someone like you
We are nervous around those that we feel we have to impress. Our crushes are people like you and me but in our head we create them to be of a higher kind and so we change ourselves , in a way to accommodate this higher being
It's only natural to feel a little aprehensive around those we feel affection for. We don't want to do or say anything to upset the people we feel for and in turn this can often lead to nervousness.
Anonymous
January 14th, 2016 4:27am
Because her beauty is intimidating! Duh!
Because you genuinely care for what she thinks about you. It's not a bad thing, it just shows you that you have feelings for her. Talk to her about it. Maybe she feels the same way. Open communication in a relationship is one of the most important things to keep it healthy!
Anonymous
January 21st, 2016 10:36am
It's natural to feel like that around her, you're trying to impress her most likely. It's a good thing :-)
Anonymous
January 21st, 2016 10:34pm
You might be scared you'll disapoint her. Or you love her so much that you're scared you'll do something wrong and ruin it.
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2016 9:54am
It's alright to be nervous as long as your are not too nervous if you find yourself sweeting a lot or so nervous you can't even talk to her just take deep breaths and think I can do this. For real girls think it is kind of cute for a guy to be nervous because they are probably nervous too.
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2016 11:18am
It is a natural tendency to want our partner to see us as perfection and this could result in the sense of nervousness with someone we care and love.
Maybe you feel insecure. You think that your girlfriend is prettier than you and you start to think like " Maybe she will find someone better than me." Or,you love her so much that you are afraid you will do a mistake and will end up with a break-up.
Anonymous
January 28th, 2016 1:39am
You may be really scared she wont like what you like and i hope you found somebody that you feel really cares
You can really like her and it is okay to be nervous. You just have to be yourself and if she likes you back then that is great. If not it is okay because there are plenty of people who will like you for you. It is okay to be nervous! ☺
Anonymous
February 4th, 2016 6:58am
Wow I can relate to this one ;) I think it may be for different reasons. Personally, I felt nervous because she was really beautiful and I felt really overwhelmed all the time yknow? Although it was also because she was really special and she made me feel lovely but sometimes I would kinda just doubt everything she said because of my own neurotic tendancies. And sometimes, its just because they're new for you! But it does get easier believe me, if you like her a lot thenci would say stay with her
being nervous around someone may be because you still have some things that are not comfortable to show to her but that's not always the case so, don't worry. :)
Anonymous
February 7th, 2016 10:52pm
It's natural to want to impress someone you like. You want them to like you back and it is far easier to dredge up all the reasons someone would not like you than it is to focus on the reasons someone would like you. Be natural. Be confident. Know that there is something that your girlfriend already really likes about you and all she wants is for you to share more of your thoughts and feelings - not less because you're nervous.
You probably love her so much you're afraid to lose her. I had the same issue in the beginning but I talked to her, and now we are in a very good relationship without worrying about her leaving.
You are the only person that can give valid reasons to your own emotions. I know when it comes to my own relationships the start causes me so much anxiety. The desire to come off in a desirable yet true manner is one of the things I believe cause the most anxiety in relationships.
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