Why am I nervous around my girlfriend?

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Why am I nervous around my girlfriend?
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MathewTheBull
July 10th, 2015 7:03am
I AM a little worn out, raddled, squashed, downtrodden, shot full of holes. Mortars have mortared me to bits. I am a little crumbly, decaying, yes, yes. I am sinking and drying up a little. I am a bit scalded and scorched, yes, yes. That’s what it does to you. That’s life. I am not old, not in the least, certainly I am not eighty, by no means, but I am not sixteen any more either. Quite definitely I am a bit old and used up. That’s what it does to you. I am decaying a little, and I am crumbling, peeling a little. That’s life. Am I a little bit over the hill? Hmm! Maybe. But that doesn’t make me eighty, not by a long way. I am very tough, I can vouch for that. I am no longer young, but I am not old yet, definitely not. I am aging, fading a little, but that doesn’t matter; I am not yet altogether old, though I am probably a little nervous and over the hill. It’s natural that one should crumble a bit with the passage of time, but that doesn’t matter.
theknight1
July 10th, 2015 11:12am
ربما هناك ما يزعجني من أصدقائها , او ربما أشعر بأنها بعيدة عني قليلا , لكن الحل الافضل و أن أكلمها بالموضوع ولا اتركه معلقا
Imhereforyou88
July 10th, 2015 2:05pm
Maybe she makes you nervous because she loves you and you love her love works in mysterious ways of maybe it's beacause she beautiful of maybe it's because you don't want to be seen in public it could be many reasons
butterflykisses27
July 10th, 2015 8:49pm
Its probably because you like her so much your a little scared of saying something silly and or acting the wrong way because you do not want to disappoint her.
KittenFriend112
July 11th, 2015 3:27am
because you probably are scared to embarass yourself in front of her or mess up or do anything thatll make her think bad about you
handofheart
July 11th, 2015 6:04am
Well, I don't know if you're generally a nervous person, someone who experiences social anxiety, or if she is so darn pretty that you're stomach has butterflies every time you're around her, but nervousness is a part of life. Once you realize the origin of your nervousness, then you can take steps to overcome it.
Anonymous
July 11th, 2015 2:55pm
It's because you're afraid that your girlfriend will form this bubble of thoughts in her head where a different kind of truth exists. It's like an accusation, and false or not, it doesn't matter, because she believes in it. And whatever you do, she always somehow find a way to connect it with that accusation. For example, you pet a dog. And in that moment, your girlfriend will scream at you and ask "Your other girl has a dog, doesn't she? You like dogs because she has a lot of them? Do you not love me anymore?" But in reality, you just wanted to pet the goddamn dog. This, my friends, is why you are nervous around your girlfriend.
Anonymous
July 11th, 2015 6:48pm
12farah21
July 11th, 2015 9:58pm
Because you have feelings for her and are scared of messing things up between you. Relax, there's nothing to worry about, she probably feels the same way too.
StevensLion
July 11th, 2015 10:24pm
Usually, people get nervous around other people because they're afraid of making a fool of themselves in front of them. They want to be able to impress that person and it makes them feel less confident in their abilities because of their fear of messing up, which they would not have with someone whom they did not really care to impress.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2015 9:18am
Who can say-- perhaps you like-like her! (; Consider asking yourself this question, since you're likely to know far more about it than any of us.
starlightblacklight
July 12th, 2015 10:39am
It is very normal to feel nervous around your girlfriend. In fact part of what makes a crush or falling in love so wonderful is that feeling of butterflies in your stomach. Our bodies react to those we are growing to romantically care for with a burst of hormonal energy. A crush feels much like you are standing on the edge of a steep hill; all at once you feel invigorated yet at the same time fearful that you may fall over the ledge. It's perfectly normal to feel some anxiety around your girlfriend. Usually, knowing that it is normal will help you cope with the manageable levels of anxiety a crush/ budding relationship brings, but if you find the nervousness is interfering with the quality of your everyday life then I would suggest asking a professional counselor to help you adjust. Final thought: Enjoy young love while you can, because although the nervous butterflies can be a bit overwhelming it is a wonderful beautiful thing that lasts only briefly . Love burns brightly before it simmers down to a sense of lasting comfort that lacks the previous excitement of new love but is never the less is worth cultivating. Best Wishes, Starlight
fruitySunshine64
July 12th, 2015 5:21pm
Because you care about her and you do not to do anything wrong that might make her awkward. It could be that you have low self esteem as well. But the best thing to do is be yourself.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2015 9:21pm
I understand your question. Could the reason be that you are nervous because you really like her and you don't wanna "blow" it. Just try to be yourself because she likes you just the way you are so don't be afraid.
Anonymous
July 15th, 2015 12:58am
You may be nervous because you love her and you are afraid of doing something silly and losing her.
silverSound86
July 15th, 2015 2:13am
I am nervous around my girlfriend probably because I don't feel confident of myself around her. It is possible that I am constantly comparing myself to her and in my mind I find it difficult to match up to her abilities or things that she has done. It could also be that she may be dissatisfied with me for whatever reason and is sending out that vibe and probably I am afraid to lose her which makes me nervous. Nervousness could also be due to my innate desire to impress her and keep her engaged all the time. I might be looking at external factors to do that and when I run out of external aids it makes me nervous. Maybe I have not been honest around her. Maybe I am keeping up with pretenses and this makes me nervous because I am probably terrified that she may not love the real me.
seaweedprincess
July 16th, 2015 3:25pm
If you're nervous around somebody it usually means you really like them, it's completely natural to feel uneasy around people you care about because you want to make a good impression, however try not to dwell on it too much because that can worsen your anxiety, after you've known someone for a while you should become more easy around them.
Anonymous
July 17th, 2015 9:33pm
Thoughts and feelings do not come and go as we wish..but sometimes we can help a little :) if you get shy or nervous,taking lots of fresh air and exercise can really calm you down..it works for me :)
Anonymous
July 17th, 2015 10:09pm
Well maybe because you love her and stuff or you are hiding a secret from her or you are just like that
peachpie
July 18th, 2015 12:29pm
I got totally nervous around my boyfriend! The reason was for me, is that he literally gives me butterflies every time I see him; I can barely looking into his eyes with out feeling like my chest had/has gone a flutter. But it'll pass, I promise! Eventually you'll learn this girl is a person too and that you can feel comfortable around her and talk about the wildest things. Wish you the best! :)
Anonymous
July 19th, 2015 5:54pm
I think you could just be worried about your appearance in front of her. What she will think. Thats perfectly okay so long as you stay who you really are and she likes you for you. Not someone you're pretending to be!
Oreo
July 19th, 2015 7:58pm
It may be performance anxiety. Feeling nervous around a person whose opinions and feelings matter strongly to you may be from the fear of disappointing them or hurting their feelings from making a mistake. If it's because you are afraid for your safety, or from receiving verbal or psychological attacks, perhaps it's time to reconsider the relationship.
Softblanket1029
July 22nd, 2015 4:12am
being nervous around your girlfriend is perfectly natural. is your body's way of reacting towards feelings of love were different types of emotions at the time.
VanessaD92
July 22nd, 2015 2:28pm
I used to think that I was nervous around my boyfriend, but then I focused on my emotions. I actually discovered that I was mistaking nervous for excitement because they both have the same physiological response!
Anonymous
July 22nd, 2015 5:00pm
Maybe you feel you need to impress her so it causes you to be nervous around her because you really like her and do not want to mess up around her.
CaringCai
July 22nd, 2015 11:16pm
Relationships can make any one feel nervous. Caring so much about one another is a positive thing! It's good to be nervous sometimes, showing how much you care for one another.
RIPGwenStacy11
July 23rd, 2015 12:21am
Try to establish if you feel good enough for her. Has she done anything to harm you or make your self worth go down? Maybe you just really like her and really appreciate how she sees you.
Anonymous
July 23rd, 2015 4:07am
It's normal to get nervous around the people you care about! You're always focused on making a good impression, just try to remember she's your girlfriend because she likes you - quirks and all!
Anonymous
July 23rd, 2015 12:11pm
I sounds as though you may be feeling insecure. Do you feel as though you are good enough for her? Do you maybe feel as though you are out of her league?
Vexst
July 23rd, 2015 2:00pm
This cannot be answered without a lot more details, you are anxious because you worry that something bad will happen, that is what anxiety is for we evolved the trait so that it could teach us when things have a negative impact, but the human mind does not always make logical evidence based decisions and sometimes is just paranoid.