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Why am I so nervous around my girlfriend?

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Last Updated: 06/05/2022 at 10:59pm
Why am I so nervous around my girlfriend?
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Anonymous
June 25th, 2016 1:12pm
Being nervous around your girlfriend could mean different things: 1. You could be feeling stronger emotions about her than before and worrying if she's not feeling the same way. 2. You could be thinking that your girlfriend doesn't love you the same. 3. You could be drifting apart from her and not realizing it. 4. You could be feeling guilty for something.
Anonymous
March 27th, 2016 6:50pm
That is normal. You are just embarrassed, many people feel that way. Once you get more comfortable dating her, and more comfortable with other people knowing you're dating her, you will feel much better
Anonymous
May 1st, 2016 9:38am
Are you desperate to keep her happy? In a relationship you want to keep each other happy and sometimes this pressure becomes a bit scary and overwhelming, maybe it's even some insecurity about not feeling your equal to her. Let me tell you, whatever you did to end up in this relationship you deserve to be in it and it's okay to relax a little. I'm positive she loves you back! 😀
AlexJames25
April 9th, 2016 9:38am
I'm insanely nervous around my girlfriend too! It's really easy to miscommunicate and feel like you're messing everything up that you do or saying the wrong thing all the time, when in fact you're probably doing pretty well. Having a girlfriend is a big deal and not something that should be taken lightly. If you wasn't nervous around your girlfriend at least sometimes, I'd question that more.
Anonymous
May 29th, 2016 4:12pm
There are many reasons, a couple being you don't trust her; this could be from someone she has done in the past or something someone has done to you causing you to be afraid history will repeat itself and making you anxious about your girlfriend.
zaix
March 25th, 2016 1:06am
Maybe if it's a new relationship, or even just because your shy. Sometimes it takes ten times longer for someone to get comfortable with someone.
Anonymous
August 5th, 2016 9:48pm
It takes time to adjust to a relationship. You could just need get used to the relationship. It's also common to be worried or anxious because you think she doesn't feel the same way. Or are worried about how stable the relationship is.
JustAddBlu
April 8th, 2016 8:16pm
Nervousness stems from anxiety about a certain thing -- most likely an insecurity about something. Whether it's a fear of getting chastised when you speak your mind or losing her "love" for you if you mess up, it's an indication that you might not be very comfortable around her. Try spending more time around her and getting to know her. Make sure to set boundaries and, remember, communicate. I can't tell you enough how important it is to communicate with her on a regular basis.
Anonymous
April 3rd, 2016 11:18pm
You love/like her! Of course you feel nervous around her. You wouldn't want to upset her would you? It's very common to feel nervous around girlfriends/boyfriends. Don't worry! You'll be fine.
kayleebabeee
March 28th, 2018 6:02pm
nervousness may occur if you aren’t sure how you really feel. is it a new relationship? are they your first girlfriend? if so, you may just need to adjust to this new thing in your life and use it to guide you into a better wellbeing.
Hurricane67
June 3rd, 2018 5:36am
It shows that you really care about her and when you care about someone there will be a correlation between love and fear. That fear being the fear of losing her or pushing her away. It helps to imagine that everything is perfect in your relationship and that she lives you for who you are (which she probably does). After that, you can be yourself.
Amber105
April 29th, 2016 1:14pm
It could be that you really like her and possibly love her, and it could be that you are afraid to embarrass yourself or do the wrong thing in front of her.
calmPeace85
May 8th, 2017 3:42am
Let me guess, you're nervous around your girlfriend because you're worried about what she's thinking about you. Be confidant, girls love confidence in a guy. Most of all, be yourself.
Anonymous
April 27th, 2016 10:17pm
You could be feeling like you're going to mess something up with her. Just be yourself and if she doesn't love you for who you are, you know she isn't the right one. Best of luck!
weepingwill0wtree
April 2nd, 2016 9:06pm
It really depends! If it's a new relationship, it's probably because you're still getting to know each other. This can be a nerve-wracking time, and I want you to know that it's normal and okay to be nervous. When a relationship is still fresh, you might be more conscious of your words and actions, wondering how the other person will react to them. This then makes you nervous. When you like someone a lot, you want to impress them, and you want them to like you back. Therefore you might be more nervous around someone you like compared to your friends. Once you become comfortable in the relationship, the nervousness should fade. If you've been in a relationship with your girlfriend and you're still feeling nervous, there might be something else going on. Try to make a list of possible reasons you're nervous around your girlfriend. This might help you figure out why you're feeling this way!
peacefulIris56
May 1st, 2016 4:59pm
You're nervous around your girlfriend because you think that she may judge you. So, you are nervous because the focus is on you and your personal flaws.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2018 11:37pm
Maybe you aren’t comfortable with her yet? It does take a little while to get used to a relationship especially if it’s a new one. Love is a weird thing to expierence and can get uncomfortable for a period of time, it could also be past experiences too for example you might’ve ended up in a judgmental relationship maybe even an abusive one either physically or mentally, there could be heaps of reasons why you feel nervous around your S/O. It’s defi not an abnormal thing, relationships are trust building and loving and will again take a while to get used to.
hopefulParadise73
August 3rd, 2018 3:06pm
Maybe because you lack self confidence. You don't see yourself as good enough for her or simply because you are too shy.
Anonymous
November 11th, 2018 4:40pm
Great question-a lot of times when we are nervous around someone it is because we have thoughts or the belief that that person is some how better than we are. Maybe we think they are better looking, more talented, smarter-in some ways maybe more than one, better than we think of our selves. When that happens we suddenly feel like we have to prove ourselves and impress them. This feeling of nervousness can also be mixed with doing something new and uncertainty. Also, more likely than not if this is a new relationship your girlfriend is probably feeling some nervousness too-I would try saying that you are nervous next time you feel it on a date and see if she opens up too. Hope this helps!
ryanjsmith
November 21st, 2018 8:31pm
Often, especially if the relationship is in it's early stages, you might be worried you'll embarass yourself in front of your girlfriend. This isn't usually a cause for concern and should ease off as you two get closer. Take your time and try to step out of your comfort zone every now and then, for example doing something with her you wouldn't normally to try to get used to being with her, this will help you relax and enable you to become closer until you no longer worry about how you act; you know she loves you and she will love you for who you are.
HereWithYou52
November 25th, 2018 2:43am
There can be a few reason as to why you are nervous around your girlfriend. First of all you could have the fear of being rejected in what you do, for example giving her a simple hug. Next you could feel nervous that you are not good enough for her, which keep in mind she chose you (if that is the reason). However if you are genuinely scared of her, because maybe she is abusive verbally or physically then that is another issue entirely and is not a healthy relationship. However the other two are quite healthy in a relationship when managed in the right way. Just be sure not to let these nerves disturb your relationship.
AlexisFayeWritten
January 3rd, 2019 9:49pm
Sometimes, we are eager to impress those that mean the most to us. For some, this person could be a significant other. Feeling nervous around this person is usually normal. Do you feel the need to impress this person? Do you look up to them? Are you worried about embarrassing yourself around them? These are all healthy things to be nervous about, and will fade with time and practice. However, being nervous around a significant other can be a sign of an abusive relationship, depending on the reason. Are you afraid they are going to hurt you or say something mean? Do you often worry that they will lash out at you for saying the wrong thing? Are you nervous around them because you are afraid that they will make fun of you or embarrass you? If your answer was yes to any of those questions, you may be in an abusive relationship. For help with relationships, visit our guide or research some more on the topic
nlpinspiration
January 23rd, 2019 5:02pm
There may be a lot of reasons about that. First of all you have to check are you good fit with her. If you decide that you are good fit than you check, is this nervousness is always or just in some cases and situations. Share with your girlfriend your thinking and check is it right or it is just your feeling. Usually it can be just the feeling which distort our perception and make feeling so nervous. Conversation is the best solution which helps to increase the awareness about current situation. Only with honest conversation you can the answer what makes you nervous, and make decision what actions will you perform
Anonymous
February 9th, 2019 12:30pm
Well, It sounds like you are nervous around your girlfriend. Are there any reasons that you can think of yourself, to why you may feel this way around her, maybe to do with any past events that may have happened between the both of you? Depending on how long you have both been together, you may feel anxious about how you appear in her eyes, or that you want to be your best self in front of her. Have comfort knowing you are not alone in this aspect, and there are many others experiencing the same thing. It is normal. Have you read the 7 cups of tea guide on relationships?
Compassionatesoulx
June 5th, 2022 10:59pm
Well A possible reason for being nervous around your girlfriend is possibly you are not being 100 percent your true self. When in relationships, sometimes people tend to put their best version of themselves forward. They can try to make it seem as if they do not have flaws. This can make you nervous because it is like you are hiding a part of yourself and you are afraid what their reaction will be when they discover it. Try to be your true self- flaws and all. Remember they are a flawed human too. We all are. Another reason maybe is that maybe it's not even nerves, you're mistaking the feeling and it's actually butterflies and excitement, cheesy but super common.
Anonymous
May 9th, 2019 7:07pm
In my personal experience, relationships can be very stressful for both parties. In the beginning stages of a relationship, the novelty of the relationship, as well as the pressure of being with someone romantically can cause anxiety when with your significant other. Nerves are completely normal in relationships, and can even, in fact, show how much you care and want to impress the person you're with. However, nerves can also show a level of discomfort with the individual, thus hinting at incompatibility or lack of vulnerability. If you have not yet opened yourself fully to your girlfriend, that can severely factor into your comfort level with her, and thus cause anxiety around her.
RaspberryMuse
June 19th, 2019 3:37pm
Maybe you are nervous because you have an expectation of her to like you/love you and that keeps you in state of not wanting to make any "mistake". Although, this question can be looked from other sides, for example if you are new couple it is understandable to feel nervous cause you are just getting to know each other and see each other's boundaries. But on the other side, if you're not a new couple then this nervousness may be a sign of something deeper that is waiting to be questioned, like you are not yourself with her, or you don't feel good enough.
SupportiveSockMonkey
June 29th, 2019 6:28pm
Only you know why you are so nervous, try focusing on the physical and emotional response when you are around here and try and think about the thoughts that come into your mind. This may help you understand why you are so nervous. It's okay to be nervous and maybe speaking to her will help you feel less nervous. You never know she could be just as nervous as you are. If this is your first relationship this is completely natural and will fade with time, even if this is just a new relationship nerves happen to us all.
Anonymous
December 21st, 2019 7:29pm
Many people are nervous because they have underlying feelings about there girlfriends and they are holding back there true self, Also many people are nervous because they are nervous about something else but the subconscious does not want to let it out. One thing to do is think about every important event in your life and you should be able to narrow it down to a couple of things that can make you nervous. A important step is being your self because it will be better in the long run, this is true because if you tell lies and forget then you will have bigger problems.
Anonymous
November 2nd, 2019 6:54pm
Sound like you have challenging time to be around your girlfriend Nervousness feeling cause too much pressure on behavior and emotions how do you feel about it ? It seems you care about her relationship can be hard to deal with sometimes in the beginning and people usually get over it What are the times when you don’t have this feeling ? What are the things make you worried or nervous ? What do you think could help you ease your feeling ? What do you do most of the times when you together ? Have you tried our wellness test and growth exercise