He cheated on his girlfriend with me. Why is he ignoring me?
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Anonymous
May 18th, 2016 11:39pm
He may feel regretful of the situation, or just confused in general. Maybe you should try texting him first!
Anonymous
May 27th, 2016 5:25am
because he is probably feeling guilty for doing such a dishonest act and/or he realized he did a non loyal thing by cheating on his girlfriend with you
Anonymous
May 27th, 2016 11:50am
There are so many reasons he could be ignoring you.
If he isn't making you a priotity, then he is not worth your time and you should move on and ignore him when he contacts you back.
I was with someone during my breakup and went back to my husband, he feels I ignore him. I can only explain from my experience that if he didn't leave and stay gone (and choose you), he will have you as second best on his list, not a priority, if you allow him to.
Maybe he is going through a guilt phase, or maybe this time he is cheating on you with someone else..... All the best and good luck!!
Anonymous
June 30th, 2016 2:23am
It's probably because he realized that cheating on his girlfriend was a mistake. don't take it personally and I think you should find someone who really supports and cherishes you.
He may feel ashamed he made the decisions he made. Or he's trying to figure himself out. Give him time to come around.
Anonymous
August 13th, 2016 9:19am
We all have a code of values. Some we learn intuitively, some come from society or family. When we violate these values it can be difficult to make sense of ourselves leaving us feeling confused and guilty. Which in turn can lead us to turn off from what we have done on an emotional level. Ignoring you is a way of not confronting this inner conflict that he is contending with.
Anonymous
August 24th, 2016 1:28pm
He might love you or he might've regretted cheating but in both ways you shouldn't depend on him because if he cheated on his girlfriend he might also cheat on you
Anonymous
August 27th, 2016 12:32am
Maybe because he has to manage his time with you and his other girlfriend. He doesn't want his other girlfriend know he's cheating on her, right? (:
Anonymous
August 31st, 2016 2:50am
He may feel guilty. Or thinking things over. He shouldn't have cheated on his girlfriend though. Also, maybe he's ending things.
well, he clearly feels guilty about cheating and obviously drop your guys relationship or friendship
cheaters are never trust worthy ive always thought that if he did it once he can always do it again.
Maybe he realized he made a mistake and he wants to stay with his girlfriend, but that isn't fair to her or you, you should confront him about it!
Anonymous
September 24th, 2016 9:17pm
Perhaps he feel guilty and doesn't want to make the situation worse. Or he is choosing to now remain faithful.
He may feel bad for doing that to his girlfriend. If he feels guilty about it, he's probably trying to get away so that he doesnt do it again, or he may not have thought it was a big deal
Anonymous
November 10th, 2016 8:39pm
he probably feels guilty .. and is ignoring you because he cannot seem to look at you properly after what he has done
Personally, I would be suspicious. You have to be wise, he may have cheated on her with you but it is unpredictable as he could have been cheating with multiple people. Showing the willingness to cheat is a warning sign beware that he isn't doing the same to you.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2016 5:25pm
He has regret and guilt and is "hurting" you because he does not want to hurt his girlfriend. That, and he lacks courage.
He may have finally realized how wrong it was to cheat on his girlfriend with you and he wants to do right now.
Anonymous
November 19th, 2017 8:46pm
Maybe he realised that what he did to his girlfriend wasnt okay and now he regrets about it. But you never know, the best thing would be to ask him about it
I Am Just A Listener, Not At Liberty to Give Advice. It's Hard Dealing With Someone Who Is Already In A Relationships, Even If He Only Did It For A Sense Of Comfort
Anonymous
August 21st, 2018 11:05am
Is this the first time he cheated? How long did he cheat on her with you for? The answer depends on the person that he is. Was it a one time thing that he deeply regrets and is to ashamed to talk to you about, or does he make a regular thing of cheating on her and you’ve just become yesterdays news? Is being with a man that cheats on his girlfriend what you want in life?? Was you hoping he would want to be with you and breakup with her? He’s clearly a man whose relationship is in trouble and as much as it hurts, if you were the girlfriend he cheated on would you not appreciate he trying to do what is right and avoid contact with you?
Anonymous
January 10th, 2019 8:31pm
Maybe he knows now that it was a failure and he loves his girlfriend more then he thought he would do.
To love someone is sometimes really hard because the feelings aren't linear. They are ups and downs. To cheat on someone is shitty. But to ignore someone can really hurts. Sometimes people make decision without over thinking that it can hurts other people too. It is really hard and impossible to think for more people than for one. Yeah i sometimes to live the life you deserve is hard but to give someone the worth they deserve is for some people really impossible. I am sorry for you but it would help you the most if you would forget him.
It could be any number of reasons. The most likely would be that he wants to be with his girlfriend. If he has told her then she probably doesn't want him talking to you. If he hasn't told her he may be feeling guilty or trying to keep her from finding out. If he wants to stay with his girlfriend you may never hear from him. If he wants to stay with her and cheat on her, is that someone you would want to be with? Can you trust him? You may be stressed about this and wishing he would be in touch. I understand that feels hard. I would say think of his girlfriend and how you may feel if it was you. We all deserve an honest relationship
He may be ignoring you because he's realised that what he was done is wrong and made the situation worse by bringing you into it. Avoidance of conflict is a natural human response - especially when there are things at stake.
In cases like this, there is little you can do other than give him time to acknowledge the situation and his place in it as well as yours. When he has figured all this out in his own time, he may speak to you again, or he may just move on entirely. No one will really know what he intends to do other than himself, so unfortunately the only thing you can do is wait.
I personally feel that It's not okay to entertain someone who is in an exclusive relationship. That hurts everyone involved. Also, I think cheating happens between two empty people. They don't have any happiness to offer each other. All they can offer is complains and saddness from other partner. These are all my own personal observations. So if he is ignoring you, then he offered his saddness in the relationship you had. He probably may not have anything else to offer you. I feel very bad everytime someone entertains a cheater or escalates things to cheating it hurts family and many times childeren.
Sometimes people feel insecure in themselves due to low self-esteem,
They seek validation in others as it makes them feel good about themselves,
They also want the benefits of a long term girlfriend or partner,
Clearly they are drawn back to that partner and are now scared that this infidelity will be revealed,
Their behaviour in ignoring you is not your fault and you are a valuable person,
It is more a reflection of the man in question,
If you were together he would also cheat on you too,
It is important to value and love yourself and realise you do not need others to define this for you,
You are good enough.
well, from my personal experience, if someone is cheating on someone with you, they may lose connection because of regret. maybe him and his girlfriend broke up, or she figured out she was being cheated on. people usually end up feeling regret when things are ended, you never miss something until you lose it. he may have realized his mistake for cheating on her. he may have found his love for her. i do not agree with cheating, so therefore i would bever let someone get into a relationship with me if they are already in one. you will most likely find someone, don't let him bring you down too much.
I am really sorry to hear about this, you didnt deserve to be cheated or treated like this.
I assume that he may feel embarrased, ashamed, scared to face you or in the worst case scenario, i am afraid to say that that he may have moved on. Please take care of yourself. Dont let someone who hurts you or treats you worthless to have chances to upset you. Maybe, after a while he may message you or respond to you.
If you are comfortable, you can always talk to me or any listener here. We would love to help you feel better.
Because he is a cheater. Well, the problem with a boy who cheats his girlfriend with you it's that he isn't accountable and so he will disappear or ignore you. You are not the problem, he is the problem. You deserve a man who will love you in an exclusive and special way, you don't deserve a man like this because if he doesn't see the importance of being honest with his girlfriend, he won't see the importance of having a long and beautiful relationship with a girl. I don't know exactly why he is ignoring you, but I know that a man like this is not the man for you.
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