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He cheated on his girlfriend with me. Why is he ignoring me?

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Last Updated: 11/21/2021 at 5:35am
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August 18th, 2016 3:42am
Cause he knew what he did was wrong and possibly got caught. It wasn't right for either of you. But it's most likely cause he was using you and left you just like that or got caught.
June 1st, 2016 3:39pm
Because he realizes what has has done and doesn't want to hurt anyone anymore. He's closing himself off so no one gets hurt.
July 14th, 2016 8:45pm
He may feel guilty for what he did to her. Every interaction with you may remind him of that infidelity.
July 16th, 2016 12:33pm
It's quite possible that he regrets his behavior, and looking back on it he'd rather have avoided this. Perhaps he doesn't want to hurt you by using you any longer, or promised he wouldn't get too close to you any more to his girlfriend.
August 5th, 2016 1:53am
Whenever you're cheated upon there is a very set standard of things that should be done if the relationship is to continue. The first thing that agreed upon is to end contact with the person they have been cheating on. If he doesn't contact you in the future perhaps you should assume that was his decision.
September 22nd, 2016 5:17pm
He is just confused and needs time deciding what he truly wants. another reason could be his gf found out
May 15th, 2016 3:07pm
Maybe he feels guilty or doesn't want to continue with you which is why he is ignoring you. He doesn't want his girlfriend finding out and he think continuing this would become difficult
July 22nd, 2016 11:48pm
He may be feeling shame and regret for breaking his girlfriend's trust and may believe that talking to you further would make things worse.
November 7th, 2016 4:28pm
You shouldn't have been with him if you knew he was cheating on someone else with you, that's a lesson you should learn from this experience. He wasn't trust worthy with his girlfriend and he shouldn't be with you. Much love!x
August 24th, 2018 9:50am
He was committed when he met you, you could've asked him to leave her for you but he wanted you as an other option he had, don't be someone's choice if he actually love you he will break up with her and come to you, but as you said he is ignoring is because he justed wanted to use you, you should hate him for what he did to you, even his girlfriend isn't that lucky to have someone unfaithful, so be happy you got off from being in that position, find someone who truly loves you as who you are and cares about your feelings trust me there is some guy waiting for you to notice him, who loves you no matter what and will never leave you, the one with whom your life is meant to be.
July 21st, 2016 5:12am
He probably feels guilty about cheating on his girlfriend. Talking with you could emphasize his guilt for what he did.
August 12th, 2016 5:40am
Maybe he found another girl because if he will cheat on one girl for you then he will repeat the process.
August 19th, 2016 10:04pm
I'm really sorry about that and I think it's because he's trying to make it right with his girlfriend
September 17th, 2016 11:32pm
Oh I've been through that! From my experience, I think he is ignoring you because he feels guilty, even though he wanted to do that. He probably feels bad because he broke his girlfriend's trust. If you put yourself in his shoes, you'll probably have many negative thoughts and you'll think little of yourself. It feels unethical. You're hurting someone you care about but yet you want it. After cheating, you're terrified of the consequences. That is my opinion about why he is ignoring you.
September 23rd, 2016 9:21pm
His girlfriend may have gotten angry and asked for him to not associate with you again. It may not be that he doesn't like you as a person, but that he owes it to his girlfriend to stay loyal again.
February 11th, 2017 7:14am
He could be trying to save his relationship. Unfortunately, cheating with somebody doesn't necessarily mean its because of love or other feelings, it could just be a physical desire or an angry reaction.
July 6th, 2018 7:48pm
Perhaps it is because he feels guilty about his choices. His infidelity may have made him realize that he cares about his girlfriend and wants to continue that relationship. Interacting with you reminds him that he made a mistake that violated the trust they should have.
June 3rd, 2016 11:54pm
He is more then likey ashamed of him self or somthing about himself and dose'nt want to talk to you because he feels so bad about it
July 17th, 2016 5:39pm
Maybe he just needed to try something new and now he is blaming him for cheating on someone, he is not comfortable with it.
July 28th, 2016 2:13am
She cheated on her boyfriend with me. Why is she ignoring me? Something drew her to me. Was it my charm or his under-appreciation? I made her feel special, I made her feel something... We connected on more than one level. Why is she ignoring me? It's most likely guilt. Or was I just waters for her to test. Either way I don't regret it, I hope she feels the same.
August 3rd, 2016 11:49pm
Because you were obviously his bit on the side now he realises he wants his girlfriend back, this is not a tricky answer to answer
August 20th, 2016 1:57am
Chances are, he was using the time he spent with you as an outlet for stress. His ignoring of you you would show that he is dealing with his problems by himself. If you didn't know about the cheating, then he most likely expects that you know about it now, and doesn't want to deal with another girl questioning him about it. If you did know about the cheating, he is most likely blaming you for his girlfriend finding out.
September 3rd, 2016 9:41am
Because he may feel disgusted of what he has done, it is a normal reaction, he may ask to leave you to get her back or just forget about her and be with time, be patient, you will figure out after a while.
November 12th, 2016 8:37pm
Only he can answer this question for sure. However, commonly, this is because some part of him must reflect on the events that occurred and feel remorse for one reason or another. The best you can do for yourself is to try not to let it take a toll on your self esteem, and to try to move on from it. People make mistakes, and sometimes those mistakes hurt others. The best we can do when we're caught in the middle is to walk away and pull away insight and optimism from our experiences.
August 18th, 2017 5:18pm
mmm lets start off with this is a tough situation to be in. He might be feeling guilty, remorseful or he might not know what he wants or how to really approach the situation with you anymore. I would say give it space and time. Maybe take the space as a chance to work out what you really want from that situation? ask yourself if you really want to be with someone that has cheated on his girlfriend with you? and see how you feel about the situation.maybe speak with a trusted friend or a therapist too they might give you an objective view. and at least you know they will have your best interests at heart. Then if he does reach out to you talk about what you feel and think and also it is ok to ask him why he was ignoring you. and Also to let him know what your expectations are and what you want or don't want.
January 11th, 2018 10:34am
He is most likely ignoring you because he is feeling guilt and you are a reminder of something he did to upset his relationship, so by ignoring you, he ignores the problem. In my opinion, I would remove myself from the situation by not attempting to engage with him, or even expect anything from him such as an explanation or an apology, as you will most likely be met with disappointment. Often a situation like this can make one feel devalued and undermined however this is not a reflection of your worth, but rather a poor response to his guilt
April 18th, 2020 8:10am
So now it comes your turn to get cheated by him. You were his partner in crime. You were the reason of someone's tears. I don't know why you involved with him in cheating that girl. What you got by helping a guy to cheat with a person? There is something called karma which is now following you. What you have done with that girl now another girl may be helping that guy cheat on you. He used you as a bait. He just used you for some purpose and as the purpose is over now he will stay away from you. You better ready to cry now.
May 21st, 2016 4:36pm
Maybe because he got someone NEW. or maybe he is went back to his girlfriend. There is also a possibility that he is busy with something important.
May 26th, 2016 11:35am
cause he know he make a mistake and doesnt whan t to repeat the same mistake so i suggest you to talk with him does he want to be with you or her
June 3rd, 2016 4:28pm
Maybe because he understood that cheating isn't a a great thing to do? He might still care about his girlfriend and he doesn't want to hurt her feelings because of infidelity.