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How do I know if I'm in a toxic relationship?

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Last Updated: 09/20/2020 at 9:56pm
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Top Rated Answers
Jojoanna
August 26th, 2016 6:53am
Because it makes you feel bad, you don't feel comfortable to do anything or say anything, it makes you feel sick
Lovelypink
August 26th, 2016 11:08pm
When you cannot be yoursef! And you are trying to make him/her happy 😑 Little by little you start changing yourself
WaltDisney
September 1st, 2016 3:40pm
You can tell if the decisions you want to make are being defiantly over ruled and you feel like your opinion, or indeed yourself doesn't matter when you are around them x
bubblesandhappiness110
September 2nd, 2016 11:39am
Toxic relationships, to me, mean you lose so much of your own essence -what makes you, you!- to suit your partner's needs. Toxic relationships are very difficult to spot to those on the inside, because only outsiders know how much you've changed since you've gotten into this relationship. In most cases, the couple in the toxic relationship loses contact with everyone on the outside gradually, that they have nobody else to run to, or anyone whose opinion they can trust. They trap themselves in a bubble, and the fall is pretty hard when that's broken. You must realise, that being in a relationship does not mean you have to change. There exists a fine line between compromise and sacrifice, and that has to be understood. Most importantly, make sure to keep your friends and family close to you - they're the only ones who'll be around to help you, when you most need a shoulder to cry on.
shilpa
September 3rd, 2016 5:42am
Here are some questions to help you assess if a relationship is good for you or not. Do you feel drained after spending time with this person? Do you feel bad about yourself after spending time with this person? Does this person cause messes and drama around them and in your life? Do you feel like this person does not believe in you? Do you find it hard to say “no” to this person when you know you should? Do you feel like you cannot relax or be yourself around this person?
sereneDreamer45
September 3rd, 2016 8:32am
The fact that you've asked this question is a warning sign. If the person is doing anything other than making you feel loved and happy, they do not deserve you.
Anonymous
September 4th, 2016 6:41am
When you don't feel loves or appreciated and you give more and receive less in the long run love is never binding or jealous
thoughtfulPomegranate86
September 7th, 2016 3:28am
Ask yourself what percentage of the time you are happy and unhappy in your relationship, if you are unhappy more often then happy, it sounds like a toxic relationship
alexsws
September 7th, 2016 4:21am
You know you're in a toxic relationship when instead of being comfortable around the person, you fear them and they make you uneasy. If they say anything to put you down or do anything that you don't approve off. If they hit you or touch you without consent
CharlieMorningstar
September 7th, 2016 6:48pm
If you feel worse after interacting with your partner, if you don't look forward to interacting with your partner, if your friends notice your mood declining when you do interact with your partner, you're likely in a toxic relationship.
chatterbug
September 8th, 2016 8:32am
If your gut feeling is telling you, or people around you are warning you it is quite likely it is. Always trust your gut feeling.
LoveAll425
September 9th, 2016 7:54am
Well the relationship could be toxic by felling unwanted,unloved, lots of arguing and if you have to walk on eggshells around the person. , and if you feel like you cant be trusted. there are many of signs but those are just a few of them.
BintNajem
September 9th, 2016 8:27am
Once the person begins to abuse me in any form and gets insensitive to my emotions and feeling. And I no longer can bear his/her presence.
ColdWinterNights
September 9th, 2016 9:05am
Relationships can be toxic in numerous ways. It can be anything from physical abuse, to emotional and mental abuse. If your partner is putting you down, not making you feel special, invalidating your feelings, deciding things for you without consulting you, setting unfair rules or guidelines, refusing you things like being with friends, or being rude when they don't get their way; you might be in a toxic relationship.
heythereyousmiles
September 14th, 2016 2:10am
You will know youre in a toxic relationship when there are more negatives than positives aka when the bad out weighs the good. If you argue a lot and youre the only one to apoligize then that is a sign that its toxic
t1journeyon
September 14th, 2016 11:42am
In my experience, the biggest indication is your own intuition. Something will tell you something is wrong. Feedback from trusted friends and family can help, too.
Anonymous
September 24th, 2016 12:56am
You can visualise signs. You're partner will protect you if he loves you. And he won't name call you
Godlovesus
September 24th, 2016 9:22am
if there is no respect, if you are the one who is only working hard to save the relation and the other person seems indifferent to you and your efforts then its time to move on.
ManaBearOf2
October 5th, 2016 2:34am
Analyze the behaviors see if they are controlling you or overly protective on certain things that may cause you to be embarrassed or hide things from friends or family. With many toxic relationships you cannot tell if you are in one but you will see others.
Pourrir
October 7th, 2016 3:03am
If it does harm or hurt you in any ways, and makes you think often "why I'm enduring this", will be a big sign that your relationship might be toxic..
Game0ver
October 12th, 2016 4:02am
When your partner makes you feel bad for being you, or makes you feel guilty for feeling certain ways or wanting certain things. If you are constantly fighting, being belittled, lied to, ignored, or manipulated, the relationship has become toxic.
KindBean2002
October 12th, 2016 5:11pm
If you can't say no, because you're scared. If they are overprotective and prevent you from doing something. If they physically or mentally hurt you
wishfulDreamer58
October 14th, 2016 9:49am
Because the relationship makes you unhappy, or scared. Or causes you unnecessary stress or leads to you feeling out of control in some way. In a healthy relationship you trust that the other person has your best interests at heart, they encourage you to do what makes you happy, help to celebrate your achievements and enjoy making you happy. You feel the same way about them as well.
WildUnknown
October 26th, 2016 12:16pm
Read about other people's experiences on the issue. Or, take a step back and look at yourself and your relationship from the outside. Do you always feel unhappy, insecure, or not enough? Are you frequently on edge and expecting the worst? Are you always working harder than your partner to make the relationship work? Do they make it feel like failures in the relationship or life in general are your fault? Then it's time to take a look at some of those other stories, or talk to someone who knows about it and evaluate.
Glitterybaby
November 4th, 2016 4:24pm
one of the important things being in a relationship is you must be comfortable around each other! so if you feel uneasy, queasy around your partner then there must be something wrong, And I think being yourself is really important while in a relationship, so if you're forced to be someone else just to meet your partner's expectation then you're gonna have to rethink about it. And lots of guilt trips, That could be one of the major warning in a relationship. I hope this helps!
ConfiscatedHeartss
November 10th, 2016 12:43am
I believe that if you are in a toxic relationship you will know. You will feel it deep within yourself, you may know that it isnt healthy, but often you will keep coming back. It may be that it is an abusive (physically or mentally) or you just arent good for each other. There are signs, such as you (or your partner) are controlling, abusive, alcoholic or perhaps its something as simple as wrong place right time.
Anonymous
November 11th, 2016 9:09am
If you are always stressed, gaining or losing weight fast, waking up stressed always angry, always having massive fights with your partner then you are in a toxic relationship
Anonymous
December 9th, 2016 1:15am
If it does not make you happy but the opposite . or makes you more stressed and anxious than when you were alone
considerateMoon96
December 25th, 2016 10:29pm
I believe the biggest sign of being in a toxic relationship is when you feel like you have lost your voice, your individuality and you feel extremely suffocated all the time. The other signs would include isolation from family and friends, being spied on, being controlled compulsively, having to lie to prevent your partner from having an outburst, having a constant need to please your partner, getting belittled by your partner, getting subject to physical harm and emotional manipulation- such as blackmailing.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2017 1:38am
If your relationship makes you feel like you are worth any less or need to change yourself in any way, it is toxic. If you feel trapped or constrained at all, or that it is a chore, you shouldn't be in that relationship. A previous boyfriend of mine belittled me for my taste in music and quirks, and wanted me to be "more normal" and pay attention to him. Though these things may seem small at the time, you should be appreciated, not "fixed."