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How do I know if my ex is thinking about me?

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Last Updated: 03/16/2022 at 11:24pm
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July 16th, 2016 7:28pm
How do you know if anyone is thinking about you, even your ex? The answer is simple. If you think of someone long enough, you get a desire to talk to them. Just wait long enough and they will let you know and reach out to you. If you haven't had contact for a long time, and suddenly they text you out of the blue, or send you a letter or anything which involves contact from their part - it means they've thought about you and is still hoping for something. (This could mean different things in different relationships) Some men and women need time to adjust and process things at a slower pace, so if you had a rough break up but there's still feelings involved, they might take their time to contact you again. But still might harbor feelings for you. Another more indirect way of knowing if they are thinking about you is through your intuition. If you have developed your intuition you'll know what I am talking about. You can have a train of thought, and their face or name can pop up out of the blue, even if you weren't even close to thinking about them. That's a clear sign they are thinking of you in that moment. If you're still unsure, ask yourself; Why did I think of him just now? You'll be surprised by the answer.
June 12th, 2016 11:41pm
In my experience- you never want to know this. Exes have been placed in our life for exactly that reason: to be exes. Every time I've reached back out to them, I've been burned. But now I've learned to look forward, not behind me.
July 12th, 2016 12:35am
It's better off not knowing. If they were at all worth any of your time to be thought about by you, they wouldn't have put themselves in a position to lose you in the first place. focus on the future and give yourself an opportunity to be with someone who actually deserves you, cause living in the past is difficult and dangerous territory
September 21st, 2016 8:02pm
Having recently experienced a traumatic break-up myself, I often wonder if he still thinks about me. It makes me miss him and wonder what is going on in his life. Then I remember why he is my ex, he brought out the worst in me. I re-direct my focus to how I'm doing in life. What my goals are and what steps I need to take to achieve them. Does my ex still think about me? Probably...does it really matter anymore though? Not really. I matter and I deserve better. I wish him well but have chosen to focus on being my best self.
June 14th, 2016 12:29pm
If your ex is thinking about you , you will sneeze a lot during the day! I'm joking :) If your ex is thinking about you ,there is not way of knowing without asking.
September 4th, 2016 5:03pm
If they try to contact you and ask how you are doing. If they send emails, text messages, or letters to you.
October 16th, 2016 4:32pm
This would mostly depend on the cirumstances surrounding your break up and how long you have been apart.
October 19th, 2016 12:16pm
A break up is hard to bear, but moving on is worse, especially if you’re still in love with your ex. Want to know the answer to the big question, ‘is my ex thinking about me?’ Break ups are painful, and as much as it hurts, break ups also bring with it the hope of getting an ex back or meeting someone new to fill the void. I’ve broken hearts a few times, and have had my heart broken several times too. And even though I’ve known that love can cause as much pain as it can give happiness, I’ve helplessly slipped into the puddle of love far too many times to count. One of the questions that haunt anyone the most after a break up, especially when you’ve lost contact with your ex, is whether your ex is still in love with you. It’s painful to think about it, but it’s also sadistically reassuring to know that you’re not the only one hurting inside. We’re humans, and we’re sadists. It feels good to know your ex still hurts and suffers, and thinks about you just as much as you’re thinking about them.
July 10th, 2016 2:48pm
It's best not to know. They're an ex for a reason! Cut contact with them and learn to live by yourself again! You'll find someone else with time.
June 12th, 2016 5:08pm
When your ex talks about their future with you in it, then this is a sign that they have been thinking about reconciliation. After a breakup, exes always talk about what went wrong try to blame each other for relationship failure. You can understand the difference between someone genuinely wanting to figure out what went wrong so they can improve their future relationships and someone who just wants to blame their ex just to make themselves feel better. If your ex is trying to improve themselves in the areas that could have been responsible for the breakup, then it’s a good sign that they want to get back together. If your ex has been actively trying to hide their dating life from you, then this might be sign that they want to get back together. Unless reconciliation is on their mind, they wouldn’t care about you finding out their dating life. When your ex starts talking about the good times you had, then it can be a sign that they are thinking about getting back together. It certainly means that they miss you and the fun you had during the relationship.
April 1st, 2017 6:35pm
You can't know if your ex is thinking about you. There's no telepathic link, as much as we sometimes wish there is. We just need to accept when things are over, and try our hardest to move on, while sending positive thoughts their way.
June 23rd, 2016 8:24pm
The important thing to remember is how you feel and to understand why your still thinking about him.
July 2nd, 2016 7:42pm
What's in past is in past. Maybe it would be better for you to focus on your future. Maybe love is waiting for you over the corner.
June 16th, 2016 2:07pm
You could ask them! It never hurts to ask, right? And you won't know unless you try. Honestly, I think it's better to ask, with the possibility of the answer being no, than never ask when the answer may have been yes. :)
July 11th, 2016 7:20pm
Why does it matter if your ex is thinking of you? Why not focus that energy on being the best "you" you can be for the next person?
December 12th, 2017 2:19pm
My bf dumped me for three says it hurt me badly we were dating for nine momths i been hurt before by guys but his was different im back woth him he told me why he left me but im scared get hurt my heart hurts i shake and then when im woth him i feel that litlte but my heart beats he says he loves me but ik i do more
July 28th, 2016 5:00pm
There's different ways of knowing. They can call, text, reach out over social media or even come over.
July 29th, 2016 10:21am
To be honest, it's a moot question. I hope my ex is happy and doing well in life. Some people are friends with their ex after a breakup, other move on to different paths. Both are fine, as long as you're both happy. I moved to a different path, and wish her all the very best. If she thinks about me from time to time, I hope it's only happy memories; though either way, it shouldn't be something to keep me up at night.
July 30th, 2016 12:01pm
Your ex might be asking about you through your common friends. If they are, you are going to find out sooner or later. Information like this spreads like wildfire amongst a group of friends.
August 10th, 2016 2:52pm
you need to move on. And entertaining yourself and moving on will be the best. If they are thinking about you. Let them.
November 6th, 2016 3:21pm
You can't know. It's better if you just wait and see if he comes and talks to you. You'll know then.
June 23rd, 2016 7:58pm
Talk to him/her and ask him/her if they are thinking about you and if so say hey can we get back together
June 22nd, 2016 1:39am
You won't know, and you probably shouldn't engage of the emotion of worrying to know if your ex is thinking about you. Be positive and try to keep moving on.
August 3rd, 2016 4:56am
People generally break up for a reason. If that reason is still there, the only thing to do is to move on. If someone wants you back they will do something about it.
August 14th, 2016 2:47pm
Usually there will be signals, maybe he/she can be texting you a lot, things like that are usually a good indicator. If they seem concerned about you to some extent, and so on.
July 1st, 2016 1:11pm
Don't try to know that. He/she may or may not be thinking about you. Distract yourself and try to stop thinking about your ex.
July 8th, 2016 2:46am
The only way you would know is if you ask your ex directly. You want an answer then you need to seek to the source.
September 1st, 2016 3:29am
When my ex thought of me he used to message me or calls. Or like and comment on my posts online....
September 29th, 2016 12:38am
Because you allow your ex the time and space to miss you, you know this person is more that likely thinking about you. This shouldnt be something you put high on your priority list. Instead you should focus on self improvement and making yourself the best you can be.
June 29th, 2018 6:05pm
You don´t know that and you should not be thinking that. Moving on is what you should be focusing on.