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How do I know if my ex is thinking about me?

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Last Updated: 06/15/2022 at 3:43pm
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HugsNPugs3
April 26th, 2018 9:06pm
You don't need to think about your ex anymore. The past is past you have to let it go you can't continue on thinking about the past anymore you have to live the present moment and forget about it.
BerkserkDog505
May 17th, 2018 11:19pm
they constantly message you or they act they same way they did when they first flirted with you :) it's obvi then.
SupportiveSockMonkey
May 20th, 2018 4:41pm
There is no way to know this, even if they tell you because they may lie for a wide range of reasons. It would be better to try and not think about this as it can cause a lot of distress.
Listenerjulie
June 1st, 2018 6:51am
That’s easy. If he checks your social media, likes your photo and texts you back. Also if he gets jealous. Sometime they might not show it though.
Anonymous
July 6th, 2018 6:19pm
Many times we can overthink and then it can upset us. We may think that something someone does is meant a certain way but it really wasn’t. You can never know 100% if your ex is thinking about you unless they admit it to you. However just think about what type of person they were when they were with you. Would this person think about you? Why did your relationship end? Sometimes reflecting on the type of person they were when they were with you can give you an idea of whether this person would take time out of their day to think about you.
ALAL2019
July 16th, 2018 5:52pm
Never think about it. Or even dream about it. You must move on in your life. You have things bigger to think about it. Not your ex
NotSoSuspiciousSock
July 19th, 2018 8:50am
Your ex can and will think of you sometimes. But not always in a good way. They might miss you, they might think of you when thinking about all of their exes, they might think of you when they go to a place where you were. Those are random thoughts that pop up to everyone. Now that you know this, ask yourself why are you thinking about them. Is that good?
resourcefulFreedom38
July 25th, 2018 3:22am
The best way is if he contacts you. Another is if someone tells you he was talking or asking about you.
Anonymous
June 21st, 2019 2:58am
If you both really loved each other and if you still have trust in your ex then surely your ex is missing you. No matter how your relation was good or bad you always think of your ex because if it was good u have memories and if it was bad still you been remembered by your partner. so just relaxed be clam and focus on your life. past is just going to give you trouble . If she is really meant for you the she will be back to you no matter what happens. Enjoy your life focus on your career.
ABeautifulMind1
November 24th, 2019 3:19am
You can't :) Well, I would suggest you shouldn't. If you are really over him/her, you should start the healing process. Thinking about whether your ex is thinking about you or not will be an endless process and won't result in a yes or no answer because you cannot read their mind. It will never help you move on because you will keep obsessing over it. So rather than putting yourself through this, you maybe want to distract yourself with some new hobbies or friends so that you don't keep thinking about your ex and lose your sanity and sleep over it :)
peacefulSunrise5464
November 28th, 2019 9:48pm
This isn’t the right question to ask yourself. Why do you care? Why do you need to know? Most of the times, there’s a good reason why you’re not together anymore. You don’t need to beat yourself over it, but you need to accept and move on. If you wonder what the other thinks about you, you are not moving forward. You can never truly know what anyone thinks or feels about you, so there’s no point in wondering about it. Trust your feelings about this person and believe in yourself, that’s the most that you can do, push comes to shove.
Anonymous
April 8th, 2020 5:12pm
You never really will. As unfortunate as it is, life isn't like a story where every plot and narrative has a climax or wraps up into a conclusive ending. There's many things we'll never know in our lives, from understanding how things work, to how people act and think about us, to where we're going or what'll happen to us. That's might seem pretty scary, not really knowing or controlling a lot, but the one thing that we can know and control is ourselves, whether it's how you react, treat others and yourself, what you think about people and ourselves. We will never have most of the answers in life and have a lot of control, but that's okay because you can know and control yourself in situations.
warmLight4483
September 27th, 2020 10:31pm
The truth is, we don't know. We don't know when anyone is thinking about us but we inquire about it. If you feel that your ex loved you and the breakup was a strain, chances are that person thinks about you. Anyone you have in your life will think about you. You shouldn't let the thought of your ex think about you prevent you from moving forward. If that person really and truly loved you, they will appear in your life in due time. If you think you ex is thinking about you, you are probably thinking about them too, and that is okay. Don't let your mind prevent you from moving on, that person will come back if it is what is right for them and you.
Anonymous
June 12th, 2016 9:06pm
He will try to get in contact with you or somehow strike a conversation with you. Or you'll be hearing his friends talking about you (don't depend on this too much though).
Supergirl94
June 16th, 2016 8:36am
The honest answer is you don't. :) But you may be able to know if he talks to his friends about you, if he mentions you a lot, the way he acts around you although be careful not to over analyze how he acts around you. He could really be acting in a way that means he is thinking about you or he could just be being himself and you feel he is thinking about you.
lonestar87
July 11th, 2016 5:00pm
If theu are thinking of you they will most likely contact you or turn up to places you usually go in order to get your attention
Anonymous
September 10th, 2016 11:57pm
You could ask her face to face if she still thinks about you or you could try to ask one of her friends. Most people tell their deepest secrets to best friends.
Anonymous
November 10th, 2016 3:31pm
You don't know for sure. But maybe if he's reaching out to you every now and then, that's a surefire way to tell. But whether he is thinking about you with love, you would have to ask him yourself.
II7Luna7II
July 28th, 2017 4:43pm
I don't think that there is a way to know for sure if and how much your ex is thinking about you. You could invest a lot of time in "researching", asking his/her friends if he/she talks about you, you can try to catch your ex looking at you or spending time near you at school or at work, mayve visiting places that you used to go to together or where he/she knows you spend a lot of time. But I would say that investing all that time isn't worth it. That way, you'll never get over your ex and your efforts to spy on him/her probably won't go unnoticed and that could be embarrassing. So my advice is to either approach your ex and say that you want to get back together if that's your reason behind your question or try to get over him/her by avoiding any contact :)
Anonymous
November 17th, 2017 1:11pm
you cant,, the only way you can know is if you talk to them. And ofcourse you need to think about i they are worth it.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2017 12:25am
Maybe try talking to them about it, and see how they feel towards you. If you love your ex, then tell them, if not, just confront them if you want to know how THEY personally feel!:)
Antimony
January 3rd, 2018 10:39am
if they initiate conversations with you or generally still sticks to you then she is, but you can also ask her/his friends
Anonymous
April 4th, 2018 8:45pm
ask your ex, and if your not allowed to see then, that's not possible, unless they post somthing online about you
Liouma
May 10th, 2018 3:56am
Mainly by social media stalking, talking to their friends about the relationship, posting in their profile a song you used to hear together, keep trying to stay in touch in any sort of way
TheCup5893
May 16th, 2018 12:17am
Waiting, I suppose. If your ex returns, they were probably thinking of you. Or else, they've moved on, even though some things remind them of you. But more than their thoughts, what really counts is their interest in staying in touch with you. I hope that helps you with whatever you decide - waiting or moving on. :)
Anonymous
May 23rd, 2018 1:35pm
talk to them. there is always a stigma on what to do or how to act around and ex but remeber they are people lust like me and you they may pretend like they dont have feelings but truth is everyone does and there is nothing wrong in keeping a relationship with an ex and just ask. if you dont ask how will you ?
breathexcry
June 2nd, 2018 7:11am
Well, to know if he is, you can talk to him. If he talks back to you, he's probably at least thought about you.
Anonymous
June 23rd, 2018 11:32pm
You can't exactly know when or if someone is thinking about you sadly . so I can't really answer that question
LeiaVallerie
July 8th, 2018 9:37am
Because they are 'thinking' about you, it's virtually impossible to know. But, they may have told their friends about their thoughts. If you have mutual friends, that friend may slip what your ex said out if you are sneaky with your questions.
Anonymous
July 8th, 2018 10:39am
if they are texting you a lot, and looking at you, they are thinking about you. maybe you need to consider talking to them about it.