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Everytime you miss him, think about the reason due to which he is an ex now. You can't stop missing your ex in a night, it's a gradual process. Give yourself some time. This will pass away too.
If you want to stop missing your ex I would recommend getting rid of things that make you think of them first because as soon as those things are gone you'll start thinking of them less and less as time goes on.
When you find yourself thinking about your ex, find some other activity to distract your brain. Anything that requires focus is good. For example, exercise is a good activity
Erasing any things that remind you of them such as photos or items can ultimately help you stop thinking of them. It provides you with a new beginning. Perhaps getting a new haircut, or changing up your wardrobe can help as well.
You cant make yourself to stop missing someone. We all like to do it, but it just happens with time and self love, in the meantime you can concenrate in you, thigs you like to do, your family, friends, school or work, meet new people... time wil heal you, but you can have fun too
Don't sit at home, stalking him that what he's doing. Make new friends and go out more. Groom yourself, and find a new loyal and mature person who can deal you better than your ex
Anonymous
April 18th, 2018 3:02pm
Know that your ex is definitely NOT the only fish in the sea. Realize that though your ex may have made you happy, your ex is not essential to your happiness.
Indulge yourself in some kind of physical activity like go to the gym or start a sport to keep yourself busy. This way you wont have much time to think about them. Next you can also delete their pics so that you dont flashbacks of your relationship whenever you go through your gallery. Also, stop listening to the songs associated with them.
Meeting other people really helped me move on from my ex. I realised that the more I focused on my ex, I was experiencing tunnel vision. That didn't let me see all the other amazing people around me. Liberate yourself, mate. It'll get better, I promise. :)
Try to distract yourself from things that remind you of him/her. Do things that you love doing with yourself, your friends or your family. If you are having a rough time and nothing is working, try writing how you feel. Once you feel better, look back and think of things you want to tell your past self. Remember these when you begin going through another rough time.
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2018 7:42pm
First step you need to accept that the relationship over. Don't avoid the person seeing them wont make things harder but you will get used to the fact that you are no longer together.
there is a reason why you and your ex broke up. maybe for better or worse, but you need to accept that it's over. acceptance of reality helps to relieve ourselves of the hidden burden that we often carry.you can also try various ways such as engage in your hobbies, meditate and also stop checking what your ex has been upto. focus on yourself, repeat to yourself positive statements, make yourself a priority and you will see the change.
move on and try to talk to new people. it may be hard but you lived without them before and you still can
Anonymous
May 6th, 2018 1:42am
I’d say you have to realize you broke up for a reason. You weren’t right for eachother and that’s 100% ok. You will find someone so much better for you. You just need to step back and remember why you broke up and realize why you weren’t right for eachother. And, when your ready, you can get back out there and try again.
Try to get yourself involved in extra curricular activities such as sports or even arts and crafts and get your mind of it. Even put yourself out there at a bar and start chatting to people :)
Anonymous
May 12th, 2018 7:36am
There are many things to help to get over an ex. Try going out with a close friend group and having fun. Listen to music. Read your favourite book. Do something fun and right for you!
Anonymous
May 25th, 2018 7:03pm
Hey. I understand it must be difficult for you to do that but you can start doing all the things which you haven’t been doing since you were in relationship. Hang out with your friends, pursue your hobby, go for parties and spend more time with your family. Keep yourself busy and eventually you will realise that you have stopped missing your ex as there is no room in your life for someone who is not in your life anymore
Keeping busy by taking a class or communicating more with friends. Practice focusing on something else when you begin to think about them, such as, saying to yourself "thank you for sharing" and focusing on something else.
Understand that whatever you two had together, was simply not meant to be. It may be hard to believe, but there is someone out there that will make you happy beyond belief, and it wont end in heartbreak.
Get rid of any contact with him, do things that you enjoy doing like hanging with friends. Do your very best to try and forget him and eventually with time you will.
Cut them out of your life as much as . Delete pictures, texts, contacts. Treat yourself with love. Distract yourself, spend time with people that love you, get back out there and focus on yourself.
You don't. You can't make yourself stop missing a person, you just have to make yourself move on. It's all a matter of distracting yourself.
Anonymous
June 13th, 2018 7:44am
there is no reason to stop missing your ex so soon. and if you do want to stop missing your ex then the likely of it would be to avoid things that remind you of your ex or simply do a activity that you know will get your mind off of your Ex. take time to admit those feelings that you miss him and soon enough you'll know that your Ex is not as much missed since you moved on.
There are lots of ways in which you can stop missing an ex. Firstly it is about working upon yourself being comfortable in your own skin and enjoying time on your own and giving yourself goals to work towards. Also social media. To some extent seeing photos or reminders of a person you are missing does not help with the progression to being okay and being able to stop missing them. Everyone handles things differently but self care is the first step and maintaining your dignity when doing so. Time heals everything.
Do something that you like to do. Your hobby. If that is not helping, talk to your bestfriends or family.
Delete everything that reminds you of them, pictures, messages, videos and even their number.. Realise that they have moved on and that you need to move on as well. And remember, plenty of Fish in the Sea.
Breakups are really hard. However, the simple answer is time. After time it willd be good. Also, get out and try new things! Start going to the gym or something, anything to distract your mind will be great.
You start valuing yourself more, you value what you have, and you are focusing on your social life even more. A healthy self-generated fake narcism might help aswell, until you feel entirely free.
Start focusing on other things. Get out meet new people. Start new things. Do not jump in to another relationship. Focus on you. Do things you always wanted to do. Don't go places you two hung out together.
Anonymous
July 18th, 2018 11:05am
Occupy yourself with things that make you happy, for example hang out with your friends, play your favorite sport, read a book or watch a good movie. You can even take this opportunity to try new things.
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