My boyfriend or girlfriend cheated on me, should we break up?
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Yes, you should.If they did it once, they would do it again.A relationship is based on mutual respect above all else and if they have cheated on you it means they don't respect you enough.
Anonymous
January 8th, 2016 8:00pm
Depends on your situation. If you are willing to work with them and still love them, there is no reason to break up, but maybe a break is needed.
This always depends on the type of your relationship and your personal feelings. I think there is no defnitly answer to this question. But you should defnitly speak with your partner about the incident.
I believe you should. Absolutely no one is worth being disrespected and deserves to feel that way. There is always someone who will treat you better!
a relationship is a bond or a link made with trust once its broken you have lost the relationship theirs no meaning of braking up after that
Anonymous
January 9th, 2016 10:58am
I think you need to double check, maybe triple check, that that's what exactly happened. After that, talk it through and decide what is best for you
There is no general rule, because it depends on so many things. Every situation is unique, every relationship is unique, every love is unique. So There is no should. It is a betrayal of your confidence, yes, but the why's, the how"s, and everything else matters immensely. So talk about it, and think about it sincerely within yourself, and whatever decision you end up with is okay. Forgiveness is not weakness, and breaking up is not coldness or hard-heartedness. Just make sure the decision is comming from within you, and that you"ve taken the time to listen to your partner. Be kind. Be empathetic. And Love and value yourself.
Sadly, absolutely. Once the trust is gone from a relationship there's only the slimmest chance in the best relationships that it'll return. It'll be a hard lesson to learn but prolonging the relationship otherwise will only lead to more suffering in the long term.
Decisions such as a break up is hard to make and I am sorry that this has happened to you. I don't think anyone would like to be cheated on or have their heart broken. Talking things through with another persona can really open the door to the answers that we are looking for
Depends on how you both feel. Talk about the situation and figure out what is best. Once you come to an agreement follow it.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2016 7:14pm
Maybe you should talk to your partner and ask him or her why he she did it and later think about your happiness
Anonymous
January 14th, 2016 12:49pm
what you think are they had really cheated you once you should ask your self then take decision its all up to you its all in your mind
How important is sexual exclusivity to you? Do you have the will to rebuild the trust, which is hard work? Have you talked about why they cheated? Do they still have feelings for you? All of that are factors that can change the decision. In the end only the both of you can decide.
Anonymous
January 16th, 2016 7:49pm
YES. You should not be with someone who cheats on you. You are way better than that. I think you should breakup
Anonymous
January 20th, 2016 1:01am
Do you think you can forgive him or her? I might not ever be able to let go of the pain and take him back
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2016 1:04pm
break ups comes with mixed emotions. at the event of break ups lot of words and emotions are involved. it is wise to cool off first and make sure you are at a state where you can take permanent decisions.
I've been cheated on and it's tough, part of me wants to say yes, you should because if they've cheated once they'll do it again but another part of me wants to say, do you feel like this relationship is worth saving? and if it is, then stay together but if you don't think it is then you should break up. I guess what I'm trying to say is do what you think is right.
It depends. Cheating is not okay. Communication is very necessary- you are your partner should discuss this, talk about why it was wrong, and make sure it never happens again. If these ground rules fail to be established then an end in the relationship may be the best.
Yes, Cheating is the worst possible thing you could do to a person, and is a for sure way to lose trust.
Yes I feel you should focus on bigger and brighter things in life. You should confront if he apologizes give him one chance
Anonymous
January 29th, 2016 4:39am
I think it's up to you, if a person cheated on you and you forgive him/her they will do it again, because they know you will accept it
yes or work it out, communication is key in any relationship. Talk about it, and maybe see a therapist together. If nothing works...end it.
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2016 2:35am
If you believe that you can't trust them anymore or you don't feel comfortable in the relationship than yes. But it is okay if you want to work things out and try to save the relationship.
Anonymous
February 4th, 2016 10:33pm
If they cheated on you, you should break up because it shows that they don't take the relationship seriously enough
You should talk about it with him/her. Discuss the possibilities also. But, what you decide to do is completely up to you.
It depends. Most likely, this will haunt you in the relationship/lead you to care less. You need to be open with your partner about what happened and how you feel.
before making any decision, you should take time to think about every possibilities, ask yourself first, whether you are taking a right decision or not.
You should focus on yourself, give yourself the value you really deserve, the love you really deserve.. get fullfilled. get emotionaly healed.. once you get it you are ready to move on...remember "New good things only comes to your life when you get rid with the old and bad ones"
Yes, because if your partner is cheating on you it is a sign of disrespect and the relationship not going well. Would you rather date someone who is willing to cheat on you or someone who will not think of dating anyone else and you are all they think about?
Anonymous
February 10th, 2016 2:29pm
It depends on if they truly do feel bad about what they did. You should only break up if you feel like the relationship isn't worth fighting for.
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