Should I tell my boyfriend that I cheated?

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Anonymous
March 29th, 2017 5:08am
IN my personal experience, I find that being honest about when you mess up in life is better then hiding it or prolonging it. Sometimes when we prolong choices, others can get involved and make the truth more twisted and worse for others. It;s always good to be up front with your significant other when you mess up and/or cheat and ask for forgiveness and see what happens. Honest is the best policy in my book. :)
Anonymous
April 6th, 2017 3:36am
Ideally speaking yes, but when and how is critical. You are the best judge! You are the best judge of whether to tell or not as well, as you know your situation and how your boyfriend will react. If your conscience is pricking you constantly and you prefer a clear mind rather than worry about the consequences then go and tell him by all means. If you think that he will not be able to handle truth well and if you hide it, everything will be great in the relationship and at the same time you will be able to forgive yourself and not repeat it, then you might think of not telling him. I very strongly believe that a strong and long lasting relationship is always based on honesty and mutual trust & respect. All the best!
Nisee96
April 21st, 2017 3:47pm
Ask yourself if you'd want to know if you got cheated on? If the answer is yes, that's your answer. He deserves to know because it's the right thing to do. Complete honesty is key if you want it to work,
Vronica23
April 29th, 2017 9:40pm
I personally think that honesty is so important in a relationship. I think it's important to consider everything, the circumstances, why you did it, how he would feel, etc. If he did it, would you want him to tell you? How would you feel about finding out from someone else? These are all things you want to think about. But ultimately, I think being honest is the best thing for any relationship.
nehterly02
June 1st, 2017 2:01pm
Yes. Because him finding it out himself and not by you telling him would break the trust you two have between each other more than telling him yourself. You can try by telling him that you cheated then proceed to how it may affect your relationship. Also do ask yourself if you still want this relationship, maybe feelings faded since you had cheated on him. Tell him what you think about this and how he may think, tell him you know that he is feeling upset. Then give solutions on how to move on, to mend your past mistake or end this. And if you decided to end this, try not to repeat this cause it will hurt both you and your boyfriend. If he forgives, you have to stop being in touch with the person you are cheating with. He isn't that much of a good person if he knows that you have a boyfriend and still wanted to flirt around with you.
Anonymous
June 21st, 2017 1:22am
Yes, I think pure honesty is key to everything. Tell him and let him take his decision based on what he feels and sees.
damselinthisdress
June 21st, 2017 3:28am
Ideally, it is a good idea to let our S.O. know that we haven't been loyal because no matter what we've done, hearing it from us will hurt far less than if they found out through some other source. If we come clean then that gets it over with, and we don't have to deal with the extra pressure of thinking "has he found out? What if he finds out?" and other similar worries.
Anonymous
June 23rd, 2017 2:00pm
There are many different opinions on this. A lot of people say that if you cheated the only right thing to do would be to tell your significant other. I tend to agree with this. Keeping secrets can hurt a relationship and you shouldn't keep secrets from your partner. However, telling them that you cheated may end up putting stress on the relationship anyway. In the end, I feel that telling them you cheated will relieve any stress or guilt you may be feeling about keeping it form them.
Anonymous
July 5th, 2017 4:48pm
Yes... It is importand to dont hide anything from your partner. You relation must build in honesty and not in lies. If you explain in the right way he will understand it....
MissTeaLeaf
July 6th, 2017 5:09pm
Yes you should! It will hurt him but it will hurt more if he finds out on his own. Trust will also be harder to gain back after that.
Heatherxo19
July 7th, 2017 10:15am
Thats up to you to decide, what ever you decide to do, we will be here to support you. What do you feel is the best thing to do?
Anonymous
July 12th, 2017 9:39am
When you're in a relationship and you cheat, you break the trust that was formed in the relationship. That being said, you should he honest with him. If he breaks up with you for it, it's a good lesson for next time and if he doesn't, it means he cares a lot about you. If you don't tell him and he figures out, it'll be even harder to get his trust ever again and even if he does care about you he will want to stay away from relationship status because he knows that you may lie to him again or not tell him
Anonymous
July 13th, 2017 5:54pm
Telling your boyfriend that you cheated has a good chance of ending the relationship. But he will find out eventually, and it's better coming from you than from somebody else. You cannot avoid the truth coming out: it will come out eventually. The best thing that you can do to save yourself guilt is to tell him yourself. He is much more likely to forgive you if you tell him the truth rather than keeping a secret.
caringmelon
July 15th, 2017 6:25pm
Be honest with him and most importantly be honest with yourself, you wouldn't want to spend the rest of your life being guilty for not telling him.
Anonymous
August 10th, 2017 5:18pm
Honesty is the best key here. I am sure he will understand you if not just know you made a mistake but you did the right thing telling him.
SockmonkeyJanto
August 11th, 2017 3:03am
I personally believe you should, a relationship requires trust and honesty, and building up a relationship on a lie leads to a fragile base, easily dooming your relationship. After all, honesty is the best policy.
LolOreoGod
August 19th, 2017 12:19am
Being honest is a very important part of being in a relationship. Tell your boyfriend what happened. If you are planning to stay in the relationship, you should apologize from the bottom of your heart. If not, just say it bluntly I suppose.
neverendingKermit85
September 1st, 2017 1:43pm
Honesty is the key for a good healthy relationship. You should be honest with your partner not to cheat at the first place. If that already happened, you should be ready to accept whatever consequence from that.
SpunkyMonkey100
September 4th, 2017 10:27am
i think that that's a personal decision that only you can make, however i do think honesty and transparency is a foundation and cornerstone of any successful relationship. confiding in your boyfriend about something you did that you may not necessarily be proud of is never easy, however i think being able to share between each other times of infidelity may only strengthen your relationship in the future and build up trust by being able to do it.
Anonymous
September 15th, 2017 6:08pm
If you think that he deserves the truth, go ahead and tell them. They may appreciate your honesty :)
Thegreenarrow
October 25th, 2017 6:12am
Yes, is the obvious answer. He deserves to know that. It's not like cheating in a video game or something. This is real life and a real person. It doesn't matter if it was one time or that you regret it a lot or something. What has happened has happened and you should come clean about it. How he responds and how what your relationship will be with him in the future shouldn't stop you from being honest to him. It must be extremely hard and painful for you to open up to him about that incident but consider it as your penance. Take it as a way to cleanse the stain on your conscience. Own up and understand that no matter what the condition was, what you did is very wrong. And now all you can do is to try and correct your mistake. What many do these days is that they try to blame it on their partner's head. They may blame them for not being loving or abusive or indifferent. But that's just plain stupid. Because you always have the option to dump your "evil" partner and then find a better person or have one night stands or whatever you want. So do the right thing and tell him about it.
beccagreys23
November 8th, 2017 12:16am
Yes. Wouldn't you want to know if you were cheated on? He deserves to know what led you to make that decision.
imactuallynoah
November 9th, 2017 6:17am
yes you should, take it out of your chest and tell him all about it, he might forgive you and you both could start over on a fresh slate
Heartbr0k3n
November 16th, 2017 7:35am
Yes, keeping it away will be worse and there's a better chance he'll give u another shot if you be honest
Anonymous
November 16th, 2017 11:06pm
Of course you do, that do you want to live forever on lies, if you lie ones you will always keep lying
readingDream88
November 17th, 2017 3:19am
In my opinion, yes! The choice is yours, though - just make sure you consider all the pros and cons of the possible outcomes for each of you while making your decision.
PedroMAlves1992
November 17th, 2017 6:47pm
Absolutely! I truly believe that honesty is key and vital in every relationship. As soon as you're ready, tell him.
Anonymous
December 6th, 2017 3:18am
I think any relationship builds with trust. It is natural to make mistakes. We all do and at times, it goes beyond our scope. But don't you think the other person deserves to be made aware of it? They might not take it well, but we must learn to work upon it. And I think your boyfriend will appreciate and understand if he knows it through you rather than finding it out himself. That way it feel less like a betrayal.
Harshac
December 6th, 2017 3:24pm
Yes it is better to go from your end than him to find from others. This may change his mind as well in a positive way to think what might be the reason of it.
GirlFromTheWoods
December 7th, 2017 7:24pm
It's a difficult decision, because contrary to the common belief the truth is not always the best solution. By keeping this information to yourself you might spare the other person considerable grief. However, the weight of your secret may influence how you function in a relationship and it also may affect it negatively. You should take a moment to think if you want to stay in this relationship at all - maybe it is time to break up, and if so, telling the other person that you cheated will not make any difference.