Should I tell my boyfriend that I cheated?

I think honesty is what makes a relationship move forward. Hiding infidelity is in no way beneficial to the growth of a relationship or the individuals involved. Although cheating can end a relationship, it'll be a lot worse if it is hidden because it will be like living a lie and can lead ti a build up of resentment. Coming clean may not be easy, but it's better than hiding. If you are the victim in the relationship, you'll want to know if your partner is unfaithful. Being kept in the dark and finding out by yourself can be very painful. Save your boyfriend that pain and come clean.

If telling your boyfriend you cheated feels like the best option, then you know what to do. I was cheated on multiple times in the past, and the paranoia that accomapnied the knowing but not knowing, drove me mad. I thought that I was going crazy. However, once my boyfriend (at the time) told me he had cheated, a huge weight was lifted off of my shoulders and I was able to breathe again. From my experience honesty is the best way to heal and to move forward with your life. It isn't a easy decision to make, but you will make the right choice, I am sure of it!

Thanks for reaching out! It's easy for people to assert their advice on whether or not you should or should not tell your boyfriend you cheated. Ask yourself if you do tell you boyfriend you cheated, how would you feel? How would you feel if your boyfriend were to find out from someone else? If I were in your position, I would tell. You can ask yourself what your boyfriend's boundaries are versus your own. How do you two define cheating and what falls under the category of cheating? Your boyfriend may react in two ways, with gratitude that you had the courage to be honest or anger as he felt betrayed. You can reflect on how to go by this situation involving cheating by putting yourself in your boyfriend's shoes. Ask yourself if you want to renew the relationship with your boyfriend or stick with the other person? If you want to make amends with your boyfriend you either choose being with your boyfriend or the other guy. There are support organizations concerning relationships called Relate and OneLoveFoundation for further support. If you don't feel good with a person, it's best to end the bond in a civil way. You are so welcome to reach out to one of our listeners or therapists for further support. Thanks for your honesty!

Yes, you should. It is better to me honest than lie if to your boyfriend. Cheating isn’t good but it make is ever so slightly better if you are honest and tell him the truth and every thing Exactly how it happened and when it happened. Please make sure that you don’t do it again as it can make people feel like you do not love them and that you do not care about them. I know this may not be the case but it’s worthwhile saying just it case. I really hope this helps you know how to tell them.

Yes, this is important if you want to have a healthy and honest relationship. If your partner would have cheated on you, would you like him to tell you? Explain what happened, be honest if you feel that cheating on your boyfriend was a mistake. Tell him how you learn from your actions. Have a conversation on what caused you to cheat. If you feel like you don't want to be in a relationship anymore, talk with him and see what he thinks and feels. Talking about cheating can be challenging, but it's okay talking about it to your boyfriend.

I am no expert in your relationship with your boyfriend, but I suppose that this question has probably a deeper answer. The first thing to be considered is the state of your current relationship. Are you happy? Do you feel your needs are being provided? What is it that caused you to feel you needed to cheat? If you are in a relationship that is not meeting your needs, it is likely that you are not in one that will last. Strong relationships have a foundation of trust and caring. Once that is compromised it is hard to recover, especially with cheating. If you seek to remedy things with your boyfriend, you should probably come clean to him and see how he feels and consider what is maybe best for him in this situation as well. Should both of you be willing to move on from this, then the next step is to work together to rebuild that trust and set some expectations going forward, whatever those might mean for you. The other option is to not tell him. Depending on how you feel about it, you might sit on this information that you did this to him and be eaten alive by the tension and internal strife that it causes. Ultimately, resolving tensions and being honest are usually always the best in a relationship. If that ends it, then it enables you both to find something that would work best for you and make you happier.

Yes, 100% yes, cheating is something that is pretty terrible in a relationship but being honest about it will make it so much easier on both parties. If your boyfriend still decides to be with you afterward, then you won't have to live with that guilt. Not telling him will only lead you to feel guilty and always having to hide something which will only get worse with time. You can even try to explain why you weren't happy and what caused you to cheat and at least from what I know, there are a few circumstances that I may be okay with (i.e. wanting to try something with someone of the same gender).

Honesty is the best policy, and this is especially true in intimate relationships. Your boyfriend deserves to know the truth. Being honest sooner rather than later may actually save your relationship. Healthy relationships must have honest, clear communication. Tell your boyfriend the truth, and then if possible you can work together in the future. Perhaps counseling may help you both. If there are issues in your relationship that led to the cheating, they need to be addressed as well. If you want to have a future together, you need to acknowledge the past so you can both move forward with your lives.

Ultimately the decision is yours whether or not you want to disclose that with your boyfriend. It also depends on your relationship with your boyfriend, what values you have in relationship, and what you want in a relationship overall. Did you agree to not cheat on each other? Did you agree to tell each other if the other cheated? Did you agree on complete honesty in your relationship together? You may have not talked about these things, but answering these questions is helpful in making a decision. It also of course depends on if you want to stay with said boyfriend or not. Clear, honest, healthy communication is so vital in healthy relationships. If you tell him, perhaps his response will not be as bad as you think. He may be happy you told him because you were honest and you two can work through it. If you don't tell him, the secret could eat away at you and put a barrier between you and your boyfriend that wasn't there before. These are some of the positives on the side of telling, as an example, but I suggest you weigh the pros and cons/positives and negatives, and see which decision would be best for you. Best of luck.

Yes, if I were you I would definitely tell my bf that I cheated on him, no matter the excuse. Because to me, being in a relationship means being honest with that people, and I would feel so bad already that I cheated on him, so the least I could do is also being honest about it to him. I also know that I could face the fact that he might leave me, but that is his decision, I was the one who did him wrong. You can also think about it this way, by you not telling him, you live with a secret that would bother you so much, you will keep thinking about it, you will be afraid that he would find out one day, so why not just come clean??

Yes you should be open and honest about it. So that you feel at peace (otherwise it will always bother you that you are hiding something from him and he might also come to know about it from somewhere else) and he also needs to be aware about it. Both can choose and discuss what is required to be done NEXT, talk about what went wrong or why it happened? And if possible work through it or walk away from it if required. Ultimately it about both of you that makes up this relationship so both have the right to know what is going on and why things are the way they are.

Yes. You already betrayed his trust once, it isn't fair for you to do it again. I think that keeping that from him because you want to be with him is selfish. You should give him the chance to decide whether or not he wants to be with you. If you want to be with him and he wants to be with you too, brace yourself because coming back from infidelity is difficult. You both have to put in work, especially you. If he doesn't want to be with you, that's fair too. Respect his decision and go your separate ways. Remember that either way, you should eventually forgive yourself. You did cheat, but no one deserves self-loathing to a point of destruction. This should be an experience of growth.

Well honesty is always great, depending on the situation can cause more harm than actually do good. My sponsor when I became sober told me to tell him that I was sorry I wasn't the partner that he deserved, she also told me amends can be done without full disclosure, because it was no need to harm him beyond what I had done already and I should spare him of the details. After my amends were done I choose to live a honest life with dignity and pride once alcohol was what induce me to act in a certain way.

I can see that you currently are debating whether to tell your boyfriend or not about cheating on him. That seems a bit nerve-wracking and stressful! I am here to listen and cannot provide advice but will try my best to help you find the right answer for you. Some questions you can think about are: Why do you want to tell him? What will happen if you tell him or if you do not tell him? If you do decide to tell him you are welcome to practice with me to try to make it a bit less stressful and easier on you.

I believe that you should. You made a mistake and everyone does, but owning up to that does not just help your boyfriend or the relationship, it also helps you grow into a better person by being responsible. You made a mistake and that's okay, owning up to it shows maturity. Also take a moment to try to think of why it happened. Was there something that lacked in the relationship? Were any of you unhappy? Was it time for it to end? These are questions that you should now take into consideration when you are thinking about what led to it, and what you would want from a future partner.

It is impossible to state a universal answer to this question that will work for all situations. Some things to consider, however, are as follows: 1. Will telling your boyfriend create an unsafe environment for you? Will he react in a manner that may put you in danger? 2. Have you always been open and honest with no instances of retaliation or judgment? 3. Do you feel telling your boyfriend will have a positive/negative impact on your long-term relationship? There are many other things you should consider before proceeding. Once you feel you are ready to open up about the topic of cheating, ensure you have some supporters to lean on in case the discussion does not go as planned, or even if you are unsure about what to say in order to help manage the situation. Only you can know how to approach this situation, and I know you will follow your heart and make the best decision that you are able to make when the time comes.

Yes, you should. That's the short answer, but to elaborate: cheating is harmful, mostly to the other person. It's something you've done wrong, and if you know that, you need to acknowledge your mistake on your part by telling your boyfriend. Yes, I know, easier said than done especially because cheating isn't something small. It will damage and change your relationship, whether you tell him or whether you don't. When I tell you, he will find out sooner or later, either from you or not from you, he will. By telling him, yes he might choose to break up with you, or he might try to forgive you, but he won't forget. It really depends on how it happened and the situation around it, but there is no excuse for cheating. I am aware that I sound harsh, but telling him sincerely and earnestly will be the best way to go. Admit that you're wrong, you're human, and of course, respect to him and to yourself by telling him.

Yes, you absolutely should. I assume you still care for him if you're conflicted about whether or not you should tell him, so yes, please do tell him. He deserves to know the truth. Don't keep him in the dark, as it will only lead to more hurt, and more of a mess in the end. You may be scared of what will happen if you do so, but it will be for the best. He doesn't need to keep believing a lie, and you don't need to keep feeling guilty. Tell him. It is the best way to move forward.

Honesty is a strength and from my experience what is done in the dark will come to light. Be brave and own your mistakes by being honest about them and not hiding them from yourself or those who have been impacted by said mistake. It takes great courage and your future self will thank you for being courageous and respecting both yourself and your boyfriend. People deserve to know the truth, especially when in regards to broken trust. Your boyfriend has a right to know the truth even if it will hurt him initially. We are stronger than we think. I wish you all the best.

I think that's a yes. Because a relationship is maintained by trust and sharing things. You might be initially afraid to disclose it but am sure speaking out about it can be the best choice. Maybe the next time he'll open up. Maybe you can tell him and assure it won't happen again which makes him trust you more (so will he think that you won't be hiding anything) Mistakes are made and those are maintained when we talk and don't repeat. I hope things get well soon and I wish you both for moving on forward. Have a nice day. 😃

For me, it depends on the conditions of when that happened. Was there emotional connection between you and the other person or it was just physical? You have to bear in mind that each relationship is different and cheating can be a serious issue for a concrete one whereas for another it can serve as a way to open up about things that need to be communicated. In my case, I would only tell if I thought my relationship was going to be deteriorated because of that fact. But that is completely up to you and your type of relationship. In any case, remember to be kind!

if it was up to me i would tell him that i cheated. first thing first, it's not something that can be hidden forever. in case, you hid it can you live with the guilt? also i would think what led me to the cheating? is there something wrong with the relationship or did i loose feeling? there is never a easy answer when it comes to relationships but there is always a choice to reflect on the reason why it has come to this. also the frequency of cheating has to be taken into account. has it happened before if not, what's different this time around? there are lot of questions that could be asked and be reflected upon.

In my personal endeavors I have learned that honesty truly is the best policy. Relationships built on lies and secrets begin to crumble and generally don't end up well. The best way to have an honest, healthy relationship is to come clean and start fresh. To avoid hurting both parties you have to look at the relationship as a whole and not just on the event of cheating. Self-reflection is a powerful tool. Ask yourself how you would feel if your partner cheated and didn't tell you about the event or waited to tell you? Not being honest can cause more hurt to both parties in the end.

You should figure out what was going wrong with your relationship in the first place that made you want to look somewhere else for love. Cheating is just a result of a lack which exists in your current relationship. I think you should focus on how to heal the gap in your relationship as opposed to just saying what happened and trying to figure it out. If it's a relationship that you want to keep going to the source problem is always the way to go. Speak it out put it all on the table in an honest no aggressive way.

yes, I think because relationship requires trustworthiness. Try to find the suitable time when your partner is in free and relaxed state tell him that why you cheated how you got trapped and how you could do nothing in that case. There is no intention in you and if ever you have, then accept it and assure him that you will not commit that again. and in case you don't want to stay in relationship with your boyfriend end it, tell him that it is better to end the relationship and go on own respective ways.

Being honest and open about those things is very important, especially if you're hoping to stay in the relationship with said person. Communication is key. The truth will have to come forward, eventually. Everyone makes mistakes in life, but it would be fair to tell your partner what has happened; as a gesture of respect for his feelings. It may be daunting having to have that conversation but, depending on what you want, you can hopefully work on things together. It entirely depends on what you are seeking. Are you wanting to stay with your partner? Either way, it would be kind to tell him about what has happened.

The decision is ultimately yours, but relationships are often reliant on a foundation of trust. Try putting yourself in the shoes of your boyfriend. If he cheated on you, would you rather know the truth about your boyfriend's actions in the long run? It doesn't necessarily mean that the relationship has to end, but rather an admission that you're all made of faults and that you value your partner's trust over anything else. Look inside yourself and see how you want the relationship to continue. If trust is something you value in the long run, it might be worth it.

Its honestly up to you, but before you decide, I want you to think about being in his shoes. What would you want him to do if the roles were switched? Sometimes people would prefer not to know because they know it would destroy them and others prefer the truth. Another thing to keep in mind is the type of cheating. was it just a one time thing? Or do you like this other boy as well? The truth will eventually come out, it always does. If he hears it from someone else, it will be worse than it coming from you. And if you do decide to tell him and he doesn’t forgive you, you should still be proud of yourself because honesty is an important quality to have now a days not many people still have

In my opinion you should. Trust is needed in a relationship. It can be much worse if you decide not to tell him and wait until he finds out on his own. He might get upset and mad but he will most likely get more upset if you decide to hide the truth from him and wait until the truth is revealed to him. Try to talk to him calmly and try to explain why you did it. Cheating is a really bad thing but he might forgive you for your actions if you are sincere to him perhaps.

Should I tell my boyfriend that I cheated ? Honestly it depends on the situation . You must understand that there is a huge possibility that he will break up with you , yet eventually it will end up hurting you more if you don't tell him . There is also a major chance that he will find out by his self and he will be more hurt that you didn't tell him and worry that it is still going on. It is better if you are honest with your partner . You also must make sure you will not be in danger if you tell him .