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What do I do if I love 2 people at once?

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Last Updated: 04/03/2021 at 4:30pm
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Anonymous
June 17th, 2016 10:58am
You cannot ride in 2 boats..you need to make a decision and not only be straight with ur feelings but also be honest to both.
StrengthInFaith
June 22nd, 2016 4:47am
Many times I have been caught in such a predicament. My best decision was to find the one who I was truly willing to spend my time with, and I did so by asking myself a series of questions related to the people and answering them for myself. Such questions, for example, can say "who hears me out" or "who am I willing to always spend my time with".
Anonymous
June 30th, 2016 4:10pm
Figure out what person you loved second. If you truly loved the first person, then you wouldn't have fallen in love with the second person.
kindrose302
July 2nd, 2016 8:07am
This does happen and when it does you need to pick one of them. And if you don't some one will get hurt i promise you.
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2016 9:00pm
In my personal experience, if you have fallen in love with another person, you didn't truly love the first. I would look really hard at the two people, and evaluate if you would really want to spend your life with them.
Sunshine1995
July 10th, 2016 3:25pm
You can love two people at the same time but never at the same level.But if you love two people at the same time,choose the second because if you really loved the first one you wouldn't have fallen for the second
Christiana77
July 14th, 2016 1:42pm
Ask yourself if you really love them same way. And setting standards can also help. Look into what you really want Who has it all most. Also, who love you back also, so the love will not be one-sided.
Anonymous
July 17th, 2016 3:52pm
Make a list of characters that you wish to find on your future and love and whoever suits you best choose him however listen to you heart !!
Anonymous
July 17th, 2016 9:46pm
Go with the second one you love, because, if you loved the first one, why fall for the second?
Brandi4life
July 20th, 2016 1:53pm
When you love two people at once it's very difficult. My advise is that over time one person will fade and the other will grow in terms of how much you like them. When you like two people it's kind of a wait and see who you are going to like more kind of thing.
Anonymous
July 24th, 2016 8:15am
I used to like somebody, until i realised if i truly liked the first person, i wouldn't of fallen in love with the second person.
peacefulDancer4
July 28th, 2016 11:16am
If you love two people at once you have to consider the differences in how each one makes you feel.
Anonymous
July 30th, 2016 2:53pm
Choose the one that you'd think you'd be able to actually have a future with. A way to do this is by their personality.
Anonymous
July 31st, 2016 4:22pm
You should try to figure out who you would be the most comfortable with and befriend them. If you're already friends, check if they're single before asking them out. If they say no you could always try the other person :)
Anonymous
August 5th, 2016 2:51pm
Choose the second person. Because if I would've loved the first person I never would've fall for the second person
TaylorJanway07
August 6th, 2016 9:13pm
Go for the second one, because if you loved the first one, you wouldn't have fallen for the second.
Anonymous
August 7th, 2016 7:34am
A man who wants nothing is a man who loves nothing. Without love in our lives how can we expect to live?
Vincentg
August 11th, 2016 2:25am
To some people this is a perfectly livable lifestyle. However the two people they love have to agree with it. I would suggest some research on the lifestyle then approach the two loved to see if it's a lifestyle they want to share with you.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2016 5:53am
You should follow your heart. Most times listening to what your heart wants is actually what you might need.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2016 1:10pm
you take a break for a while untill you realize who it is you are more interested in.. dont stress to much about it..
Anonymous
August 18th, 2016 2:01am
If you love to people at once, then you should sit down and decide who you haave more fun with, who you enjoy spending time with
softlight99
August 24th, 2016 4:06pm
Choose the second person you fell in love with because if you truly loved the first one you wouldn't have fallen in love with the second person.
Anonymous
August 26th, 2016 4:29pm
You can't love 2 people at once. And even if you do, you will notice there's always one person you feel the sparks with. There's always only one among the two people who will come running to you no matter what. That's the one who's the One. :)
Brefly
August 27th, 2016 11:10pm
What do you do if you love 2 people at once? you cant love 2 people at once because if you love them that much nobody else would really matter. So i will rephrase the question what do you do if you care about 2 different people at once? you see if they care about you as much as you care about them and if they dont then thats when you realize that they arnt the one for you.
LittleLemon96
September 3rd, 2016 9:38am
Well , as we say, love has no rules, it might be a betrayal for both people if they don't know, in general it doesn't last long, you shoud also tell them both about it to avoid problems later
YellowDragKane
September 3rd, 2016 10:18pm
Choose the person you loved after the first one because if you really loved them there would be no room in your heart for another love.
GottafallBeforeyouFLY
September 9th, 2016 1:30am
Reflect on your feelings and see who you feel more strongly towards. Then maybe tell them both and see which works out?
Shadowwing231990
September 9th, 2016 10:16am
if you love two people at once it can be hard to make a choice between them it is up to the person .
Anonymous
September 9th, 2016 6:18pm
Choose the second ; because if the first was your true love you wouldn't have fallen for the second.
gentlePurple37
September 9th, 2016 10:33pm
Being in love is great experience I can love two peoples at once but not in same manner and intentions We need to know it