What is the best way to get revenge on an ex?

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HarleenQuinnzel
February 19th, 2016 7:56am
The best revenge is showing them you can be happy without them. We all want to show him or her what they are missing.
MissAva
February 25th, 2016 9:32pm
smile, be happy, and just show them that you dont care about them, thats the best way to get revenge!
divinewillpower86
February 26th, 2016 8:36pm
Revenge is a word similar to Boomerang! It's like hurting back! If your EX is the source cause the possible freedom could be Moving ashed. We can't change the past! But we can change the Present and there by future too!
maskedanonymous
February 28th, 2016 1:05am
Move on. Show him/her you can do better, that you're happy - possibly happier than you were with him. That's the best revenge you can do. Show him/her that you can live without him/her. Don't brag it to him/her, but just live your life. Let him/her be the one to see it. Let him/her witness your change. Let him/her mumble to him/herself, "Dang, I let that precious person go."
WiseOldManCounseling
March 3rd, 2016 1:32pm
Don't do it! Revenge behavior indicates ego defensiveness and lack of ability to accept loss. Goodbye means goodbye.
FloralFreud
March 3rd, 2016 11:09pm
To move on and keep yourself happy. Revenge will only make you feel worse in the long run, whereas showing an ex that you have moved on peacefully and are still happy in your life.. now that's revenge!
pjjensen23
March 4th, 2016 4:21am
Living well is the best revenge, but we can't help but fantasize about whipping out methods on an ex.
softShoulder21
March 4th, 2016 2:21pm
Be happy on your own.. do much more things . Achieve success and just make sure he knows how happy you are ever since he left
Lozzur
March 27th, 2016 9:42am
Be the best you, you can be. Use it as motivation but dont make you ex the reason why. What are somethings you want to achieve? achieve them? volunteer or help someone out or kick ass in your exams focus on YOU! The worst is when your ex is doing better than you emotionally, educationally or any other aspect. Focus on yourself and your energy and good things will come, eventually you won't even care about them... hope this helps
beautifulPainting66
March 30th, 2016 2:20pm
Live your life. Actually don't just live your life, thrive in it. Have a fun, fulfilling life and don't pay any mind to your ex, they aren't important anymore, especially if they did something so bad that you feel the need to get revenge. Your future success and happiness will show them that they lost someone amazing :)
datperuviandude
April 9th, 2016 6:24am
Like that tumblr text post I once read : "The best revenge it's to improve yourself" And it's true. They will see what they have missed :)
gaglyphoenix16
April 13th, 2016 3:40pm
To ignore him/her completely. That'd make him/her mad because he/she isn't given attention. All exes do is to get attention and make you feel sorry for no reason and best is to avoid them.
JonTR
April 14th, 2016 8:47am
The best revenge is to let them go. Let them go without a fuss or struggle. It is the best option for you in the long run
Readinger
April 14th, 2016 12:56pm
The best way to get revenge on an ex is to grown from the experience of the failed relationship. Become a better, happier and healthier version of who you are.
Anonymous
April 15th, 2016 5:03am
Live life the best way possible. Don't get mad, get happy and live your life in a way that doesn't involve your ex at all.
EarthyElizabeth
April 16th, 2016 7:56pm
The best way to get revenge is to live your life better then they will. To be strong and go above and beyond
CloudyPilot93
April 20th, 2016 7:30am
Revenge can often leave the revenger feeling as bad as the revengee. It takes far more effort to actively hate someone than not. Don't worry about them. Focus on your own happiness, and not other's misfortune.
BeyondTheSun
April 23rd, 2016 4:34am
Don't try to get revenge it won't help you feel better . Ignore them pretend they don't exist cut them out of your life completely.
Anonymous
August 10th, 2016 1:58am
move on and never look back
RoseAngel
September 28th, 2016 4:21pm
The best type of revenge in anycase is to make yourself a better person and live a happy life. To wish all the people who hate you a very good luck. To smile and move on!
lovelyForever86
October 18th, 2016 6:14pm
Move on be happy do better for yourself. Look good smell good smile. Enjoy yourself and that will get to him i promise
Stephenathome
January 3rd, 2017 6:20pm
Be happy and move on. To harbour hate or pain just lets them still be in control of you. Let them go and be kind to yourself.
Anonymous
February 18th, 2016 4:25pm
I think its best to not focus on getting revenge on your ex. Although, they may have truly hurt or betrayed you, seeking revenge will only stir negative emotions and probably make you feel worse or more empty in the long run. Focus on forgiving them, for your own peace of mine, and moving on.
Anonymous
February 18th, 2016 11:52pm
Revenge is not the best path to take. If you are continuing to have problems with an ex, then it would be best to simply talk to them about it in hopes of resolving the issues at hand.
Anonymous
February 19th, 2016 1:38am
I spent too long dwelling in the past thinking about an ex. What will revenge ultimately accomplish? Moving on can help to focus on a positive rather than a negative.
TheColumn
February 19th, 2016 11:38am
Move on and be happy. Have a life and don't ever think of him/her again. Find happiness and smile every day. When he/her sees you, this will be enough.. To see what is lost is ultimate punishment.
Anonymous
February 21st, 2016 3:11pm
Moving on. Yes, that's the best possible revenge that you get on your ex. I know people try to do crazy things at time just to hurt them but it's pathetic and shows that you cannot get him/her out of your mind. So best possible way for a revenge is to move on. Make them realize how strong you are and how their existence doesn't affects your survival. Believe me, it works :)
Nadiny
February 25th, 2016 2:36pm
I dont think you have to get revenge from a ex, but the best way is to ignore him and be happy. VERY HAPPY!
politeFish31
February 25th, 2016 2:40pm
Getting revenge doesn't benefit either parties, if they were bad to you, you are wasting more time on that person, the world is your oyster, go and find happiness with the right people you can call family :)
Mantt
February 25th, 2016 3:30pm
Is getting revenge something, that you want, does it help you in any way? Or is it maybe better to show strength and stand over this, just to be a better person?