What to do if a guy cheats on his girlfriend with you?
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Last Updated: 01/24/2023 at 3:46am
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I think you should end the relationship because if he could do it to her, then who is to say he won't do it with you as well.
If this guys cheated on his girlfriend to be with you, what stops him from turning around and doing the same to you? It's a sticky situation, you have to think long and hard if you're willing to give him a chance and trust him.
Anonymous
July 16th, 2016 3:14am
You need to tell the girlfriend. She's going to be upset with you, yes. But I've been in the situation of the girlfriend before. You can't let her keep going on dating a guy who is going to cheat on her. If anything, she's going to be mad at the guy. The guy doesn't deserve to keep being in a relationship with his girlfriend if he cheats on her. She doesn't deserve to not know.
Anonymous
July 28th, 2016 1:57am
If a guy cheats on his girlfriend with me, I would tell his girlfriend and help her through the situation.
Advice him of the unfairness to the other woman and walk away until he can decide what he actually wants. Stop being a part of the problem it's not worth it and someone always gets hurt.
Firstly, none of the things that guy has done is your fault. I'd recommend to talk to his girlfriend and explain what happened.
If it has already been done then there is not much you can do about it. you can not change what has happened. all you can do is be honest about it and make sure that it doesnt happen again.
What you are going through must be hard but I am afraid I cannot make assumption for you. Try and talk to her that might help
don't do it because he could use you for your body just to get back at his girlfriend and maybe even just brag about how he could get wit you any time to everyone
I would avoid this situation! Somebody capible of doing this shouldn't be trusted to be an emotional partner
Firstly! If you love someone there should be trust and loyalty in a relationship. When it's high and if anyone of them are cheating then you have to let him go and move on.
Anonymous
September 9th, 2016 1:49pm
If you did not know, confront his girlfriend in a polite manner and try to explain to her the situation.
You should really talk to his girlfriend about it. It is very important to do so, she needs to low that her boyfriend isn't loyal and has cheated.
Anonymous
September 24th, 2016 7:15am
If a guy cheats on his girlfriend with you, the best thing you could do is let the girlfriend know. You would probably want to know if you were in the same situation.
Well truthfully, if this guy cares about his girlfriend and he cheated on her with you, then the same pattern will repeat, if a guy has a history of cheating the likelihood of it reoccurring again are pretty high regardless of what he tells you, if he cheats on someone to be with you, he will cheat on you to be with somebody else!
Well in the first place ,that shouldn't happen. Never. If he cheats on her with you,he will cheat on you with someone else. Maybe not now,but in 3,5,10 years it will happen. This is not psychology,is human behavior and you can be sure it will happen to you too. If you didn't know he had a girlfriend,then now you know. So you know what to do ,no one else can decide that for you.
Anonymous
October 14th, 2016 12:05am
I would feel horrible if I knew some guy cheated on his girlfriend with me and I would lose respect for any guy or woman who has to cheat
Tell him that it is wrong as soon as possible.. if he does not want to act, he have to deal with the concenquences when you tell his girlfriend about it!
Then, the guy might do the same thing with you. If you let him in to you, then face the reality of not trusting him. Its a matter of "Trust issue" because you are aware of what and who he was.
-true guys never cheats, if he loves you, then make his way first to make things right.
ask yourself few things:
what do you like in a partner?
would you like to be in her shoes?
do you think he will do otherwise with you if he gets involved with you?
do you like 1 to 1? or 1 to 2? or 1 to many? or many to many? what kind of relationship do you need?
when cheating happens, it's always the time to recheck values, it's essential, to avoid greater pains in the future.
Anonymous
May 14th, 2017 2:21am
No one would like to feel to be just the second place in a man's heart. The population of the men is large and that guy that wants to cheat doesn't deserve me. He's doing love the wrong way. I won't mind his business and go away.
Anonymous
August 20th, 2017 12:00pm
Don't dumpon your ex. Your relationship is over.Write a letter to yourself, laying out all your grievances, then destroy it.
The guy should be politely made to feel that what he is doing is not adding to his positive image. He should be made to realize that integrity gives positive self respect.
Anonymous
January 10th, 2018 2:34am
Talk to him about it. Your answers come from you and him not him and his girlfriend. Even though it may mean nothing for the two of you in the future ask yourself if it’s right and maybe find out more about the relationship he is in.
Anonymous
January 31st, 2018 3:29am
Well, know that he didn't deserve you. Your way better then they will ever will. There will be another guy who will care for you.
You should consider whether you can agree with your conscience and feel good about it. Also about what you actually want and what it all brings in the long term in terms of good and bad consequences.
Anonymous
February 3rd, 2018 11:33pm
Be honest & take responsibility for your actions (he needs to take responsibility for his actions). Ask yourself, do you want to be the girl on the side or do you want someone who will make you his main priority?
first of all, you should know that it is wrong to cheat, and try standing in his girlfriend's shoes; ie how betrayed and hurt she must feel if she was to find out. then the right thing to do is to confront his girlfriend and tell her exactly what happened and let them work their relationship out on their own. next, if he happens to leave his girlfriend for you, then you'll have to ask yourself whether you should be with a guy who has cheated in a relationship, especially since it's recent. if he's willing to cheat on his girlfriend with you, there is a good chance that he will do the same thing to you, if you were to be together.
Anonymous
February 8th, 2018 5:11am
Express how you feel in a professional way to the guy on how that doing that was not okay. Being willing to explain what happened to the girlfriend.
Hey love! Please don't trust that guy because he'll definitely cheat you with other girl. the best will be to go save the girl whom he is cheating from a heartbreak.
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