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Will I ever find someone else to love me?

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Last Updated: 06/11/2022 at 2:46am
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BleedingHeartOfAGentleman
December 16th, 2020 5:09am
Love is everywhere. However, if you spend your whole time looking. You wont find it... It will come to you when you least expect it. Just when you thought you'd given up. It surprises us in the best ways. Dont give up looking. Find yourself first. Love will find you along the way. Dont push it away. Then you'll push away someone who may be meant for you. Your soul mate wont come into your life easily. They will challemge you. Keep your eyes peeled amd your hearts open. You never know... Lightning could strike and nothing will ever be the same again
Anonymous
December 20th, 2020 8:07pm
Yes, you would. You have a very long life ahead of you. and you would surely find someone who would love you. Just because the person you love isn't here you can't be disheartened. Somewhere someone would be made for you. And the day you found him/her no one would as happy as you. Just because you didn't find one now doesn't mean you won't ever one the one for you in future. Patience is always the best. Be it days or months or years you would find your other half. Be happy and enjoy the days while you are waiting for your soulmate.
purplecat3132
January 8th, 2021 9:42pm
Yes. Absolutely yes. I used to wonder this myself and I didn't think it would ever be possible, until I found someone who is head over heels about me. There is love somewhere, it just has to find you. It might be hard to wrap your brain around thinking anyone could ever love you again, but it is not rocket science. You are an amazing human being, kind, smart, brave, and most of all strong. Someone out there will see all the great things you bring to their life and will never want to let you go. They are out there.
Anonymous
January 14th, 2021 8:08pm
Yes you will! Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow or the month after but eventually you will. I have a strong belief that we all have that one person out there, somewhere in the world right now. They may not be in your school, your hometown or city, but that's the exciting part! The wait will definitely test your patience and spark frustration, but when the time eventually comes, everything will be worth it. This someone will love you endlessly, embrace every single part of you, and you both will have an instant connection. However, finding this person takes time and a great deal of patience. Yes, someone is out there to love you and it is only a matter of time before you both cross paths.
Anonymous
January 22nd, 2021 1:36pm
I believe everyone is capable of being loved. Depends on who it is, who you want, according to mutual agreement without certain manipulations. Again, everyone is capable of LOVE. Love is a universal thing. The world sometimes teaches us that we have to love ourself first before someone else can love us. This is really about perspective and how we feel as individuals. Sometimes we are so desperate that we do need someone or a set of people to HELP us and love us first. Everyone can find love. Everyone deserves love. We must all learn to love one another the right way because I believe there is a right way to love each individual depending on the situation we are in, in life. People enter our lives for a reason and people are meant to be loved. Will you ever find love? Why not? Optimism helps people view situations with an ideal perspective. Our society is usually about being social and finding friends, people we can relate to. If you're an introvert, It might be more difficult to find love but it's not impossible. You could find different ways to meet people. If you've lost out on a relationship, don't lose hope! Everyone can relate to one another. But some of us just don't want to and it leaves us feeling like we can't be loved right. When you understand what you want and who you love and who can love you most consensually that will make for a strong relationship once you find someone or many people.
Anonymous
January 24th, 2021 7:11pm
One can find love in many ways. It’s not just specified to one thing. With time you get to understand people and get experience and with that experience you change yourself in a better way. There will come a lot of people in your life, at every new stage you’ll meet new people and fall in love with them. The main thing is till then you have to grow up and also it’s important grow up and mature emotionally before you want to be in love with someone else. Just don’t be in relationship because you are lonely. Love comes at most unexpected time.
Anonymous
January 27th, 2021 4:15am
Yes you will. The world is a big beautiful place with a lot of love in it. You need to be open to meeting situations and people who can give you the look you seek. Try to look for new experiences and opportunities where you can get to know others. If you have not been successful finding love through some old ways, be open to trying new ways to seek it. Perhaps join a club or try an online dating site. There are many such opportunities out there, you just need to engage and join some of these initiatives, and hopefully you will find the love you are looking for.
seabell
February 4th, 2021 5:21pm
It is impossible to predict the future, but based on historical evidence of the experience of life, the probability of someone loving you during the duration of your life is quite high. There are things that you can do to increase the odds of you coming across someone to respond to you in that way. The best thing to do though, is to focus on you - Do you love you? Spend the time learning about yourself and the things you love, and if you exude that confidence and self-love, others will be drawn to it/you too. Love yourself! Then when an opportunity arises, you're prepared to show someone how you'd like to be loved. :)
MindRoots
February 21st, 2021 1:43am
This is a good question. Is there someone out there to love? In the poem Desiderata, by Max Ehrmann, he states, "Be yourself. Especially do not feign affection. Neither be cynical about love; for in the face of all aridity and disenchantment, it is as perennial as the grass." Love often finds its way to us at the exact moment of readiness, no sooner or later. It is a natural phenomenon of the spirit. Finding love begins with finding it within ourselves - first. How can we find love without knowing for ourselves? Right? What I know of love is limited to my understanding of it. The more I understand, the more I can express it, naturally. The level at which I think about love within my conscious mind matches exactly my experience of love. It is the nature of physics. For example, If I think love doesn't exist for me, it won't. Every moment in life is a moment to deepen understanding of love. Life is, in a sense, the greatest opportunity to learn and discover the spectrum of love. There is kind love, and there is desperate love. There is romantic love and love for a child, too. We must be gentle with ourselves about life and love. Why be harsh or judgemental to ourselves for wanting or lacking? It is counter-productive. Everything in life is a learning lesson, especially about understanding love for self and another. I hope you found some value in these words. I know I did. It has been stated, "the greatest teacher and student you will ever meet is yourself." I hope your path towards love brings profound understanding to your heart and mind. Thank you for reading. MindRoots
heartfulSummer7453
March 6th, 2021 7:33pm
It is hard when you believe you will never find someone else to love you, especially right after a breakup. However, all the love you will ever experience is within you. By that I mean, love and relationship is the most successful when you love yourself first and come together with someone else who also loves themselves. This is where you get the most value and success in a relationship. So, if you are asking yourself 'will I ever find love', look inside you and ask yourself do you love yourself? Love begins and ends within us and that kind of love never leaves. It is only enriched when someone else comes along and notices it.
Anonymous
March 13th, 2021 5:27pm
Every person deserves to be loved and there is someone out there that would accept you for you are. That's why I say yes. Yes, you will find someone who will love you and care for you like you're the most precious thing in the whole world because you are. Sometimes things do not go our way and we let it get to us but the most important thing is to keep moving forward and keep trying to achieve all of our goals. Love is always there. You just have to clear the dark clouds in front of your eyes and see properly.
Anonymous
March 27th, 2021 12:51am
Yes, there are so many people in the world. There will be many heartbreaks you will go through but think of it this way, one less heartbreak until you meet your soulmate. There are so many people in this world and many more to meet, you are probably so young and have such more and new people to meet as you grow up, you will find the one who will love you. They will love you as much as you have everyone else and that love you have put out will come back to you. It will be the best.
Anonymous
April 8th, 2021 3:33am
Yes, you will find someone else to love you as long as you're willing to love them back as well. It takes time and great effort to build a relationship on love. There are a number of ways to find someone like through hobbies, interests, likes, and even social media. From there, build a relationship with them and continue building it. All you can do is try and hope that someone will love you, but you will have to take the initiative to express love first. Take the first step and someone will see your effort. Hopefully, they will love you back.
Anonymous
April 8th, 2021 4:50pm
We all have the desire and need to find someone to love us, this doesn't mean that the person who loves us isn't already next to us. We focus on an ideal of what that person should be and what we expect yet forget to take a moment to view those around us caring, watching over us, and also motivating and lifting us up when we need it the most. Love comes in all forms, not only romantic or familial, self love is also something that is very important. No one can love you more than yourself, once you do. You will be able to see who also love you, for you.
AGlassHalfFull
April 25th, 2021 3:44pm
Firstly, I want to say, yes. You are definitely worthy of love. But, before you ask this question, I would like you to look deep inside yourself and ask if you have learned to love yourself yet? What have you done so far to love yourself more? So many of us neglect ourselves. We are so occupied with giving, we forget to recieve. Will you truly be happy being loved by someone when you constantly feel ”not enough”. My advise is, stop finding love, instead, embark on the beautiful journey of finding and loving yourself.
Anonymous
May 20th, 2021 7:46am
When the right time comes, you'll find someone else who will love you but before you find someone else to love, love yourself first. Loving thyself is one of the most important thing to do since if you can't love yourself first, you can't someone else. Loving yourself, taking care yourself, prioritizing your mental health is crucial. If you don't take care of yourself first and find someone else you'll be vulnerable. Some people finds someone else when they're broken hoping that they'll feel better and it might be true for a while but if that person leaves they go back to their previous situation when they're still vulnerable. People seem to be emotionally dependent on people when they don't love themselves enough. Loving someone unconditionally is good but loving thyself is Most important. It's not Selfish but Self love and it's only you who's gonna live with yourself in your entire life. When you'll love yourself truly you'll see Relationship was never a necessity but a choice. Love Yourself
Anonymous
June 3rd, 2021 6:57am
Everyone finds love, whether it is family love or a relationship with someone else, you are loved by someone. I really struggled believing that I deserve love or that I will actually find someone that will genuinely love me for me, but now as I have gotten older, I have realized that love is not just being in love with someone; love is knowing that you have support from family and friends. Understanding that you can find love in other aspects of your life allows you to be more open and understand exactly what you need to be happy with the life you have. You will find love! Take it one step at a time.
Anonymous
June 5th, 2021 11:04am
Of course you can do it. Try to meet new people, do things you like doing. Maybe it will get your mind off what happened. It might be very hard but first you need to get over the person. As i said before, meeting new people or doing an activity you like doing will get you over the person. Eventually you'll start to care about yourself a bit more. Slowly you'll get over them. When you finally will forget about them, you can concentrate on finding the right one for you. Im very sure you can do it. It takes a lot of patience and time but you'll make it. Don't forget to take care of yourself first dear. Good luck! < 3
UYS
June 24th, 2021 8:23pm
I won't say that you will or that it is a matter of time, but what i have to say: love is always around us, not exactly our knight on the white horse! it could be a celebrity who loves their fans, a part of your family or even the universe sending you a cool breeze in the summer haze... We just have to embrace and appreciate the moments! It's hard to find them but all you have to do is look, and you will find how colorful and rich your life is. And don't forget, i love you as well! 💙
snugglyDog7961
July 13th, 2021 10:15am
We are all taught to adore stories of princes and princesses finding their soulmates and thus living their happily after. But I do believe seeking external love- as in from someone else is as pointless as seeking external motivation- helps just for a certain period of time. If you don't love yourself, then nobody in the world can be enough for you. I know some people who have known each other since teenage and got married but we all have to realize such couples grew together at the same pace- which is quite unusual and uncommon. That being said, yes you will find someone to love you unconditionally but don't go on a treasure hunt looking for that person. The goal should be to focus on yourself and make yourself feel loved.
LidiaAlicia
July 15th, 2021 12:16am
Yes, you will. Going through a breakup or realizing you're not being loved as much as you love this person, or losing someone you love,can be one of the things that hurt the most in this world, but unfortunately, it's something almost everything goes through at least once in life. It's important to remember that you are not alone, and you can learn something from every experience you have in life. Even if it seems like the pain will never end, it will. Most importantly, you must learn to take small steps towards loving yourself first, because when you learn to love who you are, being loved by someone else will come naturally.
Anonymous
August 8th, 2021 6:57pm
yes, you will! do not give up hope! I personally believe that everyone out there has a person for them. Yes, this being said by one of those sappy romantics who has never been in a relationship. Love works in mysterious ways though (as cliche as it might sound). There's no saying for sure you might fall in or out of love, it just happens or doesn't. Be patient with yourself and give yourself time, that only means you have longer to work on yourself and love yourself for the next person who comes around! * If you don't love yourself, how can you expect someone else to do it for you?*
Anonymous
August 11th, 2021 3:47pm
Yes! I hate to use the most common phrase but there are plenty of fish in the sea! no matter what there will be someone out there who has similar interests, finds you attractive, and ultimately loves to spend time with you. You may be feeling this way right now but there are tons of ways to go out in meet people. For example if you’re in high school you still have your whole life to meet someone in college or during any extracurricular activities. Even if you are 50 years old it is still possible to go on dating sites and develop relationships! love is a tricky thing but there will always be someone out there to love you.
Wisesupports
August 19th, 2021 3:52pm
It often feels like there is no one else beside that one, unique person to love. The very step though and this is most important, from own personal experience as well as working in psychology and with so many other people, is to know that “someone else to love me” is already me. If you can love yourself that might make things easier. You are able to care for you then and provide yourself with all the things that might make you happy. For me these things are good food, a nice walk in nature along the beach, the canal or in the forest, meeting my friends and family and sharing hugs. Talking. There are so many ways to love and it is not about that one person.
LunaGideon
August 28th, 2021 6:04pm
I don't think it is the right question. I think the right one should be: do I love myself enough to let other people love me? I am trying to start loving myself because I noticed that, when I'm happy even people around me can feel it and we can manage to have a healthier relationship. Love yourself first because you'll surely find, one day or another, someone who will love you more. Loving ourselves is not a selfish act, as the desire to have someone who loves us. I think that without love we can't go on because we need a person (a lover, a friend, a parent,etc...) that support us and let us know we are not alone
RejeanAymer1120
September 8th, 2021 6:58pm
Yes, and it starts with you, start loving yourself, everything you want from that person give it to you. once you start realizing your worth, the right person will come along but don't search, allow yourself to heal and grow, start doing things you love to do, go places you have not been before, and love will find you when you least expect it.it will get lonely but don't allow yourself to let that fear of loneliness stop you from being the best you. you are worthy of love and the right love will find you always. don't give up
Anonymous
October 3rd, 2021 10:01pm
Everyone has experienced this feeling at some point in their lives, whether it was following a breakup or just after a period of inactivity in their romantic lives for a long period of time. A somebody will come into your life and make you realise that the sun is shining brighter than it has ever been before. One day, someone will enter your life and make you question whether or not you ever knew what happiness was before they came into your life. I realise it's easier said than done, but whatever that person is, they're out there and they'll find their way. Take a glance around you, and you'll notice that love is all around you. Everyone, including friends, family, and coworkers, is invited. You are already loved, and the one who loves you will come looking for you when you are most vulnerable.
Anonymous
October 9th, 2021 7:23pm
Yes, ofcourse you will. But until you do, how about yoh start loving yourself first? Maybe take break from "finding someone" and just go with the flow, whilst the journey of "finding yourself and loving the real "you". The person who is meant for you will come into your life at the right time. And when the time comes you'll be ready to love this person with your whole heart, and that person will love you back immensely, because, you deserve nothing less than that. Love is wonderful, and it's out there, trust the power of the universe it will surprise you!
Flamingo0506
October 27th, 2021 3:17am
definitely, you gonna tell yourself that you're unique, be active, be positive in the way your thinking, you will achieve goals you want, nothing can stop you. Everyone feels this way at some point in their lives, may it be after a breakup or just after a long time of inactivity in their love lives. There will be someone who will walk into your life and make you see the sun shine brighter than it ever has. Someone will come in to your life and make you question if you even knew what happiness was until they walked into your life. I know it's easier said than done, but whoever that person is, they're out there and they will come. But right now, look around you, you're already surrounded with love. Friends, family, coworkers, everywhere. You are already loved, and that person will come for you when you least expect it.
Meggs123
November 18th, 2021 5:47pm
Yes. It might seem like it’s not going to happen but in time you will come across someone that loves you for you. You will find someone that cares for you and only wants the best for you. There are so many people out there if you just make yourself available and keep an open mind you will find someone that adores everything about you. Everyone is loved by someone. No one is unloved in this world. Love comes in many forms and everyone shows love differently. Look around at the people in your life and try to reflect on how they treat you. I’m sure you will see you are loved in many ways