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Will I ever find someone else to love me?

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Last Updated: 06/11/2022 at 2:46am
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sunshinecxpher
February 13th, 2020 6:35am
well, what I learned was you will only ever find someone else to love you when you start loving yourself, when you know that you are enough, when you know that you don’t need somebody else to complete you, when you see yourself as the only person you ever need to love you, when you start loving yourself how you want to be loved and treated and trust me, that is the only thing that matters. Start loving yourself for however you are and love will find you. You will get someone else who loves you just the way you want to be loved.
Anonymous
February 21st, 2020 2:13pm
I've asked myself this question so many times in my life. Crying whilst praying relentlessly to God that a romantic partner appear into my life. I can definitely relate to these words and this feeling so very much. In my experience, many times, my next partner came along at the right time, exactly when I needed it. At other times, I've found that people who aren't so great for me came along, and still I learned something from them despite our connection not being a long-term fit. Other times, I've found partners come in, only to realize that I could've focused more on my personal growth before we came together so that I could've been in a better place to help our relationship as a whole. Ultimately its helping me learn the value of self love, so that I can not only learn to choose a partner who is compatible for me, but I can also learn how to nurture a relationship that offers more happiness for myself and the other person.
Anonymous
March 8th, 2020 12:03pm
Yes, you will. There will always be one person in the world that was made for you. Your other half. You may not think you may find one now, but I believe you will one day. Have faith, keep your head up. The only way you will be sure of you, finding your perfect other half is to keep going. Never give up. You will reach your goals one day. Have faith! Good luck and I believe in you! There are always other people out there to keep you company. In conclusion, you will find someone. Maybe not now, but one day. For now, enjoy your time being single.
aburninglight56
March 14th, 2020 12:50pm
i believe you will. Love is not something that would only come in one way or form, let alone the fact that it might come form one person. So yeah. You will move on. You may even forget some part of the past. Because even if we don't want to believe it, time does heal things. If not completely then partially. After some time, the hurt hurts less. sometimes we need to forget what we feel and remember what we deserve. So i must say, if the thing is out of you hands, then it deserves freedom from your mind too. In the end, i hope you find your infinity, your eternal, your everlasting someone who might show you the limitless and unconditional love...
Anonymous
March 15th, 2020 2:30am
Yes definitely, falining in love doesn't mean that love itself doesn't exist anymore. Never go behind love, love will only come searching to you one or other day. Always make sure that love from opposite person is equal towards you too little will harm and too much also harm. And also be strong enough to accept a person even when you feel that he/she is loving in lesser way. Each and every individual is different in expressing and reacting. As long as opposite person if genuine and good try not to expect anytg from them treat them well as how they are accept them as how they are. When there are less expectation and more understanding than you will always get love.
Anonymous
March 15th, 2020 5:31pm
Of course. Love yourself first and on that way you will know what kind of love you deserve 😊. It's hard to wait, but you will be happy when you get what you need. Do not try to find anybody if you know what you want and what you need. Do not punish yourself with person you do not like. Be patient, be careful, be happy. Work on yourself while you can. Also if all of your friends have somebody, that doesn't define you. Do not be like others just to fit in. You deserve more than you can imagine. 😊
Anonymous
April 10th, 2020 7:19pm
I've worried about this in my life too. It gets better though. There will always be someone out there who respects and love you, wether that be as a significant other or a friend. Try to put yourself out there and you will find someone. But the most important thing that you can do is love yourself, so be nice. There will always be people out there who love you. Wether its friends or family, you will be able to find someone. Just look for people who have similar interests to you to bond about, and I'm sure that you will be able to find someone to love every bit of you.
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2020 8:53pm
Loving a person takes time you first start by knowing them and gradually fall in love so when you break up or you can't be with that person for some reason moving on is hard but then when you improve yourself or focus on other things that makes it a bit easier than it was before and one day you do find the one. You might think now that you don't deserve love for some reason but you do. You are an amazing person I know you have flaws so do I but we'll always have people who'll love us accepting all our flaws and helping us to be a better person
enchantingSky79
April 24th, 2020 8:09pm
Yes but it takes time and it might require you to work on your self confidence. You can start by loving yourself and being confident in yourself, this also takes time. If you love yourself, other people will love you too or at least it will be easier for them to love you since not having confidence is a turn off. I think that telling yourself you have confidence in your abilities (even when you don’t or your confidence is low) helps you have confidence in yourself in the future. It is a bit of fake it until you make it but talking to a therapist and exploring why you don’t have confidence in yourself and why you think nobody will love you is also important.
Anonymous
May 3rd, 2020 6:18am
Yes. First of all, always think positively. Although it may sound easier to beat yourself up and criticise yourself, looking on the bright side is the best way to start things. Second, make it a necessity, or maybe even a priority to love yourself first. Think about all of the wonderful things that make you unique. Finally, always bear in mind that since you love yourself, you are lovable. When a person is lovable, they are bound to find someone else who will love them and respect them as individuals. So, yes; you will find someone who will love you because you are lovable and thinking so makes it easier on yourself. One last thing I want to mention is that, at most times, you dont need to find that person; they find you.
Anonymous
May 7th, 2020 7:24pm
That's a difficult one to answer But just after a break up it's normal to think that way. If you have been in a previous relationship and you are determined to meet someone else there isn't any reason to say that you won't meet another person who will love you unconditionally . Think about the qualities you would like a person to have that may be a potential boyfriend or girlfriend . There is no reason why you can't meet someone new who you know is the type of person you are looking for as there are many other people in the same situation as you are also.
l1veyourtruth
May 14th, 2020 3:04am
The important question to consider first and foremost, is "do I love myself"? It all starts from within, outwards. When you don't need outside validation and reach a place where you've spent time in a healthy relationship with yourself and are happy, things tend to start falling into place. This is not to say the path will be guaranteed to be easy. In fact there are many difficult conversations you may need to have with yourself about existing insecurities, past trauma, and areas needing general improvement. This is all part of the process of reaching a better place. Remember, just trying, baby steps or leaps and bounds, any progress is good! Utilize self-care, conversation, reflection, meditation, and any other positive coping mechanism to continue shaping yourself into someone you love. Avoid negative self-talk and other hindrances. I believe once you reach a good place, you'll naturally attract or be attracted to those with similar mindsets and stages in life. This I believe to be the cornerstone to finding meaningful love.
Anonymous
May 29th, 2020 10:27pm
Yes. There are many people in this world, people who would love and cherish you. It may not happen right away, but it is possible. I found love after feelings of disrespect and loneliness. I am not here to give advice, but I am here to listen to you and to remind you that there is hope. Love is a feeling so many people wish to experience. You are apart of that group and the person who will love you is apart of that group as well. You are not alone. It happened to me, and it can happen to you. There is hope.
AFellowPilgrim
May 31st, 2020 4:07am
Love is a byproduct of relationships, of getting to know people. A first step would be to get involved with activities that you enjoy where other people are also involved. Get your mind off of yourself and off of wanting to be loved. Instead, focus on being loving and accepting of other people. People will find you more interesting if you are interested in them. Show yourself to be friendly. Take an interest in other people. Ask them questions about themselves. Find out what types of things interest them and ask more questions about what they like. In addition, find places to volunteer that also have other people involved. And, along the way, as you become more interested in life and in other people, you will become a more interesting person who must may attract someone special to you. If not, you will still be less lonely and will enjoy life more.
Anonymous
June 6th, 2020 4:29pm
you will, people come and go. there are 7.7 billion people on this earth. I'm sure someone will find you, please don't lose hope, you're loved. and no matter what there will always be someone out there that will love you, everyone is unique and special in their own way, and i'm pretty sure someone will fall for you, and it might be real soon. or maybe this someone is already near by you! but you just don't notice them yet. give yourself a chance and be patient. And remember, self love always comes above any other love. And be compassionate with your feelings.
CuddlyBear123
June 24th, 2020 9:42am
Love happens all the time thankfully. You lose one lover and then find someone else somewhere down the line, someone more suited to you. When I first was in a relationship I really didn't know anything about relationships, I didn't know what was acceptable, I didn't know what I wanted and I fell into it because I was lonely which was a recipe for disaster. Thankfully when I got with the next person I had a better understanding of how to respect myself and the things I didn't want, based on my previous partner. My second partner didn't last long, and I was then onto my third. For me it was third time lucky. I was more confident and stronger, I knew time was too short- I made a vow to always say the things I wanted to say. I also needed to make the most out of the relationship and loosen up and just have fun (something I hadn't previously). I enjoyed going on dates, organised places I wanted to go to, dressed up in clothes that made me feel good. Whilst your journey won't be exactly the same as mine, your previous lover will have taught you something important you can take with you. It's important to stay open and vulnerable and believe it can happen, for when the right person comes along. Something I hadn't done which I wish I had was to reconnect with myself and create a relationship with myself whilst being single. I wish I had looked after myself and enjoyed my own company. Discovered some interests. Practiced self love. Fell in love with myself first.
Anonymous
June 25th, 2020 2:49pm
Yes, You will find someone else who will love you. I don't know you but i know everyone is perfect. Believe in yourself , know that you are, and always will be, enough. Whenever your feel like your unloveable look at yourself and say "I am worth it." You may believe that your unlovable now, but the truth is everyone around you can't see how amazing you are, and if they can't accept you now, they don't deserve to be with you when your at your very best. So for now, hold your head up high and just be who you are.
JessieDitto
July 2nd, 2020 9:34pm
Of course you will. Love is a hard thing to find and to meet someone who makes you feel love isn't easy. Love finds you when you're not looking or so they say. My most recent relationship, who I loved dearly, I met on a video game. So, you really have no clue where you'll find someone. You might meet them online, through a friend, or in some random place. But don't settle. If you see red flags, listen to yourself and you gut. You know what's best for you and you've lived your life. Love will find you, give it time.
lightandmermaids
July 9th, 2020 10:52pm
Absolutely. We are all capable of love and as much as we all like to receive it, there is also the need to give. To share. To love somebody else. Think of the people that you love -- think of the reasons that you love them. Someday, someone will love you in the way that you long for. The love you wish for will come to you, all that you need is to keep on having fait. It may sound like a cliche -- but it is the truth, I would know. It's such a simple, effortless thing and it doesn't cost anyone anything to love another human being -- so why wouldn't someone love you?
happyKoala2614
July 11th, 2020 8:46am
The first step to finding someone who loves you is loving yourself enough that you do not need someone to love you. It is important to be enough for yourself first. Then of course you will find someone to love you. But does it have to be a partner? Can't it be a pet or a kid? Can't it be a sibling or a friend? There are many different kinds of love out there, wasting your time wallowing for the one you do not have is not a good option. Why not experience all different kinds of love, and when the one you don't have comes embrace it happily along with all the other love you have? Don't keep yourself down by waiting for a love that you have no way of knowing when it will come, go and enjoy the love that you can find.
Rebekah
July 30th, 2020 11:31am
This is a question that countless people have asked themselves. It rarely ever has a simple answer though, unfortunately - finding the right person is like finding a needle in a haystack, it is incredibly difficult but it is never completely impossible. After a relationship ends, it can sometimes make us feel as though there is no one else out there for us, but this is not usually the case. If you're looking for the right person, you could try dating apps, meeting new people or even letting go a little to find your inner self before looking for "the one".
Anonymous
August 4th, 2020 4:55pm
We all feel like there's only one person who could have loved us the way they did, and that no one else will make us feel that way. However, it is important to remember that there are so many people out there whom we haven't even met yet! Life is so unpredictable and sad and beautiful. Perhaps we feel the way we do because we're not able to look past the doors that have been closed, but it's important to remember that there's always more to the picture than we can see or that we are able to see due to our present circumstances.
Euphrosynesmessenger
August 5th, 2020 4:48pm
ever since i was little, i always wanted to feel loved. i had a bunch of doll houses and i would imagine what life would be like if i lived in a beautiful castle with prince charming. i never thought it was important to love myself because hey, prince charming is coming. it’s so nice to have someone look you in the eye and feel like you’re the only person deserving of their time. but i think until you find that person, which you will, you should try to look in the mirror and see the beauty in yourself. the beauty you see in others. the awe you feel when you look at someone beautiful and intelligent. you’ll eventually find what you’re looking for. you’re deserving of love and kindness. but don’t miss out on the wonderful person you are, because you’re waiting for someone to tell you that. you’ll find someone when you least expect it. maybe when you’re at school, at work, maybe somewhere magical. you’ll find it in yourself, in your friends, in your family and in your significant other.
Anonymous
August 6th, 2020 7:03am
Everyone has a different time they find love, some in high school others later. But the most important thing is true love, everyone has their prince charming but are impatient an may end up marrying the wrong people. Trust me a deverstating thing . it's better to find love late than divorce.if you ask will I ever find love then know this every man was made for a woman.although you might find yourself in many relationships and breakup,it only strengthen and teaches you, before you find him or her. love doesn't just mean saying I love you. It's about showing it. Falling inlove multiple times is just a characteristic of human emotions and homons. You might not believe it but fairytale ending does exist,it's just up to you to find your happily ever after.
courageousheart96
September 18th, 2020 10:43pm
Yes, you will find someone who will love and cherish you. Absolutely nothing will stop you from meeting someone you will learn to love. You will find him/her when you least expect. You are learning more about yourself on a daily basis. things will change and you will be wiser, therefore, opting for better connections and relationships. You hold high expectations and standards thus not settling for anything less. There are plenty of life-altering experiences that will lead you to meet new people. You are a complete, wholesome person and you can shape your own life via self-love and determination.
Ashleyy24141
October 11th, 2020 10:09pm
Of course you just need to wait for the right person, if they really love you, they wont leave you, and try their best to try and make you happy thats what you do when you love and care for someone, you try to show them how much you care for them, and if he/she does that for you then their a keeper, you have standards, dont let anyone just use you for your body, they will respect that if they truly love you, it just takes some time sweetie for now live your best life before someone takes your heart away
HappyCat66
October 15th, 2020 3:00pm
From one human being to the other, I want to tell you that it is more likely that you will than that you won’t. But, that said, life is not usually straightforward or easy when you most want it to be so. Not knowing you or you personally or the circumstances of your life, it is possible that you can improve the likelihood of finding someone else to love you by looking inward while being as honest as you can be. Consider what makes anyone lovable and see what traits or behaviors you recognize within yourself that may be ripe for change in that regard. Alternatively or additionally, you could try a simpler approach, beginning with a huge dose of self-love, throwing everything negative you’ve ever thought about yourself out the window. Typically, I believe we are most lovable when we love ourselves the most and truly and thoroughly so. I would try this latter approach first and maybe even ignore everything else that I mentioned. If you love yourself, and you get out there (post-COVID) and maximize the number of other humans that get to know you, and one would have to presume that you would eventually meet others that love themselves also. These are the candidates most likely you want to provide opportunities to know you well enough to realize they love you. Be cautious and avoid going after the “low-hanging fruit” by only giving those that do not properly love themselves the chance to love you. Good luck!
glowingVoice418
October 25th, 2020 7:06pm
Yes! You will always find that there are many people who love you. Some show it directly but some don't. People will come and go but you've to trust the universe. As there is a saying that "when you really desire something, the whole universe conspires you give it to you". Just believe that you are loved and soon you will find someone who truly loves you for who you are. Don't worry much because the person who is meant to be in your life would never leave you and even if something as such happens if you both are meant to be together then nothing can stop it from happening... All the best with your life💝🤗
Anonymous
November 14th, 2020 4:02pm
Yes. Your family and friends love you very much! And there will be someone to love you in the future. You don’t want to live your life worrying about who will love you when you already have so many people that love you! You have so much love and some of us don’t even realize it! We are surrounded by love every day even when we don’t think we are! The right person will come when the time is right! Real love comes out of no where and it’s a beautiful thing! Don’t rush someone else to love you when you have so much love surrounding you!
vicente1001
December 13th, 2020 10:11pm
There are so many people in this world. You will find someone who loves you for you, sometimes it just takes time for that person to enter your life. Before all this, you need to have love for yourself. You will be the person that is always there for you and because of that, you need to show yourself love. I will be honest, it won't be done in one day. This is a difficult journey but it is a worthwhile one. Having this self love for yourself is something important and will help you give love to your next partner.