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What's the best way to get over someone calling you nasty names?

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What's the best way to get over someone calling you nasty names?
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December 28th, 2014 1:06pm
For me the best way is to just plainly ignore everyone calling you names. What also worked for me was smiling to the ones and saying Hi back. Most people calling you names want to see you get hurt. Don't give them that satisfaction :)
November 22nd, 2014 11:02pm
Learning to accept that you arent the names they call you. You are more than that and deserve better
November 23rd, 2014 8:39pm
I have tons of experience on this subject. Since grade 4, Ive been bullied repeatedly. But when I was in grade 7, I learned to just shake it off and live with it. Treat it like a joke. Treat it like a compliment! Don't take it seriously and that way it wont get into your skin. It may be hard when it gets thru, but just tell yourself you are beautiful and you don't need to listen to them!
January 14th, 2016 3:39am
Why would they be calling you nasty names? Oh, that's right, they're actively trying to drain your happiness. Ignore them.
December 23rd, 2015 10:26am
Ignore them. You may have been told to do this multiple times and found it hard, but its the best thing to do as they will get fed up of talking to nothing soon. If you let those comments affect you, they will keep doing that, because is like a game for them but if you ignore it, they will get tired and leave you in peace!
December 7th, 2014 1:33pm
It's difficult to get over it, especially if it happens regularly because it wears you down, and you start to feel like the insults might be true. The best way to cope is to remember that you are unique, you are special and you are loved. If it helps, you could try smiling more. This will make people like being around you, and it shows whoever is calling you names that you are strong and you won't let them hurt you. Another thing to bear in mind is that if they are bringing you down, they are probably trying to bring themselves up. Though it is not the right way to go about it, they are probably having difficulties themselves. Remember they are only human, and every human makes mistakes. It would earn you a lot of respect and make you feel better about yourself if you could find it in you to forgive their harsh words. Be happy, you are beautiful.
November 21st, 2014 4:36am
Don't mind what others think! You're who you are and you're awesome being that way! Don't let the nasty names get to you, you know you aren't those things they are saying you are. You're strong and you can overcome this!
January 9th, 2016 10:39am
Raise you level and they don't matter. It sounds difficult but it's very simple and is rule of the nature. You grow- you learn- and you grow out of weakness basically :) Doctor gives you a medicine without telling you how it works and it does. The same way I am going to prescribe a medicine that turns a person into the best version of themselves. It's like food, therefore have it everyday. Exercise and meditate everyday(minimum 20min. and 10min. respectively). Every problem in the life won't change but you will be stronger to face it. Being called nasty names will go unnoticed :D
February 10th, 2016 2:30pm
Call them nasty names back. No matter what words they use, look for the underlying thing. Someone call you a slut? Maybe they are jealous and lonely.
December 23rd, 2015 5:24pm
I have actually struggled with this for a long time when I was of a young age (9 or 10?), and I was very affected by it because I kept relating how people call me to how they think about and view me. I realised afterwards that people who call you names are looking for a reaction, from either their friends or you, because I wasn't able to stand up for myself, and that's basically their source of satisfaction. So here are a few things that have helped me get over the name calling in the end: 1. learn to separate the names from the emotions you feel they call you; 2. understand that those nasty names in no way define you; 3. the opinions of those people, who resort to calling nasty names, of you do not actually matter; 4. don't give them the satisfaction of thinking that they've got to you, show them that you're more than a name and you're strong. They'll probably eventually stop name calling when 'it lost its fun'. Hope these suggestions were helpful, all the best with everything! xoxo, Amber
January 14th, 2016 9:46am
calling you bad names makes them feel better about themselves .. because the truth is : they are weak ... it's true you know !! so when they call you something bad , just pitty them for their weakness ... ignore them .. then leave ... this way you both learn to controle your emotions .... and you help them feel better about themselves , the 2nd one is not a bad thing , you helped them though you dislike them , it makes you a better person and a wiser 1 to .. you are too high class to even care what they think about you ...
December 25th, 2015 3:51pm
Whenever someone calls me something, I think about who I really am and that I'm proud of who I am. That person is just trying to hurt you. Don't let them :)
November 10th, 2015 10:45am
The best way for me to get over when people call me nasty names is to always remember that I have a family who think I'm amazing I have friends who love what I do. I also deal with it by remembering that they are doing this because they are hurt. So I just don't let that get to me anymore. Water off a ducks back
January 7th, 2016 6:21pm
Calling them nice names. It sounds so weird but it has been found to either make the person stop, or sometimes tip the odds in your favour. Once i was called a monkey by a classmate. Repeatedly. I started calling him honey or sugar. When they were asking why, I said that he is apparently so into me he wanted us to give each other nicknames. I gained the favour of the class with my humour and the individual stopped. Being nice does not mean you are last if you are smart about it ;)
February 3rd, 2016 4:47am
dont give a fuck, if there saying shit its because there not happy in them self. its not your problem
January 22nd, 2016 4:00am
Number 1 remove the negative person from your life Number 2 find an empty jar, every morning when you wake up write down one good thing about yourself until its full. when the jar is full sit down and read each of them one by one. Positivity will always trump negativity
February 15th, 2016 7:20am
the best way to get over someone calling you nasty names is to ignore and behave as if you don't care. another way is to show that you like being called that way then people will ultimately lose interest in it
January 10th, 2016 1:46pm
Just ignore them or talk to someone about it even if it's a close friend/loved one tell them how your feeling.
December 31st, 2015 6:29pm
Remember that when people call you names, it doesn't mean that what you are. Usually they are trying to bring up their own self esteem by bringing yours down. Sometimes they do it for attention. Don't call them names back, because then you stoop down to their level.
January 10th, 2016 4:39pm
Don't listen to them and walk away, if they start doing it a lot or if it really starts upsetting you,then tell someone
February 6th, 2016 5:39am
What I did was that I just ignored them. Obviously, I still heard them, but after a while I figured out how to block that voice out of my mind. Once they see you're not affected, they'll get bored. And remember - they're only projecting their own insecurities onto you.
May 3rd, 2016 1:28am
To surround yourself with people who love you, get rid of the negativity that is thrown at you. Remind yourself that the words that were shared are not true, and that you are an amazing person!
January 8th, 2016 5:53pm
Don't care about what they say. They either are jelous of you or like you, that's peoples ways of coping with that stuff
May 24th, 2016 1:32am
Let it slide. They are not worth your time, and you are so much more than a combination of letters. It is up to you what the definition of the word is. You define yourself and your labels, not someone else.
August 4th, 2015 5:27pm
Hearing someone call you a nasty name can have a devastating effect; however, it does not have to if you: 1) realize that every time you bring the thought to mind, you are allowing that person to have control over you and 2) realize that your self-worth is not in what someone else says about you.
January 23rd, 2016 6:50pm
Make an effort to feel good about yourself and don't allow them to bring you down. If you get called that name for something about your body, appearance or similar, the effort you have to make here is getting comfortable with yourself and being proud of yourself no matter what others call you. Don't hide and don't be ashamed- you make it easier for them to bring you down If you believe these people.
April 29th, 2015 11:44am
Realize that you are not the names that they are calling you by finding contradictory facts for the names given. As an example, if someone calls you a slut, then look up for what the word means (I.e., a person that sleeps with many people at the same time). Then compare and see if you are what they are calling you. Most of the time, it wouldn't be true so then don't internalize and let what they are calling you affect yourself
January 8th, 2016 5:05pm
asking them to flush their opinions down the drain 'cause they are shitty anyway, it shouldn't bother you unless you work them in the fufutre in which case you should care but hey,who said you have to work for them with love -me
January 24th, 2016 7:35pm
You should confront them. Even it's a friend who does that you should tell them to stop. Put your emotional health over other people's amusement.
January 29th, 2016 12:48pm
What you need to keep in mind is that the person who is bullying you most probably is going through a hard time, and doesn't know how to deal with it, so they take it out on other people. What you need to do is be the bigger person and not let it get to you. Hey, if you know you're not a "cheesehead" then why do you let it hurt you? Be confident, love yourself, and always smile. :)