What's the best way to get over someone calling you nasty names?
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Anonymous
April 14th, 2017 1:04am
Ignore them, you do not need their negativity in your life. In a few weeks, months, and years, these little words won't matter one bit. It may hurt now, but just lift your head up and walk right past them, like the amazing person you are. They'll realize this.
The best way to get over someone calling you nasty names is to void those names from their power. You can't control what other people say, but you can control how their words affect you. Remind yourself that you are important and loved.
The best thing to do is ignore them and do not believe it. What they're saying is probably because they're jealous.
Anonymous
February 7th, 2016 10:49pm
Ignore them. Evict them: do not allow them to rent space in your head. Understand that they speak from a place that may have nothing at all to do with you. They may in fact be projecting what they fear they are. Do not waste time or energy on people who want to pull you down.
Anonymous
January 28th, 2016 11:33pm
Realize that you're a human being. People will walk over you and treat you with disrespect just to see you get mad. Don't get sad because someone called you a name, you're beautiful and you should be happy.
Ignore them, or kill them with kindness, show them it doesn't bother you. The more you do that, the more it drives them insane until they eventually quit. If it's through social forms, just block them on all platforms, you don't need to tolerate it.
Realize that they must be very insecure to have to resort to belittling others. Also realize that you are unique, and that is an amazing thing.
I can't speak for others, but I reply to them with the same thing, I feel better and move on.Or, you can show you are better than them by choosing to ignore them when they talk.Pretend to talk about something else, or simply leave.
A person calling you names is flat out trying to be hurtful to you, which reflects badly on them more than anything. Remind yourself that they don't even care if what they're saying is true as much as whether or not they can hurt you. If you're being insulted in a professional setting or by someone in an official capacity, think about making an official complaint - you don't have to accept being bullied.
knowing your value, and realizing that there a lot of people out there who look up to you and want to see you happy, the opinion of a few shouldnt affect your daily life, dont let a bad yesterday ruin a good today :D
Don't let yourself be defined by other people's thoughts or feelings. Know who you are, and know that it is your right to feel confident, safe, and satisfied with yourself. No one has the right or the power to take those things away from you unless you give it to them.
Try not to stoop to their level. I always assume that if someone wants to go out of their way to be rude by calling names, they must be dealing with a lot more and I recognize I don't want to be on the save level as them.
Realize that their only doing it to feel better about themselves and that the names are not true. Treat yourself positively and ignore them
I think there's one really important thing: self-esteem. Whatever they call you, be aware that just because they say it, it won't become a an unquestionable truth. You know yourself best.
Anonymous
November 10th, 2016 1:14pm
Well usually someone calling you nasty names is cause they either can't bear your presence, or they feel lower than you or maybe they just want some good quality that you have but they can't get it. So if someone calls you something nasty, you can probably let go by just laughing it off or just amuse yourself by thinking "wonder how much time they spend making names for me?" Haha, or just let it pass like how you would when you hear loud bikes on the road, ignore basically. Hope it helped!
Remember that they are only doing it because they are treated like that themselves (or they will be soon ;D)
A narrow mind and a wide mouth often times go together.
Just let things go in one ear and out the other. Don't let their opinions of you hinder what you've got going for yourself. Often times when people are upset and blabbering it says a lot more about them rather than the person they are talking about.
xoxo
Anonymous
December 27th, 2014 4:55pm
You laugh along with them? Taking nicknames with a grain of salt is what I've learnt through years of being bullied. On the bright side during introductions or ice breakers you offer others a new perspective of yourself. Also, it just shows the bullies that nothing can get to you so long as you look at it from another perspective. I always feel like life is all about perspective and honestly, it hasn't failed me so far. So all I'm saying is that our time is precious enough for ourselves, why waste it on others who are undeserving? Live and let live. :)
Dont listen. Just look and smile. It's not what they really think. Trust me.
Fall in love with yourself, be your own crush. Other people's opinion on you do not define your self worth. Repeat positive affirmations to yourself a few times a day.
Anonymous
March 9th, 2017 4:00pm
People that call others names are just trying to make other people feel bad and other to have a laugh. It is wrong, but you must remember that these people have nothing better to do than talk about you, pick on you. This is how little they have going on that they resort to this. These people are also struggling, but you, you are going to get over a name, or a joke as it doesnt change who you are. You are not the bully, in 5/10/15 years when people look back at who they were, you will have a clear conscience, they wont! Be strong, be focused and work to what you want, these people will soon regret their actions.
Anonymous
February 15th, 2017 5:09am
Don't let it affect you, they call you names to get a reaction out of you to make you feel bad about yourself.
My favorite way to get over someone calling you a nasty name is to remember a favorite quote of mine. "You may be the ripest, sweetest, juiciest peach in the world, but there's still someone out there who just hates peaches."
It reminds me that I can be a fantastic person in my own light, and it's okay for someone to still not like me. Someone disliking me doesn't take away from my value.
Let it roll right off of you! Names are just words that only have meaning if you let it! Know that you're so much better than that :)
This is something we've all been through at one point on another and it can leave scars and shake our identity. The best I have gotten over being called nasty names is by changing what was said and believing the opposite, for example if someone called me ugly, I would turn that around and call myself beautiful. I had to consistently choose not to believe them and accept a different truth for myself. This has taken time to build, but it gets easier and has greatly increased my confidence and I'm not as impacted by the nasty names that people try to use to bring me down with.
It says more about them then about you. Well rounded, stable people don't feel the need to call other people nasty names. My mom used to say this to me all the time when I got bullied again. As a kid, I never understood it but now I do and I know it's true.
The best way is doing something else, mind you are better than whoever is calling you those things and maybe venting your frustration with someone you trust
Remind yourself that their anger and hostility towards you has nothing to do with you as a person. In fact, it's all about them. Perhaps they're insecure about themselves, or have an unhappy home life, and are projecting their feelings outward.
Don't let them get to you. Someone who calls you names may be someone who selfishly expects more out of you than you can provide. Just remember, while you may be worthless in one person's eyes, you're a treasure to many others.
To love yourself. To learn how to love yourself and ignore anyone saying nasty things to you. They don't matter, you do.
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