How do you deal with depression after a breakup?
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Take a deep breath. Confide in some friends and treat yourself. Also you can refer to the 7COT breakup self-help guide if you need assistance in handling your emotions. Also you can connect with a listener who is more than glad to help :)
Go back to acknowledging yourself and those positive qualities and things that you need to improve. Learn to find positive attributes about yourself that you wouldn't normally think of before your breakup.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2016 9:32pm
You have to start taking of yourself. Doing things that you find fun and learning that you are a beautiful person and you don't need a significant other in order to be happy.
Main thing is getting out of bed, up off the couch and being active and having fun and getting to know yourself again.
Look inside yourself, recognize that you are not the problem. Find things that further develop you as a person :)
Anonymous
January 8th, 2016 12:08pm
There are some people in your life who really care, love and support you. We have to think about them and try to make them happy.
Emotions can overpower our better knowledge like a storm overpowers a hut here. But have faith, and knowledge, that if any relationship doesn't work out, it only means that that breakup will lead to an even better relationship. Meditation also helps tremendously to calm these storms of emotions, where no logical answers really help. It's tough, but you'll get through it, even stronger than before.
try to spend as little time by yourself as you can, be with friends and family, when you are alone keep yourself busy e.g reading, games. Its a very hard thing to deal with but you'll pull through
it might sound cliché but when you learn how to love yourself all these situations are easier to cope with, get yourself up, get some fresh air, read a book, losten to you favorite songs, dance a lil bit and enjoy a good meal with your friends or family!
Anonymous
January 10th, 2016 6:07am
The best thing to do is keep your mind busy for a few days and write down in a journal why you should move on.
If a relationship ever fails, yes, it's completely understandable to be sad and even experience depression... Because the person who gave you so much time and attention and love is no longer yours. In my experience with breakups (especially my first girlfriend) It was tough... It will take time and it's no overnight process, but with the comfort of family, friends, or even strangers can help you up. But the most important thing is to realize that you can find someone even better than your last, and the one who can truly understand and help you is you. I spent time caring for myself and healing myself...
Anonymous
January 13th, 2016 12:34am
Put yourself in situations where you feel happy. Help yourself to forget about him/her even if just for a little while. It'll prove to yourself that you're okay with him/her. Do activities that make you happy or hang out with people that you like to be with.
Take a look what you have learned from the relationship. Don't dwell on how you could have done things diffrent.
I would say to try to distract yourself and do what ever makes you the happiest. Make yourself happy and surround yourself with positive thoughts and people and always remember that it gets better.
Anonymous
January 13th, 2016 5:50pm
You know it can be hard, but just remember that you now are one less break up from finding your one and only!
Breakups are tough. We've all been through them, right? I know I have. It is okay to grieve and miss, but sometimes you need to step back and look at the reason you broke up. There is something better out there for you. There is someone who won't break your heart and will love you. Sometimes the best thing we can do is surround ourselves with people we love. Go out with friends, go see family, or even just go do something you enjoy.
You can distract yourself with other hobbies and activities that make you happy. If you don't have any, then go out and find things that will take your mind off of it!
Focus on taking care of yourself. Either exorcise go out and meet new people. The most important thing is to not get hung up on the other person as though they are the only thing.
Dealing with depression following a breakup is never easy. Typically, I find that distancing myself from the person always helps. If a certain song reminds me of them- I don't listen to it. Forgetting the person ever existed usually helps me the most.
Anonymous
January 17th, 2016 6:11am
Try to have fun or dont think about the other person for a bit. Maybe try singing or dancing or anything you like to help.
Anonymous
January 20th, 2016 3:19am
Take time to refocus on yourself. Realize that the break-up ended for a reason and that the both of you can still live perfectly healthy, happy lives despite the fact that the relationship did not work out. Pick up a new hobby or dig deeper into an old one that brings you pleasure. Reconnect with friends and look for the positive in the situation. If you felt constrained in the relationship, then you now have the freedom to live life on your own terms. Make yourself happy and treat each day going forward as a new chance to grow and develop yourself into your best version of yourself.
Depression after a break up , can be overcome by first changeing your usual schedule , which you had when your Boyfrend or girlfriend was around make changes in routine , start some thing new like a hobby , keeping yourself busy not allowing your self to be lonely and isolated always surround yourself with people friends dont stay indoors , go out doors meet freinds , avoid talks which will take you to his/her memories , most important stop feeling self sympathetic , you mujst feel it can happen with anyone it happened with you for what ever reason , don't keep grudge against the person just let go not try hard to get back it will only hurt you each time if the other counterpart is not interested to make it up.
Because it's hard to see that someone cares about you and it's even harder to feel like your letting them down
Anonymous
January 27th, 2016 7:33pm
I usually try to hang out with friends as much as possible. Surrounding yourself with loved ones that care about you and that you can talk to is a key element to staying positive. Also keeping busy and focusing on your work and what makes you happy very important too.
It isn't easy. But you have to take it one step at a time. Focus on the positives instead of dwelling on the negatives.
Spend time with your friends and family. At the worst cases a medical treatment might be needed such as antidepressants.
Talk about your depression and get moving, both physically and mentally. Recovery will come but it will be in small steps so be patient and kind with yourself.
Anonymous
February 6th, 2016 4:02pm
I just find a different person to go to and depression I find ways to cope with it because those feelings is irritable.
After a breakup, we are depressed to a lot extent because our mind keeps revolving around that phase and never let us think about the other environment. I know it takes times as I have experienced it myself. But pals, what is the use of moving into depression when you know that you are no longer going to be compatible with the other person fro now.. So leave the past and grow the roots of new life. Moreover you will have lot many advice to deal with this. But what you need is to make your heart strong and calculative to tackle the future.
Anonymous
June 4th, 2016 12:57pm
I try and hide my feelings, I do not think about it. I just put on music and hide under the covers, depression can be hell.
Anonymous
June 4th, 2016 1:56pm
Listen to happy music to bring you mood up! Always smile and remember that life goes on and you need to be able to make yourself happy before moving on to someone else. Keep you head up!!! Always and forever.
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