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I feel like life is pointless. How can I find meaning in my life?

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I feel like life is pointless. How can I find meaning in my life?
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February 24th, 2016 5:48am
I am sure we all have had that moment in life that we have spiraled down into a crypt of depression so deep that we forgot which way is up. We lose all light that used to make our life seem bright, alert, happy. It is often times like a snowball where life seems to get more pointless with each passing day when you are trapped in this state. I understand fully what it is like to ponder about the future and what it could bring to us and if it would be of any considerable value. And the thing is... no one knows what life will bring to us tomorrow. But I have found that by setting goals... even little ones and doing any small goal helps. And even something like donating to a humane society or completing a goal of running 1 mile when your goal is to reach 5 eventually. Life is an adventure... and it is common not to see what you want to be or want to do when you haven't explored everything yet. Finding meaning in life is less about being rich and becoming king of the hill and more about finding something that helps others and yourself. When you find what you are meant to be doing, work starts to feel less like work and more like a call to action.
October 14th, 2016 9:34am
I found myself lost just like you many times and then I found myself back again! You see what I mean? It's great to be lost in life because it makes you question all those things that don't make sense in your life. It's certainly not a great feeling to be standing at the crossroads, but I can assure you that it will lead you to a better place. Many people don`t even know that they are lost, they simply do the things the world, society and the media tell them to do; in other words a lot of us are brainwashed. Sorry to say this, but I am happy for you in a way because you are questioning life. Soon, with the help of experiences, in your own way you will find answers too. Because, it is YOU who knows best what will make you happy. What makes you happy...ask that question everyday. Write what comes to your mind the very instant. Don`t judge or analyze what your mind is telling you. Just write. Maybe cooking makes you happy, or maybe just slowing down a little makes you happy. Nobody knows that but YOU. I keep a journal now, I write all that my mind jabbers to me through the day. Guess is from that very same jabbering, I get my answers. Our mind is so quick in thoughts that if you don`t rely on it, you will lose some very resourceful answers and thoughts. So start off by writing it all down. Remember it is a journey, you will not find answers to your question overnight through some magical Genie. So be compassionate with yourself, give yourself time and then slowly with time, you`ll know what makes you happy and how you can make a meaning of your life. Don`t forget to enjoy the journey because it is these ups and downs that create a beautiful, fruitful life. God bless!! :)
June 18th, 2015 11:43am
One foot in front of the other. One foot in front of the other. One foot in front of the other. Repeat till fade.
March 22nd, 2015 8:29am
Do what you want to do, don't think what others expect of you. When you just do what you want, and have fun, everything will mean something, because every moment of happiness has a point of being there. :)
April 3rd, 2015 12:33pm
Set goals. It may seem hard when life seems pointless but setting goals helps give your life orientation. Even just a small goal that's really short term can help. You can build up to bigger goals later on!
April 1st, 2015 8:24pm
Life can definitely feel dark and pointless at times. Find something, anything you love. An activity, a goal, a friend, a pet, a hobby, an education. Whatever you have chosen focus as much time as you can on it. I hope this helps.
February 13th, 2016 9:23am
First, this is a symptom of depression and you should be evaluated by a professional. Second, many people find meaning in creating (art, writing, music, etc.) or caring for others ( kids, elders, plants, pets, shelter animals, etc.) . Perhaps you could try something like that in the meantime. You might even find meaning in supporting others here on 7cups. Best wishes to you.
February 13th, 2016 1:44pm
Any rational man would say Life is Pointless, Nothing Really Matters and There is no purpose in life. But it takes a wise man to know that meaning comes within. You have to find your own meaning by doing creative work.
September 21st, 2015 11:16am
You are alive, talking, living, and wanted. Everything has a dark side and a bright side, you just have to find it. Success is born from many failures. Use the bad as motivation to have a meaningful life. Get out of the house, go to a park, enjoy the day. And keep smiling because its contagious :)
January 12th, 2015 8:56am
One thing I can suggest is taking up new activities. You might try learn a new sport, or volunteer your time somewhere. It's hard to feel low about your life when you're making other people's lives happier. I do caution not to just avoid the problem by keeping yourself overly busy, however. Always keep a check on your moods and slowly, hopefully, you'll find your way out of the darkness.
October 1st, 2016 3:32pm
There is a purpose for everything. Your life has had meaning before you were born, you just haven't found the answer yet because everyone has a different path, and different answers. A problem can be solved in many ways. Initially, Life itself is very complex and confusing. We cannot fully comprehend the complexity of how life works and yet it does. Its the same as, how we do not know how our thyroid gland works, but it works. It is something which happens by itself, and when you do not interfere or try to solve the ''issue'' of why and how, but instead let it happen and to let the experience flow through you and enjoy the moment because. after all, the present moment is that exists and will forever exist. In the Chinese language, the word for nature is ''ziran'', which translates to, '' that of which will happen by itself''. The flower does not need to be told how to grow, it happens by itself. Just as the clouds and seas do not need to be told how to be or how to form, it just is, being the true nature of itself. The same as nature happens by itself, so will we also manage to - so to say - find ourselves. We are also part of nature, important not to forget that. Let the experiences flow through you, live in the present moment doing what your heart desires and eventually one day, you will realise that all the answers to life are in fact, with in everyone of us.
April 21st, 2016 11:47am
Your enitre body is right now working so that you can live. You are alive and that's the biggest proof that you are yet to find purpose of your life and accomplish it. Find meaning of life in yourself and the world. Life is pointless if you just exist and don't live. Life's really simple, it's just not easy. You have to put effort to find meaning.
March 2nd, 2016 7:40am
To find meaning in life is to find the things that make you tick. Find the things that make you happy. For me personally I still have days I feel like life is pointless.. that I have no reason to live... and then I do something I love... I sing.. or draw.. or paint.. or run. I do something that I love. Because that is what makes me tick. That is part of the meaning of my life, to find the things that make me happy and be able to share my happiness with the others in my life or that I meet and make them happy. Happiness is the meaning of my life and making others smile is the cherry on top, the best part of my day is making someone else smile. Find something that makes you happy, it might help you lead to the meaning of your life. :)
September 14th, 2015 8:58pm
i mean dont take anything seriously just do what you want act like you are in a movie and you are just an actor have fun and go your own way nothing is real its just a movie dont worry about it too much
February 8th, 2015 9:03am
Find the little things that you can actually hold on to. Try to find joy in what you do. What do you enjoy doing? It can be anything. For example: painting or cooking or jogging. Finding happiness and hope is the first step to having a smile on your face.
June 16th, 2017 8:47pm
Feeling like you have no meaning in life can make you feel confused, and worthless. Every person has a different meaning in life, and everyone has a meaning, however it may not always be very obvious. One way you could try to find your meaning is by doing things that can help you build a sense of self, and guide you to self discovery. Find out what you are passionate about, what you are good at, and what you like to do. Aim to find out more about yourself, and try out new things. You never know what you can learn about yourself, and I would encourage you to try to engage in "experiential" type learning. Meaning, go and experiment with your life, try things out, and find out who you are. If you feel like you need some additional support with trying things, or help with taking the first step, remember that resources and help is available, and you can always look into those options as well. I wish you the best, and hope you can get through these unpleasant feelings. I wish you luck!
March 2nd, 2016 1:36am
Find what you really love, the little things in life, like curling up next to a fire with a good book, or stargazing. There are many beautiful things in this world for you to see, you just need to look.
February 16th, 2017 7:14am
You will find meaning in your life if you give meaning to other people's lives. Use the skills or knowledge you have to help or support others. The reward will be great.
March 2nd, 2017 11:42pm
You don't realize how small you are until it happens. I've been there before, but I realized one important thing. The world is a giant place. There is so much to see, so much to do, so many people to meet, and so many animals to encounter. Go out and try something new. It takes some self-courage, but believe me, it's worth it. You'll meet new people, try new things, learn so much about yourself, and figure out that the world is your playground. Take that first small step - go out and take a walk around the park, go for a bike ride. Don't worry about time or destination - go wherever you feel.
June 4th, 2017 11:20am
We have all stumbled upon some one and made them halt for a second while walking on the sidewalk or crossing the road or something. Though it seems like a trivial and inconsequential thing to happen, imagine this, by stopping them on their tracks for one second, you have actually saved them from a car that would have killed them while crossing a few minutes later. Neither that person nor you realise it. And you both just go about your ordinary life without a care in the world. That is just one example. None of our lives are ever pointless. We all have some goal. Most of us might fullfil it without even realising but none of our lives are pointless. If not now in the the future we will know our part in this world. So stay happy and optimistic and keep searching for it. Rest assured you will find it.
March 5th, 2016 2:49pm
Rather than searching for meaning in life, we should strive to make our lives meaningful. Engage in activities that are personally satisfying and also that improves the wider community. Helping others is a wonderful way to find purpose.
August 18th, 2015 6:20am
Join 7CupsOfTea. JK, but you should if you want to. Helping someone else, donating your hair to cancer, adopt a dog or cat. Thats what I did at least. I kept myself busy and tried to have fun. Didn't care how pointless it was. I guess my life still doesnt have much meaning, but they say their two important days in your life; the day you were born and the day you found out why. You'll find out why some day, until then it doesnt matter.
March 11th, 2016 7:38pm
Look around you, everything has meaning. And every person, I believe, has tasks in life that they don't realize is their task. When you date someone and you two break up after a month, your task, your meaning, was to make them happy for a month. My suggestion is to write down in a journal every good thing that has happened each day, and when you get down read through that journal. Keep your happiness true to you!
April 15th, 2016 4:42pm
Life is pointless which is why we have to create our own path, discover whats out there for ourselves. It can take a while, explore different paths and find the one that makes you most happy with life.
July 26th, 2016 8:02pm
You must find your own path in life ... I cant tell you why life is worth living you have to find it for yourself ... Find a purpose in life that makes it meaningful :)
February 21st, 2016 9:50pm
When ever I feel empty or just have a mediocre week or month. I turn to what I love, what I am passionate about. Remember what it is your love and what it is you like to do and that will point you in a better direction.
February 24th, 2016 5:06am
Life is never pointless! If for but no other reason, live for the sake of life itself. Life is a beautiful thing; it is an evolutionary gift passed down from our ancestors. We now stand on the shoulders of the thousands that came before us.
April 9th, 2016 4:43pm
All knowledge is self-knowledge. Know yourself and you will better know the world around you, and through that knowledge, find meaning in your life.
February 20th, 2016 8:08am
With Depression it can be VERY hard to find meaning in your life, being a victim of it myself i understand, so the point is to try to find meaning in the little things. Watch cat videos, volunteer to help people, try to make someone's day everyday, go to the park. It will be difficult i know but it's not impossible i promise you. You make life meaningful yourself, even if you have to start small.
February 21st, 2016 4:19am
Find something that you really enjoy doing, don't worry about what other people think even though that may be a challenge. If you try plenty of new things then hopefully you will find an area that you aspire to carry on with and hopefully in some way that will bring meaning to your life. It doesn't have to be about doing anything for the greater good, it's about finding meaning for you in something that you value.