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What does depression feel like?

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What does depression feel like?
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Anonymous
November 4th, 2014 3:15am
For anxiety, you feel like you're juggling so many balls that you just drop all of them and panic about the failure. For depression, you feel like you're sitting alone in the bottom of a hole in the earth. It's dark and getting smaller. You watch the light above you narrowing and dwindling.
Anonymous
July 24th, 2015 6:22am
Depression is summed up for me as wanting to do something, anything, and not feeling the motivation or creativity to do it.
MostColorfulHello
June 25th, 2015 7:47pm
Depression and anxiety are those 2 friends you never invited over in the first place - and they want to sponge off of your energy and consume your happiness. The key is that they are created and dwell inside of our OWN minds and we can control and manage them. You can choose to "make friends" with them and acknowledge their pettiness *and* push them into their own corner - but getting rid of them is a much tougher chore. Having a plan in place for when either or both of them show up is ESSENTIAL to managing the stressors that they carry along. Tell anxiety - out loud: "NOT today - and tomorrow isn't looking promising, either." WE are in control of our self - it just takes patience and understanding to manage the bad guys. YOU can do it - start today. remember - out loud if you have to - and be FIRM like driving an evil spirit from your home: "NOT today - and tomorrow isn't looking promising, either. Go the hell on somewhere and leave me alone!" ♥
Seqnab
July 22nd, 2015 2:56am
It is definitely an empty feeling. Whether it be neglect from friends, abusive/divorced family, there is a certain loneliness one exhibits from lack of love or respect given. Many know it as normal, they have not known any different feeling their whole life—they always wonder why they feel so secluded from the rest of the pack. But with enough self-discipline and courage, you can find the strength within yourself to overcome the feeling. Usually, that inner strength is not realized until another tells you "Hey, that's no way to live!" Anyways, that is how it was for me! Have faith, and stay safe.
Orchid17
July 31st, 2015 9:56pm
Anxiety; It feels like the aftermath of being on multiple roller coasters. It the feeling of your body being pulled and going numb as if you were still on the ride. To me, it feels like my body cannot stop shaking from the inside. Depression; It feels like I've given up. Like I will just step out at the right time a truck is driving down the street, my mind will go blank and I'll feel numb once the truck hits. No positive thoughts. Just one single word echoing in my head; "Die". I feel like this all the time. I hide it from everyone. But hiding it causes you more pain and agony than you can imagine. Get help.
BlondeSouthernBelle88
April 11th, 2016 11:04pm
depression is very empty. things just feel off or wrong, you dont feel hopeful or happy about anything in your life. you're crying alot for no apparent reason either at nothing, or something then normally would be insignificant. you feel like you are moving and thinking in slow motion, getting up in the morning takes alot of effort. carrying on a normal conversation is a struggle, you cant seem to express yourself. you're having trouble making simple decisions. your friends and family really irritate you. your anxious and worried alot. everything seems hopeless. you feel like you cant do anything right.
helpfulsam99
July 12th, 2016 5:25am
It's like something is pressing on your chest and you want to do things and be happy but this THING is pushing you back down and making you just curl up and cry. And there's the constant nagging sensation that everyone you know is happier than you. Everyone else is having fun and making friends and you're just lying on the couch looking at your phone because you feel like you already died so why leave the house? It's the feeling of watching dirty clothes pile up on the floor and knowing you could easily pick them up but never having the energy. It's looking outside and seeing nothing alive no matter what season it is. Winter is full of dead grey things but the sun in the summer is just as terrifying and sad. It gets to the point where sadness physically hurts but it's the only thing you know you actually feel because you're so numb.
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2015 2:23am
When you have depression your sad all the time and with anxiety your always worried about everything
Anonymous
October 7th, 2015 2:00am
I haven't been diagnosed with anything but what I interpret as depression is just this feeling like you're not worth it, like no one would miss you if you were gone. And it hurts so much and you feel like you have to stop it from hurting and then it all fades away a bit and you look normal but it's still waiting there, ready to pounce and strike again. And then the anxiety just feeds it because you worry so much and you panic and your mind is moving too fast and you can't breathe and you feel like you'll never do anything right and that just leads to depression again.
Anonymous
March 30th, 2016 3:52pm
You're always exhausted. No motivation, you don't wanna do anything and you don't care about anything. You could just lie still in place and never move.
AlexxBlade496
September 13th, 2014 3:48am
Having depression is very difficult. It's like you have a dark cloud that surrounds you wherever you go. Imagine waking up in the morning a your paralized. You cant move or do anything to help it, just lie there in a puddle of your own emotions. You feel sd and lonely for no particular reason. That is what it's like to have depression.
xoxowickedgirlxoxo
October 12th, 2015 3:28pm
its extra hard because you end up getting depressed about the things your anxious about
yessitshannah
October 26th, 2014 11:51pm
Having depression and anxiety is like watching everyone else around you swimming, while you're in the midst of drowning. You try to scream for someone to help you but everyone else is engulfed in their own thing.
rebelslueth45
August 9th, 2015 10:50pm
Having both depression and anxiety sucks, they're almost complete opposites of each other which leaves you in the middle of an internal civil war.
Anonymous
April 23rd, 2018 4:53pm
Sad, angry, hurt, pain, hate, negativity, pessimism. It feels like there's nothing to look forward to. There's this ache in the body that wouldn't go with any painkiller, a sinking feeling in the stomach that pulls you down, an overwhelming need to cry which wouldn't come out. Angry at yourself for even existing, angry that nobody understands. Fear of anything and everything, for letting people down, losing them. Hating yourself for feeling this way.. and the list goes on
JoyfulHeart822
June 8th, 2016 2:26am
It feels like being numb, except in your mind. It's like your almost too tired to gather up the strength to feel any emotions. You don't want to go out, but you don't want to stay in. It's not a good feeling.
Anonymous
August 16th, 2015 10:43am
When you are depressed it's like you are loosing yourself.Nothing seems possible. Anxiety is like fear
persistentCity7909
May 29th, 2018 3:17am
We share a love and hate relationship with our beds. On one hand, we stay in our beds to feel safe but the anxiety keeps lingering in our hearts literally while we are in beds. So ironic! Complicated feelings.....
zconnorg
November 4th, 2014 3:20am
Depression and anxiety can be very debilitating. It takes a lot of energy out of you and can keep you from doing the things you want to do. It keeps you from really enjoying life. I've found that going to a therapist once a week and going on medication for depression and anxiety has helped me personally. Sometimes you can feel like you are alone and feel like you will never get better, but it's not true.
Anonymous
August 8th, 2015 4:03pm
It feels like you're scared of bad outcomes that you can't change by yourself, it changes the persons thoughts to negative ones that simply aren't true.
Ibiihere
October 7th, 2014 10:21am
Depression is feeling unhappy most of the time and anxiety is loosing lots and lots of fun in your life :D
mamaBear88
March 23rd, 2016 7:51am
Like a deep pit or emptiness in your stomach that just won't go away or just utter sadness, loneliness, or feelings of being lost.
Anonymous
July 25th, 2015 12:27am
Many people associate the feeling of depression with the sensation of drowning or being in a bubble - being isolated and unable to escape from it. Anxiety, I would say, is similar to just being on edge all of the time, being hypersensitive to the world around you and feeling apprehensive about everything.
helpfulTortoise7459
April 7th, 2018 12:13am
I don't even know anymore what I feel, I cry constantly, can't explain myself, breathing is a chore that I have to seriously think about, my stomach feels empty I'm tired but just can't sleep I've been off my medication for 6 month now but really struggling without it
emotionalHuman8137
March 8th, 2018 11:18pm
Depression to me feels like having so many questions but never the right answers. It feels like you arent good enough to be yourself. Its like if your too much to handle. It feels as if nothing is ever right. Like if the knot in your stomach just keeps getting tighter. You set goals for yourself but your mind just tells you that you will never accomplish. All you wanna do when youre alone is cry in silence wondering why life sucks for you. Like you got everything but everything means nothing.. Its like an adrenaline rush.. You shake uncontrollably always taking fault even on things that arent your fault it feels like your suffocating it feels like sadness monotone & happy all together thats the worst feeling ever
Finishwellson
October 9th, 2017 11:03pm
Each day I mourn the loss of my prior self. I retrace the steps that led to the period when this beast cemented into be being, trying to make sense of it, my way of fighting for myself. The Beast begins its work on me the second I wake. "You're supposed to be dead and gone. Each day you stay is an abomination. In fact, you should never have been born." And at the end of a day of battle .. What's left is all I have for my kids. Others think I am weak and pathetic so I keep to myself and suffer in silence, all day, all night. All these years .. And the memories of before are stolen, one at a time. Soon I will have little to no memory of before. I miss living life. It's not supoosed to be this way.
Sp00nman
July 1st, 2015 2:47am
To have depression one will feel unmotivated to do daily tasks. One will feel as if there is no real need to do it. One who struggles with anxiety will feel overwelming feelings that just take over the mind and begin thinking of off the wall things that never really happen or will never happen.
bubbleComputer5001
May 4th, 2018 6:12pm
Depression feels like a never ending pain. It's a creeper. Catching you off guard for no reason. It's like feeling in the dark for a light switch in an open field of nothing. It's like a voice in your head reminding you of every bad n sad thing in your life. Depression feels like no hope at all
Anonymous
June 18th, 2015 3:18am
It varies, of course...for me, depression felt like a deadweight. A weight on my ankle, requiring extra effort to complete tasks that should've been simple. The weight was poisonous, too. It would seep into my leg through my body, filling me with not just immense sadness, but a feeling of hopelessness and helplessness. It was as if I was in a jail cell, with the door open, but the weight filled me with such thoughts that I was convinced leaving would hurt worse. Anxiety was so different. It was almost unbearable. For me, it was like having a loud screeching buzzsaw next to me at all times, or like being held over the mouth of a giant animal. I felt this indescribable doom, like something completely horrible would happen to me. Everyday things made me scared for absolutely no reason other than negative association. I felt anxious in my bedroom, so now my bedroom was cursed. I felt anxious in the car, so now there was something wrong with the car. I felt anxious with friends, so I knew they would hurt me. I thought my anxiety was a sign or an omen of something terrible, even though I really felt it for no reason.
soothingRainfall
November 20th, 2014 2:52pm
It is likely to feel sad and think there is no use in life anymore engulfed with fear guilt remorse and all negative thoughts