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What does depression feel like?

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What does depression feel like?
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ray99
June 26th, 2015 5:43am
Depression and anxiety is very hard. Something i struggle with today. you feel like you're drowning and no one can save you.
Sammy01
August 9th, 2015 1:20am
Depression is like being trapped in a fog, alone and afraid and somehow also completely numb. Anxiety is an unquenchable fear or everything and nothing. Meeting new people? You're scared. Meeting old friends? You're scared. No plans at all? You're still scared. Everything feels wrong and nothing fits and you're all alone.
becca2000
July 1st, 2015 8:35pm
It's caring too much and too little. It's being unable to get out of bed and then panicking about your lack of progress. It's 3pm panic attacks and 3am sobbing uncontrollably. It's wanting to die but being scared as hell. It's the worst thing imaginable.
Anonymous
November 15th, 2017 7:39pm
It feels like you want to die but you can't . It feels like you want to drown in a pound of your own tears . You want to cry but also don't want anyone to hear but at the same time also want everyone to hear . You look happy in the eyes of others but from inside you are burning . There's always that burning pain in your chest that you want to get rid of but also at the same time it is what helping you to tolerate . You hate looking weak and emotional in front of people but sometimes you can't just keep it in, you want to cry, you want to scream , you want scratch your skin off. The emotional pain is something that is unbearable. You don't know how to get out of it.
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Natureman
January 9th, 2016 4:18pm
Have you ever sat in a bus and people were laughing and you immediately thought it was about you ? something you wore that might have been funny or your looks ? that's a perfect example of low self esteem and anxiety. those people probably never noticed you but your self worth is so low you assume they think bad about you ?. Quick to feel tired, not having interest in previous hobbies, when people ask you how things are you always answer fine ? pretend nothing is wrong but when you are awake in bed you think and you think and it keeps going but your thoughts never have a goal ? for me that's what it was like to have depression. of course people noticed but you tell them you have changed, become more mature but deep down you know you need help. go and get it.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2016 2:43pm
Depression is like having the life drained out of me, stripping me of myself until I am a hollow shell, not myself but only this thinnest appearance of myself, then filling me with heavy shadows until I feel weighted down, crushed. Everything becomes too much effort - talking, moving, thinking, living, breathing. There is only this feeling of being crushed under an invisible mountain, the pain of the weight, the panicked feeling of not being able to breathe, the inability to move to reach out, one long agonizing moment after another until I am silently begging in my head, "Please, I just want it to stop, I just want to end, I can't live this way." No one seems to notice that I am slowly being crushed, that the simple things they take for granted - working, playing, socializing, laughing, cleaning... living - are beyond my strength to reach let alone do. I worry that because they cannot see the mountain of depression weighing me down, they will think me weak, or broken, or lazy... flawed in some socially unacceptable way. I become too anxious of how they must certainly judge me to ask for help. I become paralyzed, alone, under that mountain, helpless to do anything but let it swallow me up, hoping that it will just make me disappear beneath it, even as I am desperate to escape so I can simply breathe. My anxiety of interacting with others makes me feel I have to tackle it alone. And yet, the enormity of my depression means I cannot tackle it alone. I am trapped between these two pressures - anxiety and depression, alone, sinking, my life, my being, my identity reduced to a hollowness that is crushed as easily as an eggshell. In that think layer, there is no room for joy, no room for pleasure, no room for hope, no room for thought. It feels like existence, but it no longer feels like life.
Anonymous
January 6th, 2016 7:27pm
Depression and anxiety can feel overwhelming and like you are being strangled from the inside it. You may find you're sleeping alot and avoiding going out.
comfortableRose28
January 3rd, 2016 4:46am
Oh yes, I'd know that ! I have had arguable the severest most potent depression ever. It's like the light inside of you is there no more.. everything seems meaningless. A strange apathy engulfs you and you're too numb to even shed a tear.. you simply visualise the worst in everythung, again & again... and that manifests !! I have spent 5 years... on & off in depression. When you arent alone and you cant give expression to your depression inside, that is when anxiety strikes.. the strange fear like sensation in your heart.. for the littlest of things.. the unending what ifs.. sometimes the feelings happened even when i had no where to go. Nothing to anticipate.. i was scared for nothing. Dont be disheartened though.. if you're anything like me, you'll feel the anger soon.. the burning anger that will in the beginning be "Why me?" And might gradually go to "To hell with this.." then you burn most of the major reasons of your depression with a out and out raging conflit with your culprits.. it subsides. You feel better.. then you slowly realise none of this matters.. you might as well be happy anyway. Nobody cares. You begin to do things for your joy , you're hella rude & snarky for a while.. but that's ok. You thus get out of it and are now in a better place. :)
Anonymous
January 21st, 2016 8:49pm
It feels like hell. You don't feel well. You're afraid to be alone but also want to be alone. You feel like there's no way out there. You're too tired to do anything. Life gets very hard.
SylwiaB
January 23rd, 2016 3:43am
anxiety is the feeling you get when you miss a step by accident but it's longer and happens more often
Mike8448
January 31st, 2016 2:42pm
Feeling tired or very anxious. Nothing seems interesting and the future seems hopeless. It is as if the whole world has gone gray.
Anonymous
February 4th, 2016 7:14am
It’s crippling… You don’t feeling like waking up. You feel exhausted. You just want to sleep all day. You become hypersensitive towards everything; even the slightest noise startles you. You avoid social situations like school, work, gatherings, etc. You become very moody and cranky. You have sudden emotional outbursts. Phones and social media become your nemesis. You want to hate everyone and everything, but have no energy for it. You also become resilient. You learn to find peace with yourself. When you’re happy, you genuinely feel it. You start appreciating little things in life. You become more introspective. You become more observant. You become more empathetic and understanding to other’s misery and pain. You become more generous and kind. You become more helpful. You become a lovely human being. You become calm and strong.
Anonymous
March 18th, 2016 9:54am
Depression , is a combination of feelings that sometimes is very hard to interpret with words..However , mostly it carries the feelings of sadness-hopelessness-guilt-blue-misery-boredom-tire-irritability-aggravation-some severe cases..disgust as well .
Aia
March 26th, 2016 5:13am
Depression feels like, waking up one day with all of your motivation gone. Feeling like you don't want to live anymore or feeling like you're worthless. It could happen fresh out of a relationship, or alone, or just when you're stressed out to hell.
Anonymous
December 17th, 2015 9:13am
It's like being weighed down by an anchor at the bottom of the ocean and watching the last bubbles in your lungs slowly rise to the surface, knowing you're out of air, but yet also not realizing you are the one holding the anchor.
Anonymous
April 3rd, 2016 10:58am
like nothing. sometimes you feel nothing, sometimes you feel everything. it really depends on you though, if you read some tumblr post on people who "actually have depression" act and you don't have all those symptoms don't stress about it! everyones different.
Xolovegem
November 10th, 2015 12:35pm
For me it's like I can't breathe. I know what I want but I can't do it. I wanna do things but I end up just staring at my phone not doing anything. My mind is my worst enemy because it's telling me about how everything can go wrong and not how it can right. I can't see any positives. Physically I have a constant strain on my stomach, it's all I can focus on and it's like a small pit of worry and sadness all in one and it doesn't go away. There is very little that can make the feeling go away.
Anonymous
December 20th, 2021 3:20am
Depression has many types of feelings and symptoms. They are not always the same in every case. There are many types of depression, we can't define all. I have been depressed for very long time, therefore in my experience it's much I have felt. I can't say all as I can't express my feelings always. Buy I can say, it always (mostly) feels sad, hopeless, overwhelmed and not having interest or motivation in activities. We have anger sometimes too or guilt. We want to let it out so much, and shout so loud, but it is not possible. We feel that life is useless and world is hateful. We hate everything, even ourselves. We may also some time hurt ourselves. We want everything thing which is bad to end for ever and have peace and be happy. We want people to understand us as we can't speak our feelings much. There might be other symptoms involved too. I hope this helped 💙
heartsNcupcakes
September 12th, 2015 2:24am
It like being in a vicious circle of dread, hopelessness, and a constant fear thats not so easy to pull yourself out of. Its certainly possible though, it just takes patience, a little help, and one step after another of breaking that cycle.
Anonymous
September 8th, 2015 7:38pm
Having depression and anxiety is like being in a dark room, afraid to open the door because of uncertainty on the other side .
bluewhalesong
November 10th, 2017 4:32am
Depression to me is like taking a soaking wet sponge and wringing it out. That middle point of the sponge are my feelings being twisted back and forth. It is the hardest kick in the stomach without you throwing up. It is wanting something physically painful to happen to take ur mind off the invisible pain. It is getting hit & mangled by a train but not lucky enough to die. Instead, you lay there like twisted wreckage ignored by all & rendered useless but being alive to experience all the broken bones, ribs, & torn flesh but not able to stop the pain. It is a life sentence that never ends. It is a being in an abusive relationship that you cannot leave. It is floating in an ocean all alone, you don't die but your one step from it.
Alice2907
August 16th, 2015 9:18pm
To have depression is hard as you feel down and very alone as most people around you don't understand how you are feeling and don't know what to do around you. With anxiety as well you feel on edge and frightened all the time which can be worsened when you're having a bad day. Which can make you feel consumed by negative emotions
Anonymous
August 16th, 2015 12:54pm
It is feels like your world is crashing down and you feel that life is useless and that leads to suicidal behavior...... It feels like lava is poured on you
Anonymous
June 24th, 2015 7:37pm
In a depression you have no motivation, no energy, no empathy and no real interest in the world around you. You may even have no positive feelings or thoughts at all. Anxiety will limit your life to just the necessary actions. You may try to avoid activities like leaving the house, going to school or work, taking the elevator or the bus, etc.
Anonymous
August 14th, 2015 2:26pm
It's like this weight that no matter how hard you try, you can't seem to shake off. It feels illogical and causes internal anger. Because things that seem so easy to other people seem nearly impossible to you. Everyday is exhausting.
originalLion57
July 11th, 2015 9:51pm
Often, to depressed people, things seem pointless, you feel that everything's hopeless and that you're helpless. You want to get better, but you just can't see how it could be better. There isn't much light in life, the world is full of ugly things so why even bother? And with anxiety, you're constantly worried and terrified of things other people would consider small or unimportant. Things that other people without depression and anxiety don't even think about. Depression and anxiety are very abstract and can be difficult to explain and make others understand and along with the stigma that follows, it can be even more alienating for the people suffering from these serious issues.
handofheart
July 11th, 2015 5:59am
Well, it's like you want to stay in bed all day but then you get stressed out by all the things you're behind on. It's having self doubts about yourself because you can't talk to people the way everyone else socializes. It's like not having any energy and you're getting sucked into a black hole where it's easier to sleep the day away but you can't because your mind won't stop racing.
KittenFriend112
July 11th, 2015 3:26am
Depression makes you not want to doanything. no motivation, self esteem issues and doubting yourself. the worst self loathing. anxiety is constant worry over the things you think wouldnt worry you
Sanya29
July 17th, 2015 9:23am
At the very basic level it feels like a hopeless pit of despair which you feel all the time but it is difficult to talk about it.It makes you feel misunderstood and fear is an integral part of it as well.