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What does depression feel like?

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What does depression feel like?
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Anonymous
June 27th, 2015 5:10pm
Its like being inside a burning skyscraper.Staying in it will kill you and the only other option you can think of is to jump out of the window.
TheDarkestDarkness
June 27th, 2015 2:47pm
It feels like being stuck in your own head. You can't get out, no matter how hard you try. You fight and stuggle, but it always seems like you're losing that fight.
Euphrosyne
May 24th, 2016 1:09pm
It's like walking through a deep puddle of mud. You're slow, tired, things are difficult, but everywhere you look, there's more mud. And you walk towards the nearest patch of land, but it never seems to come any closer. Hopefully, you do get out. And you think you're fine, like that difficult, painful past has left you until you look down and realize you're covered in mud stains. Depression never really leaves you.
Aey
November 8th, 2014 11:00am
its like you're drowning and no one is around you, you try to fight it but you never survive it. Then you chock more and you just want it to stop, you want to feel okay again, you want to feel safe, you feel like you need a home.
AcornCactus
June 28th, 2015 9:43pm
At the same time, it's the extremities of your sympathic/parasympathetic systems against eachother. One part of you doesn't want to get up and go to school and wants to cry and sleep, while the other freaks out about the assignment that might be missed and they classes they might fail
NickManUtd92
July 12th, 2015 9:12pm
The feeling of depression is hard. Probably the most challenging emotion to work through. You get to a point where you are far down in the hole that you can't see the light. The hardest part, getting out of that hole. You start making progress upwards but there are so many things that knock you down. It's also tempting to just lay down and sulk in your misery because it's easier to deal with. Anxiety I would say is the most confusing emotion someone can feel. I find it hard to explain since there is suck a wide variety of things you can feel while having anxiety. You can feel insecure, paranoid, fearful, or confused. You can feel all of those things at the same time.
thatfangirlyouknow
July 12th, 2015 4:50pm
Depression feels like a weight pulling you down everywhere you go. The sadness always lurks in the back of your mind when you are happy and it always comes out to bug you. You don't want to wake up every morning. You will become engulfed in your sadness and it can lasts months or even years. Anxiety is just as bad. Waking up in the morning and stressing over every little thing. Double checking everything to make i=sure its all fine. Constantly bouncing your leg up and down, picking the skin of your fingers, biting your nails, sweating, repeating things in your mind, over thinking, shaky speech, a fear of messing up. They certainly aren't fun.
Jasmineh2000
July 12th, 2015 8:25am
awful, its one of the worst things ever, you constantly feel down and judged and you lose all your friends by it eventually
Anonymous
November 3rd, 2015 10:12pm
It seems like the world around you is collapsing, darkness has taken over you, your heart is sinking in a deep deep pit and it seems like there will never be a way out and that you might just... die. I have battled with depression. Currently I am depressed in regards to work stress and I feel like this is the moment to express exactly what I feel truthfully. However, I am not going to fall for the neagtivity that is pulling me down. I will get up and fight! I will not let myself down! Myself needs me and if I lose myself how am I going to attain my goals. I want to achieve so much! I want to travel the world! So I am just going to take a deep breathe, think about my blessings, thank God for them, forgive all who brought misery to me. Then I will smile, yeah that's a natural smile right there! Now I feel so much better! Hoorah! :D
Anonymous
March 30th, 2016 8:28pm
People believe you just feel sadness. In actuality, it is a combination of numbness and sadness. You feel numb to your surroundings, someone insults you but your only emotional reaction is numbness not anger or frustration
StayStrongNeverLoseHope
March 28th, 2016 8:59pm
Depression is when you feel lonely and lost, you feel worthless, like no one cares or understands you. The whole world is crashing down on you, your mind is all over the place, you can't focus, you have no motivation, bad thoughts invade your mind to the point that you start to believe what it tells you. It feels like you're drowning, like nobody is able to help you. Anxiety is feeling worried and scared constantly, you're worrying about what people are saying about you, you're panicking over things that might not even matter. It's a horrible feeling, your heart starts to beat faster, your body just melts, you can feel the blood rushing around, and you start to shake and you can't get over it, and it's constant. It's even harder when people don't understand you or when you really want it to stop, but it doesn't.
felipealfonsog
March 28th, 2016 6:44am
Depression is actually a very serious illness. It's very important to talk about your problems with someone and to receive treatment with a professional if it's necessary as soon as possible depending of your condition. To accept you have depression is something really brave, to accept it is to challenge it to become someone who is fighting and finding a journey to discover ourselves and our own strengths and love. The most important thing is to keep hope really high, it's always a light.
Anonymous
July 10th, 2015 6:36am
For me my anxiety was because I had depression. I used to get BAD, really bad panic attacks which made me more awful about myself, which let to the thoughts of ending my life. I used to feel hopeless and numb. Even though I was with people, I felt like I was in some sad island all by myself. Lost interest in everything I used to love, to feel something I used to try harming myself and slowly it became an addiction. having depression is not something you want to be. Having depression is not the same as feeling blue, sad or feeling depressed due to some small or big factor. When you are under the nets of depression, it is hard to come out because there is this thing in your mind where it keeps on telling you that you are not good, you are awful, nobody likes you and so. It is awful being depressed.
lovelystrings16
June 19th, 2015 2:59am
Anxiety means you are nervous about everything or anxious that something, maybe out of your control, will happen. Depression is hard and can make you think you failed at life and everything you do is terrible. They are different but they come hand in hand.
RollingTide
August 13th, 2015 6:25pm
Every day is a battle within yourself. A war waged from the darkest places covering you like a thick, wet, dark, blanket, while you run thru an avalanche of jagged ice and snow with your insides burning like the fires of hell as the concussion of bombs pounds every inch of your body. But thru that darkness, you see it, a pin prick of light which gives you a glimmer of hope as it speeds towards you getting brighter and hotter, only to realize, It was just another BOMB.
Anonymous
June 25th, 2015 3:33pm
It's like your drowning, you're screaming for help but no one can hear you. You're looking up and you can see people in your life who are happy and you wish you were like them and not you. Some days things seem fine until a voice in your head reminds you that it isn't fine, nothing ever really is. You begin to lose hope and the days all seem to blend into a blur, your friends notice something's wrong and try to help you but they don't know how. Even though things seem bad now eventually things get better, even if your sink a little you'll remember how to float again.
Miracle
June 25th, 2015 9:33am
Having depression and anxiety are experiences which will be different for every sufferer. So it is difficult to say it will be exactly like...... However there are some common core symptoms, suffering from anxiety can often be considered to be similar to the fear we feel in ordinary situations such as sitting a test, but magnified and prolonged to an excessive and unhelpful degree, so that it affects us on a day to day basis. Depression however is usually in that symptoms can be of opposite extremes eg. Not wanting to eat or overeating, or not being able to sleep or sleeping as much as possible, however the defining characteristic is a depressed mood and lack of motivation more common than persistant sadness though is apathy.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2015 6:07pm
Its like stepping into quicksand. Slowly it takes you in, until you are submerged. Cant breathe, cant think. After you pass through the sand, you find yourself in a dark, never ending abyss. Falling and falling. Never knowing when or if you will reach the bottom. But all of this feeling is in you, when you have to be in every day life, and function as a human being. So, yeah. Its tough.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2015 12:20am
From my personal experience with Depression and Anxiety together is hard to put into words due to it being so many feelings and past scares that its a drawn out ordeal. At times you never know what is waiting for you when you walk out of your safety net (Home) and go out and deal with the issues that blow up and bite us in the buts. I have been in recovery for 7+ years and still have issues that pop up and trigger me but with the Recovery Center Training and class's I took helped me deal with the issues in a fast and timing manner.
Anonymous
June 24th, 2015 3:59pm
It almost feels like you're so mad at the world for being mad at you for not "fitting in" with society.
stargazer3118
June 24th, 2015 10:54am
It feels isolating, lonely, scary and overwhelming. It feels like everything you're worrying about is the be-all and end-all of all things but at the same time you're worrying irrationally but it's hard to convince yourself to not worry because what if, just what if whatever you're worrying about might actually be something to be worried about?
Weallarebeautiful
December 31st, 2015 5:56pm
You feel unwanted. Your always nervous. You feel like everybody is against you. Your always worried.
Anonymous
June 26th, 2015 8:38am
It feels like you're on a beach and all this sudden you close your eyes for a minuet but you wake up in the ocean underwater, you want to get up for air but you can't, thats what depression is like partly.
AnxiousKitten
July 1st, 2015 11:02am
Being diagnosed with both, it is extremely hard and very confusing. A lot of the time I feel empty. A lot of the time I'm bored. I either cry myself to sleep or pass out after having a major panic attack. But it gets better. They are both treatable.
Anonymous
October 29th, 2014 8:59pm
It sucks. A lot. But it's also how you deal with it that truly matters. For myself, I learned how to live and cope with my depression and anxiety by finding things in life that make me content. When I have anxiety I begin to play a song in my head and listen to the tune to keep me grounded. I also found that talking to someone or even singing helps keep me from tipping over the edge to anxiety. I also found that breathing in deeply and just relaxing helps as well.
Anonymous
June 19th, 2015 5:13am
Having depression can often feel hopeless and kind of like you're drowning but at the same time, unable to sink. Having anxiety is worrying a lot, having lots of fear.
Anonymous
October 16th, 2015 11:05pm
Anxiety feels like having a little person inside you banging on your chest and never letting you relax or calm down. The little person makes it impossible for you to take control of your own thoughts. It takes your thoughts and makes them seem like 10x worse then they already are. It makes you feel like everyone else only sees the other person, and not you. You can never think things through and make things better for yourself without having an attack. You feel captive by the little person until you just give up and let them take over.
adventurousCoconut5536
November 9th, 2017 8:31pm
Its like I have feelings of intense anxiety, sadness, guilt and fear, all at one time. Weird things set me off, like even sad sounding music from a kids show. I was lying down while my daughter watched monster high and the dramatic music brought out sad feelings but I couldnt pin down any certain thing. Its like "toxic emotion soup".
Anonymous
July 8th, 2015 8:44pm
It feels like there's an elastic band round your brain every time you get frustrated. It skews the way you think and everything seems unclear. Your eyes hurt, you can't really think about anything.
Skygivesyoulight
March 25th, 2016 9:38am
Like you're lost. Empty inside. Don't know how to express your emotions. Loss of interest. Feeling like you don't want to live.