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How can I stop someone from hurting me when they don't care about my feelings?

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Last Updated: 03/26/2023 at 8:47am
How can I stop someone from hurting me when they don't care about my feelings?
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Anonymous
August 1st, 2015 10:09am
Tell an adult or someone close to you. If you tell an adult or someone close to you, they would understand.
Anonymous
August 1st, 2015 3:48pm
Its a saying "No can make you feel inferior, until you allow them to". People say mean things, they say so many things. Just ignore them :) That's a very powerful weapon :)
Anonymous
August 5th, 2015 1:59am
First, tell them clearly that their actions are hurting you, and ask them to stop. If they continue to hurt you, thereby confirming that they don't care about your feelings, then remove yourself from the situation immediately. Find someone else who does care and tell them what happened. We can't control what other people think and do, so our only option is to get away.
Anonymous
August 6th, 2015 5:28pm
First, you need to get all of your emotions and grieving out all at once. It's okay to be mad at that person, but don't be too mad at them like forever do you know what I mean? Secondly, just get out and have fun! Be with your girls if your a girl, be with your guys if your a guy and just try and forget about this person who hurt you and doesn't care. Make them want you back. Ignore them hard till the point of where they realize that they were wrong. And then you decide what to do and what you want from that point on! :)
supportiveIceCream52
August 6th, 2015 8:32pm
This question has an underlying factor of self-confidence. If someone is hurting you and they don't care about your feelings, you have to stand up for yourself and make an executive decision. Your confidence will lift you off the ground and help you decide what is best. It's a nasty cycle that you just have to cut at some point.
Jenniferroseh98
August 7th, 2015 6:08pm
The best way to stop someone from hurting you when they don't care about you is to move on/leave. If they don't care about the way you feel they are not worth your time.
Christe515
August 8th, 2015 3:50am
You have to realize that you are worth so much more than with that individual is putting you through. You are someone who deserves to be respected. If you can walk away and distance yourself from that negativity
Anonymous
August 8th, 2015 1:20pm
more emotional will make you more harm. try to be practical. if they dont have feeling of ur emotions why should u think bad. its their loss not urs
strawberryRainbows89
August 8th, 2015 7:26pm
Go away and don't look back. But first try to talk honestly about how you feel about it. What do you want to change. If it won't work, run as fast as you can. The question sometimes is the answer. THEY DONT CARE. But if you're hurt, you care. It's plenty good reason to save your gentle heart, isn't it?
Anonymous
August 12th, 2015 1:44pm
When you say hurting you, is this physical or emotional hurt? Is this person in your life someone close to you, or not? Have you expressed your concerns to this person?
Anonymous
October 5th, 2015 5:02am
What I did was I took a stand and I said you know you were only hurting me because I let you. My feelings may mean nothing to you but it does not bother me any more I am my own person I don't care what you or you think if you don't like me them why do u hang around me. The closets you get to being perfect it being your self don't let anybody change. If your like me and are scared to say it don't let it get past your braking point. If you want them to listen you have to do what you have to do (I don't mean hurt them)
Anonymous
December 11th, 2015 9:08pm
Try the best you can to remove yourself from situations where they can hurt you, stay strong and think of yourself
lovepaige
December 13th, 2015 4:06am
The first step is to stop allowing them to hurt you. The more you allow something is the more it will continue.
UndulatingKyle
December 16th, 2015 3:20pm
If someone truly doesn't care at all about your feelings, you really shouldn't be sharing your feelings with them. Separate yourself from them, or if you can't, don't talk to them about personal things that might hurt you.
TheNextFreud
December 17th, 2015 6:13am
An unfortunate situation :(. The trick is to be happy and in a state where your feelings are not possible to be hurt. Once you do that, you can handle the other person's pain as well, and help him/her through whatever it is that is causing him/her to cause the pain to you.
clh2os
December 17th, 2015 3:53pm
If you know they don't care about you, then remove value from what they have to say. Don't give their words any leverage over you. Once you realize that they are filled with venom, you can remove the effectiveness of their ammo. People only have power to hurt you of you give it to them
Anonymous
December 18th, 2015 12:00am
The only real way to stop someone like that is to avoid them as much as possible. If someone doesn't care about you, then there is nothing you can say to them to stop their hurtful behavior.
Anonymous
December 18th, 2015 4:27pm
take yourself out of the abusive relationship! drown them out. You are better than to let someone walk all over your emotions!
hopefulWords007
December 19th, 2015 2:18pm
you just cant..you will try to run away from him/her..,may be find another to distract yourself from him ..may be block him but he will stay in your head...but you can keep yourself busy and healthy ..with help of good diet,exercise,sleep,meditation,hobby ..be socialize and extrovert ..hang out with friends .Only time can heal your pain of onesided affection,attachment and love.
peachicus
December 20th, 2015 2:02am
Don't let get close enough to you to hurt your feelings, if they don't care about you I see no reason why you should put yourself in harms way trying to care for them.
Anonymous
December 20th, 2015 6:37am
I think one shouldn't let anyone hurt themselves. You cna protect yourself by maintaining good personal boundaries and remove toxic people from your life. This will help in protecting your feelings and you form getting hurt. The world is quite large, there are so many people out there. I wouldn't waste my time around someone who doesn't care about me.
friendy1
December 20th, 2015 12:58pm
The question has many interpretation in various situations at various places. These feelings can be personal, politically activated, religious, professional and so on. Therefore, the solution to stop hurting yourself varies accordingly. But, there are some common ways to do so such as: - The most basic suggestion to avoid such people who do not care about you emotion. - In some cases, you can not ignore the other person for reasons like :- you are emotionally attached with that person sometimes in past or still continued. In this scenario, rationality suppressed by emotions. Its better to go to the person to whom you trust and s/he will always provide the suggestions for your betterment. And try to follow him/her as much as possible and still if you involve with that person who made your life hell, it's better to go to some expert. :- Professionally if one hurts you, you have various options to deal with it though neglecting or avoiding such person is not possible. Therefore, firstly to make yourself that much stronger so you can maintain your calm and approach your colleagues or seniors depends on the situation and enlarge your support base to overcome those small bunch people's attack. - The most important point is that one do not need to hurt back as this will make you equally evil and will take you away from humanity and such hurt-game will be continued so long that it will not solve the purpose to get someone who care about your feeling. Therefore, believe in humanity and think rationally, you will automatically get persons around you who will take care of your feelings and it may also convert those people who hurted you in past.
Anonymous
December 20th, 2015 6:08pm
Know that the fact that you care is a strength, not a weakness. Use that strength to overcome the pain.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 1:53am
I leave them alone and stop thinking about it. Out of sight and out of mind. I'm not keen to wasting my time with people that don't care.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2015 11:58am
In this instance it is most likely the case that the other person does not realise they might be hurting your feelings. It might be best to simply talk to them. If you feel comfortable enough you could do this alone, or if not you could talk to them with a friend or send them a note/letter/email.
Anonymous
December 26th, 2015 6:06am
In this situation, you have to put yourself first. Worry about yourself and what you think is truly best for you. Maybe you should isolate yourself from the person and cut off communication. It hurts but it hurts a lot less than someone truly hurting you, at least you did this for yourself. You feel?
Miranda1999
December 27th, 2015 11:24pm
If someone is hurting your feelings frequently and doing to get a rise out of you then stop showing them the reaction or just tell them to stop in a calm, gentle, but powerful way that will get them to understand to stop, be rational about it though :)
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 2:14pm
Stand up and speak up. I've ever been on those feelings. It hurts you a lot, they make you feel like a dumb. but try to look deeper, your life, your day is just who you are who can control it
SaraMichelle
December 31st, 2015 9:11pm
The best thing to do is remove then from your life. It may be hard but it would benefit you tremendously.
Anonymous
December 31st, 2015 11:44pm
you can always tell an authority, i think you should not try and fix everything yourself it is good for a grown adult or an authority to interfere in this kinds of situation, even though the aggressor tells you not to tell anyone you should do it.