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How to be good to yourself and to others?

150 Answers
Last Updated: 11/28/2020 at 2:10pm
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I take a holistic approach in working with eating disorders, mood disorders, relationships, and the LGBTQ community. I use EMDR, Dreamwork, Stories, CBT and Cinema therapy.

Top Rated Answers
Brittany8013
February 21st, 2018 1:20am
Being kind to yourself is the best thing you can do, you'll feel like a completely different person, and in turn you will treat others with the same kind of love and compassion. Afterall, you can never truly love another until you learn to love yourself.
DylanxYuzu
February 23rd, 2018 1:05am
You could be good to yourself and to others by being aware of how you make others and yourself feel in general
Anonymous
February 28th, 2018 4:04am
Treat yourself with respect, give time for you, forgive yourself, allow yourself to make mistakes, always know tomorrow is a new day. Treat others the way you want to be treated....and remember every single person has a story. And if someone isn't being kind...it may be because they have something very serious happening in their story...so be a little more gentle and kind.
rainySong73
March 8th, 2018 1:26pm
We hold people, especially ourselves to these impossible standards and it just isn't reasonable. We are all just people trying our best, it doesn't matter if your best is getting out of bed each day and nothing else.
Anonymous
March 14th, 2018 11:44am
The fastest way is to start helping others. It creates environment where other people shows you gratitude which feeds your soul. More goodness in your soul, more goodness to yourself and others.
JusticiaPrimalDorogo
March 14th, 2018 9:29pm
Be non judgmental, compassionate, and open minded. Think of everyone as friends, and practice the ability to forgive.
rebecca947
March 24th, 2018 10:57am
We can only be good to others if were good to ourselves, so we are the priority for ourselves! Self-care is important and taking time out for yourself to do things that you enjoy or relaxes you or helps regulate your emotions, Then being good to others by being supportive, or funny or kind (whatever that is required of you as a friend/colleague/family member etc) should come easier :)
bubblingPomegranate95
March 31st, 2018 11:24am
Standing by your morals is staying true to yourself. Never quiver in the face of injustice. Don't be afraid to swallow your pride. A good person will take your sincere apology as acknowledgement that you have realized your mistake and have learnt from it. People truly blinded by hatefulness will use your confession of guilt, your words, to cut you down with. To not be only good to yourself but good to others, one must be empathetic- why let your hate control your actions?
Anonymous
April 5th, 2018 10:44pm
I believe being good to yourself brings the equilimbrium, peace and happiness to oneself. And feeling well brings the joy and the energy to be good to others. And being good to others means being good to yourself, which is amazing. To taste this amazing feeling simple smile and say “Good morning!” to a stranger every day.
Joyfulsmile
April 25th, 2018 12:24pm
I think i will be good by being helpful and a positive person towards other people and that will help me being good to myself as well
Anonymous
May 13th, 2018 10:41am
Start off with a strong sense of self-worth, believe in yourself and what you can achieve. See the good in yourself, this will help to see the good in others and treat them accordingly
sereneFlute10
May 16th, 2018 8:03pm
By treating everyone around with respect and compassion. Only then the world will be a better place.
Anonymous
May 19th, 2018 1:57pm
Planing your future , having respect for others and your self having a beautiful heart :) no matter how many times you get rejected or knock down or hurt you have to push through it and realize your not the only one suffering with something or someone it’s many others that’s suffering worser we have to push through it , life is to short , life is full of lies and many other things you just have to watch your self and pick good choices and never stop giving up !
Anonymous
May 19th, 2018 5:54pm
Maybe try being more kind about yourself and others.Instead if being negitive about how you look or how they look
FakzWift
June 7th, 2018 9:39pm
I would say that depends on what you find good. To me being good to myself and others is to value myself as much as them. Then perform no demeaning thoughts or mental "harm" to myself. But in the end, you are as good as you want or can be.
hopefulEyes19
June 13th, 2018 6:25pm
To be good to others you have to be good to yourself. And for that you must take out time and do what you like. Do what makes YOU happy. If you're happy, it's easy to make others happy.
CClockworkAngel
June 13th, 2018 9:01pm
Love yourself. Eat something sweet, and then take a bath, or exercise, or visit family. It's all up to the way you treat yourself. Then, treat others the same way.
Anonymous
June 21st, 2018 8:17am
Wow its nice question thanks for asking.being good is nothing but we should love ourself and we should be loyal to ourself.if you are loyal to yourself you will feel proud when you see mirror.
blanket7
July 7th, 2018 10:00pm
You have to learn to love yourself before you love others. You have to start by valuing your health and hygiene and all of your other needs. Then prioritize mental health. After you learn to love and value yourself loving others will come naturally.
Anonymous
July 12th, 2018 12:18pm
Before you be good to others you have to be good to yourself and that means treating yourself and everyone else with respect, as long as there is respect there is kindness
Sweetieangel
August 2nd, 2018 8:57am
It’s base on my habits and characters and surroundings also make make me good for others it will comfort them
gracefulVision63
August 8th, 2018 6:54pm
Accept your insecurities. The day you accept your flaws and love yourself, is the day you start treating yourself well.
Anonymous
August 11th, 2018 12:11pm
You cannot be good to everyone! So be good to yourself and the people who really matter in your life!
Anonymous
August 12th, 2018 5:22pm
You can be good to yourself by doing what makes you happy . Being good to other is by helping them and being kind , once you are kind to others you will get it in return .
ireadandgrowthings
November 4th, 2018 11:23pm
Self care is a great way to take of yourself so that you can be your best for others. It can seem a bit selfish at first but I like to think of it this way. Say I have a bucket and everyday I fill it. Sometime people ask for my water and I give it to them and now I have to go refill bucket. If I keep giving other people my water I'll eventually run out and I will not be able to help others or myself. So, I have to take time throughout the day to refill my bucket and that way I can always share with others.
Anonymous
December 23rd, 2018 6:15pm
Practice self love, and bring that love towards other people. Once you understand your flaws, comprehend them, and accept them (through hobbies, mindfulness, meditation, treating yourself, etc), then you will be able to do the same for others When you view someone beyond their flaws and problems, you can see the real them. This is important in making new friendships, because no one wants to be disregarded early in a relationship. This isn't merely ignoring your and others' flaws, but seeing them in perspective. This allows you to be a kind, open, warm person and you will learn to love yourself, too!
Anonymous
February 22nd, 2019 7:15am
Hi! Being good to yourself is very important thing, it is actually more important than being good to others. If you are not good to yourself how can you be good to others? To be good to yourself, you must know about yourself first, everything, your flaws, your virtues, your sufferings, your bravery, everything! Appreciate yourself because nobody knows more about your struggles than you, your self! Spend some time alone, talk to yourself. Talk to yourself as if you are talking to a very best friend. Every time you give gifts to your loved ones, give a gift to yourself too. Smile when you look at the mirror and say "I love you and I respect your thoughts, you are amazing!"... Being good to others is just the next step. If you feel good, you can make others feel like that too. Appreciate them, admire even the littlest things about them. Show that you care for them. Try to be as empathetic as you can be. All the best! :) Thank you for reading!
Anonymous
March 15th, 2019 8:20pm
By thinking In a positive way you will help not only yourself but others. You shouldn't judge people without knowing the hole story and you should always try to see the good in people and in every day Life situations. You never know who might need your kind words, and what difference can they have on others life's. You can be good to people not only by using kind words but also giving them compliments when they did something good or worth nothing. By being good to others you are not only helping them but also becoming a better person.
Hanaa00
March 24th, 2019 9:46am
I’ve learned to be good to myself and others by first learning to love myself and to give myself needed time and space for growth. You only become truly good to yourself when you learn to appreciate your strengths and focus on them rather than analyze your flaws. We all have weaknesses, and that is okay. It is okay to not always have it all figured out. We must not let it affect the way we are, and what we hope to make out of our future. By learning self love, compassion and empathy, we nurture love for others too.
Anonymous
June 14th, 2019 6:03pm
Being good to yourself and others are two very different kettles of fish! If you're looking to improve your self love, I'd recommend writing a short list of things you like to do to feel relaxed. Maybe write a diary entry or have a think about the things about yourself that make you happy, and things you're proud of (there's always something, no matter how small!). To be good to others, ask them what kind of support they need. Check up on friends every so often and ask them if there's anything they want to talk about (especially if you've noticed them feeling blue).