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How to be good to yourself and to others?

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Last Updated: 01/16/2022 at 3:03pm
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June 7th, 2018 3:03pm
It's important to always be kind to others, and generally we all know when we are being good to others. There's a little voice in the back of your head that tells you when you're doing something right or wrong. The thing that a lot of people forget to do is treat themselves how you treat others. If you look at yourself in the mirror, don't tell yourself that you look ugly. Would you say that to someone else? No. You deserve the same amount of respect and dignity that you give to other people. Just ask yourself: would I be friends with myself with the way I talk to myself? If not, then you need to change the way you think of yourself: you are incredible and you should respect that.
August 29th, 2018 4:27am
Its a good question, cause being good to our own self and to others is important to lead a happyt life. TO BE GOOD TO YOURSELF- you have to initially love yourself, take care of yourself, motivate yourself always whether the time is good or bad. Tell yourself to do hardwork so that you will strive unbound in your future. Be good to you, find your hobbies and just embrace your qualities . Tell yourself about the mistakes you have done and your faults, yet do not self harm, rather teach yourself to learn from the mistakes so that in future you will not face those mistakes ever. TO BE GOOD TO OTHERS- Care for the people who need love, affection and help. Stand for people who want support in emotional states. Do the amount of help that you can do, either mental support or if possible then to some extent financially too. When you are good to yourself, you will create positive vibes around yourself, and have good days, this will help others to get motivated as well, when they will see your success because you initially loved yourself and loved others as well. So be good to yourself and also to others, and lead your life in the best way ever.
June 17th, 2020 6:29am
Great questions! It is definitely one that each individual will answer differently. One thing for sure, is that it is extremely important to be good to yourself. Self-care is one example of taking care of yourself. Making sure you're mentally healthy is something that everyone needs to prioritize more. Being good towards others is also crucial. We need to treat all of those around us with kindness and respect. We are all human and each and every one of us deserves to be treated with dignity no matter what. To be good to others is to make sure that you are treating those around you in a way that you would want to be treated.
June 22nd, 2016 6:53pm
I think you have to have compassion and empathy for yourself first. When you develop that, you are able to feel compassion and empathy for others. And if you have that, being good to yourself and others comes naturally.
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June 23rd, 2016 3:57am
Treat yourself with respect, love and affection as you would to others. How you would want someone to treat you is how u should treat some1.
May 6th, 2018 9:26am
I can be good to others by doing simple nice things. Saying good morning and hello to loved ones and friends, giving smiles to strangers, helping old people cross the street, offering a cold drink to someone who has been under the sun are some of the examples you can do to others. Being good to yourself, on the other hand, is like treating yourself as a good friend of yours. Practice self-care and try to avoid toxicity... It does wonders! *bunnie beleafs in you*
June 21st, 2018 11:51am
To know that you are worthy of good things. To know that you deserve good things. By acknowledging the good in your life, you will find ways of extending that same spirit to others. Basically if you are to be kind or good-natured to others, you have to begin with yourself.
September 8th, 2018 9:03am
how to be good for yourself? self care. look after your health and emotions. set time aside to relax, maybe bath, use face masks, watch a movie. be active, do exercise, eat healthily but also don’t feel pressured to exercise every day or eat healthily all the time. be your own personally hype girl. treat yourself like you’d treat your friends, compliment yourself, hype yourself up - treat yourself like a queen. how to be good to other? treat them like you’d want to be treated. be kind, try not to be mean or rude or short-tempered and, if you are, own up to it and apologise. just be the best you that you can be:)
June 6th, 2020 10:54am
Hello! I hope you’re doing well. I think, I’m order to be good to other you have to be good to yourself. You can try self-care. Like having a day just doing what makes you happy. And as time goes by, you can manage it through time. Like taking at least 15 mins a day to look after yourself. Then you can try doing things for people that you would expect in return from them. Perhaps kind gestures like holding the door, saying they look lovely today, or even tell them that you’re here for them. I hope I helped you! Thank you for your time 😊
June 7th, 2020 7:13am
Being good to yourself is not selfishness and you can be good to others only when you are good to yourself. You can be good to yourself by stop blaming yourself for everything, making yourself a priority, taking a stand for yourself, doing what you love and many more. You can be good to others by respecting them and their privacy. Talking politely to them because we don't know what they are currently going through. By actively listening to them and making them feel like they are heard. By being empathetic towards them and being more inclusive and amiable. :)
July 3rd, 2020 11:33am
In order to be good to others, we first must understand what it means to be good to ourselves. In order to be good to yourself, make sure that you allow yourself to forgive yourself. If you make a mistake, allow yourself to learn from that mistake and try not to dwell on it. If you realize that you've grown in an area, appreciate and acknowledge that growth. If you feel an emotion, allow yourself to feel that emotion before figuring out how to react or respond to it. To be good to others, consider how you'd want to be treated. Consider the emotions that the other person has and try to empathize.
June 26th, 2016 5:29am
Practice self-care and try finding new ways to find positivity in the world around you - one great way to spread the love is to do some random acts of kindness
July 1st, 2016 5:32pm
Treating yourself once in awhile learning to care more for yourself then others. But not to stop caring for others but too care more for yourself as one.
July 9th, 2016 10:49pm
know yourself , love yourself and than give treats to yourself each and every moment :) the only person who can love you the most is you
July 10th, 2016 9:23pm
You be nice to yourself and others. You respect yourself and others. You form boundaries and have people respect it. You respect other peoples boundaries.
July 13th, 2016 8:37pm
You need to find something for yourself what you love, something you really get into and to be proud of yourself. Start loving yourself by telling you nice things to yourself and then move on to others. Encounter others with a smile. Show others that you like them.
July 15th, 2016 7:15am
Treat them with respect, and show them honesty. Be comforting and gentle, and hold fast when they need you.
July 15th, 2016 6:58pm
Compliment yourself, and praise yourself for all the achievements that you do. Even the small ones, and especially the ones that others can't see. When you learn to be more accepting of yourself, it shows through your actions and people are more willing to allow you to reach out to them, so helping yourself is an indirect way of helping them.
July 16th, 2016 9:40pm
I always treat others how I, myself would want to be treated. I try to put myself in other people's shoes and try to refrain from judgement.
July 21st, 2016 5:32am
Being good to yourself and others is a lifestyle that you have to accommodate. Complete and utter honesty with yourself and your intentions is a perfect way start to this journey.
July 22nd, 2016 9:26am
Talk to yourself the way your true friends talk to you. See the good things in yourself and other people. Don't judge them by their looks but on how they speak and act.
July 27th, 2016 6:20am
believe in yourself ! respect other listen to their point of opinion , take them in consideration but do what best suits you . smile often. :)
July 28th, 2016 4:17am
I think one can cause the other. It's easier to be good to other people when you're just starting out. Be honest with people, but be cautious with thoughts that may offend others. Do things for others that you would like people to do for you, whether that's helping them with a difficult task, talking to them about their problems, or just making them laugh. It doesn't have to be huge gestures but every little bit counts. Eventually, the good you do for other people will reflect on the good you do for yourself. You will find that you are more confident and accepting of yourself as you learn to accept and appreciate others.
July 28th, 2016 10:58pm
Well be kind and love yourself and start by just saying nice things about yourself and other and smile feel confident 😊
August 6th, 2016 4:05am
Respect, honesty, and communication are a great foundation for any kind of relationship, whether it be with yourself or others. Always really listen to yourself, or others, acknowledge what you really need or what others are literally saying. Be kind to yourself and to others, people make mistakes and most people are at least well-intentioned. Similarly, give yourself a break: it's okay to Just Stop now and then and relax without pressuring yourself. Know when to give up with other people: persistence shows a lack of respect and listening skills. Treat yourself and others: go on a walk, a nice restaurant, do something you really enjoy just for the sake of it.
August 6th, 2016 7:13pm
Treat yourself ocassionaly, do things you love to do. Share moments and memories with you friends and family, and treat people how you would want to be treated.
August 7th, 2016 9:09pm
I think a way to be good to yourself is to list a few positive traits that you have and list things you are grateful for. Being good to others can be as easy as a friendly smile or forgiving someone for something that may have offended or hurt you and sending them positive wishes in their life.
August 10th, 2016 2:26pm
Physically: Eat healthy, get job done moderately, daily exercise and sleep well. Mentally: Remain good mood, think positively and be kind.
August 11th, 2016 11:51pm
Treat yourself and others the way you would treat someone you greatly admire. Imagine if you were to run into someone in great distress. Treat yourself and others the way you would treat them.
August 12th, 2016 1:38pm
Respect yourself love yourself be proud of yourself don't underestimate yourself & before you offer help & happiness to anyone make sure you do that to yourself first & always give sometime to your own where you sit alone in peace and let go of whatever in your mind