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I have very rapid mood swings, what's the best way to manage them so no one gets hurt?

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Last Updated: 12/20/2020 at 3:16am
I have very rapid mood swings, what's the best way to manage them so no one gets hurt?
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August 3rd, 2018 2:53am
Identify the triggers to your mood swings. You can curb them by engaging in hobbies and things you love and also spending time with your loved ones. If we slow down we can change our thoughts, which in turn will change our feelings. We then become aware that there is a space between our feelings and our reactions. It is tricky at first because the normal old emotional reactions still come into play but the more we practice, the more we have control over how our moods affect the people around us.
September 16th, 2018 4:19pm
Try and think through and catch each emotion before it sinks really high or really low. Try and prepare yourself and others so its not a shock to anyone. You could speak to a councillor or psychiatrist to see if theres any help they'd be willing to try, or any therapy groups you could attend to learn to manage you're rapid mood swings. Learning how to spot when a mood swing is occurring is important, as you can mentally prepare yourself and ensure you are safe, and those around you are also at their safest. Best of luck, i hope this helped a little!
October 20th, 2018 7:05pm
Telling others about this can really help this situation because, if you have a mood swing and the person is aware that this is something you're struggling with, then he or she can come to terms with whats happening, instead of being offended, for example. I can imagine that it must be tough for you because you don't want anyone to judge you or for you to hurt anyone, and I do have a lot of sympathy for you. If you ever feel like things are getting a bit difficult, maybe there is something your Doctor can help you with, and although they may not be a counsellor, it can also give you a person to talk to. I wish you all the best :)
December 23rd, 2018 9:56pm
Go into a room where you can be alone and try meditation and things that you can do to calm Down , explain to the people that you may be upsetting that you are having a bad day and most people will be understanding. You could try other methods to that could make you overcome the mood swings and also if it get to much for yourself you could try medication. Not all medications is right but a lot can help. You could try relaxation videos online or outta a book there’s many ways to reduce your stress levels
February 7th, 2019 4:00am
The fact that you have acknowledged this is a wonderful start. Apologising always helps. Not "I'm sorry I said that, but..". A real apology. "Im really sorry I did that. I wasn't in my right mind for a second, and it wasn't your fault." Letting people know beforehand that you're not feeling very personable or you're feeling a bit irritable is wonderful too. There is no shame in admitting that you're having a "funny five minutes". We all get them. I suffer from BPD. My mood swings are immense. When I feel like I am having a bad turn, I let my husband know before hand. He's wonderful about it, granted. Once it has passed, I apologise and he simply states that he understands, and is grateful that I let him know beforehand.
March 14th, 2019 9:53am
HI, mood swings can have various reasons. on thing you can start doing to manage it effectively is Meditation. Start sitting quite for 20min each day and have positive visualization or only breathing exercises . It will make you feel more calmer and your reaction will have more control. Also developing self control is on anger management therapist to find out trigger points.Also you can make a note of incidents where you feel you are having mood swings or you could have reacted in different way. I always feel seeking help from expert mental health practitioner is one of the important step in self love. I hope this helps.
March 21st, 2019 8:19am
I've always managed my own mood swings by taking the time to sit by myself and sort it out; whether that be by writing what I'm feeling down or introspecting. Breathe. It's alright to feel the way you do, and it doesn't make you a bad person. What matters is that you have taken the time to sort yourself out. Your true friends and family will understand that you need to be alone. If you want to make it less likely for people to approach you while you're calming down, I'd suggest plugging in your earphones but not actually playing any music; that way most people will be deterred, and you'll be able to avoid hurting anyone.
April 21st, 2019 3:20am
That sounds highly stressful. Coping with mood swings especially when they change so quickly is not an easy task. There is hope though. Something that has helped me is to try and slow things down. When I am heading towards a panic or doing something I'll regret, forcing myself to take things slow can help. I do this by stopping what I'm doing and taking a deep breath. Once my breathing has calmed, I try to look at what upset me with clearer eyes. Only then do I proceed. Overall, stopping myself in that moment and slowing things down has been helpful to me.
July 11th, 2019 10:30am
I used to struggle with this a lot. And many times, some people did end up getting emotionally hurt by me. But over time, I learned to manage them to some extent. What I do in those situations is label my emotions as accurately as I can. To label something automatically means to rationalize it in a way. And it’s much easier to cope with something that’s labeled, logical, rational, that isn’t just an undefined feeling anymore, with something that has finally been given some description and a meaning. I found this to be very helpful for managing my own mood swings.
August 20th, 2019 5:02pm
Well, moods swings almost mostly come from strong repressed emotions - strong enough to identify - and corresponding supplementary thoughts. These thoughts key the begin digging into what is the emotional issue. With that, it's always best to ask oneself "Why am I getting emotional now?" This question Why has the ability to allow you to pause and rationalize the mood swing content. In turn this allows you to organise your moods better to suit why you are moody. In turn, if possible enables you find out the real source and possibly a solution (with help) to the mood problem. With clarity and organisation, while emotions may be strong - they now evolve into emotional content.
October 26th, 2019 1:41am
I would say, meditation (guided or putting on some meditative music and just observe what you observe about where your thoughts and feelings are heading e.g fear, emotional pain, a sense of grief or confusion) can really assist in centering and grounding a person. It really helps with self-acceptance, which is necessary in understanding what's going on within, discovering what triggers those rapid mood swings and facing the situation with a positive constructive manner, that promotes self-growth. Be open and gentle with yourself, show the compassion you would show to your best friend or a person you deeply care about. Always remember, it's okay where you are right now, and with the intention of improving your position, create a 15-30 self-care routine, in your everyday life. You'll see after a while you'll understand yourself more and your mood swings are going to be majorly improved!
November 15th, 2019 2:20am
I used to experience this a lot few years back. Looking back, the main and most effective way I dealt with rapid mood swings is by taking a step back from situations and remembering to breathe. This is because taking the time to focus on your breath helps lower your heart rate, which leads to your body feeling more calm and less likely to act on impulse. It will feel hard at first to do so, but with practice, you will improve and have better control with your mood swings. A good way to practice by yourself is through meditation. Doing a short, 5 minute breathing meditation daily where you concentrate solely on your breathing helps make it easier to get yourself back into this calm state through focusing on breaths when you face these situations in the future.
December 28th, 2019 7:49pm
I think that realizing you have these mood swings is a very important first step, the second step would maybe even be going to the doctor to see if they can help with controlling it better. Otherwise meditating and breathing techniques can be very helpful in these situations. Being able to recognize when you are feeling a certain way is a really good way to help stay in control. I would try making a list of your moods and what might trigger them, then you will be able to recognize further when they might be about to happen. Good luck!
January 13th, 2020 10:45pm
Thanks for acknowledging an area that you are working to improve within yourself. It is admirable when people want to grow beyond their challenges. Meditation is huge. There are many formats for meditation so just because you tried it once, does not mean that it is not for you. By tapping into your inner self you are more aware of when you are more likely to react in a harmful way toward yourself, or others, and so by learning to meditate you can also learn to respond, instead of react. Additionally, evaluating your diet, exercise and supplements and adjusting accordingly will also assist you in preventing some of those extremes that could cause injury. Being aware of what foods trigger your moods and making sure to exercise in a way to help naturally moderate your mood will all be helpful courses of action. Thank you for working to create more peace and harmony in your life while reducing the number of harmful instances to yourself and others.
March 25th, 2020 2:37am
when I have very rapid mood swings I have to separate myself from the situation and the people I care about. For everyone it’s different, but for me I try to distract myself with coping mechanisms. If I’m angry I’ll take a walk, if I’m lonely I’ll call my friend, if I’m depressed I’ll try to do art. The best way for me when my bipolar gets the best of me is to physically distance myself and take a few moments to breathe and think about what I’m doing. I often get very angry and then I feel very guilty for feeling so angry in the first place so I take a long walk with loud music or I’ll try to take a nap and think myself through before socializing so that I don’t mess up the few social connections that I have.
April 2nd, 2020 12:49pm
hello you are chatting to timeforothers56 is this your first time on 7 cups I am an active listener how can I help you today do you feel your moods are out of control how does this affect you are you worried it will affect your relationship with your family you can get help with this I know it can feel overwhelming . have you thought you might benefit from anger management I can help refer you to someone if you would like I am here to listen if you need to talk just know that this can be managed and you are not alone
April 4th, 2020 11:26pm
If mood swings get severe as to wanting to hurt someone or destroy property, it is best to seek counseling or therapy services. I have had to and still to seek therapy services for some problems I'm having. Mood swings could be caused by a variety of issues, such as imbalance, stress with family, friends, relationships, work, school, or a traumatic event, whether or not it was recent. In my experience, I've had many things come up in my life, such as issues with abusive family member, and social anxiety in school. I have overcome a lot of these by seeking therapy services, practicing healthy habits such as eating well, sleeping and lots of exercising.
April 9th, 2020 11:20pm
So, you feel that your rapid mood swings can get people hurt? Has anyone indicated that they were hurt because of your mood swings or is it something you feel yourself? What are your feeling when you go from one type of mood to another? Is there anything that triggers a mood swing or is it something that comes out of the blue. Rapid mood swings may or may not generate physiological responses like excessive sweating, fast heart beat, and even headaches. Sometimes, those physiological changes can give us some clues as to the imminence of a raid mood swing.
April 17th, 2020 7:24pm
I definitely relate to this. I find it helpful to reflect on how I’m feeling and take deep breaths and come to terms with how I’m feeling. Look back and see how your body reacts to certain situations and learn what makes you feel better, whether that be breathing, exercise, fresh air. Try and understand how you react to certain things and how you can help yourself relax. Eventually, you may find it easier to figure out when you might have a mood swing and use your way of relaxing (exercise, breathing etc) before you upset someone. It’s very thoughtful of you to think about how others feel in these situations. I hope this helped. Make sure you listen to your body :)
April 18th, 2020 9:26pm
If you can, go see your doctor. You might have anything from distrubance with your menstrual cycle, bipolar, etc. If you can't physically see a doctor during the current virus check to see if your healthcare provides anything like video chat or messaging a doctor to talk about these mood swings. That can also help you get more information on it and could potentially help you lessen them. Doing some research on rapid mood swings also isn't a horrible idea. Just don't feel like everything you may read is everything you have. It's just good to research about it and see what exactly you might be dealing with or could potentially have. It'll give you good ways to help treat it as well, if possible. Another thing, having those mood swings shouldn't make you feel like you'll hurt anyone. There are many people who know someone who deals with it, whether it's minor or major. If people care about you, they'll still be there for you during your mood swings. People are more understanding and forgiving than we think. If some don't, don't take it personally and don't think you have to protect or have everyone's good grace in mind. At the end of the day, you should take care of yourself and then others. They'll understand and still be there for you. Don't forget the ones who love you and are there to support and help you through anything you face in life. I hope you find the answers to all of this and just know the 7 cups of tea community is always there for you! Good luck!
April 23rd, 2020 9:11am
I think being aware of the face you have rapid mood swings is a great starting point. For me, it would be important to recognise the signs that a mood swing may be coming. This could be done through some self reflection, try to work out what your triggers are or what kind of situations or people make this happen more. Once you know and are comfortable with your triggers, when you experience one of them you need to get yourself out of that situation. Whether that be letting the others know that you need to leave a conversation but you'll return to it when you feel you can better handle it or have had time to think it over. It also may help to share your thoughts with your close friends and family, let them know what your triggers are so they can help avoid these and be understanding should a rapid mood swing happen.
April 24th, 2020 6:48am
Keep a mood journal. Keep a track of the activities that you're doing over the course of the day and how your mood is fluctuating. One such app that I've used personally is Daylio. It has a fairly intuitive design and it takes less than a minute to log your activity and mood. Data can help you find out what triggers you. And therefore you could be more informed about how to deal with the situation. At the same time, tell the people you spend most time with what you're going through and ask them to treat you with compassion. At the same time, you should also treat them with empathy. That way, you're also ensuring that the people closest to you don't get hurt.
April 26th, 2020 2:42am
Take a moment away from anyone or the situation and count to 10 once you feel calm you can return to what you are doing. If you feel you cant control your mood then you need to remove yourself completely and focus your mind onto something else. Breathing deeply can physically calm you down. Thinking about what you are about to say can also help to calm you down as you can see how it will effect the other person and set off something in your head to calm you down. Also take time for yourself it will help prevent mood swings.
May 2nd, 2020 11:17pm
Before you feel like you're emotions are getting out of control, take yourself out of the situation and try your best to calm yourself down by doing some deep breathing exercises. Try and weigh out the pros and cons of engaging in your emotional behaviour and if it doesn't seem like you'll benefit from doing this then repeat the steps mentioned earlier. If you still find that your rapid mood swings bother you, maybe go seek a professional about them and hopefully they will be able to help you. It can be difficult to control your mood swings, but learning to separate your logical mind from your emotions is a good way to help them be controlled.
May 13th, 2020 8:44pm
Try thinking about the origin of why you have these mood swings. Taking a step back, and looking more at yourself as an observer, can help you figure out why you are feeling a certain way. You can also reach out to someone who you trust and who knows you well. This way, they may be able to provide you with guided insight, and can help you make the first steps to managing how you feel. If you do not have anyone you feel that you trust, try talking to a listener on 7cups, or if you have a local counselor, you can try reaching out to them.
May 23rd, 2020 1:58am
Rapid mood swings could be bipolar disorder. The best way to help contaminate it is visiting a doctor since it has something to do with the chemicals in the brain. If it isn't bipolarism and just a natural personality trait then I'd suggest trying meditation and Yoga as a method of relaxation and exploring your mind and body and attempt to control it. Meditation is a great way to start-off learning to control yourself with. Meditation could even help you with a lot of issues aside rapid mood swings: Like depression, anxiety, stress, and so much more. Meditation is amazing.
May 29th, 2020 12:02pm
Know when your mood is about to change and think of the possible events that may happen. Then decide. It is best to plan ahead. You could also let people know what you're feeling. You can tell them ahead of time so that they won't be surprised by your sudden change of behavior. You could also ask a friend or someone else (who knows you very much) to assist you when the mood swings happen. They can make you calm or warn the people instead. However, it's you who knows yourself best. Think of the things why and when this mood swing keeps happening.
June 5th, 2020 7:10pm
I often find that when my temper is high exercising helps me cool off. Alternatively meditative practices can help you calm down. The Endorphins released by exercise can also help you feel happier. Additionally if one does not sleep enough they often become easily moody, its important to maintain a proper sleep schedule. This works with most people but sometimes an underlying condition can be to severe to be solved with lifestyle changes. If all else fails therapy can help you identify sources for your emotional outbursts, sometimes its the result of past circumstances other times the result of genetics. Regardless identifying the reason is the first step to solving the problem.
June 24th, 2020 6:20pm
I struggle with this as well and what really helps is taking the time to breathe and think rationally before being impulsive. Close your eyes and visualize yourself in a calm, collected state. If you need to, leave the room and take some time to release the anger. Another great way to manage mood swings is to keep yourself occupied! Go on a walk, listen to some music and even taking a shower is super helpful. In these moments, you have to remember that these feelings will pass and you can control them more than you truly think. Good luck❤️
June 25th, 2020 5:22am
This is quite a difficult situation. I also relate with this so I am going to share some tips of mine. Firstly, don't suffer in silence, you need your support network, explain to them how you are feeling and that you are trying to make a change but you need them to be understanding. Speak to a medical professional, they can help you and it is a secure, safe environment to be in to discuss this. I then after that found when I was offered DBT in a group setting that I couldn't go through with it but I purchased the book online that most medical providers use in this type of therapy and I found the book and exercises involved really helped.