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Welcome to 7 Cups! Introduce yourself here!!
by Heather225
Last post
 13 hours ago
...See more Welcome to our community! We're excited to meet you! Please introduce yourself below. * Some questions you could consider answering in your intro: * What brought you to us? * What do you hope to find here? * What are your goals for being part of the community? * (Listeners) Why did you sign up to listen? Feel free to ask questions about the platform if you have any, and someone will tag you with an answer! Afterward, be sure to check out and bookmark our welcome pack for everything you need to know starting: * Members [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1M53Nm5-pbtxx2_jKfXYgYzo3NgXxjNfMwfzVSRC1rZg/] * Listeners [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1J0P_a463RsOkBFmgE4hqMUPCyqD98MCZO_r8PAb4ERs/edit?tab=t.0#heading=h.6zoipvarg5nu] We've got vibrant 24/7 group chats too! * Drop into the Welcome Lounge [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=2_f395c98453a717bbF6hCCUHAA-EWeyBTXj35lA] to meet other newbies! * The Sharing Circle is open for support to adult members. Drop in HERE [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmJndHyWk5edlLBlWVrCnQ!!] to share what's on your mind. * If you are a listener, visit the Listener Support Room [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=2_2b554a18cf379d85bN8W7-fzi03rI51eauafmg] (aka the LSR) to ask questions!
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Calling All Verified Listeners: Help Wanted on the 7 Cups Welcome Committee!
by Heather225
Last post
 October 3rd
...See more The hardest part of the journey is sometimes the beginning, and this is especially true of our newbies. We as a community have the power and ability to ensure they get properly oriented and supported so that their journey is smooth. I have been actively contacting newbies over the past couple of months and the results have been inspiring. Roughly 80% of those I sent a personal message responded to me and very appreciatively! That's a really big deal because those people have a much higher chance of being retained (retained = staying on 7 Cups). But I need help! So it's with great excitement, that I announce the revamped relaunch of the Welcome Committee! Through this initiative, we can meet our newcomers at the start with a friendly welcome (think hospitality, a greeter, etc.). We will also provide guidance and resources they need to navigate their first steps. The tasks are simple. PMing brand new members, saying hi, giving resources, answering their questions, and sending follow-up PMs to make sure their transition is complete. There are two sides of the Welcome Committee: one to serve members and one to serve listeners. 1. To qualify to join the Member Welcome Committee, here are the requirements: * You must be a Verified Listener (find out how to get verified here) [https://www.7cups.com/forum/listenerjourney/ListenerVerificationProject_1839/GetVerifiedon7Cups_290064/] * No behavior reports (BPS) within 3 months * Comfortable PMing * Google Sheets skills – Basic knowledge of managing data in Google Sheets is necessary. Note: The team uses spreadsheets to copy/paste names and log PMs so you'll need access to a computer/laptop device. This work can't be done via phone. We apologize for the inconvenience * Maintenance criteria: 1-2 hours a month to dedicate to this project ✅ Apply here! [https://docs.google.com/forms/d/e/1FAIpQLSdye3w6JNdBiU4gNfilMGSxEfnqXXsQb-lR_xTvJmGD3GHKiA/viewform] 2. To qualify to join the Listener Welcome Committee, here are the requirements: * Verified listener * 100+ chats completed * 4.5-star rating or above * At least 5 reviews * Listener level: Apprentice or higher (6,881+ cheers) If listener support is your thing, find out more about the requirements on the team's promo post [https://www.7cups.com/forum/welcome/TheWelcomeCommitteeTeam_2670/WelcomeCommitteeListeners_374511/]. ✅ Apply  [https://tinyurl.com/WCLApplicationForm]here [https://tinyurl.com/WCLApplicationForm]! [https://tinyurl.com/WCLApplicationForm] ------------------------- You can make a huge difference in our community's growth by joining us. Help us extend our reach and support our precious new folks!
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Essential 7 Cups Guides: The Basics & Listener Quick Guide!
by Heather225
Last post
 September 19th
...See more Hi everyone! 👋 I wanted to share two fundamentally helpful guides with the community. Whether you're brand new to 7 Cups, a returning member, or a dedicated Listener, these documents are fantastic resources to help you navigate the platform and understand the support available here. Here is a brief intro to what you'll find in both: 7 Cups The Basics: [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1M53Nm5-pbtxx2_jKfXYgYzo3NgXxjNfMwfzVSRC1rZg/edit?tab=t.0]This is the perfect starting point for anyone using the platform. It covers everything 7 Cups has to offer, from connecting with volunteer listeners and licensed therapists to navigating our community forums, group chats, and self-help tools. It also gives you a step-by-step on how to connect with these resources and outlines our community safety guidelines. 7 Cups Listener Quick Guide: [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1J0P_a463RsOkBFmgE4hqMUPCyqD98MCZO_r8PAb4ERs/edit?tab=t.0#heading=h.6zoipvarg5nu]  [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1J0P_a463RsOkBFmgE4hqMUPCyqD98MCZO_r8PAb4ERs/edit?tab=t.0#heading=h.6zoipvarg5nu]wonderful volunteer Listeners! It serves as a quick manual on your role—focusing on active listening, empathy, and validation, while reminding us of important rules like not giving advice or handling crises. It includes helpful tips for starting and ending chats, setting healthy boundaries, and practicing self-care. A quick favor to ask of our regulars: Please bookmark these guides and share them with new people you see across the community. Much of 7 Cups is word of mouth, so I'd appreciate your help spreading this knowledge! Thank you all for looking out for one another! 💙
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Hello :)
by BrokenWing03
Last post
 26 minutes ago
...See more Day one: I was born, lol. I know right, crazy to even think about. But i was born to two people who I have never even seen in the same room. Whose whole existence in my life was a mere tragedy. Two people who i have always wanted to know, yet the memories I have of them are so fragmented and dark it makes me dissociate. The abuse my twin and I suffered was unimaginable, and of course if your on this app too you've also dealt with some pretty dark things in your life. Or if your like my husband turned to anything to keep the darkness at bay, and yes, I mean anything. But my abandonment issues and lack of structure the first 6 years of my life have led to this beautiful brokeness I call me 🙃. Hi! I'm 30 years old, i have two beautiful children and a husband of almost 5 years. This tragically woven story of love has been my strength and my suffering all at the same time. Right now, my husband is in detox for a month. He drinks often, is never angry or rude, he just does it to escape. My whole life i've wanted to escape. Escape my past, escape my guardians, escape responsibility, then I met this jaw dropping man whose words are like honey. Sweet, soothing, enticing. I fell in love, and as any crazy person in love you get pregnant. And then go oh crap and then one person decides a ring will suffice because this beautiful bundle on the way will be your saving grace. Little do you know, that bundle does save one of you and the other spirals into darkness. If you haven't already guessed by now who spiraled into the abyss it was my husband. But, here is the catcher... that man i loved so deeply, and still do as a matter of fact was broken more by me. By my abandonment issues, by ny own darkness that I let seep into the cracks of out marriage and poison my own thoughts amd actions. It was subtle at first. I disregarded his advice about the baby, because my feelings meant more than facts. I couldn't stand when the baby cried, even for a moment, it freaked me out to the point of seeing red. I held the baby day after day, night after night, for 6 months. Each day I slipped further into ppd and each day I stopped listening to my husband more and more. He slept on the couch since night 1 of bringing the baby home because he couldn't bothered to be woken by the crying of hunger from this little child. I was livid, seething, abandoned yet again... this time in the most vulnerable place I have ever been in. Any time things got hard I ran, this time I couldn't run. First off i'd probably pee all over myself (yay childbirth and all it's glory) and above all other things this helpless child became my chain. He was the most beautiful baby I have ever looked at, I loved him and I hated him. I hated myself for hating him. I hated my parents for leaving me. I hated my husband for doing the same. That baby became my sense of security. That baby boy became my comfort. My stress. My world. And I pushed my husband aside. I never should have done that. I am the one who broke my husband. Clothes scattered on yhe floor started ticking me off. Why was the basket so hard to put clothes in. I became petty. I only washed what was in the basket. If he needed pants for work that was his problem. How could I do anything if I was too busy trying to make sure my son didnt feel left and abandoned like me. Then we moved, I was in charge of packing everything because I felt he was incompetent of packing properly. Thats where I really went wrong. I started seeing him as unable to do basic things because he was helpless and useless. And therefore not worth my time. Boy, way I wrong. This further strained our relationship. I started seeing how he was pushing me away and not even looking at myself. All he did was love me, make a few mistakes that I felt were unforgivable. The last thing I ever wanted was to marry someone like my parents. Someone who would just leave or abuse. I became the abuser. Not physically, but I no longer cheered him on. I withheld compliments, affirmations, and praises. He is definitely worthy of them. I broke my husband and I am ashamed. I am doing what I can to make amends. To fix this. To stop viewing him as someone who is worthless, he is NOT worthless, he has never been worthless. I am the problem. I pushed him to escaping because I couldn't handle someone actually loving me and wanting to stay by my side through thick and thin. I couldn't see what was beneficial to him in each moment because he has stresses too. He doesn't deserve someone who can't see the beauty that is him. Now 2 kids in and a third in heaven, we have approached this crossroads of if this is what love is, I don't want it, but also, no one has seen this much of me and decided to stay. Decided to fight, decided that despite the monsters we have become we will find a way love through it. Grow through it. And fall in love the way we did in the begining. Because this life, and all it's brokenness is worth fighting for. (Tbh I think I forgot what I was writing about and just kept going to wherever I wanted so hopefully it makes sense. ) brokenwing03 signing off <3
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Hello:)
by BrokenWing03
Last post
 42 minutes ago
...See more Day one: I was born, lol. I know right, crazy to even think about. But i was born to two people who I have never even seen in the same room. Whose whole existence in my life was a mere tragedy. Two people who i have always wanted to know, yet the memories I have of them are so fragmented and dark it makes me dissociate. The abuse my twin and I suffered was unimaginable, and of course if your on this app too you've also dealt with some pretty dark things in your life. Or if your like my husband turned to anything to keep the darkness at bay, and yes, I mean anything. But my abandonment issues and lack of structure the first 6 years of my life have led to this beautiful brokeness I call me 🙃. Hi! I'm 30 years old, i have two beautiful children and a husband of almost 5 years.
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new(ish) member :)
by oliveTown7961
Last post
 1 hour ago
...See more hello everyone :) it's been a very, very long time. I joined 7cups as a listener when I was younger, so this site is very special to me. I would love to be a listener again in the future, but for now, I want to spend time here as a member. ♡‪‪ I hope everyone has a beautiful day !!! :)
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Member Oath - All Encouraged to Participate
by Laura
Last post
 5 hours ago
...See more Our member community is thriving! Now that we have our group support chat rooms, our members are able to interact and support each other in new and dynamic ways. You all have done a wonderful job adjusting to these chat rooms and supporting one another. As a member of the 7 Cups community, you are all here for a variety of specific reasons. But one thing we all have in common is our love of the 7 Cups community. Our community is a safe haven, a place to find connection, compassion [https://www.7cups.com/forum/Resources_29/MemberCommunityGrowth_200/MEMBERCOMPASSIONCOURSE_6809/], love, and support. Our community is only as strong as it's members. We ask each member to agree to these community guidelines [https://www.7cups.com/forum/Welcometothe7CupsofTeaForum_27/RulesofEngagement_27/RulesofEngagement_62/1] and interact in ways that reflect these guidelines and the 7 Cups values. [https://www.7cups.com/about/values.php] Today, I would like all members of 7 Cups of Tea to take ownership of their home here. To show your commitment, we ask that you take the 7 Cups member oath. By completing this oath, you are promising to show kindness and support to all those you interact with here. It could be in the forums, with a listener in a 1-1 chat or in the group support chat rooms. Below this post, type out your member oath. You could cut and paste it, but I feel like this takes away from it. Typing it helps you really think through what you are committing to. Next, at the bottom, sign in with your username like this: I, ___________________, pledge a moral oath before my fellow community members, making them my witnesses, that I read and understood the community guidelines and ensure its compliance during my stay at 7Cups. I will treat my fellow members and listeners with compassion, patience, open-mindedness, and being non-judgmental. I will stay respectful of everyone I encounter in the community. I understand as a community we are here to provide and seek support. I will be thoughtful and compassionate in my conversations. I will use the proper channels to escalate any concerns facing during my stay in the community. I will be open to learning from others and sharing my experiences and learning with them to grow as a community together. I will take ownership of my own behavior in the community and understand how I will react to any situation that is my choice. I will follow the community guidelines and support each other in building the community better for everyone. Signed: //LauraS// Date: 11/9/2014 NOTE: Eventually, we will be able to give a badge to all those who take this pledge. The badge will come, as long as you post in this thread, you will earn it! FH:49 (Edit; ASilentObserver, 01/10/2020)
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Not spoken to anyone in 6 months, friends and family non existent I do t even know why I'm here, I'm just tired of living like this
by ScottishCraig
Last post
 6 hours ago
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Welcome to 7 Cups! Introduce yourself here!!
by Heather225
Last post
 13 hours ago
...See more Welcome to our community! We're excited to meet you! Please introduce yourself below. * Some questions you could consider answering in your intro: * What brought you to us? * What do you hope to find here? * What are your goals for being part of the community? * (Listeners) Why did you sign up to listen? Feel free to ask questions about the platform if you have any, and someone will tag you with an answer! Afterward, be sure to check out and bookmark our welcome pack for everything you need to know starting: * Members [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1M53Nm5-pbtxx2_jKfXYgYzo3NgXxjNfMwfzVSRC1rZg/] * Listeners [https://docs.google.com/document/d/1J0P_a463RsOkBFmgE4hqMUPCyqD98MCZO_r8PAb4ERs/edit?tab=t.0#heading=h.6zoipvarg5nu] We've got vibrant 24/7 group chats too! * Drop into the Welcome Lounge [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=2_f395c98453a717bbF6hCCUHAA-EWeyBTXj35lA] to meet other newbies! * The Sharing Circle is open for support to adult members. Drop in HERE [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=lmJndHyWk5edlLBlWVrCnQ!!] to share what's on your mind. * If you are a listener, visit the Listener Support Room [https://www.7cups.com/chat/?c=2_2b554a18cf379d85bN8W7-fzi03rI51eauafmg] (aka the LSR) to ask questions!
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Newbie
by Safeplaceforyall
Last post
 14 hours ago
...See more Hii everyone! 🌸💗 I'm still a newbie here, and honestly, I'm a little shy about introducing myself, but I thought I'd say hello instead of being a silent reader. 😭🫶🏻 I'm here to learn, meet new people, and hopefully make some lovely connections along the way. I may take a little time to open up, but I genuinely enjoy meaningful conversations and getting to know people beyond just their usernames. 🤍 I believe everyone has a story, a different perspective, and something we can learn from them. I'm excited to explore this community, learn from all of you, and slowly become more comfortable here. So, I'd love to ask you all something! 🥹🌷 If you could give one piece of advice to someone who's new to 7Cups, what would it be? Or, if you're a newbie too, how has your experience been so far? I'd love to hear from you! Here's to learning, connecting, and growing together. 💕✨
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I m sad
by TheTearyEyesOfhers
Last post
 19 hours ago
...See more There is so much propaganda going on against career women i hate it i keep saying on social media men calling passionate women bitc hes etc i m also angry that none takes me seriously I went to career advisors some says just cook some says sleep with boss I m starting to feel like maybe I dont have any value this world is only for housewives
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Problem relationship
by sunnyWheel3426
Last post
 1 day ago
...See more Hello, good morning. My name is Jorge, and I am writing here because I feel like I'm going through a crisis in my relationship. I would appreciate it if someone could help me out a bit or shed some light on the matter. Please excuse my English, as I am not a native speaker and I don't speak it fluently. The thing is, I don't know if I'm overreacting to the situation or what is actually happening to me. I would really appreciate an outside opinion, please. I don't feel good with my girlfriend, whom I've been with for two years. The other day, she told me that if her friend were to tell her she saw me flirting with someone else at a club, she would believe her friend over me. Right now, I feel very detached from her. I don't want to spend time with my girlfriend, and I feel sad. I feel like everything we built our relationship on—or at least how I saw it—is a lie, that my efforts are not reciprocated, and that she isn't giving me the place I deserve. My girlfriend and I were very close friends for over a year and a half before we started dating. She always said that I was her main point of connection and trust when it came to friendships; in fact, we've known each other since before she even met that other friend. In the past, I had issues with my ex-girlfriend because she would get jealous of my current partner—even though back then there was no attraction or anything more than a friendship. My ex started treating me badly at times, and I ended up breaking up with her because of that situation. I felt the way she reacted toward both me and my current partner was unfair, so I decided to stand by my current partner as a friend, because I believed she was worth it. Now, I feel terrible about this because I feel my girlfriend doesn't value the effort I made for her back then and everything I went through. With her current lack of trust, she is being unfair and not giving me the place I deserve in all of this. She is also a very demanding person who absorbs a lot of my time, to the point where I've given up my own personal space and needs due to her dependency. I used to do it because I felt we were a special team and that it was worth it, but now I feel like I don't want to share space with her. I don't even feel comfortable looking at her; I feel awkward and just want to stay locked in my room. I really need to make sense of all this and get some guidance. Is what I'm feeling disproportionate? Thank you for your time and answers ☺️
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Hi!
by ucancallmeleaf
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Heya gentlepeople! I’m Leaf, I’m a newbie, and I’ve been going through some LGBTQ related issues when it comes to myself and telling others. If you’d like to talk to someone to relate, or if you have enough time talk and just want to talk, I’m here and I’ll try my best to make you feel as comfortable as possible! Have a lovely day!
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A greet to everybodyy
by Sleepeer016
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hii I am sleepeer! I am a newbie who found this community very heartwarming and fun. Hope everybody is happy all the timee! 😁
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Newbie
by redHickory4903
Last post
 2 days ago
...See more Hi y'all

Newbie Hub

Welcome to the Newbie Hub! This is a space for newbies to learn, ask and get involved in the community. A safe and inclusive space to help settle you in on your new 7 Cups journey. You can check out our introduction video here!


What are the different forum topics for the Newbie Hub?

7 Cups of Tea Mission & Core Values: Find information about our mission here!

7Cups Wellness Initiatives: A place for all of our wellness initiatives.

Community Guidelines and Protocol: Want to review our guidelines and protocols? View them here!

Icebreakers: Settle in by breaking some ice.

Our Vision for a Better World: Review our vision here.

Questions & Information about using 7 Cups: Got a question? We have an answer!

Resources at 7 Cups to Help You: Need some resources to help you on your 7 Cups journey? View them here.

Support Room 24/7 Project: All information relating to the support chat room.

Welcome & Introductions to 7 Cups!: Introduce yourself as a new 7 Cups user here!


How can I help?

You can help us by simply responding to threads and sharing your story (if you're comfortable). Check-in with us, join a discussion, or start one! Alternatively, you can join us as a Forum Leader. Check out this thread for more information.


Helpful Threads

Members Introduction Thread: Members, introduce yourselves to 7 Cups here!

Listeners Introduction Thread: Listeners, introduce yourselves to 7 Cups here!

Member Welcome Pack: Members, find relevant resources and how-to guides here!

Listener Welcome Pack: Listeners, find relevant resources and how-to guides here!


Newbie Hub FAQ

Q: Are there any sub-community-specific guidelines that we need to adhere to?

A: You can find Sub-community-specific guidelines below, which you should follow in addition to the general forum guidelines.


Q: Are there any Newbie Hub chat rooms?

A: Yes! You can find a list of the chat rooms here.


Help! I still have a question! 

If you need help, feel free to contact a community leader or post here, and someone will contact you.

Community Guidelines


★  Make yourself at home.

★  Do not hesitate to ask questions or reach out for help and support.

★  Always remember, you're not alone.
 

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