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How can I get what I need from my doctor?

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Last Updated: 05/26/2022 at 8:27am
How can I get what I need from my doctor?
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Anonymous
March 18th, 2020 6:15pm
What exactly are you looking for from your doctor? Are you looking for a mental health referral? You can ask them specifically. They've had all kinds of patients so no question is going to make them gawk at you. If you want mental health support, you can ask them for a referral to a therapist if possible. There are also short-term crisis lines and even 7 Cups to help you out (in the short-term) while you wait for a proper therapist. Sometimes graduate students in counselling can offer free therapy in their university clinics for people with financial / accessibility barriers. If you have some other concerns, your state, province or territory may have some healthcare lines and services that are available for you.
Anonymous
March 26th, 2020 8:18pm
Be honest about your needs. Ask questions. Remember your patients rights. You have the right to inquire about your treatment options, as well as the right to ask for a second opinion. If you are working with a therapist or psychiatrist, you can ask them to write a letter on your behalf to help advocate for you. Remember, this is your health and wellbeing on the line, you deserve to get competent care. If your doctor has been acting unethical or unprofessional, there are licensing boards in your state whom you can contact to make formal complaints. You can also contact your insurance company and ask about resources they can identify to help you.
lindaisling1
April 9th, 2020 8:33pm
What a great question. You are a strong and wise person to be thinking about this. I know what works for me and perhaps some of the things that help me will also help you. The first thing I do when I have set up a doctor's appointment is to write out a list of questions that I need answers to. I start on the list right away because I may not remember what I needed to ask or talk about by the time I see the doctor. I also always have someone else with me so that if I don't understand or remember what the doctor has said I have another person to help me. I have found that my doctor is always happy to help me get what I need if I keep my conversation with him direct and to the point as my doctors are usually really busy. If the doctor seems to be in a hurry and gets up to leave before I know what I need to know or before I have asked all of my questions, I politely ask if he can spare me a few more minutes and if he can't if I can see him later that day or make another appointment to ask the rest of my questions. I hope that these ideas will help you. If you would like to talk further or if you have other questions be sure to come back to the site and either I or another person will be happy to help in any way we can.
jessicamae98
April 10th, 2020 1:59am
Be open and honest with your doctor and advocate for what you need. As someone hoping to pursue a career in medicine and have shadowed several doctors and their doctor-patient interactions, I believe that a doctor is someone that you can trust and is someone who is nonjudgemental. All of the doctors that I have worked with have been empathetic and compassionate people who truly want what is best for you. As a future physician, I can definitely say that I only want the best for my future patients and hope they feel comfortable enough with me to advocate for themselves.
ImTiago
April 30th, 2020 11:13am
Doctors, even if sometimes it seems otherwise, are there to help you. Their entire career is based on helping other people overcome their diseases. As a medical student myself, I know how important it is to always put the patient first, as we are all taught. So, whatever it is you need, he will give it to you if you open up to him, let yourself be examined and treated. Some people fear doctors, or don't follor their advice/treatment, that's not the way to get better. You should always question him whenever you have doubts with your treatment, let him know if you like it or not, if you are having trouble with side effects, he'll know how to change the therapeutic scheme to adjust to your needs. I hope you feel better soon and get better at communicating with your doctor :)
Anonymous
May 13th, 2020 11:47am
Make notes on how you're feeling before you visit your doctor. How medications are working, how you felt through the week, what treatments work, what you don't like. This will make it easy to communicate with your doctor! Sharing updates and setting boundaries can help you get the treatment you want. If you don't like a certain medication, it's important to communicate that to your health care professional. An important part of coping with any mental health condition is to develop a solid relationship with a psychiatrist or therapist you can trust. Be sure to ask for their contact information, ask them if they can be contacted during crisis situations.
lucywormie
May 21st, 2020 1:27am
Go to your doctor and talk to them. Explain whatever it is that’s troubling you and tell them what you want. Doctors are supposed to support you and provide you with what’s best for you so they’ll always give you the best path so remember that. Just be persistent and keep asking for whatever it is you want. If they aren’t providing it or are giving another option that you don’t think is best for you then consult another doctor for a second opinion. Try to be open to whatever they suggest but if you simply ask for what you want and it complies with them then I’m sure it’ll turn out okay and you’ll get it. :)
Anonymous
June 7th, 2020 9:51am
By being honest and telling them outright what I need. It doesn't help to beat around the bush and skate by - if you need something from your doctor, don't be afraid to say so. Medicine is important, and truthfully and in most cases, individuals are better off with rather than without. Taking care of your health, physical or mental, starts with talking to your doctor and getting prescribed what you need. Schedule an appointment and tell the doctors and nurses outright what is going on and what you need to make it more manageable in the long run.
martinbo
June 10th, 2020 12:46pm
Visiting a GP could be stressful and create many anxious situations. The responsibility is our mind with negative or dysfunctional thoughts. a doctor is a medical professional who is here to help us and is human as well. If we say him/her what exactly is going on that definitely will help to achieve what do we need from that medical practitioner. if we do not agree with the opinion of GP we always can change the GP and we can try to seeking help with another professional who will be more efficient for us in a particular issue. Is not wrong to seeking help in a different place if we are not happy of present service.
SparklyCierra
June 14th, 2020 2:37pm
I have found that I get what I need from my doctor by being fully honest. I know some details may be embarrassing or more taboo to talk about, but full honesty is important for the doctor-patient relationship to work its best. And if I'm not getting "what I need", I might not have needed it in the first place. Sometimes I might have a certain treatment or medication in mind, but my doctor knows more about different treatments that might suit me better. However, if you feel that your doctor is not truly listening to your experiences or disregards what you say, it might be time to find a new doctor. It's important that you feel heard and that you feel comfortable enough with your doctor to accept the treatments recommended to you.
CalmRosebud
June 19th, 2020 5:08pm
It's good you're thinking of being pro-active about your health. Some ideas I have used include: 1. writing down my questions ahead of time, 2. writing down any pertinent information that may sway treatment in one direction or another, ahead of time, so that I don't forget to address it, 3. think ahead -- some would joke about this and say, "think ahea-" but in reality, if you think ahead a little bit, then you can sometimes ward off some of the worse possibilities through your planning, and the result might at least be acceptable. Finally, your rapport with your doctor is very important. Perhaps your practice does not think so, but there are other doctors, and you standing up for your right to choose another doctor speaks volumes about your care about your self. Your self thanks you!
atticus997
June 24th, 2020 8:32pm
First, make sure that the doctor that you see a specialist in the field that you need. It is also best to have a referral from a friend or family member. Write down questions that you have concerning your problem so that you don't forget any important information that you may require. When you are finished with the consultation, inquire about what medications the doctor wants to put you on, if any. Find out the doses, if you need to take it with a meal and the side affects of the medication. If needed, ask for a follow-up appointment. Bring a notebook and write down all information that the doctor relays to you.
proudPeace77
July 4th, 2020 2:36pm
If you go to your doctor with a written list of what you want to ask, then you will have an agenda that you and your doctor can work through and it will give you a clearer head when you go into the doctors surgery, rather than worrying about what you are going to say in there. If you go in there with a plan, it will put all your worries aside and you will be able to sort out any major issues that you may have. Stay strong, I believe in you. I know that you can do it.
kindheartedApricot3062
July 18th, 2020 2:12am
My personal experience is that the best way to get help is to ask! I was concerned about a specific mental health issue so I asked my primary care physician if she had any resources for it. She initially directed me to public resources online, but I made another appointment and re-asserted myself. I ended up getting formally tested, and it was very affordable through a local sliding scale psychologist. Getting the referral from my primary care physician was the first step - even if you don't know what is wrong, their job is to make you feel better!
wavy34
July 22nd, 2020 2:53pm
One of the best ways is to write down what you want out of the appointment before you go and take it with you to remind yourself of anything you may have missed or to show the doctor if you feel you can't explain something. Also taking someone with you can help reinforce your point if you feel the doctor won't listen to just you alone. Sometimes having another person there can make your request/point seem more urgent to a doctor, particularly if you are under 18. I find that taking a parent if possible can help to get what I need
Anonymous
August 19th, 2020 9:43pm
First you need to decide what you need. It sounds simple, but it can be a difficult task. Do you need some medication? Do you want a therapy referral? Do you want an answer to a question? A diagnosis? It’s helpful to decide this before your visit so that you can have a purpose for seeing your doctor. Keep this goal in mind throughout your appointment. Be honest and open about this goal, most appointments are only short so it is best to be blunt. Your doctor is not their to judge and this may even help them too. If you don’t get what you need, you have every right to change your GP. It’s so important that you find the best doctor for you.
courageousComfort1239
October 14th, 2020 9:36am
Make a list of all your questions and concerns. Photocopy it and take it with you to your next appointment. Have a list of all your med names and dosages, too. When you make your appointment, be sure to succinctly state why you need to visit. You need to be organized on your end of the doctor-patient relationship so you get your medical needs met. It is a two way street. Advocate for yourself. If you do not get your needs met by the practitioner, seek another practitioner. Also, being polite will get you a lot more active listening and results than being a total jerk to the practitioner and staff. Nice people stand out over the course of a day!
Anonymous
October 25th, 2020 6:47pm
It depends on what you "need". Doctors take an oath that require them to provide the best care they can. If you feel that your doctor is not compatible with you, then you can always find another doctor who is more compatible with you. Doctor's simply can't dish out medications like free candy, due to various reasons, however you can sit down with your doctor and have a serious discussion about what is going on with your life. Doctor's should have good intentions, respect HIPPA laws, and genuinely want to help their patients be the best versions of themselves.
eternalPillow7937
November 6th, 2020 9:59pm
You can get what you want from your doctor by being genuine to the doctor, tell him what you feel and think. be specific with your doctor about your condition and problems, try to be as detailed as possible and ask the doctor how to deal with it, take the doctor seriously and act accordingly. you need to be very clear about your requirements and be able to communicate clearly. you need to be updated about your condition and its always better to get an idea about it from some sources and understand its causes, symptoms, diagnosis, side effects and discuss with your doctor. A doctor is a professional and trained to study and diagnose the disease , for how you are feeling about it and concerned about few things linked to it, you need to communicate effectively with him. And it helps to be aware of factors like time required for healing, money, insurance,procedures etc
DarkPiT23
November 27th, 2020 2:38pm
Get organized. Be clear about what you need from your appointment. ... Prioritize. Organize your list. ... Start early. The best time to see a doctor is early in the day. Be human. You need a physician, not an automaton. ... Be direct. ... Plan ahead. ... Say thank you. Come prepared. ... Prioritize your concerns. ... Don't be afraid to ask for another appointment. ... Be willing to communicate outside the exam room. ... Bring someone with you. Don't Be Shy: Set an Agenda. Many doctors' visits last only 15–20 minutes, so it's important to prioritize your concerns by setting an agenda, Roter says. ... Be Honest. Roter urges patients to be honest about worries and concerns. ... Ask Questions. ... Work Collaboratively.
Tyedyedbutterfly65
December 5th, 2020 1:31pm
Seeing a Doctor can be very triggering for some and what has helped me when I go is making a List of things that I may forgot and then regret not asking about so by making my list a day before I am calmer and can really think about what it is that I want to ask my doctor about and then go down my list while there and I will actually write down their reply and have it with me when I am back home. When going down the list make sure that you they understand that you are there for answers and would like to get these things taken care of. Doctors normally set a time limit they wanna be with a patient and they can hurry some one along so it is important to make sure you go prepared and get the results you went for. Ask Questions always !! People feel they should not ask questions but this is so important.
YourOnlineListener
January 13th, 2021 5:08pm
So when people can't get the exact things they want from their doctors there are some solutions they can go for, 1. Write down every symptom and some important ones with date. 2. Write down the questions before the appointment. 3. Feel comfortable with your doctor. There's nothing to be embarassed about so don't hide pains even if they sound embarassing to say. A doctor has taken an oath before he took the job so whatever happens he won't tell anybody about what you said. 4. Remember that even if your symptoms may show a major illness and need intense treatment you still need to be very honest with your doctor. Never ever hide symptoms.
Heretosupportxo
January 17th, 2021 12:54am
It depends on what you actually need. If you want some medication, maybe you wouldn't be able to get it because your doctor knows better than you what should you drink or no. If it's about psychotherapy, like you may want CBT or similar, you can recommend it to your doctor and tell him/her what you actually want. You can't get anything if you don't talk about what you want. So, just a conversation about it can change things. But this is anxiety Q&A so you're maybe asking this because you're scared and don't know how to tell them what you want. I can recommend writing it on paper and just giving your doctor that. It may be really, really hard, but if you don't try you logically won't get what you want. Fight for it. Fight for your health. You deserve it.
kindnessisamust
January 23rd, 2021 3:55am
When you see your doctor, you should be clear and detailed about your symptoms. For common mental conditions such as depression and anxiety, your doctor will decide on the course of treatment based on what you tell them. For example, instead of saying "I feel tired", be more detailed, like "I feel tired in the morning, but later this feeling goes away". There are multiple forms of depression and anxiety, which may require different treatments - by being specific about your symptoms, your doctor will be able to determine the specific type of depression/anxiety - and give you the necessary treatment.
Anonymous
February 17th, 2021 11:58am
It really depends on what you need from your doctor. Communication with your doctor about symptoms, signs you're experiencing are the best way to figure out -what it is you need. If the doctor doesn't know what's wrong they are in a position they can't fulfill their duties of helping their patients. What I suggest is making a list of the symptoms and rating them 1-10 how bad they are and then make an appointment with your doctor to let them know what's going on so that they can begin a course of action to help you get better
Lighthouse10
March 11th, 2021 2:57pm
The best way to get your needs is always to be straightforward in asking for them, whether it's your doctor or anyone else, because people can't read your mind, so unless you state it you might not get it simply because they don't know you need it. Ofcourse coming smoothly, showing them appreciation and respect, not being too pushy or criticizing their judgement if they are suggesting something else, will make the process easier. In the end if it's a good doctor they will want what's best for you, and are likely to want to fulfill your needs if it's in your best interest.
mrlimers15
April 8th, 2021 2:44am
Be honest and share any information that you want to share with your doctor. Do not be afraid to seek help and work on yourself so that you can feel better physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Hear and adhere to their advice and don't be afraid to question the purpose of their recommendations. It might be intimidating to question a doctor but assure them that understanding the why of things will help you achieve whatever goals you might have. A doctor will not judge and their purpose is to help you achieve health in every aspect possible so don't be afraid to ask.
Izzy274
April 10th, 2021 10:16pm
It can be really hard to know what you need and then how to go about getting it from your doctor, especially since healthcare systems are so complex and different depending on where you are. Here are a few options you could possibly think about, but I don't know your full situation so could never know what would be best for you. - It depends on what you want - if it is a medication, the doctor may have a reason for not prescribing it, which you could talk about. If it's for a treatment, you could present to them what you want and then have a discussion about it together. - Perhaps try writing down what you want to get out of a conversation beforehand, so you can make some clear & concise points and don't leave out anything. - Ask questions if you don't understand why the doctor is doing something, whilst still keeping an open mind towards it. - Become your own advocate and research the treatments you want before putting them forward to the doctor. - Remember the doctor is here to help and you are not an inconvenience to them!
Anonymous
May 16th, 2021 7:26pm
You can get what you need from your doctor by communicating exactly what those needs are. Communication with your doctor or health professional is key! I am sure they will be more than welcome to work with you in order to address those needs and get you the correct care. Continue being an advocate for yourself and obtain those resources. You can always jot down a list for you to remember that way you can express yourself freely and openly without forgetting any potential information that may be important for them to use. Give them all the information you have in order to get your needs satisfied properly. Hope this helps.
junem
May 29th, 2021 4:48am
It is my experience that one needs to be a strong self advocate to get what one needs from the doctor and the healthcare field in general. It seems all too easy to fall between the cracks. Firstly one needs to come to the realization of what one's needs are. Sometimes this cannot be all that clear in our minds. Learn to know yourself and what your normal feels like. Then make a . list of one's new symptoms or things of concern. Writing this out helps clarify our thinking. When approaching the doctor be prepared with that list so you can speak clearly one's concerns. Ask for what you feel you need