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How do I know if I did the right thing?

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Last Updated: 05/25/2022 at 8:57pm
How do I know if I did the right thing?
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Top Rated Answers
Anonymous
April 2nd, 2017 3:31am
even if you may face repercussions, somewhere in your heart you may feel a tingle or a sense of warmth that in some way, may it be great or small, you benefited someone else.
Anonymous
April 4th, 2017 9:44pm
Even if it doesn't work out where everyone is happy, even if you are not happy at the moment, the right thing is knowing what is best in the long run. If you see it as what is right, it probably is. Just think carefully!
peacefulkat
April 5th, 2017 5:03am
By asking yourself exactly what you did, thinking of the outcomes of the situation and thinking of how either you or others reacted to the thing that you did. Think of how it will impact your life in the near future.
darkleaf96
April 19th, 2017 7:56pm
The thing about doing the right thing is how we feel after we do it, On the inside you will always feel a certain way about certain actions, and that's how you will know if you did the right thing, that feeling you get on the inside will let you know.
Anonymous
April 22nd, 2017 4:07am
I would suggest, you make your choices built from your heart and your experience. If you have been able to put fear aside in choosing what you did, and think it through, it will prove to have been a good healthy choice for you.
Anonymous
April 26th, 2017 2:19pm
When you feel accomplished and happy, you have done the right thing. That is because you understand, as a person that only you know what is right or wrong in your life. Don't let others tell you it is the wrong thing.
Anonymous
April 27th, 2017 3:49pm
Whatever you start has to come from the heart. The "right thing", comes from a place of wisdom. And wisdom is derived from experience. I'll give you a clear example: At one stage of my life, I loved so much fitness that I thought I would become a personal trainer. I was well off to an excellent start. My grades were excellent. But when I started 1 on 1 training, I felt a disconnect. I preferred the science of training rather than being a trainer. The right path, can be a hobby or passion. But is preferably tested in the real world first. The same goes on with someone wanting to be a public speaker, but realizing he is stressed speaking in public; or a trainer unwilling to train people. Both have the will, but they are going against themselves. Choose a path that looks like you. I would love to help you more specifically, if you need further assistance
Vronica23
May 17th, 2017 1:34pm
Look inside yourself. Are you a better person for it? Did you grow from it? Did it help? Do you feel better for doing it? Sometimes we have to make personal choices that end up affecting others, and that can make us feel guilty. That's understandable, but was our goal to help us grow, or was it to cause other's harm? These are all questions I believe can help you decided if what you did was the right thing. Ultimately, I think you're the only one who's able to answer that question.
Personalvendetta
June 2nd, 2017 4:28pm
Accessing situations from an objective eye can be hard at first. Emotions can lead people to do rash things. Rash actions can cause stress and anxiety and doubt. Look objectively at situations. And also realize that no actions are set in stone. What's right and wrong for other may not be the same for you. Dont doubt what has no clear answer
Anonymous
June 8th, 2017 2:05am
To know if you've done the right thing, you'll feel a sense of peace deep within. That is how you know you've done good
beautifullycomplicated
June 24th, 2017 3:06pm
If it feels right to you. All outsider feelings aside, are you proud of the choice you've made? If yes, then you did what was right.
heartfulPeace96
July 16th, 2017 8:56am
You will never know if you did the right thing. You just have to trust yourself. If you did it for the right resens then you can decide if it was the right thing for you to do in that situation. You just have to know that you did the right thing for you
Anonymous
August 11th, 2017 2:36am
You know you have done the right thing when you have no regrets, you may doubt yourself a little bit but in the end the outcome was what it should be not what you wanted it to be.
Anonymous
August 16th, 2017 12:59am
I guess there's a general sense of actually done something right in your gut. It's like when you do something wrong, even if no one's watching, somehow deep down you know, the sames goes as doing the right thing I guess.
Anonymous
August 18th, 2017 2:58am
If your heart and mind say so. Breathe, think, and review/assess what happened when you carried out the action.
Anonymous
August 19th, 2017 3:04am
To ask feedback and see the person's reaction. From what they thought, said, and I resolved somewhat the issue..
funnySeal12
August 20th, 2017 9:13am
choose what you think is right then cross examine your actions and your motivations to check if they align logically and philosophically with your idea of right
LindaBg
September 3rd, 2017 1:53pm
You actually can't make wrong decisions. Everything you chose you chose for a reason and there will me decisions you will regret but that is totally fine, this is human.
Z3rocool
September 15th, 2017 11:27am
You could know whether you did the right thing or not by making an analysis,. It depends on the what kind of things, but you must think about with both positive and negative aspects before making any decision.
soothingStrawberry61
October 19th, 2017 2:25pm
This is tricky, because we can only see the 'right' thing from our own perspective. You know those memes where there is a number on the ground? One person sees and 6 and one sees a 9 depending on how they are standing. Life is like that sometimes. All you can do is listen to your heart and try to make the best decisions. I hope you take times to think and journal about your decision, and i hope you find peace with it.
Anonymous
November 11th, 2017 3:26am
I think you know you did the right thing if it feels good in your heart and if there are positive outcomes.
Anonymous
November 12th, 2017 3:54am
Time tells you everything. Let the time take care of everything while you take care of yourself. And even if you did the right thing, it might not always make you feel good about it. Try to think about it and then let it go, since it is in the past now, and your new goal is to deal with the consequences.
WhatDoesItAllMean
December 1st, 2017 5:03pm
Well you can never really know for certain. And who gets to define what is right and wrong? All you can do is just satisfy your conscience by making decisions based on whether you can justify them or not.
Anonymous
December 6th, 2017 2:03pm
What helps me a lot is to make a pros and cons list of all the things I could have done instead. If I figure out another solution that would have been better, I ask myself if I thought of it at the time I made the decision. If I didn't think of it at the time, I couldn't have done it, so I focus only on the options I could think of at the time. If there's something about the decision that caused someone else harm, I do what I can to make amends, and I also remind myself that I can't change the past and try to avoid dwelling on it over much once I've figured out how to either make amends if I've hurt someone, or figured out what I'd like to do in the future if something similar comes up. Aside from those two things, there's nothing else you can do about a decision that's already made, so it's best to distract yourself if you find you keep dwelling on it.
tinka95
December 6th, 2017 6:22pm
Just listen to your heart. It will always tell you whether you did the ring thing if you just open yourself up to its wisdom.
AvaLive07
December 7th, 2017 10:52pm
Sounds like you are concerned about something. It can be hard to tell from right and wrong. What do you feel you did?
Namastay
December 8th, 2017 5:12am
If it feels right it is right. Trust your judgment. As long as you are happy with what you did than that is all that matters.
Anonymous
December 13th, 2017 8:54am
You will feel this feeling of being free. Doing the right thing always feels good at some point in time. You may not feel the best in the moment but in the end everything will feel better.
Anonymous
December 15th, 2017 12:27am
By observing and understanding the consequences of your actions. Balance the negative and positives and see which one outweighs the other.
Anonymous
December 24th, 2017 1:40pm
You can't know that you did the right thing because more often than not, there is no right answer. When making a decision, you have to think about everybody it affects. You can't make everybody happy but you can make a judgement call on how to hurt the least amount of people.