What should I do if people think I am lying?

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LilyFlowers
April 10th, 2015 11:59pm
Honestly there is nothing you can do. More than anything else, it's their perception. If they think you are lying and you are not, it could be what is called "projection". It means they are guilty of lying and their brain is attributing it to you. It's called an 'ego defense'. It's very common and is what happens when people wont admit they are wrong, even to themselves. Other than that, you just need to understand what other people think literally is due to their brain and perception, it has nothing to do with you. So if they think you are lying it is what it is, your going to have to accept it and depending on who it is, may readjust your views on your relationship with this person. Be strong. it's literally, neurologically not you. Because science.
Brittneym101
July 4th, 2015 3:11am
The only thing that you can do when someone thinks you're lying is to just let it go in whatever the situation may be. You and God both know the truth and that's all that matters. You don't have to explain anything to anyone else. However if you are lying just try to be honest. The truth will set you free.
Anonymous
January 4th, 2016 6:28pm
Stick to the truth, the whole truth, and nothing but the truth. If you tell the truth, even if they think you're lying, it will all turn out for the best in the end.
Anonymous
March 8th, 2015 6:00pm
There's not a whole lot that you can do, aside from pick and choose your friends. If they don't believe you, then they're not really being good friends, are they? Relationships of all kinds are built on trust, and a breach in that trust damages the relationship you may have with that person.
ScenicVision
October 1st, 2016 5:24pm
Sometimes people make an opinion strictly based on their past, maybe they have been involved with a lot of bad people in their life, who lied all the time, if someone thinks you're lying and you really have not given them a reason why they should feel that way, then i would say just give them time and more reasons why they can trust you, maybe their thoughts really do not reflect how they feel about you, and more how they feel on the inside.
Anonymous
July 21st, 2015 11:00am
you can't do anything. There is nothing wrong with you if yourself feel you are right and others are just taking the chance to say you are a liar. It hurts but I am just saying why waste your time and energy on people which they think you are lying. They seriously don't have time for others other than gossiping or spreading rumours about you. You might want to stay away from them? …or it depends on which people thinks you are lying maybe because in past you lied and they can't trust you or ..? it seriously depends on the situation you are in. Many perspectives should be taken …not just one story but both story ..hope you got my answer!
Anonymous
August 25th, 2015 7:42pm
Stick to your guns. You know the truth. You cant control what others think. So if you are being honest with yourself, that is what matters.
Anonymous
October 9th, 2016 1:38am
We cannot control what other people ultimately believe, think, feel or do. This is unfortunate, but also brings with it a kind of peace in acceptance. If their belief that you are lying is actively interfering with your day-to-day wellbeing, that is unfortunate. Try to get a support group together of family, friends, teachers, and whomever you think may be emotionally supportive to you and discuss this problem with them. Consider why it bothers you so deeply that others are accusing you of lying, and if there's any way you can treat yourself to personally feel better during this situation. If you have not already, approach the accusing parties calmly, honestly, and openly and attempt to have a discussion on the subject. Say something like, "Do you think I am lying?" [...] "I have the feeling of ___ when you accuse me of lying. I'd like to talk to you about this and hope that even if I cannot convince you, we can still have a supportive relationship." The key is to remain calm and honest throughout the conversation, even in the face of adversity or mockery. Consider what you want to get out of this situation ultimately: do you want them to acknowledge you were honest, do you want them to apolgoise, what would you like to happen? and make sure you tell them in a kind, honest manner what you would like to happen too. Consider some compromises you would be willing to make if any in this instance, like agreeing to let it go that they think you're lying and still having the same kkind of relationship with the person as before - or similar. If the person is stubborn or unwilling to have an open-minded conversation with you, and the accusation does not intefere with your day-to-day wellbeing, best to let it go and try to distract yourself from it.
Anonymous
September 1st, 2015 12:31am
There's nothing you can really do. They have their opinion and not a lot will change that. You can try proving it to them, though. If you stay truthful all the time then people will generally believe you anyway. If you tell the truth and they still don't believe you then you'll just have to let it go. There's not much you can do in a situation like that.
Dawn04
September 30th, 2016 6:07pm
Try to find out why they think you are lying if you can, but ultimately people will believe what they want to believe.
Anonymous
April 12th, 2015 5:53am
Tell them the truth, and keep being truthful. People will trust you, and believe you. The truth is what matters
PatientEar
April 24th, 2015 5:43am
Never lie. Period.
Anonymous
September 25th, 2016 4:51am
You tell them the truth. If they still think you are lying, they will never believe you. You don't need people like that in your life.
PilordeParadox
October 6th, 2016 8:33pm
Tell them that you say the true. If they don't trust you, too bad for them. I think one should not be friend with someone who do not trust him.
highoffesme
October 2nd, 2016 7:55pm
I'm actually going through this right now but what I do is just forget about it because no matter what you'll always know the truth
Anonymous
August 2nd, 2016 12:05am
Nothing, as long as you are not lying who cares who believes you or not? You're the one who knows truth
Anonymous
October 13th, 2016 8:56am
If you are telling the truth, you need not worry what other people think of you. Honest people always seem to cop it worse than those who lie. No one knows why. But honesty is always the best way. And if you are telling the truth, that is all that matters.
SerenaElysium
February 24th, 2017 7:06pm
Those who trust you, need no explanation. Those who don't, won't ever be satisfied with any explanation. If you are in the right, stay strong! The truth has a way of coming out.
FriendlyKitten
October 7th, 2016 11:57pm
If you really aren't lying, you should not worry about it. If they don't believe you, there isn't much you can do about it. If it's about something really important, then it might be important to have a deeper conversation with these people.
mywhispersscreamed3201
October 26th, 2016 10:29pm
We cannot control what others believe. We can change our behaviours so believing is more likely, but we cannot change how others see things. Take care of ourselves, the truth will find them.
lunarprincess11
November 1st, 2016 10:38am
If you know that you are telling the truth, why worry about others ;) its just a waste of time. :D :D
purplesofty
November 26th, 2016 5:55pm
I mean, if people don't trust you enough to know you're telling the truth, then why do you even care about them or what they think/say? If someone thinks you're lying and even if you're not, just let them think whatever they want- you trying to convince them isn't going to solve the problem.
Anonymous
March 10th, 2015 8:28pm
If people believe you at lying then you can show them proof but do not get defensive about it or no matter what you show them they wont believe you.
Anonymous
February 2nd, 2016 10:32am
You can either try to assure them - that you are being honest and they should believe you and give you the benefit of doubt. or you let them think whatever they want as you yourself know that you are being honest.
brightHoney94
July 5th, 2016 6:40pm
Tell the truth and hope they believe me. You should ask ten questions about what you have talked about taht might support your answer.
sunalchemy
October 16th, 2016 4:59pm
Prove to them with concrete arguments that you are not. Sometimes supported by proof people tend to trust more.
Butterfly121
November 3rd, 2016 6:55pm
You could try and prove to people with hard evidence (papers or receipts or whatever is needed) that you are being truthful but in most cases you will just have to trust that in time they will come to trust you and be able to see that you have been truthful with them
Anonymous
December 28th, 2015 12:51pm
Maybe I should not be ambiguous and work harder on my speech ability in order to be more clear. There's no reason at all to lie in a place like this.
Anonymous
June 28th, 2016 8:45pm
I feel like you should first try to understand why they think you are lying and then try to talk to them about it.
Anonymous
October 19th, 2016 9:09pm
Just ignore them if you know you are telling the truth then you have nothing to worry about. And the truth always comes out and then they will be proved wrong.