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Alex DS Ellis, MA, LMFT
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You should tell them that you aren't and that they can trust you. Some people have trust issues and we should deal with them according to the situation. Gaining trust of the other person is actually important. If they can't trust you then they won't open up to you the way they actually should. If you actually are lying, then you should just tell them the truth. Tell them that you are trying to help them. If it's a situation where people are just accusing you of lying. Then just let them. Their negative opinion shouldn't matter if you're the real one.
If people believe you are being dishonest, imagine as to how?? Lying is something everyone does; some small lies can lead to big changes. Sometimes, we consider the best thing to do is lie to spare a loved one's feelings or to stay out of trouble. However, in most cases, the truth is always found. If people assume you are lying, there might be a few reasons why: Have you lied to them before? Are they a distrusting person in general? Do they know a different truth? Has someone else told them you're a liar? A key to remember in all conflict resolutions is: a conflict cannot be resolved unless both parties are willing to resolve it. If they refuse to believe you are telling the truth, there may not be much you can do to immediately change their mind.
If people think you are lying and you are not. Then be honest and tell them how you are telling the truth. Explaining a situation they assumed can be helpful if it causes any issues
Calmly explain your logic as to why they think you are lying. Rationalize within your own life why other may be thinking this way and be confident in your own decisions.
Tell the truth. Let them know that you are telling the truth. If others don't believe you the most important thing is to believe yourself. You know that you are telling the truth even if others don't and that can be really hard.
Anonymous
July 13th, 2017 8:54am
Explain why they should believe you. Also, do not exaggerate. It will make it easier to believe you.
You should not get agitated and explain that you aren't lying, and if they do not believe it, then so be it. You don't need to prove yourself to anybody.
Prove to them that you're not, and if you can't prove it and you have no reason to lie, explain to them that you have no reason to lie, and if they think you do, ask them what that would be. The big thing here is explaining yourself. If you explain yourself and yet they still accuse you of lying, especially if they're your friends, they aren't worth your time.
There is nothing you can really do if people think that you are lying. If you attempt to persuade them of the truth without proof you may just harden their opinion. Rather if you are being honest I simply keep calm and take confidence in the knowledge that the truth will be known soon enough or that at least I know I was honest. Even if the truth never comes out I can take pride in my character for doing the right thing.
Anonymous
August 12th, 2017 10:45am
Reasure them that what i am telling them is the truth. Unless they have any other reason too believe i am lying theres no reason too carry on the discussion. If they do not stop i shall walk away
Anonymous
August 27th, 2017 2:03am
If people think you're lying, I guess the best thing to do is show evidence that you're not. And if there is no evidence or they simply aren't convinced, then maybe it's best to let them be. A lot of times people judge us and it's not even because of us or actions we did, sometimes it's about themselves. So I guess depending on how important it is for you to prove them you're not lying, I guess if it's not too relevant, maybe you could just ignore them.
Everyone is entitled to their own perspectives and opinions, so long as it is not affecting other people's lives. You can always start by confronting the person and you talk about the facts that concerns the situation. If you have explained everything and they are not convinced, there is nothing more that you can do, you don't have to prove yourself! you did your part and your true friends and families know what is true, cause true people who really knew you believe in you. :)
Be confident about yourself. Self doubt is sometimes the cause for people thinking like this. The more confident you become the problem will go on becoming smaller and smaller.
Show evidence and proof . Have people there as proof .. etc at what time and when, Give examples of where you were etc .. and what you were doing etc.
You can have a talk (or several) with them (particularly with the closer ones), showing you're being honest and truthful, in the sense of hoping they'll understand your intentions and start believing in you.
Nothing, not a thing. You don't have to prove yourself to anybody. However, this can be up to debate given your past actions. Did you lie countlessly before? If so, don't even bother asking that question. If not, don't even bother trying to convince them otherwise.
If others seem to think that you are lying yet you have actually been honest then that’s there problem. As long as you are telling the truth then you are doing the right then. Sure they can try to do something to see if they can catch you lying but all their doing is wasting their own time.
This is very general statement and the answer depends on your past history with these people. You might want to find out why they think you are lying, it can give you a valuable clue.
Anonymous
January 7th, 2018 1:26am
What can you do? Beat them till they believe you? Not your fault if people choose not to listen to you. It is up to the person to decide what he does with information, one cannot force and idea upon another person. Speak your mind with clarity and it matters not who listens
It depends on the situation. If you have proof show them, but if you don't tell them: "I know I'm telling the truth. If you chose to not trust me, it's not my problem." This will somewhat affect them.
Anonymous
January 25th, 2018 2:37pm
If they really start to accuse you of doing things you did not do, simply do your part by correcting them and walk away. You've done nothing wrong so you dont have to be scared of anything.
1. Find out what makes them think so. (Do you have a bad reputation about giving truth? Do your body language mislead them? Do you lie often? etc)
2. Now change those. (If you lie a lot, also find the reasons of why do you do it so and be more truthful, if someone is spreading wrong news, make them stop.
Anonymous
February 9th, 2018 9:42am
Repeat it again and again so that it becomes a truth. Kidding!, if you are not lying just tell them once and forget it...you know u r true
What other people think is up to them. You are the individual person who doesn't have to justify yourself to other people. If someone thinks you are lying, it's not about you. It's about them. Wonder yourself what made you think that. Do they lie often so they see everyone else is lying them. People see world through their own lences, and there are no two same pair of lences. So don't worry about other's opinions.
Anonymous
February 16th, 2018 1:08pm
If it's important to you, you should give them all the evidence you have to support what you're saying. If that doesn't work, there's not much you can do so you shouldn't worry about it. Accepting the things you can't change is an important part of life, and it may hold you back but you'll get through it.
Anonymous
February 23rd, 2018 4:42pm
Being open an honest consistently with people can help prevent people ever thinking you're lying in the first place. If someone does think that of you, you can always push forward and continue to be open, show them you have nothing to lie about
Work on building up trust and being a generally honest person. If they still don't believe you then it's their loss and you shouldn't have to feel the need to prove yourself to them time and time again.
Anonymous
March 28th, 2018 3:46am
If you feel this is happening you can always reach out and get facts to help back up your clams, by pics or Voice record
When people think you are lying it is important to stay calm and to tell the truth. Give reasons as to why it is the truth compared to the alternative can help reassure the other party you are being honest. Try not to fidget and sometimes personal gestures can help too.
Anonymous
April 5th, 2018 9:33pm
you cant always convince people. even when its the truth, what matters most is that you know that your being honest with yourself and other people.
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