Why do I get anxious when my boyfriend goes out?
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You can be anxious for numerous reasons, but don't worry about it too much. You can be anxious because of a possibility of him cheating on you, or if he is doing something dangerous. It can be any circumstance. But if he seems to enjoy and love you don't worry about it!
I believe you are just worried something might happen to him. Do not worry its completely normal! maybe talk to him about how you feel
Sometimes we let all of our confidence in one person in particular, we evaluate them higher than they do us, I mean we extent to a point were we see something and star to imagine what would it be if we have seen it with that person for example, and that's okay to the point in which we don't confuse or own individuality, we have to keep clear where all of that confidence in one person can harm us, because sometimes something they do, as looking for their own wellness can affect us very badly even if that wasn't the intention, we have to keep our minds in ourselfs and not to let it escape into someone else's decision.
You could be anxious when your boyfriend goes out because you care very much about him. Anxiety is cruel and can play on people's most
Sensitive feelings.
Sometimes, we feel paranoid about our significant others meeting other people, which may be what's causing the anxiety that many people get. It's okay to feel like this, and maybe to make yourself feel a little better about it, you could talk to him about how you feel to get reassurance. :)
If you love someone, you should trust him. But sometimes we can't help it and some disturbing thoughts cross our minds. What if my boyfriend meets another girl and likes her. That has happened many times before so I really get anxious when my boyfriend goes out especially to meet with friends.
You could get anxious when your boyfriend goes out because you could have trust issues. it is also possible that you are struggling with having too much time on your hands. It also depends on what activity your boyfriend is taking part in. i.e is there alcohol or drugs involved?
Anxiety and fear are closely related. Is there something you fear will happen when he goes out? Does his behavior change towards you before or after he leaves?
Anonymous
December 24th, 2015 4:49pm
It is because you fear that he may go out and meet someone who is much better and fall in love. Which is not true, there is a reason why he loves you and is dating you.
Anonymous
December 25th, 2015 1:37am
You care too much or you are thinking too much, you worry if something is going wrong and you should talk to him about it so you feel at ease.
I'm worried that he might be seeing someone else. But I need to remind myself that I cannot spend my energy on things I cannot control.
If you have ever been in a unfaithful relationship, or have ever been put in a situation where you trusted someone, and it back fires, that can cause you to feel this way.
Sometimes, we think of the negatives where we think they're up to no good. However, it could show that you really need them there instead of them going out. It's not you being needy at all. It's just, you need them there instead of them going out. It affects us a lot more if they're doing nothing, and we're alone without someone around us
If it's because you have had negative experiences in the past, then that can be playing into your anxiety. However, there may be a part of you that wants to join him when he goes out, and that he wants to do things without you may feel like a reflection on how much he likes you, which can also cause anxiety.
Anxiety is an awful thing. When your boyfriend goes out you may have a fear that he is going out to cheat on you which is not the case!
I don't know, Why do you get anxious when your boyfriend goes out? Think about it. I Don't have all the answers I can't read your mind.
Anonymous
July 18th, 2020 4:14am
Getting anxious when my boyfriend goes out is something that has to do with my own insecurities and self esteem. Not being able to trust him enough to let him have his space and have fun is a fear that he has built in me or I have built within myself. Other reason is simply because i want to spend as much time with him as possible. Sometimes when you love someone so much that it becomes an obsession you are the only person you want him to be around and it scares you or makes you uncomfortable that he may be around others.
It depends on what is this anxiety fueled by. Are you anxious that he is going to cheat, that something God forbid could happen to him, or something else? As long as you two develop a stable relationship based on respect and trust, then you do not have to worry what your boyfriend will do. If he values you then he knows it would be a very wrong move for him to do something that would hurt you, the relationship and him in the long term. It is not easy but love requires trust in your partner where you just have to hope and carry on.
Anxiety is a fear of the unknown therefore in this scenario a person gets anxious because they might have a fear that something bad will happen to their boyfriend or they might have trust issues and think their boyfriend is being unfaithful.
It could be due to previous bad experience that triggers the anxiousness. It good to find a way to deal with the previous trauma's because it might effect the relationship you have now if you don't.
Sometimes people get anxious when their boyfriend goes out because they haven't developed enough trust with that person. They don't believe that they will be where they say they will be, or that they are going to cheat on them. This is unhealthy in a relationship and it is important to build up trust, even with the small things.
because you care for him. If you don't 100% trust him then it will make it harder to deal with. Speak to him about it, im sure he will reassure you and let you know he wouldn't do anything to betray your trust
You probably get jealous when your boyfriend goes out because you care about him, you are protective over keeping him therefore you wouldn't want to think anything would happen to him/he would do something to jeopardise the relationship. Feeling anxiety about this sounds quite normal.
Anonymous
December 12th, 2015 10:46pm
You probably get anxious b/c you don't know what he's going to do while he's out. I know I always feel like that when my boyfriend goes out.
It's because you are nervous about him, you don't want him away from you it's because either you don't want to lonly or you care too much for him.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2015 8:16am
You seem to have an issue with jealousy. Talk with your boyfriend about how his going out makes you feel. He may be understanding and keep in touch more.
Anonymous
December 16th, 2015 4:56pm
Because you get worried about him. Possibly because of how you care about him and want to make sure he's safe
Well I honestly think it has to do with the fact that you dont trust your boyfriend not to fraternize with other people Dont worry we all do it!
Perhaps you have unresolved issues from past relationships. Or even you doubt your own self worth. Write a list of the things you feel or what about his evenings out make you anxious. Then maybe you can find the root of the feelings then address it with him. Communicaton is key
you think he is seeing someone else? did you ask him where he is going; or does he tell you where ...
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