How can I feel happy about being single?
Last Updated: 07/30/2020 at 6:50pm
Jessica McDaniel, LPC, LCPC
Licensed Professional Counselor
I have been practicing cognitive behavioral psychotherapy since 2007 with a diverse group of adult clients with various diagnoses, all races, and socioeconomic classes.
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Being single is an often overlooked relationship status that has many, many benefits attached to it. In a single relationship, we often feel we are alone, or we lack a companion. This couldn't be further from the truth; as in all things, the greatest companion we shall ever have is ourselves. Being single provides a time to reflect upon oneself, to see what they can do to better their relationship with themselves. It is a time where we are free to explore what makes us truly happy, and find our passions in life. In fact, the more time we spend building our inner relationship with ourselves, the happier we can make our future companions. A wise individual once stated, 'You cannot truly love another until you love yourself.' And being single is the the path to finding that self-confidence, and love. And once you are ready to transition into a relationship, you'll find yourself much more confident and happy, and your future partner will notice it as well.
You can feel happy about being single as you have no responsibility to another human being. You have freedom.
I think everyone is different, if you are not happy being single, but you want to be, or you are afraid to get close to anyone, then you have a bit of a problem, definetly. Some people do well independently, some people do not, but from my own personal experience, when I was single, I was often lonely myself. But I think being single can be good, too. It means lots of freedom, but at a cost. Same with being in a relationship. It means companionship, but you may not have the freedom to do everything you wish you could. To sum up, don't make yourself like something you don't. If you are naturally independent, and relationships are almost chores, don't be pressured into finding someone just because your friends say you should, as well as if you are single, and your friends say how wonderful it is, but you disagree. Do what you need to do to be happy, regardless of the pressure you feel from others.
Being single means you'd have time to find yourself.. and once you'd find yourself..you would love yourself more.. and it makes easy to love other person as well.. so stop worrying.. start being happy with yourself.. and definitely it would bring a change in your life.
being single can be the best time of your life when your time is completely yours and you can use it to the best utilization for yourself....! learn to love and nourish yourself at first is very important before loving anyone else....you can only love someone if you learn to love yourself first...!
There are many things to be happy about. I understand the feeling and why you think that way. But believe me, it's amazing all the things you can do for yourself and alone. You can actually be around your friends and have amazing days with them. You can go out randomly whenever you want to and wherever you feel like going. Spend more times doing things you love and you're passionate about, discovering more stuffs about yourself. I bet you will find someone in the right time, let it happen.. don't force it!
To feel happy about being single, you must realize that no one person should be the only reason you are happy. happiness comes from you. you must be happy and okay with being alone sometimes.
Enjoy life, Enjoy yourself. Always think that there's a whole life ahead of you. Don't get jealous of other people who are in a relationship. You're also in one. You're in a relationship with yourself.
Being single is not a disease or calamity that it should leach away your happiness. There is a reason why a person remains single. Maybe it heartbreak, or the absence of someone you an connect with on a deeper level, or it could just be a desire to have your own space. So ask yourself, would it be better to not be single but fight everyday? Or be with someone you do not love? Or be with a person who you commit your entire self to? If you find that you can tolerate any of the above options, then give yourself free reign over feeling unhappy about being single. If not, make your own company a means of deriving satisfaction. And you will find yourself enjoying life on your own. :)
While there are benefits to being in a relationship that can be missed when you are single, there are definitely benefits to being single as well. When you are single, you have more time! Take this time to do anything you want! Learn a new hobby, language, or skill. Get healthier. Read books. Anything! When you are single you can focus on making your own life better, more exciting, or anything else you want it to be. If you spend the extra time while single lingering on the fact that you are single, it will be hard to be happy. Use the time instead :).
Being single can make you feel lonely and like you're unloved, but this gives you more time on focusing on friends and family. You are able to take up new hobbies, focus on your personal interests, go on adventures and not feel like you're neglecting your partner. You can spend time building better relationships with your family and friends so that you're able to have a good, healthy support network.
Enjoy life, find a purpose and do something that makes you happy. Find out more about yourself and what activities do you like. Busy yourself and most importantly love yourself.
Pay more attention to yourself. Relationships oftentimes cause a lot of stress on both parties involved. A good way to think about a break up is, "Now I can go to the mall" or "Now I can hang out with my friends". It can be refreshing to take care of yourself a little more. If you're a girl, perhaps a makeover, a chick-flick marathon, or just a good book could be your getaway. If you're a guy, maybe a night with the guys, a video game night, or maybe, once again, just a good book would be a nice getaway.
Just look at the fact from a different angle - try to see the positives, what it brings. You are on your own, free to do anything (legal, haha). Don't be so pesimist about being a single, there is a whole bunch of people single on this planet and yet they are happy too :)
Appreciate the little things in life, look at what you have here and now. You are a whole person by yourself, you have your interests and your passions and have people around you that you love. That's so many things that can make you feel whole
You should be happy whether you are in a realationship or not, you have friends and family who love you and being happy isn't only about love, it's about what you do and who you help. Everyone is happy inside.
Spend time with yourself, get to know yourself, recognise the ways in which you can make yourself happy and be your own fulfillment. Being single isn't a death sentence like how most people make it out to be, but it isn't easy to get to a place of realising that. It requires work and honesty with yourself in the understanding of yourself, in particular the deconstruction of why you feel the want or need to be in a relationship.
Appreciating that all the time that I have got will be exclusively to and for myself, to grow as a person and love myself
Take the time to LOVE YOURSELF! CARE FOR YOU! MAKE YOURSELF HAPPY! This time is all about self love!
By believing that you're enough. And that you don't particularly 'need' someone to be happy and satisfied in your life. One find day, your world will collide with someone else's, and you'll fall in love. And maybe then, you'll just choose to be with him/her, because you 'want' him/her, not because you 'need' him/her.
This may seem like one of those cliche things that people say, but being single makes you free to do anything and everything! Most people have a hard time having a life out of their relationship, and being single gives you exactly that. You can go out with your friends, explore and meet new people, or you can just be at home read a book or watch TV, it's all up to YOU!!
I feel like even though independence and inner-strength should be celebrated, I also believe that we as humans are designed to be somewhat dependent. We enjoy human company, we need and crave human company of all kinds (familial, friendship, love) and when the time is right, life can feel so much better with a partner by your side. I think it's important to always establish your goals and remember that you did fine for X amount of years before anyone else came along. Being single doesn't have to be a negative. It means it's all about YOU :) And that's really important time to have as a young person.
Remember that there are millions of people who are too. You are not the only one dealing with that. Knowing that you are not alone and have others to relate to is good.
There is so many reasons to be happy about being single. During this time, you have a chance to take care of yourself, grow to love an accept yourself, meet new friends, go do the things you always wanted to do but could not in a relationship. The list goes on, but when you are single, you have the freedom to do what you desire.
By spending time with yourself, doing things that YOU enjoy regardless of whether you have someone to accompany you or not. The closest and best relationship that you can have is with yourself :)
Give your life new purpose and fill it with small and big projects that make you happy (learn something new, take a walk, read a book, go to a concert or theater). I know its not easy, but it can be fun. Be sure to see friends or family you love and trust and talk about the things you would normally do with a partner.
Being single allows you to really get down to your roots and what matters to you. Its an opportunity to find new things or dive further into the things you already like. Finding yourself on your own can help you stay true to yourself in future relationships.
Coming from a person who has been single her whole 18 years of living make the most of making yourself happy and not what others think or what others try to say about your relationship status. Making the most of being single. But if you really want to date, look for the right person and go for it. Have fun and be safe. Good luck chica!
Well, being engaged is great, but there are many things you can do while single that won't be able to do when engaged. For example: use your time at your convenience, spend less, focus on self-growth, less arguments (they are unavidable on any relationship), more time to love yourself. Many theories out there say that happiness should come from inside not outside. S you, by ourself, should have all that you need to be happy. Once you are, you just share your ahppiness with the other person, but not look on someone what cprresponds to you. Who would go in a relationship only just to make someone else happy? That is very tiring...
Make a list of all the things you can do that couples can't. You can go out for a burger and not have to share your fries. You won't be stuck waiting on someone else to look at just one more thing in a store. You don't have to wonder if some gobbled up your candy stash before you get home. What to have for dinner is not a game of "I don't know what are you in the mood for" until the last place open is a greasy spoon truck stop with Edith who can't remember to bring you Splenda for your coffee on a good day. You don't have to share your bed it's ALL YOURS *evil laugh* And so so many many more. Use your imagination there's a wealth of fun to be had in this world.
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