How can I tell my boyfriend how I feel about him?

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Anonymous
September 14th, 2016 12:21pm
You could tell your boyfriend how you feel about him by sitting together and talking to each other, knowing that you should share everything and not keep secrets, maybe over a dinner or anytime you're together.
Anonymous
September 14th, 2016 3:53pm
You could write him a letter text or call him to let him know how you feel keeping feelings inside causes damage
JD821
September 15th, 2016 3:14pm
Write down all the ways he makes you feel, sometimes one of the hardest things is vocalizing how you feel about your partner. Think of specific things they've done along with the emotion tied to them.
cosyheart21
September 17th, 2016 11:29pm
Communication and honesty are the most important aspects of any relationships. As hard as it may be, it's always so important to be honest.
djlymj
September 21st, 2016 7:54pm
Well, Just tell him the truth, and yeah Don't think about the outcomes, as it is the truth that remains at the end of the day :)
Anonymous
September 22nd, 2016 7:16pm
It depends on if it's good or bad. But it's generally the same principle- be kind, yet honest. Honesty is the best policy, but you should be kind about it as well :)
Warmsunshine85
September 22nd, 2016 9:50pm
All you can do is be honest and open with him when talking. Especially about sensitive feelings. Trust yourself and your feelings and go from there. You are stronger than you think!
Anonymous
September 23rd, 2016 7:04am
You can tell your feeling through some good time spending together. Find the right time and be calm on whatever feedback you going to get from him
Mikzwax
September 23rd, 2016 9:02am
Make sure your words dont hurt him. Make him happy of yourself and gradually start sharing your feelings
Jemjem05
October 6th, 2016 2:06pm
Talk to him sincerely and in a nice way that he will not become offended by the way you talk to him.
BlaireMack198
October 8th, 2016 3:34am
Just be incredibly honest. Honesty is the best policy in all cases with relationships.
freefromworries
October 8th, 2016 11:07am
In relationships it is so important to be honest! If you're feeling a certain way, it's good to be able to communicate that to him. It's also important that you take care of yourself and make sure that this is going to be a healthy decision for you. Make sure you are ready to say whatever it is, and when you are, say it. If you're not comfortable using words, there are other ways to tell him, like through a letter or note, or even just giving him hints through like songs that remind you of him.
LifeIsABeautifulMelody
October 9th, 2016 4:40am
Just talk , You know you love someone if you feel comfortable with them at all the times , Communication is the key! Also try to ensure that he's calm and in a good mood that will help too :)
Anonymous
October 22nd, 2016 12:57pm
It depends on what you feel. It it will hurt him in any manner tell him in a way that he will understand
Anonymous
October 27th, 2016 7:07am
Communication is key in any relationship and directly stating your emotions is one of the easiest forms of solutions.
Anonymous
November 3rd, 2016 9:02am
Do something romantic, make or bake something for him. Be honest and tell him how you feel and why he makes you happy.
scotty4947
November 3rd, 2016 11:36pm
From my personal experience, I would want everything; the good and the bad. And, when given the bad, I would want it in a gentle way. That makes me want to work on it even more. If, for some reason, I can't get to the level I'm being asked for, I will try my best to get their regardless. Whatever level I can get to is my way to compensate. So, maybe in your situation, giving both the good and the bad would be beneficial!
Grendmather
November 11th, 2016 10:14pm
In relationships honesty is very valuable, you should always be truthful and open about your emotions and feelings with your partner
1musicloverever
November 17th, 2016 3:09pm
You be honest, and you could call him, text him, email him, tag him in cute relationship things to get your point across, you could actually see him and tell him or if you're shy you could write a letter and just give him that for him to later read.
Anonymous
December 8th, 2016 2:13pm
I think you should try and be as direct as possible because sugarcoating won't do any good to anyone. Be confident, make him feel relaxed and say it all. Just try not to be rude!
OrionsFriend
January 8th, 2017 5:06am
First of all, the best way to talk serious matters with anyone is personally. The second most important thing is to be sincere and try to express your feelings in a clear manner so that there are no misunderstandings...
smiley15
January 19th, 2017 2:46pm
Be as honest as possible and speak from the heart. If you are nervous, maybe it would help you to prepare what you want to say to him and practice in front of the mirror before talking to him.
Anonymous
March 15th, 2017 8:09am
Be truthful and tell him everything no need to hide your feelings. You chose him for a reason. So it is okay to tell him everything.
Daisyking13
March 31st, 2017 3:19pm
You can try to meet him up on the weekend and talk to him over a coffee. Be honest with your feelings and don't be afraid to share them. You can also try to show your feelings more by doing some romantic gestures. I hope that can helps. :)
Asja
April 30th, 2017 7:19pm
Do something for him that he likes, do something with him and after that great time tell him everything that's on your mind. If it's hard for you to talk face-to-face write that down and after a great time give it to him with a big smile. Or just find songs that describe your feelings and make a playlist and let him listen to that first saying: This is how I feel about you.
Anonymous
May 7th, 2017 12:03pm
Write it all down before you say it, sometimes under pressure you can forget everything you want/need to say. It also can help you think of more things to say and how you want to say it.
Anonymous
May 11th, 2017 12:29pm
Honesty is the best policy. Having an honest and open relationship helps build a strong foundation. If it is fear preventing you from being honest, keep in mind that withholding how you truly feel can hurt your relationship in the long run.
Milesss
June 10th, 2017 11:14pm
Be honest. If you love him, tell him. "I love you." If you don't love him, tell him. Honesty is the key to relationships, so do not lie to your partner! They'll understand and if they don't, they don't deserve you.
iLouisee
June 20th, 2017 10:22pm
Always tell him. Even if you feel he may react in a bad manner. If he doesn't respond with the respect and trust, he isn't the one
Anonymous
June 21st, 2017 2:13am
just tell him, He's your boyfriend after all, you should be open to one another. now if this feelings of yours is negative, the more you need to tell him. It gets hard when you hold back your feelings.