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How can you tell that you have really moved on?

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Last Updated: 11/19/2020 at 2:19am
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Top Rated Answers
Sizro
November 18th, 2016 5:17pm
I'll know when I start to have the urge to meet new people, to want to talk to someone new, also I'll know when I begin to forget the times we had together, there is no more urge to go back, I do not struggle to go back, that's when you 100% know, you've moved on.
uniquecreature41
November 18th, 2016 6:24pm
They won't be the first thing you think about when you wake up, they won't occupy your mind for more than a couple of minutes a day, not every damn thing you see or hear or look at or watch will remind you of them in some horrible way! Here's the thing about getting over someone; you often don't know it's happened. It's quite possible to feel awful for months and months and then find one day that strangely, you don't.....pinpointing that moment when you're over them can be quite difficult but when you're living your life and getting on with your own thing, it's highly likely you're over the other side of the mountain.
quastinephoenix123
December 4th, 2016 4:30pm
You don't think/pay heed to the past experience anymore, you feel like you can finally focus on other things.
magicallyRainfall14
January 6th, 2017 4:38am
You can tell when you've finally moved on when you wake up and your thoughts have changed. When you are no longer obsessing over that one person. When you begin to find happiness in new things as well as things you did before. When the memories are faded into the background instead of the memories always being in the spotlight.
7thguyfromearth
February 1st, 2017 12:26am
You're happy. And most of all, you're not dwelling on the past, and you've completely understood the events that happened in it.
AshmeSR
March 23rd, 2017 8:31pm
I think a good way could be to understand our emotional conflict about the thing/person/situation we want to move on from. If we still feel emotionally invested and go through highs and low affecting our perception and our thought process then it could mean that we still have some emotions that we need to accept and work with. If we have reached a state where we are able to keep our calm and balance then it could suggest a good progress path
Anonymous
March 30th, 2017 11:01pm
For me, it's when I see the person with someone else either being happy or sad and just smile and bit and walk past them without hampering my business..and feeling better just to walk past them without looking back
MissyR70
April 8th, 2017 4:47am
You have really moved on when you can actually see yourself being with another person. Also when you no longer feel anger or pain when you think about your past relationship.
zealousEnergy88
May 7th, 2017 2:30am
You can tell when you have moved on when that person does not consume your thoughts, you don't think of them everytime you come in contact with something or where you share together
Anonymous
May 9th, 2017 11:38am
You won't be thinking about your ex partner anymore, you won't be checking up on them on how there doing. You will be focused on your own life, you won't have a worry what your partner is doing anymore and you'll have new beginnings and in your own time when you're ready, you could find a new partner.
Anonymous
June 15th, 2017 1:07pm
When you don't think about them every time something happens in your life, good or bad. When you no long try and reach out or check to see what's on their social media profiles.
BigLuMonday
August 9th, 2017 7:51pm
When you feel nothing for them. Neither love, or anger. They're a memory, but not one that holds power over you.
anitya
October 6th, 2017 2:37pm
You don't hold anger or resentment for others. You move forward in life, not dwelling in the past. You respect yourself, and love yourself fully: the strengths, the faults, the mistakes, the wisdom.
Anonymous
October 9th, 2017 8:28pm
You don't think about who you left anymore. When you do, you don't feel regret, or still attached emotionally. You feel just fine with not being around them, for however long it could be.
HelpWisely
November 15th, 2017 6:38am
When you have moved on then thinking about the past, whether its some person or some event or experience, it does not bother you as much as before, you feel less affected by it. Even if the memory of that thing comes you do not feel so emotional or attached towards it as you used to be before.
Anonymous
November 25th, 2017 5:39am
There is no definite answer to this question, nothing is right or wrong. I think it is just an inner feeling. Talking it out may help you, as specific situations do vary. It is up to you to decide if you have really moved on.
Anonymous
November 29th, 2017 4:00pm
You do not think about what was holding you back anymore and you find yourself moving forward with your life.
Anonymous
November 30th, 2017 1:48am
You can tell that you have moved on if you've stopped messaging/ calling or talking to the other person in any way. Once the communication has stopped, it shows that you have moved on. However if you come to stalking them online Instagram snapchat then this shows you still have feelings for this person. In general, if you can pass a day without thinking about this person it shows you have moved on
noescapefromreality
December 3rd, 2017 2:21pm
You can tell it when they aren't the reason of your happiness anymore. When you can laugh and be happy without thinking about them, when you can live your life without missing them all the time.
Anonymous
December 3rd, 2017 4:58pm
One of the ways you can tell is when thinking about the issue does not make you feel bad, anxious or you don't avoid the issue. Once you are comfortable talking about it and especially when you draw positive life lessons from that experience, the you know that part of your life is sorted.
Anonymous
December 8th, 2017 3:44pm
you don't mind to see your ex get nailed In front of you......................................................................................................................
Anonymous
December 13th, 2017 2:30am
When you look back you can still turn around and walk forward without letting that event/person you moved on from hold you back in any manner.
insightfulMagic87
December 17th, 2017 5:30pm
When you still remember the past but it does not bring any grief to you. Moving on does not mean you forget the past, it merely means you have accepted the mishap as a part of life's journey, as life's way of teaching something you may not necessarily have known! Take it as a blessing many people are ignorant to. Look back, smile, wave and continue ahead. That shows that you really have moved on.
LeoLucid18
January 5th, 2018 7:39am
You can tell by what you think about as a default and your mood becomes more positive. If your mind starts to wonder to other things instead of stressful issues to more comforting ones and you feel much better and happier with yourself as a person then your chances that you have moved on are good!
littleflowerboys
January 12th, 2018 6:56am
You don't miss the person or event anymore. You accept the negative aspects of what they were or what happened and feel at ease with yourself.
Akshita0612
January 20th, 2018 7:36am
When their presence or absence doesn't affect you anymore. When you don't want to know what is happening in their life. And when you no longer think about them consciously or subconsciously.
Anonymous
January 24th, 2018 6:35am
If you are okay with seeing the person who you moved on from in a relationship with someone else, and if you feel comfortable being in a new relationship, I would say that you have moved on.
AveryLove
February 1st, 2018 3:31pm
that you can look back at those old times and aren't sad and just feel like its over and you're okay with that.
victoriadestiny
February 2nd, 2018 5:38pm
Most people know that they moved on when they can look at the person they were once so in love with, and feel nothing. You can always hope they get everything they want in life but will never really want them again. You don't get jealous, or constantly think about what used to be. You're content with not being close to them anymore.
RayannA
February 4th, 2018 5:59am
I think when you're at peace with yourself and whatever hurt you, you know that you've moved on. when you're still hold on to the anger or sadness, it's hard to let that go to focus on other, better things!